make me a better man, please!!!

[siddhartha757]

hey there, i wanted the ladies opinion on what i might be doing wrong, in life, love and sex. i realize that you dont know me at all, but i figure you guys are the best ones to ask. Please, ask any questions you need, i am completley open about EVERY part of my life.

Much thanks in advance.

 

[M's girl]

So what do YOU think you are doing wrong? Wrong is when it's not working for you, so what isn't? There's really not much anyone can say in response to your question unless you tell us a bit more first.

 

[Perfect_Trust]

hey there, i wanted the ladies opinion on what i might be doing wrong, in life, love and sex. i realize that you dont know me at all, but i figure you guys are the best ones to ask. Please, ask any questions you need, i am completley open about EVERY part of my life.

Much thanks in advance.

Well, your title asks Make me a better man. Only you can do that by listening to the wants/needs of your partner. Or by asessing & realising what went wrong with ex partners, which may/may not have actually been anything you were/weren't doing will you be able to do anything different in new relationships.

I remember the priest who married myself & my ex saying "Don't ever try & change the other person." At the time I thought "Whadda you know?" A lot more than I did obviously...

 

[southernsky]

I'm learning this the hard way Go out and have as much fun as you can. Pursue all the hobbies and goals you always put on the back burner- in short, be as "you" as you can possibly be. Then, you have much more of a chance of
a) meeting someone
b) meeting someone who likes YOU, since they have a better idea of who YOU are
c) meeting someone who likes some of the same things you do and is your type of personality

Then, after that, ask her what she likes. The best way to figure out a partner is to pay attention to how she treats you, and do that back to her. People usually treat their partner how they themselves actually want to be treated, at least at first it almost always works this way, and if you pay attention to what she does and her mannerisms, it will help you out a lot. Does she want to cuddle a lot? Does she give you little massages? She wants one back most likely. Does that help any?

Being a woman, I can say we respond first to someone we have some kind of chemistry with, and you can't really fake that. After that, we respond to someone who is nice, honest, sincere, and we believe that he is telling is the truth when he talks. The rest of the stuff comes after that.

 

[poppy1963]

Write a poem about it.

 

[siddhartha757]

Write a poem about it.

ok.


tired of beng what you want be to be.
tired of seeing what only others see
searching for how to be me

looking in the wrong places
seeing dissapointment in all of your faces
trying to stay in all of your good graces

burning in the fire of my soul
living in my shadow is taking its toll
thinking i may never be whole

 

[sunandshadow]

caring what other people's opinions of you are could in itself be considered a flaw...

 

[tribbles]

Listen.

Be open to yourself and your partner.


It's harder than it seems.

 

[rosebud5446]

what really opened my eyes and has taught me alot was after high school when i traveled the country a bit. i guess just many life experiences has helped to show me more of how the world works. i always try to look at things from different perspectives, and try to do good in situations...