Making the Transition

[Seamus123]

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[Chicklet]

The only thing I could tell you is try not to overthink it. It's life, just live it. Don't worry about it too much. It's great that you're growing up, and it's something we all do, but don't be afraid to stay young, either. I'm nearly 25 (eek, it feels really old for where I am in my life) and I'm not afraid to call my mom and talk when I'm having issues about things. I *know* I'll be fine but it's good to have my family behind me just in case something goes wrong.

Good luck, and remember, it's not that different than what it was before.

 

[Seamus123]

Yeah, makes a lot of sense.. it's weird, when i'm out with people i'm ok, it's just when i get on my own and start to think and over-analyse that it gets me down even though there's no reason for it to. I think I over-think everythink. There I go again

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I went to uni and I stayed to work a summer so I cam empathise.

In truth, you've managed your termtime as an 'adult' as you put it. The summer is no different, you're just working for cash instead of grades.

Could it be more a sense of abandonment? Your fellow students have gone home for the summer and your family are still far away.

Be positive. At this stage you only have to sail this ship alone until September. When you do leave Uni for permanent work, you'll be more clued up because you've had this experience.

*HUGS*

 

[borisk]

Its great you are learning about money now and not later in life. The best thing I did in school was a budget and stick to it as best you can. The more you know and manage the better you can cope when you graduate into the world.


If you have a little left over goto a Fidelity investment center and check out some investments! The advice is free and you need little money to start.

Money is fun especially when its working for you.

Good luck,
Boris

 

[Reba67]

Even though you're "on your own", don't be afraid to call home for advice or just to talk or whatever. I found the first summer where I was really away (like, across the country) was the hardest for me because I couldn't just go home for a visit when I felt like it.

 

[NaughtyLil1]

Even though you're "on your own", don't be afraid to call home for advice or just to talk or whatever. I found the first summer where I was really away (like, across the country) was the hardest for me because I couldn't just go home for a visit when I felt like it.

My daughter is 1200 miles away for school. We talk every day. It keeps her grounded and gives me some piece of mind. It's great you're being responsible, just don't forget that your family is out there.

 

[e-monster]

..From being a teenager to being an adult? i'm 20 years old, and i'm at university. Normally i'd have gone home for the summer, but this time i've stayed at university to work instead and try earn some money. It's just that.. I worry about it. A lot. It's a lot of responsability. I've done the math, i'm going to be fine financially, but anyone got any tips for learning to cope with all this new stuff now? stupid question I know, but oh well..

You're worried you won't be able to cope with the stresses and responsibilities of independence? Take heart. I gained an powerful sense of accomplishment and sef-reliance when I faced and ultimately overcame exactly the same worries you are now contemplating. The fact that you are even asking about this tells me you are as good as ready for the challange. Good luck!

 

[human_male]

Must be a lot to deal with. Just remember that this is the hardest time in many people's lives, so it's bound to be difficult. Find someone you can talk about stuff with.

Or just root a lot, either way.

 

[vanelane]

Don't worry, the transition doesn't happen overnight. I tell my kids "You're not a grown-up until you're 25." (They're six now, so they still believe everything I say.) But the point is that just because the calendar says you're 20, you're not expected to suddenly know how to do everything perfectly and have all the answers; life is a process of learning. Keep doing what you're doing, taking on more responsibility for yourself without being afraid to ask for help from home when you need it. You're doing fine.

 

[Seamus123]

Thanks for all your great advice, you all seem to have been through this period before. You're all right, it does take time.. should be all ok though. Thanks a lot!