Make it stop

[sweetmedic]

I sometimes go through times where it hurts to have sex...no matter what...but it usually only lasts a month or so and its only happened 2 or 3 times in the last 3 years. But for the past 2 months probably, it hurts no matter what we do. Me and my SO live about 2 hours away from eachother, so we only see eachother on the weekend. So i thought a week to recover would be sufficient cuz we like to get it on when we're together.
And before a couple days I was healed and everything was good.

But everytime we go for it, it hurts so much. We've tried pretty much everything we can think of.. Lots of lube, different positions, making me cum first...nothing has worked..and it leaves me feeling inadequate cuz now im afraid to have sex, and its not enjoyable anymore.

Help! and please dont say go to the doctors, cuz then im more afraid of finding out something horrible.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Marathon sex can leave you feeling sore for a while, but it shouldn't be really painful (unless that's the way you like it, of course )

It's possible you might have a urinary tract infection - does it hurt when you pee? If that's the case, your doctor can fix you up quickly and you can avoid them in the future by making sure you pee before and after sex.

But I'm just guessing. Can you tell us a bit more about what/where/how it hurts?

 

[Gallow]

Help! and please dont say go to the doctors, cuz then im more afraid of finding out something horrible.

Sorry, I have to say it. Go see a doctor.


First off, "something horrible" is quite unlikely.

Secondly, unusual pain really does deserve a doctors attention.

Third, if you're afraid of finding out "something horrible", seeing a doctor will completely remove that anxiety.

Finally, getting it cleared up will improve sex, improve your feelings of adequacy, and thus improve your relationship. Probably worth it.

 

[pink swirl]

if a trip to the doctor is too scary or embarrassing, call the doc's office and tell them your symptoms. they'll know what's what.

you don't have to suffer!

 

[Lynxie]

I'm going to have to chime in with everyone else here and say that you really should see a doctor. Let me tell you a little story...

Four years ago, I began having nasty pains in my shoulder. I thought it was something silly like a muscle pull, so I didn't see a doctor. The pains continued for weeks, then months. I grew fearful - clearly something wasn't right. I kept putting off seeing a doctor for the very reason you're afraid to go - I didn't want to hear anyone tell me something was wrong.

After nearly six months of pain, I couldn't take it anymore and went to see my doc. Wouldn't you know, she couldn't find anything wrong! She put me through six months of physical therapy, thinking maybe my muscles were just too weak or underdeveloped. It did nothing for me.

To make a long story short, I spent the next 3 years doctor-hopping. I actually grew more afraid of going and having them NOT find anything wrong with me - I'd reached a point where I knew something wasn't right, and I wanted answers. Finally, just a few months ago, a great orthopedic doctor pinpointed the cause of my angst and laid out a roadmap for making it better. Last week I had surgery, and now I have another six months or so of therapy to look foward to. Is it scary? Sure. But I also have a profound sense of relief that something is being done, and that I may be able to put an end to my chronic pain.

The moral of the story? Don't mess around with pain. If it's recurring on a regular basis, there's a chance it won't stop on its own. You need to see a professional who can help you figure out what's going on and devise a way to make it better. Ignoring the problem will only make matters worse, trust me. Please, visit your doctor and take care of yourself!

 

[SweetErika]

Like Lynxie, I have been guilty of avoiding the doctor like the plague in the past. However, when pain is impeding your life, you need to get it checked out. It could be a number of easily treated things from him hitting your cervix to a UTI to a cyst (not clear where your pain is). Go see your gynecologist, and if you're not satisfied, see another specialist. Why suffer and worry when it could be very simple to treat? Good luck!

 

[sweetmedic]

I dont really think its a urinary tract infection, I've had that before. I almost always pee before and after sex...just cuz i gotta go..
But there are two pains... I know what one is i think. That one is like at the bottom...feels like tearing..and that hurts usually afterwards
The other pain is inside...Feels like it is around the urethra opening...and that hurts almost immediatly after penetration...If we stop then it doesnt hurt to pee...but if we continue then thats when it hurts to pee...a lot.
Its hard to go see a doctor right now cuz im away at school, and i want to see my own doctor...and not go to a walk in clinic. But im only home onthe weekends and she doesnt work on the weekends...obviously.

 

[Bobmi357]

I think we all avoid going to the doctor for similar reasons. But pain is the body's way of signalling that something is wrong.

Myself, I hate doctors, you can visit one feeling fine and come away all depressed. The medical system in this country seems to take an inate delight in humiliating processes and dehumanizing methods.

 

[sweetmedic]

Is there anything you guys can think of that might stop it from hurting temporarily before i can get to the doctor?

 

[SweetErika]

Sorry, but I think you need to go to the clinic right away. I know it sucks, but you may be able to get an appt. with a female doctor, PA, or nurse practitioner. What you're describing could be a number of things, and I think the best advice any of us can offer is to get an exam and avoid the activites that cause pain in the next few days.

 

[Lynxie]

Sorry, but I think you need to go to the clinic right away. I know it sucks, but you may be able to get an appt. with a female doctor, PA, or nurse practitioner. What you're describing could be a number of things, and I think the best advice any of us can offer is to get an exam and avoid the activites that cause pain in the next few days.

I agree with Erika. I really wouldn't mess around when it comes to your reproductive health. Since sex seems to bring on the pain, I'd recommend abstaining until you could see a doctor. If you can make it to a clinic, you really should go - I used to be afraid of going to anyone but my usual doctor, but I've since come to realize that there are other qualified professionals out there that will take care of me just as well. Think about how much better it will be when you have a solution to the pain and discomfort!

 

[four]

Suck it up, swallow your pride / embarrassment, and take control of your life. Really, who wants to live i with a pain so bad that sex is no longer fun!? Sex no longer fun!?!?! SEX NOT FUN?!? Sheesh what has to happen in your life to make you go to the doctor

Its probibly something minor thats just getting worse, i know doctors are expensive but im sure you have some sort of health insurance. *shrug*

Good luck to you!

 

[asenath]

Do you use spermicide or condoms with spermicide? That stuff burns.

 

[dollface007]

All of the anxiety you're feeling now will dissipate once you've seen a doctor and have a diagnosis.

 

[sweetmedic]

Oh Hun, you're so sweet!