Male Sex Periods...Fact or Fiction?????

[twysted73]

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Ongoing since I was 18...(funny how most things start right around the time you know the least about coping with them.)

Break down:
4 to 8 days of heightened and very sensative sexual arrousal preceeded by anywhere between 4 hours to 24 hours of slight depression/sad/needy feelings. During this "period" I can count on being awakened at different hours of the night (usually between midnight and 7 am) with very insistant, very ridgid and very needy erections every night/morning of this cycle. It occurrs once a month, almost like clock work but can fluxuate by 5 days early or late.

To say my thoughts are preoccupied by anything sexual is a gross understatement. Each period usually has a random theme. (something I absolutely obsess about having or enjoying/experiencing) Sometimes the obsession theme repeats consecutively. Sometimes it's not the same flavor of kink for several cycles.
My "buttons" that normally catch my attention if pushed (touching of my neck, shoulders, hair or nibbles/bites) become almost instant submission points. (a fact I try to keep to myself but in the interest of seeking advice I listed here)
If continued to be pushed, those afformentioned buttons will cause me to fall into this fog or state of mind where instant compliance at that moment is something yearned for and desired. Eye lids heavy, breathing rapid, blood hot, need to bite/be bitten strong and compelling, pulse up, hunger harder to control and cognizance completely failing me. (almost impossible to collect and connect thoughts)
If I had a Staples "Easy" button, this time and those spots would be it.

Sometimes it concerns me because of the almost complete lack of inhabitions I have during this period and being the type who has predominantly female friends, I usually just avoid them for the most part during the worst of it.(1st 2 days) It's almost a running joke among them and they understand. (Some of the closer ones take the occasional sadistic pleasure in taunting me on purpose which, at the time, thrills the hell out of me but I'll never tell them)

My last partner "B" understood this. Accepted it gladly and, in sharing with me her appreciation and enjoyment of extensive biting/scratching/marking, etc. she has (in a few ways) made it worse or more prominent.

SO.......my question is: Have any of you experienced this, know a man who has it or has heard of it found in others?
I have never met anyone that has admitted to this much less indicated they (suffer?) deal with it.
Being the type that enjoys analysis in things, it's been a mystery to me for quite some time.
And I'm wondering if it's something harmful that I need to have monitored or "cured". Or is it something perfectly fine that will find an outlet during relationships and thus pose no problem for me?
(while with B, it was more intense having a partner available and willing to set it loose on. While single, it's just an inconvenience and troublesome at times)
Can you imagine taking "masturbation breaks" at work 2 -3 times in a work day?

ANY advice is appreciated. Thank you for listening.

 

[StrapFantasy]

I read somewhere an article about scientific studies concluding males have a 28 day hormonal cycle not unlike that experienced by females. It's been quite a while since I saw it, so the details are fuzzy, but I remember it mentioning that males experience peaks and valleys in sexual interest during the course of the cycle, as well as mood swings. Like females, the degree of such swings varied from one individual to another, from nearly unnoticeable to quite dramatic.

After reading the article, I took notice that I indeed have a cycle in which my mood, emotions, and sexual interest fluctuate from high to low. I don't experience the extremes or intensities you describe, but it is definitely there.

A quick Google didn't turn up much, but here's what I found. You'll have to scroll to the middle of the page on the first one.

http://www.trosch.org/ide/sex-cycl.htm

http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/male_period.shtml

It does make sense, considering males and females are only one chromosome apart, and that doesn't become apparent until we're into the second month of gestation (I believe - correct me if I'm wrong on that), that we would share similar cycles. I don't think it is anything harmful, unless what you experience causes unacceptable behavior, your ability to function in society normally, or something of that nature.

 

[bholderman]

I've always suspected myself as being on some type of cycle, although its not 28 days. In fact I think I have two. One, sexually driven appears aevery two months or so lasting about a week. The second about every two years. This is when Mr. Hyde appears in a slew of anxiety and pent up emotions which usually solves itself rather quickly with a bender, my wife getting pissed for a few days and everything resets itself for another two years.

 

[twysted73]

I've always suspected myself as being on some type of cycle, although its not 28 days. In fact I think I have two. One, sexually driven appears aevery two months or so lasting about a week. The second about every two years. This is when Mr. Hyde appears in a slew of anxiety and pent up emotions which usually solves itself rather quickly with a bender, my wife getting pissed for a few days and everything resets itself for another two years.

Interesting. Thanks for the input!

 

[Tuomas]

Actually, what you describe sounds a lot like mild form of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Particularly in the bit where it goes in "cycles". Cycling is a very common trait of mental disorders, such as bipolar, depression, anxiety, etc. Usually these cycles form a pattern between two weeks and two months.

Of course, I'm not a professional in the field, and I'm sure there are more knowledgeable people out there who can correct me.

I should point out, however, that libido is rather delicate, and there is a myriad of external factors that can influence it, such as diet, exposure to sunshine, temperature and contact with other people. It is very possible your cycles have to do with something else, that might follow the same cycle. It could be, for example, the stress (or lack thereof) from trying to meet end-of-month deadlines. Or a change in diet associated with a common cycling of food tastes.

That having been said, men do have a reproductive cycle like women, but it lasts only three days, and is typically unaccompanied by hormonal changes. It has to do with the maturity of sperm, which takes three days. If a man doesn't have sex or masturbate in that time, the body will either expel the mature sperm in a "wet dream", or reabsorb them, giving rises to perceptible changes in libido.

Several men have mentioned having "periods" that last 28 days, but I think this is largely psychosomatic. Principally because they refer to "28 days", being this the common perception of how long female periods last. However, as most women know, periods are rarely constant, and most women have periods "around" 28 days, with cycles of between 26 and 31 days being most common.

It does make sense, considering males and females are only one chromosome apart, and that doesn't become apparent until we're into the second month of gestation (I believe - correct me if I'm wrong on that), that we would share similar cycles. I don't think it is anything harmful, unless what you experience causes unacceptable behavior, your ability to function in society normally, or something of that nature.

Actually, it doesn't; one chromosome is a huge difference in genetic terms. Moreover, the biologic functions that create the "periods" in women have to do with estrogen and progesterone fluctuation caused by ovulation -which does not occur in men. There is a distinct -and to me rather annoying- current promoting the idea that people are essentially "identical" based on the unscientific misconception that differences in genes are "almost insignificant".

 

[RJMasters]

Probably not related to the topic, but I consider the whole male life cycle one big period with heavy flow days starting around age 30 and ending around 40 or so. Then you pull the plug and go commando and hope no stains shows through.

 

[Sharon_]

RJMasters wrote:

>Probably not related to the topic, but I consider the whole male life cycle >one big period with heavy flow days starting around age 30 and ending >around 40 or so. Then you pull the plug and go commando and hope no >stains shows through.

Bwah!

Okay, ~that~ was funny.

[...and PMS all thru a man's teen years]

 

[StrapFantasy]

Actually, what you describe sounds a lot like mild form of obsessive-compulsive disorder.

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I should point out, however, that libido is rather delicate, and there is a myriad of external factors that can influence it...

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...men do have a reproductive cycle like women, but it lasts only three days, and is typically unaccompanied by hormonal changes. It has to do with the maturity of sperm, which takes three days. If a man doesn't have sex or masturbate in that time, the body will either expel the mature sperm in a "wet dream", or reabsorb them, giving rises to perceptible changes in libido.

Several men have mentioned having "periods" that last 28 days, but I think this is largely psychosomatic. Principally because they refer to "28 days", being this the common perception of how long female periods last. However, as most women know, periods are rarely constant, and most women have periods "around" 28 days, with cycles of between 26 and 31 days being most common.

Actually, it doesn't; one chromosome is a huge difference in genetic terms. Moreover, the biologic functions that create the "periods" in women have to do with estrogen and progesterone fluctuation caused by ovulation -which does not occur in men. There is a distinct -and to me rather annoying- current promoting the idea that people are essentially "identical" based on the unscientific misconception that differences in genes are "almost insignificant".

You make some excellent points. It appears there hasn't been much modern research into male "cycles," though I do remember distinctly the article I mentioned concluding they did have them. I wish I could find it. It did point out that characteristics, including timing, varied from one individual to another. In any case, you are correct. We can easily mistake other factors for an internal cycle. That is a very distinct possibility.

I find it very interesting how common the - approximate - 28 day cycle is on this planet.

Oddly enough, I have never had a wet dream. I have certainly gone substantially more than three days without sex or masturbating (though I try very hard not to!)... I must be a very efficient reabsorber. Heh.

I didn't mean to imply that any genetic difference is insignificant. As far as gene differences go, there are relatively few between humans and other primates, for example, yet we are very different. As one of the articles pointed out, the "default blueprint is female" and expression of the gene that determines male gender doesn't occur until the second month of gestation. Males and females share all of the characteristics that develop prior to that point. Could a hormonal cycle be one of those things? I don't know. Seems nobody has really studied the idea much.

While the direction each gender takes after that time is very different, males and females do share hormones including testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, and others, albeit at different levels. If we share the same chemicals, and begin life from the same design, is it that great a leap to hypothesize we may share the same processes - albeit at different levels?

I'm not saying any of this is fact, and I'm not trying to discredit anything you said - because it makes a great deal of sense. I'm just sort of contemplating aloud because I find the idea very interesting.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Probably not related to the topic, but I consider the whole male life cycle one big period with heavy flow days starting around age 30 and ending around 40 or so. Then you pull the plug and go commando and hope no stains shows through.

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[SweetErika]

Oddly enough, I have never had a wet dream. I have certainly gone substantially more than three days without sex or masturbating (though I try very hard not to!)... I must be a very efficient reabsorber. Heh.

I've never known ANY man who has a wet dream if he doesn't ejaculate every three days. For my husband, it's usually 3 or more WEEKS to MONTHS without ejaculation that brings on a wet dream. It can be more or less, depending on multiple factors, but it's always a far cry from 3 days. Of course it's rare for him to go without masturbation or sex for weeks, but even when he was a teen camp counselor and couldn't masturbate easily because there was almost no privacy, he only had one or two over the span of several months.

I was curious about the average amount of time between wet dreams, and it looks like they're not that common after a guy passes the teenage years. At peak wet dream age (12-14 for most boys), most have one about every 10 days (though they may have two in a row, then nothing for a while) if they don't have another outlet. (Source.) In a survey about puberty , most reported having wet dreams once a month or less to never. In fact, Kinsey's New Report on Sex found about 20% of the 5000 men surveyed had never had a nocturnal emission.

As far as cycles go, I haven't noticed anything like that in my husband, but his horniness and focus on sex often mirrors my cycle. For example, when I'm at the peak of fertility/approaching ovulation, he's usually more excited about sex, and then he calms down until a few days into my period. It may very well have something to do with the pheromones I produce when I'm most/least fertile, but it could also be wholly psychological. I certainly find people more attractive when they obviously want me, and less so when they're not feeling good or less interested in sex; I don't see why he wouldn't experience the same pattern.

 

[RJMasters]

http://i101.photobucket.com/albums/m71/worldrebecca/31.gif

Are you suggesting that I have a sick sense of humor?

 

[mjl2010]

Sounds a lot like bipolar disorder including the part about loss of inhibitions.

I'd go see doctor and ask for a referral to someone who specializes in those types of disorders. Compulsion, depression, bipolar.

It's worth a try, unless you like being that way.

MJL

 

[twysted73]

Sounds a lot like bipolar disorder including the part about loss of inhibitions.

I'd go see doctor and ask for a referral to someone who specializes in those types of disorders. Compulsion, depression, bipolar.

It's worth a try, unless you like being that way.

MJL

It can be somewhat of a hindrance at times. And I do have an appoint here shortly on the 10th. We'll see how it pans out. Gotta admit tho...it all works out well (and my last partner actually looked foreward to it) when I'm together with someone. So I suppose when single it's a pain inthe arse but when coupled, works out well. Hmm...that about sums it all up. Thanks again for all the input.

 

[Colton_White]

Male Sex periods ,Fiction

Colton White's dick is usually erect most of the time in the night through out the month, since he doesn't have any one to loose his erection in night. So I call it fiction.

 

[sutherngent985]

I've never known ANY man who has a wet dream if he doesn't ejaculate every three days. For my husband, it's usually 3 or more WEEKS to MONTHS without ejaculation that brings on a wet dream. It can be more or less, depending on multiple factors, but it's always a far cry from 3 days. Of course it's rare for him to go without masturbation or sex for weeks, but even when he was a teen camp counselor and couldn't masturbate easily because there was almost no privacy, he only had one or two over the span of several months.

I was curious about the average amount of time between wet dreams, and it looks like they're not that common after a guy passes the teenage years. At peak wet dream age (12-14 for most boys), most have one about every 10 days (though they may have two in a row, then nothing for a while) if they don't have another outlet. (Source.) In a survey about puberty , most reported having wet dreams once a month or less to never. In fact, Kinsey's New Report on Sex found about 20% of the 5000 men surveyed had never had a nocturnal emission.

As far as cycles go, I haven't noticed anything like that in my husband, but his horniness and focus on sex often mirrors my cycle. For example, when I'm at the peak of fertility/approaching ovulation, he's usually more excited about sex, and then he calms down until a few days into my period. It may very well have something to do with the pheromones I produce when I'm most/least fertile, but it could also be wholly psychological. I certainly find people more attractive when they obviously want me, and less so when they're not feeling good or less interested in sex; I don't see why he wouldn't experience the same pattern.

In my whole life I can only remember having 1 wet dream and that was the 1st time I ejaculated. In the interim, I have had periods of no release for various reason lasting up to 5 or 6 weeks without a wet dream.

Now I try and have an orgasm every few days (if not more often ) as prostate trouble runs in my family and I read an article that said regular ejaculation helps prevent BPH (enlargment).