Mama Blu's

[Sienna]

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[papadoc19]

Bump...

 

[AbsintheFather]

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[papadoc19]

*Drops off some laundry*

 

[blulilacgrl]

Cover Charge Tues 7/29

Well hey y'all!!

Okay I know, I have been absent. Don't worry, I have been properly chastised.


I am going to lay a few things out here. I have been dealing with some rather intense issues of late and I find myself really looking at my life. Looking at how I do things, what I think, what I believe and trying to sort out which convictions are things that I need to keep and maybe which ones are no longer applicable. This leads to a good bit of introspection. Or maybe not introspection so much as not talking about them here.

Except, why not talk about them here? Why not put some of these thoughts out there for others to consider or give their own thoughts on the matter?

So with that in mind... I am going to start reopening the bar. Although there might be a few changes in the questions that I ask. Before I know they were mostly silly or fun (well, I tried to make them silly or fun) but now I think I am going to ask a few maybe tougher questions.

So if you are ready to go there with me... let's have some interesting discussion, shall we?

For tonight... and yes I know it is late so perhaps we will carry this through til tomorrow...

What are your views on monogamy vs. polyamory? If your partner came to you and asked to open up your relationship... would you do it? Why or why not?

Blu

 

[Ask For More]

There, I got Mama to come back. Y'all can thank me later

Here's a song for Mama

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tiNeJu9AmrY

As for polygamy. I can barely handle one woman, let alone multiple! Perhaps I'm old fashioned and still believe that there is one person out there for me, even with all the failed relationships

 

[blulilacgrl]

There, I got Mama to come back. Y'all can thank me later

Here's a song for Mama

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tiNeJu9AmrY

As for polygamy. I can barely handle one woman, let alone multiple! Perhaps I'm old fashioned and still believe that there is one person out there for me, even with all the failed relationships

Awww... you so know what I like, Tiger.

So if you were with someone who fully supported you having a relationship with someone else, you would refuse?

 

[Ask For More]

Awww... you so know what I like, Tiger.

So if you were with someone who fully supported you having a relationship with someone else, you would refuse?

Well let's put it this way. I would feel like shit if my partner was off cavorting with someone else, so I wouldn't want to put that feeling onto someone else. Know what I mean?

 

[blulilacgrl]

Well let's put it this way. I would feel like shit if my partner was off cavorting with someone else, so I wouldn't want to put that feeling onto someone else. Know what I mean?

Except aren't you assuming that they would feel like shit? I mean if you are polyamorous and they are okay with you 'cavorting' with someone else, then why would they feel bad? Does that make sense?

 

[Ask For More]

Except aren't you assuming that they would feel like shit? I mean if you are polyamorous and they are okay with you 'cavorting' with someone else, then why would they feel bad? Does that make sense?

Aaaah....ok. I still don't know if I could do it, it would take me a while to adjust to that mindset of being polygamous.

 

[blulilacgrl]

Aaaah....ok. I still don't know if I could do it, it would take me a while to adjust to that mindset of being polygamous.

Could you ever get to that point? Where you would be ookay with your partner having another partner? OR do you think that it would bother you too much?

 

[Ask For More]

Could you ever get to that point? Where you would be ookay with your partner having another partner? OR do you think that it would bother you too much?

I thought I said that earlier? It would make me feel like shit!

 

[blulilacgrl]

I thought I said that earlier? It would make me feel like shit!

Why?

 

[Ask For More]

Why?

Hmm, probably because I have old fashioned values and romantic ideals.

 

[blulilacgrl]

Hmm, probably because I have old fashioned values and romantic ideals.

[laughs] You're so romantical. *swoon*

 

[papadoc19]

I wouldn't be a fan of opening up my relationship...and I would be a bit hurt that I wasn't enough to satisfy them.

Honestly, I find maintaining and sustaining a romantic relationship with one person to be a challenge (a pleasant challenge but still one) so I am not sure how I would handle navigating multiple ones.

 

[NHKitty]

I would be a bit hurt that I wasn't enough to satisfy them.

^ this ^

But, as someone in a somewhat "open" relationship, I am doing my best to be OK with it...as far as I know, there is no sexual relationship just more of an intellectual one, but the feelings of inadequacy and yes, jealousy are difficult to deal with some days.

 

[Greeneyedcanadian]

Dropping in to leave Blu a hug...sorry I missed you.

 

[1sickbastard]

blu-bump

 

[papadoc19]

Hello NHKitty and Greeneyedcanadian

Hello sickbastard

 

[1sickbastard]

Hiya pops

 

[Greeneyedcanadian]

Hi papa

 

[papadoc19]

Saturday bump

 

[blulilacgrl]

Cover Charge Fri 8/8

Friday evening bump.

Hey guys!! How is everyone doin'?

I don't know. I think an open or a polyamorous relationship means that someone isn't 'enough' for another person. To me it just means that I can love you and love someone else at the same time without having to deny it. I don't think that love is a finite resource. But that is just my take on it.

Okay... hmmm... new question....

What is something that you have wanted to do but haven't? And why haven't you?

Lately with everything going on I have been coming to grips with the idea that tomorrow is not a guarantee. I am trying to get out and do the things I have been denying myself for various reasons (although most reasons revolve around body insecurity issues). How about you?

Blu

 

[Tallcajun]

Try to leave no regrets.

But that is hard to do.