Making Sweet Love

[wildrose70]

wildrose. so true hon so true. I am so thankful I am a romantic person. Drives my special person nuts because I have such a soft heart, *S*

Awwwwwwwwwww that's so sweet...until I met my man...I thought romance was only something you read about in books....but he has made a believer out of me...I'm not used to all this...but boy I sure can get used to it!!!
Believe me I am too..and to find someone as romantic as me....wellllll it's wonderful

 

[Golden Eyes]

And it wasnt just SEX, it was sweet, itwas all about loving someone

 

[wildrose70]

And it wasnt just SEX, it was sweet, itwas all about loving someone

There yu go darlin...you said it sooooooooo right....anyone can have sex...not everyone can make love

 

[Saoirse]

You know GE.. this is a lovely thread.. and you hit the nail on the head when you said that anyone can fuck.. but making love is special.

I am sooo lucky to have the best hubby in the world too... who makes me feel so much loved and wanted. He is not the hearts and flowers type..... well occasionally he is..... but his actions and the way he is with me more than makes up for that. He is unselfish in his love for me... and I know I married my best friend, my soul mate and my lover.

I am also very lucky to have found a fantastic man online.. who is also very special and caring, and who my hubby knows about. This man does nothing but enhance my life and make me feel even more desireable and sexy.

I think right now that I am very lucky.

 

[MysteriousRomantic]

Golden I think you touched on the main point. If you love someone you do things for them over and above your needs.

 

[BethAnne]

I hope you know

just how lucky you are...

A spouse who is romantic...your soul mate...is a rare thing indeed.

Were I braver I would get out...and I believe someday I will...but just right now I can't...

I haven't felt loved, desired, cherished, or sexy in my marriage in more years than I can recall...yet I'm only 38 years old...I could cry! (Been married 17 years and together 20 years).

I don't think we EVER snuggled and cuddled in bed after lovemaking. There is just no intimacy between us...sexually or emotionally or mentally. Tis a very painful thing indeed!

I have been blessed to know others, on-line or otherwise, who have been all that you have described...I certainly wish I could know that lovely romance with my spouse...but it's just not to be!

The best lovers I've known on-line or otherwise have seemed to care about me...been interested in me...and willing to share themselves with me...I've found that it really isn't about the sex (although that's yummy!) but about the talking and sharing and laughing and yes, the cuddling and snuggling...running your hands over one another, listening to one another! But it's the making a connection...feeling special to another...

Thats what making sweet love is...and it's great if you can have that with your spouse...but it's wonderful enough that wherever you do find it, it's worth cultivating and cherishing.

BethAnne

PS - Golden I know your views about this...and you don't really know how much I wish I could have it all in one man...but for now it's not to be...and I hope that I won't miss my soul mate while I'm waiting for the right time to leave...and in the interim I'm so fortunate to have met men who are willing to share themselves with me...we all need to feel connected and important to someone!

 

[LdyBGemini]

Re: *soft tear on my cheek*

LadyB hello sweet one.


Oh most of these men out there knew what they are missing by not being romantic. Nothing like it can touch my heart and soul then to see how happy it makes her.

Hello Mysterious...

the long licks I love to give him and the first time my wet mouth surrounds him <wink>

 

[Golden Eyes]

Bethanne

Is it because he just is not the romantic type? Is there true love in your marriage? Try to talk to him, express how you feel, That you want to be more intimate, holding, cuddling, Yes I do know how very lucky I am, I did marry my best friend, lover, I never had love growing up as a child, Didnt have a father, mom and I were never close, We were never told that we were loved as kids, Never hugged, When I met hubby, I could not believe how affectionate, loving. I didnt knowhow to handle it. I tell him all the time how much I love him, how much I need him, There are times when we dont make love, (Intercourse) but we love each other. Just by sitting on the couch together, in each others arms, Just cuddling, kissing, arms wrapped around. To me thats sweet love. Try to talk to your husband, tell him how you feel, Marriages can fall apart with out communication. I have been married 18 yrs, and I try so hard to communicate. Please give it a try. ANd I know what you mean, about some of th emen in lit. I have a few that are very special tome, that I am very close to.

GE

 

[BethAnne]

Ch Ch Changes...

Golden, thanks for the kind thoughts...have been trying for so long to get what I need from this relationship...finding others to meet those needs was the last resort and the result of many years of struggle...and I can truly say the marriage is dead...we just haven't buried it yet. I promise I have done all the things you suggested...have sought counseling...everything! I wanted this to work for me...for us. In the past few months I've come to accept that the life support is the only thing keeping it alive...

He's always been this way...and I guess I was so young I didn't know the difference...and after I did know the difference I assumed there was something wrong with me.

Anyway, a good r/l friend of mine feels that I've changed the rules on him and that he won't be able to adapt. She's right, of course, as my bio says, everything has shifted in my life and I'm just trying to find my way...

And I am still hopeful that someday I will have the companion that I need and deserve...the person who will accept all the love that I have to give!

Go kiss and hug your husband for me...keep your marriage strong...and I'll keep believing that someday I'll have that too...because God knows I want it!

BethAnne

 

[Golden Eyes]

Bethanne

I believe inmy heart and soul, that there is someone out there for everyone, Someone special, your soul mate. Dont give up, the right one is out there. If I may ask, why stay, if you are not happy? Leave on good terms, if neither of you are happy. SO you can get on your life.

 

[jazey_43]

nods

BA...thats what I did...and am happy...and on my own!!

 

[BethAnne]

Staying...

because there's pre-teen child involved...who I'm not ready to uproot...needs his dad...even if I don't!

and because as an Aries I am generally very impetuous and headstrong (also the youngest child - maybe a tad spoiled) so for once I'm trying to be clear headed, rational, and put other needs ahead of my own...

funny thing is that without some of the men I've met recently I think I would have been gone by now...they've given me the strength and self-confidence to remain, in the face of some pretty nasty scenes...

BethAnne

 

[Golden Eyes]

Gentle Bump for THis Thread LOL

Keep them coming, post more. Tell your friends, LOL hehehehe

 

[BethAnne]

Saying Hi!

Hello Golden...Hi Jazey!

Hoping you're both well...I'm not bad all things considered...

I know we have other threads in common, but I felt this one deserved a bump...

Anytime we can make sweet love is good...I've been very fortunate lately.

Counting My Blessings...

Happy Saturday Ladies

BethAnne

 

[jazey_43]

Morning!

Morning BethAnn!!!!...*hugs*

And I second the "bump".....

 

[tn_8tiv]

Since I have been rather busy, I didn't find this thread until this morning. My sweet GE had to tell me about it.

Romance is everything in a relationship. Unless you connect mentally, the physical side will not survive. And when you do connect mentally, WOW

Flirtations are one thing. But when you think of flickering candlelight, wine, soft music, a crackling fire and the one you truly love in your arms, the world seems a much nicer place.

Sweet hugs and kisses for my sweet Donna.

Jim

 

[Golden Eyes]

Thank you so much Jim for this bump. Please everyone keep posting, Tell us about your experiences with that special someone, Your sweetest memories of sweet love making, in r/l or in your fantasy.

 

[tn_8tiv]

But of course my sweetest memories are with a certain special brown eyed, blond hair darling that I have shared days and nights with in front of the fireplace. Soft music playing, candles flickering...

No rush, just slow, sensuous lovemaking...holding each other, exploring each other's mind and body.

The anticipation just knowing what will happen and enjoying each special moment together.

Yes, it might have just been online, but it is as real as anything.

Love always darling.