Male Fantasies: Please Tell All

[Black_Bird]

Redwave and Tonyp are both right - in their own way.

All men tend to seek out partners that would make good parents - tender, loving, intimate, and attentive. Women also look for qualities in men that would make them good parents, which makes it desireable for men to be protective, strong, instructive, and capable of providing for a family...

If you think about it - a romantic relationship is really a test to see how ready the other individual is to have children. In most cases, when a man takes a father like role towards his lover, and a woman takes a mother like role towards him - they do it in a very balanced, natural and reserved fashion. BDSM, on the other hand, takes the father and mother roles to an extreem...

No - I don't think that all men have the desire to dominate women... but domination is a natural extention of fatherhood. I don't believe that all women feel that they have to be submissive - but again, it is an extreem reinterpretation of how a mother feels towards her child. Why so many feel the need to take this to such an extreem? I don't really know... But I know I'm one of them.

As for fantasies I have other then BDSM? Alone on an Island with a beautiful stranger. I love isolation and solitude... This would be my dream date.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Fantasy

For me, the ultimate turn on is uncontrolable lust. The I can't wait till we get somewhere private, so I'm going to pull you into the restroom lust.

 

[Ladybird]

Smiles

Its obvious from the posts here that most men fantasise about threesomes, either mmf or mff.

And as a 47 yr old woman who spends time in chat here, I get a lot of interest from younger men wanting an older woman. Again, another popular fantasy.

I couldn't agree more with TonyP's post......

"anyways... I like sex and I think the domination/testorone thing
is a bit of an excuse for lack of communication and poor socialization"

As for me... yes I'd love a threesome too, but mmf thank you !!

 

[Dumpington]

C'mon, Ladybird! Reconsider!

I think you could really enjoy a mff threesome! Especially if the other woman was a stripper! They're hot!

How do I know this? Well, I have a very good imagination.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

Re: Universal male fantasy

Anyway, there are a number of specific male fantasies, varying from man to man. But the overarching, universal (or nearly so) male fantasy is control and domination over women.


It's not a particularly likable thing about men, and most men will never admit it (especially to a woman), but it is part of the nature of males, programmed into us by our DNA and by testosterone.

Okay, I don't know about anyone else...but this sounds a little far-fetched...In my fantasies, it's not that I want to control anyone...I mostly want to not worry about control...Most men's lives are, to some degree, about control to begin with. When I'm fantasizing, especially about sex, I'm thinking more about relaxed sex, away from the various control issues that we live with from day to day. The girl isn't FORCED to do anything...she WANTS to. It's often things she probably wouldn't want to do, but hey...it's not like it's real, it's a fantasy...

 

[Guest]

threesome

Well the 3 some theme is obviously a common thread ..it seems to crop up with women and men ... with men it seems more voyeuristic and women involves the sense of being the centre of attention...

I have a had a few 3 somes and have enjoyed the attention and the voyeurism...and consequently I have good memories/fantasies...

I think with women it is the idea of being viewed and with males the viewer ....I thing these are socialised however and are dependant on the individual ...I think there are many women that given the chance would like to be viewer

It is interesting to note that there is often the male fantasies of watching 2 women but rarely do you hear of a woman gaining pleasure from watching 2 men..

 

[HomerPindar]

My two cents worth here:

My fantasies deal with what she (being hetro) is feeling and sensing as she is being seduced -- wether it's into one-on-one sex, an orgy, vamperism, whatever. While submission may play a part in some of these, domination plays less a part in any of them. Of course, the poetry is mostly the attempt to express what I imagine it takes to seduce the ladies. I'm not so sure if that counts as fantasies as much as optimism though...

H.Pindar

 

[Ladybird]

Winks at Dumpington

Honey I've had several ffm threesomes, that's why its no longer a fantasy of mine.

Strippers are hot?? Sweetie, you've never played with an Aussie have you ?? <WEG>

 

[Mickie]

Now that I've got ten minutes to think about this kind of stuff --

The male mind is just as individual as the female mind. At least, that's my experience. Men tend to be more physical and women emotional, but that's a generalized difference and there are all kinds of exceptions to that. I write for women, mainly. I don't write for the male audience, but you'd be surprised by the amount of feedback I've gotten from men, and most of it positive. I use more descriptive and emotional language. More feelings and romantic thoughts instead of 'she was hot, let me tell ya!'

Generally, women tend to be seduced more by the mind than men. (Now don't hit me, those women who don't fit the general concept here. I'm generalizing 'cause the subject is so general) Men are attracted by the visual and touch senses. Women by the atmosphere around those senses. Men have no clue what really arouses them, and most of them don't give a damn as long as they're aroused. A stray breeze, maybe?

But, in the end, it's all about acceptance. The child in all of us wants and needs acceptance of even our filthiest, darkest self, and our fantasies provide someone who will fill that need in completion. If a man wants to be dominated (and really, as far as my own research goes, that's more common than a man who wants to dominate) then he will dream up a fantasy partner who provides the domination along with the acceptance of his wish. He brings out an authority figure who has both the right and the need to dominate. Most of all, he invents someone who is as aroused as he is by the scenario.

The only real theme running through all male fantasies, and I think, female as well, is the ultimate arousal of the participants. The intensity of lust. The reason so many male fantasies include big breasts, and huge cocks isn't because they find them a turn on, although some do, but because one has to have huge parts in order to visualize the immensity of the response the characters have. Everything, including lust, is larger than life. It's mind-blowing, catastrophic, and the climax is not a dribble of fluids, but a jet of semen that would fill an ocean. To be more realistic would take away from the intensity. This is fantasy, after all. Why get bogged down by rules, such as preparation before anal sex, when you can take all the discomfort out of it merely by using your imagination? She not only accepts it as long as you make it easier for her, but she WANTS it, and is as aroused as you are by it. So much so that her need for preparation is lost in the heat of the moment.

Now I need a cold shower.

Mickie

 

[bluntforcemama]

These are all fantastic fantasies! I enjoy reading about every one of them, you've all been very helpful by sharing your fantasies with me (men AND women). Thank you THANK YOU!

 

[Flashlight7.5]

Fantasies

Threesomes are a common theme because many folks have never tried them, but always wonder what it would be like. I must say that they are great fun!

As for me, my wildest fantasies involve my wife. In one, she is gangbanged by several female friends of ours (we once dirty talked it out during sex and that was a hot time) and the other involves her and a female friend sharing a strap-on.

Most of my fantasies though don't necessarily involve supermodels or porn stars. I like a girl with curves. The more natural, the better. Most of my fantasies involve the discovery of someone who is far more sexual than they appear. "It's always the quiet ones," they say. I believe that's true. There's a great scene in "The Maltese Falcon" where Bogart is talking to this cute bookworm of a woman. He suddenly reaches across the counter in the middle of the conversation and takes off her glasses, revealing a knock-out underneath. "Oh," he happily says, "Hello..."

 

[Flashlight7.5]

I forgot one

Another fantasy, and sometimes practice, is marathon sex. I love sex that gets to a point of everything clicking without thought. Threesomes, in my experience, are like that. Everyone is working together without even realizing it. In extended sessions, your body and consciousness shift into another state. I suppose it's a bit of Tantra, really.

 

[mtnclimber2000]

As a male, my vote would be

1. Soft D/s by wife/girlfriend (body worship/teasing&denial)--very few good ones out there with a romantic servitude theme (versus the more common pain/harsh punishment/feminization themes)

2. Humiliation by Femdom--
3. Cuckolded and enslaved to wife & lover
4. exhibitionist GF/wife

Would love to see more original stories dealing with Femdoms, with emphasis on psychological domination versus whipping, feminization, etc.

 

[kotori]

These are a few of my favourite things. . .

1. Voyeurism (seeing someone else do anything that involves removal of clothes and/or sex);
2. Two women (for the reasons given above--time out for watching, and pressure off);
3. One woman and one other man;
4. Stranger/wordless--but she has to initiate;
5. Wet clothes: might be a rainstorm, jump in the pool/lake/ocean, pissing;
6. To be 18 again, and know what I know now;
7. Straight sex with girls from my past (with whom I never got the chance).

I can't think of any more now (performance anxiety, I guess).

 

[PolarJuice]

I don't remember most of my dreams but my waking thoughts do tend to take me away from reality sometimes...

Sure theres the odd time a threesome ( of both mmf or ffm ) would pop into my head but the fantasy highest on my list is just taking advantage of the situation.. spontaneous sex.... or sex with a stranger even more so....

I guess the thought of getting caught or doing something morally wrong ( ie : adultry incest etc. ) makes it that much more satisfying. And there is simply nothing like making love under the stars or in an open field in the sunshne... thats the ultimate freedom.

Polar

PS: Always pack sunscreen and bug spray in your picnic basket

 

[Asendin]

I'll make a short list

More than one woman

Older Women

Sex with people you shouldnt be (Police woman, boss, teacher etc)




Ok its a short list but i will try and think of more

police women and or teacher sounds nice

 

[Oddpoet]

semantics

my two cents on the dominant male subject

no, all male fantasies aren't about domination and control, but all masculine fantasies are. A matter of semantics, maybe, but most arguments derive from mis-matched definitions.

(and in my admittedly finite expirience, a man who is not comfortable playing a dominant role in bed will have a hard time holding on to girlfriends, but I guess reality is outside the circle for these discussions, eh?)

As to the original question, what swells the blood vessels in my head?

1) Control. Magical powers of seduction and arousal, particularly towards 'innocent' types, or groups of people.
2) Anal sex. Never worked out well for me in the real world, but still starts the neurons popping.
3) Needles. A relic from my cloudy past, perhaps.
4) Casual sex with co-workers, friends. Seemingly the most benign on the list, and yet the most dangerous.
5) Control, redux. ritualistic worship of male firtility god by zealous priestesses.

 

[PeterBilt]

Re: Re: Male Fantasies: Please Tell All

I think any story that involves one or more women who are unrealistically insatiable, tight, endowed, and/or submissive would qualify as a male fantasy.

One might be to satisy such a woman.

 

[PeterBilt]

WOW!!! I've asked the same question and they all said the same thing. They fantasize of older women teaching a young man. Why is that? I've always thought men prefer younger women.


Please respond men!

I still fantasize about having been "taught the ways" by an older woman as a youth.

 

[DrMaphisto]

My fantasy, whick I will soon be fulfilling with my lover, involves two women, as most male fantasies do. The women would be in a 69 positioin, my gf on top with me fucking her in the ass as she eats and fingers the other girl. the other girl would be licking her pussy and my balls......cant wait

 

[PeterBilt]

and, what about ...

uninhibited intercourse in the context of a deeply loving, committed, enduring, intimate relationship of mutual understanding? One can dream, can't one?

 

[mmumbles]

my fantasy

I have many fantasies. See my stories and poems, they're all fantasies except poem 911 2001. Lately I have been obsessed with the smell of pussy. All I have to do is picture one close-up and remember the smells of sex and I'm ready for anything. Another fantasy that has endured for years is having complete control over a woman. But I'm just sick I guess.

 

[Guest]

My fantasy involves being tied to a beam overhead and blindfolded wearing nothing but my heels. The room has a big fireplace and all i can hear is the crackling of burning wood and the ocassional crack of the whip as my Master makes his way to my helpless body. That fine line between pain and pleasure, and being so vulnerable is what arrouses me. I don't know if I will ever do this in real, but in fantasy when I am all alone it never fails to give me release.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Male fantasies

In addition to the typical FFM threeway and being taught by an older woman... I have several fantasies that revolve mainly around the theme of me "totally rocking her world" sexually. Basically, being an incredible lover. This fantasy is also thrown in with the threesome... (i.e., rocking both of their worlds) LOL.

Just another two cents...

-PBW

 

[eonco]

fave male fantasies

my all time fave fantasy is to recall the moment when my wife was almost deflowered by her boyfriend before she met me and then later, some years in our marriage they re-meet (with my blessing) and they finally made it!

Such an erotic thrill.