Married Guy Asking for Help

[davion2308]

Hello, open-minded folks of Literotica.

Here's my situation. I'm 33, white, attractive and in shape. My wife is 32 and extremely attractive. We have been together for 16 years, married for 9. We have a daughter, almost 2, and another on the way.

Now, I love my wife. We get along well, we haven't had major blow-ups in years, and we're on the same page and we like each other as well as love each other. I have a good job, a house, a dog who listens 80% of the time, and I enjoy myself, except for one thing...

I like the physical contact that comes with an intimate relationship. Let's forget groping, boob-grabbing, ass-smacking, and all the things associated with sex. I like just touching. A hand on an arm on the couch, having my face touched, just making contact throughout the week. It doesn't have to be sustained or lengthy, I don't need long, strong eye contact or my wife to have her hands on me all the time.

I just like human contact from a grown woman.

My wife has never been really touchy-feely. Everything else about her completely agrees with me except her level of contact. She's not a touchy person, and almost all the touching she does goes to our daughter. She has no problem snuggling with our little girl, or holding her, all those things. Now even less comes my way. I'm sad to think of the second kid getting the rest of my wife's limit.

Yes, we have sex. It's as often as it always has been. It has the right amount of kink and I enjoy it.

Yes, I have pointed mentioned and asked my wife to touch my face more, put her arms around me more, touch her ankle to mine during dinner more, and she acknowledges she just never thinks about it. She'll do it for a day and go back to the old way. She just loves being left alone.

Enter the other woman.

I have a co-worker who is touchy without being overly flirty. I love the attention. She's like that to some people but she makes me feel special the way my wife doesn't. I will never have sex with this other woman, never kiss her, never do anything traditionally 'wrong' with her.

I don't know that my wife will care but I don't know if I should tell her. I'm 50/50 to think she might say, "Good as long as you don't bang her." She might be happy she no longer needs to worry about touching me.

Do I say something or do I just enjoy it? My coworker has met my wife on a few occasions and coworker has a husband. She has never said anything suggestive or even called me a work husband or whatever. But she does touch me (PG, no R-rated) and I like it. And she knows it so she does it.

Say something? End it? Just go with it?

I'm curious to hear everyone's opinion. You're a good group of people and you're smart and seasoned. Give me some insight on your thoughts.

Thanks.

 

[JohnnySavage]

Hello, open-minded folks of Literotica.

Here's my situation. I'm 33, white, attractive and in shape. My wife is 32 and extremely attractive. We have been together for 16 years, married for 9. We have a daughter, almost 2, and another on the way.

Now, I love my wife. We get along well, we haven't had major blow-ups in years, and we're on the same page and we like each other as well as love each other. I have a good job, a house, a dog who listens 80% of the time, and I enjoy myself, except for one thing...

I like the physical contact that comes with an intimate relationship. Let's forget groping, boob-grabbing, ass-smacking, and all the things associated with sex. I like just touching. A hand on an arm on the couch, having my face touched, just making contact throughout the week. It doesn't have to be sustained or lengthy, I don't need long, strong eye contact or my wife to have her hands on me all the time.

I just like human contact from a grown woman.

My wife has never been really touchy-feely. Everything else about her completely agrees with me except her level of contact. She's not a touchy person, and almost all the touching she does goes to our daughter. She has no problem snuggling with our little girl, or holding her, all those things. Now even less comes my way. I'm sad to think of the second kid getting the rest of my wife's limit.

Yes, we have sex. It's as often as it always has been. It has the right amount of kink and I enjoy it.

Yes, I have pointed mentioned and asked my wife to touch my face more, put her arms around me more, touch her ankle to mine during dinner more, and she acknowledges she just never thinks about it. She'll do it for a day and go back to the old way. She just loves being left alone.

Enter the other woman.

I have a co-worker who is touchy without being overly flirty. I love the attention. She's like that to some people but she makes me feel special the way my wife doesn't. I will never have sex with this other woman, never kiss her, never do anything traditionally 'wrong' with her.

I don't know that my wife will care but I don't know if I should tell her. I'm 50/50 to think she might say, "Good as long as you don't bang her." She might be happy she no longer needs to worry about touching me.

Do I say something or do I just enjoy it? My coworker has met my wife on a few occasions and coworker has a husband. She has never said anything suggestive or even called me a work husband or whatever. But she does touch me (PG, no R-rated) and I like it. And she knows it so she does it.

Say something? End it? Just go with it?

I'm curious to hear everyone's opinion. You're a good group of people and you're smart and seasoned. Give me some insight on your thoughts.

Thanks.

I like the other thread better

 

[AllyRose]

I don't know... this one seems to have a lot more intrigue and mystery.

 

[JohnnySavage]

But it has no 1hf therefore is inferior

 

[AllyRose]

True.

 

[eyer]

Geezus...

...it's like there's a Wannabe Adulterers and Sex Offenders Enter Here sign hanging on the GB door.

Just be open and frankly ask any harlots like Sunshine to PM you...

...because the real ladies of the GB don't seem to take too kindly to married men wandering in here looking for such a blatant ok to cheat.

Also:

Maybe PM sr71plt and ask if he'll give you an up-close-and-personal guided tour of the Playground...

...that's where you need to be.

 

[toubab]

Is this a test to see which thread will get the most responses or views?

 

[Sunshine]

Hello, open-minded folks of Literotica.

Here's my situation. I'm 33, white, attractive and in shape. My wife is 32 and extremely attractive. We have been together for 16 years, married for 9. We have a daughter, almost 2, and another on the way.

Now, I love my wife. We get along well, we haven't had major blow-ups in years, and we're on the same page and we like each other as well as love each other. I have a good job, a house, a dog who listens 80% of the time, and I enjoy myself, except for one thing...

I like the physical contact that comes with an intimate relationship. Let's forget groping, boob-grabbing, ass-smacking, and all the things associated with sex. I like just touching. A hand on an arm on the couch, having my face touched, just making contact throughout the week. It doesn't have to be sustained or lengthy, I don't need long, strong eye contact or my wife to have her hands on me all the time.

I just like human contact from a grown woman.

My wife has never been really touchy-feely. Everything else about her completely agrees with me except her level of contact. She's not a touchy person, and almost all the touching she does goes to our daughter. She has no problem snuggling with our little girl, or holding her, all those things. Now even less comes my way. I'm sad to think of the second kid getting the rest of my wife's limit.

Yes, we have sex. It's as often as it always has been. It has the right amount of kink and I enjoy it.

Yes, I have pointed mentioned and asked my wife to touch my face more, put her arms around me more, touch her ankle to mine during dinner more, and she acknowledges she just never thinks about it. She'll do it for a day and go back to the old way. She just loves being left alone.

Enter the other woman.

I have a co-worker who is touchy without being overly flirty. I love the attention. She's like that to some people but she makes me feel special the way my wife doesn't. I will never have sex with this other woman, never kiss her, never do anything traditionally 'wrong' with her.

I don't know that my wife will care but I don't know if I should tell her. I'm 50/50 to think she might say, "Good as long as you don't bang her." She might be happy she no longer needs to worry about touching me.

Do I say something or do I just enjoy it? My coworker has met my wife on a few occasions and coworker has a husband. She has never said anything suggestive or even called me a work husband or whatever. But she does touch me (PG, no R-rated) and I like it. And she knows it so she does it.

Say something? End it? Just go with it?

I'm curious to hear everyone's opinion. You're a good group of people and you're smart and seasoned. Give me some insight on your thoughts.

Thanks.

Dude, it's PG now but it's destined to be x-rated in no time. If you love your wife and family, deal with the issues that are causing you to consider straying. Have you tried marriage counseling?

 

[AllyRose]

Or a trip to Shutter Island...

 

[thør]

Dude, it's PG now but it's destined to be x-rated in no time. If you love your wife and family, deal with the issues that are causing you to consider straying. Have you tried marriage counseling?

Some of those counselors are hot and wanton.

 

[Sunshine]

Some of those counselors are hot and wanton.

Assuming he'll bring his wife along!

 

[thør]

Assuming he'll bring his wife along!

A 3-way is the answer to all of his problems.

 

[Sunshine]

A 3-way is the answer to all of his problems.

Could be!

 

[davion2308]

Nope

Is this a test to see which thread will get the most responses or views?

No, it was a mistake. Multi-clicking, maybe?

Either way, interesting insight.

 

[FGB]

I don't know if you are for real or not BUT.

Go ahead and light the fuse fool! Hell, she MIGHT not cut the Ole balls off when you sleep. She MIGHT not go into a hormone fueled overdrive rage, fuck up your whole little playhouse and leave paying child support and alimony.

I mean...You don't KNOW!

People don't always get everything they want in life.

My god. If I had what you have in life I would be a happy son of a bitch!

People like you piss me off!

 

[thør]

Could be!

I'm sure of it.

 

[toubab]

No, it was a mistake. Multi-clicking, maybe?

Either way, interesting insight.

Okay. My money's on this thread. It's got panache.

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

I'm curious to hear everyone's opinion. You're a good group of people and you're smart and seasoned. Give me some insight on your thoughts.

Thanks.

Don't confess to your wife. Don't. Don't. Don't. If you feel guilty, ask the co-worker to please not touch you any longer, but I would not confess this situation to a pregnant woman, one whom you love and really want to stay married to. If you want to enjoy this contact guilt-free, then work within yourself to find a rationale that helps you feel better-- I really don't think your wife is to going to give you permission here. She might. But it might also end really badly at a sensitive time in your relationship anyway. The birth of the second kid is a big, freaking deal that changes so much. It sounds to me though like you are skirting very close to the edge of something more than just harmless touching, so I'd tread very carefully. Counseling is awesome and even a few sessions could help you both, and that might give you a safe space to make your confession if you are bound and determined to tell her.

 

[pollynova]

It's probably best not to tell your wife you're playing grab-ass with your coworker.

 

[toubab]

On the off chance you're actually looking for a serious answer, after a woman has a child her husband drops in importance to her, probably nine times out of ten, I would say. Probably even more often than that, actually. The child gets most of her attention, touching, etc. It's nature. If you like the attention and touching, get it at work and keep it to yourself. Your wife doesn't tell you everything she does or thinks, and you shouldn't tell her everything, either, unless you want trouble.

 

[neci]

put your head in her lap.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

Hello, open-minded folks of Literotica.

Here's my situation. I'm 33, white, attractive and in shape. My wife is 32 and extremely attractive. We have been together for 16 years, married for 9. We have a daughter, almost 2, and another on the way.

Now, I love my wife. We get along well, we haven't had major blow-ups in years, and we're on the same page and we like each other as well as love each other. I have a good job, a house, a dog who listens 80% of the time, and I enjoy myself, except for one thing...

I like the physical contact that comes with an intimate relationship. Let's forget groping, boob-grabbing, ass-smacking, and all the things associated with sex. I like just touching. A hand on an arm on the couch, having my face touched, just making contact throughout the week. It doesn't have to be sustained or lengthy, I don't need long, strong eye contact or my wife to have her hands on me all the time.

I just like human contact from a grown woman.

My wife has never been really touchy-feely. Everything else about her completely agrees with me except her level of contact. She's not a touchy person, and almost all the touching she does goes to our daughter. She has no problem snuggling with our little girl, or holding her, all those things. Now even less comes my way. I'm sad to think of the second kid getting the rest of my wife's limit.

Yes, we have sex. It's as often as it always has been. It has the right amount of kink and I enjoy it.

Yes, I have pointed mentioned and asked my wife to touch my face more, put her arms around me more, touch her ankle to mine during dinner more, and she acknowledges she just never thinks about it. She'll do it for a day and go back to the old way. She just loves being left alone.

Enter the other woman.

I have a co-worker who is touchy without being overly flirty. I love the attention. She's like that to some people but she makes me feel special the way my wife doesn't. I will never have sex with this other woman, never kiss her, never do anything traditionally 'wrong' with her.

I don't know that my wife will care but I don't know if I should tell her. I'm 50/50 to think she might say, "Good as long as you don't bang her." She might be happy she no longer needs to worry about touching me.

Do I say something or do I just enjoy it? My coworker has met my wife on a few occasions and coworker has a husband. She has never said anything suggestive or even called me a work husband or whatever. But she does touch me (PG, no R-rated) and I like it. And she knows it so she does it.

Say something? End it? Just go with it?

I'm curious to hear everyone's opinion. You're a good group of people and you're smart and seasoned. Give me some insight on your thoughts.

Thanks.

You'd be a fool to say one word to your wife.

You would be a double fool obviously bent on self-destruction if you ever said one word to, or even thought about confiding in, the "other woman."

Meanwhile, why don't you simply initiate that which your wife does not remember? Take HER hand. Put your arm around HER shoulder. Assuming she does not recoil with revulsion, then her "negligence" is little more than a minor inconvenience that YOU can basically resolve with YOUR attentiveness.

Yeah, it would be nice if she was more thoughtful, but if you can get the contact you want with such a modicum of effort, then WTF??

 

[neci]

if she coils in revulsion, seek help.

 

[eyer]

On the off chance you're actually looking for a serious answer, after a woman has a child her husband drops in importance to her, probably nine times out of ten, I would say. Probably even more often than that, actually.

Wow, touby...

...jealous of your own child and blaming your wife and indicting all wives.

Wow.

 

[Noor]

If it's non sexual touch you want just pay for a professional therapeutic massage.

Do not tell your pregnant wife that you are encouraging someone else to touch you.

Is it worth losing your family over? You may be attractive and in shape but that doesn't make you entitled anything. Women of quality don't really give a shit about that anyway in the long run.

You married your wife knowing she wasn't into touch. It is your bed, you lie in it.