maintenance?

[silverwhisper]

do you consider yourself high maintenace, low maintenance, somewhere in the middle?

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

Well, I'm not the most demanding person there is...

 

[DLL]

do you consider yourself high maintenace, low maintenance, somewhere in the middle?

ed

silver hun can you answer the question for me

 

[silverwhisper]

bwa-ha-ha-ha-ha!

ed

 

[Recidiva]

Financial low maintenance. (I work and make my own money, not impressed by expensive or shiny things)

Emotional high maintenance. (Please be home a lot, say "I love you" very often, don't take anger and distress out on your home environment, make me laugh, be good to me)

"Oh, fine, you just want people to be nice to you all the time!" - my husband

 

[Norajane]

Someone once said I was low maintenance in general - meaning, I don't need three hours to do my hair, make-up, and get dressed just to go to the grocery store, and I'm just as happy to stay in eating pizza and drinking beer and listening to music as I am to go out to a nice dinner or whatnot, etc.

He added that I was high maintenance emotionally, though, in that I needed to feel loved and admired in a relationship, whether through words or actions.

So, I think that makes me mid-maintenance on your poll?

 

[silverwhisper]

you know, you guys make some very good points re: difference b/n emotional maintenance and other maintenance. i wish i'd thought of that before creating the poll options...

ed

 

[Recidiva]

you know, you guys make some very good points re: difference b/n emotional maintenance and other maintenance. i wish i'd thought of that before creating the poll options...

ed

I'm a Pisces and in one book I saw about "How to break up with a Pisces" it says something like "Imply that you don't like kittens"

So yeah, emotion is a big deal.

 

[silverwhisper]

recidiva: so you wanna blame that one on my being a guy or on my being a leo?

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

I'm a Pisces and in one book I saw about "How to break up with a Pisces" it says something like "Imply that you don't like kittens"

So yeah, emotion is a big deal.

I'm a pisces, too.

And I'd beat up anyone who didn't like kittens. *nods*

 

[Recidiva]

recidiva: so you wanna blame that one on my being a guy or on my being a leo?

ed

How Leo are you?

I don't believe in astrology, but I just happen to be the Ultimate Pisces. It suits me, so I keep bits of it, it explains my personality. But then again I'm a Pisces with a Gemini rising, which essentially means I'm deeply emotional, but I can express all that with intellectual precision. Also means with two dual signs as my sun and moon signs, I'm always reading 7 different books and schizophrenia is not an option. My several personalities would never refuse to speak to each other, that would be rude.

I've met a Leo beyond Leoness, so you might have some competition as the Leoingest person out there. But damn, he was fun. When he looked at something other than his own ego

 

[Guest]

 

[Recidiva]

I'm a pisces, too.

And I'd beat up anyone who didn't like kittens. *nods*

They'd deserve it. I just brought home a kitten that rips up my husband's legs randomly if he doesn't pet her. He said I'd cry for a week and never forgive him if he asked me to take it back. He just grumbles and shoos her away and calls her "Taz."

 

[bobsgirl]

I'm a pisces, too.

And I'd beat up anyone who didn't like kittens. *nods*

And I'd hold 'em down for you.

And I'm not even a Pisces.

 

[tbon45]

i dont ask for much just enough is all i nead

 

[bobsgirl]

I'm still pretty low maintenance in terms of what I laughingly call my beauty regimen.

But the older I get, the more I need in the way of emotional attention. MrB used to be able to get away with considerably less romance and thoughtfulness than he does now. It doesn't come naturally to him, so I think he'd say I'm becoming high maintenance. He doesn't realize how good he has it.

 

[silverwhisper]

recidiva: i dunno just how leo i am. i'm big on passion and am told by those who are knowledgeable about astrology that i'm quite typical for leos, except that i don't have the oversized ego that apparently is otherwise the norm.

ed

 

[Recidiva]

recidiva: i dunno just how leo i am. i'm big on passion and am told by those who are knowledgeable about astrology that i'm quite typical for leos, except that i don't have the oversized ego that apparently is otherwise the norm.

ed

A Leo without an oversized ego.

Well, that's like my husband. He's a Virgo and I keep telling him his mother lied about his birthdate. He's a damned Scorpio.

The woman just has secrets, I'm sure of it.

 

[phoenix1224]

I'm about as low-maintenance as they come.

 

[eudaemonia]

Tough question!

I chose the mid-maint option cuz I didn't know how else to put it. I'm no princess in terms of beauty regime -- KISS, is my motto -- but I don't scrimp on good skin care and lipstick and nail polish either.

But I'm extremely demanding in terms of love and care of my soul: you had better be faithful -- or else! (The leo side of me?) I need equal and large doses of passionate expression, public hand-holding and intellectual companionship. (Another leo side of me?) I don't care about a guy's bank account (as long as he has enough to live well), his car (as long as it's not a total beater), or even his looks (as long as he's confident and sexy and comfortable with himself). (The non-leo side of me?)

Just kiss me lots, make me laugh and admire my brain (and decolletage once in a while when we're in public), and I'll be putty in your hands.

Oh, and feeding me good chocolate will get me on my knees for you.

 

[Norajane]

I'm about as low-maintenance as they come.

So, as a low-maintenance guy, could you, or would you want to, handle have a high-maintenance woman? Or would you rather have a low-maintenance woman?

Same question in the converse, too. If you're high maintenance, do you prefer low maintenance mates? Could you handle a high maintenance lover?

 

[eudaemonia]

So, as a low-maintenance guy, could you, or would you want to, handle have a high-maintenance woman? Or would you rather have a low-maintenance woman?

Same question in the converse, too. If you're high maintenance, do you prefer low maintenance mates? Could you handle a high maintenance lover?

Excellent question!

I don't know if I could handle either an high- or low-maint guy very well. I've never found anyone who wasn't high-maint in some particular area, although I've met guys who weren't low-maint in any area, and that was problematic.

One man I was involved with was developing an OCD condition as well as being someone manic as is. Even at his most calm and centered he was very difficult to cope with. I always felt off-kilter when he was around. Needless to say, things didn't last.

But in general, I'm not sure I'd like a completely low-maint guy. Not sure why. I'll have to chew on that and get back to y'alls.

 

[Recidiva]

So, as a low-maintenance guy, could you, or would you want to, handle have a high-maintenance woman? Or would you rather have a low-maintenance woman?

Same question in the converse, too. If you're high maintenance, do you prefer low maintenance mates? Could you handle a high maintenance lover?

It's tough, but my husband is very independent. Took me a while to realize one of the best expressions of love I could give him was to leave him the hell alone, and he'll adore me more for it, spring back and be so thankful for peace. He loves long stretches of time to himself with no interruption.

Since I'm a person who loves words, I always had relationships very high on the poetry and conversations. But he considers that if you ask or talk about it all the time, you lack faith in love itself and you're questioning it. It was a hard transition for me, but ultimately so much more relaxing. He loves me and that's the end of it. He tells me so several times a day and we have an agreement that he'll let me know if that changes, I don't have to ask. (He says it won't happen in this lifetime)

So sometimes having your complete opposite can be relaxing. Other times it can make you nuts, until or unless you choose to make it work somehow and relax into personality differences and let them be what they are. I suppose he's high maintenance and low maintenance the same way I am. We have only a few requirements, but those aren't really negotiable for each other's emotional health, we learn those, and we respect each other's style and manner and admire each other. Understand each other? Probably never. Love to be together? Definitely.

 

[DLL]

Tough question!

I chose the mid-maint option cuz I didn't know how else to put it. I'm no princess in terms of beauty regime -- KISS, is my motto -- but I don't scrimp on good skin care and lipstick and nail polish either.

But I'm extremely demanding in terms of love and care of my soul: you had better be faithful -- or else! (The leo side of me?) I need equal and large doses of passionate expression, public hand-holding and intellectual companionship. (Another leo side of me?) I don't care about a guy's bank account (as long as he has enough to live well), his car (as long as it's not a total beater), or even his looks (as long as he's confident and sexy and comfortable with himself). (The non-leo side of me?)

Just kiss me lots, make me laugh and admire my brain (and decolletage once in a while when we're in public), and I'll be putty in your hands.

Oh, and feeding me good chocolate will get me on my knees for you.

this was a really nice answer...made my day...

 

[silverwhisper]

recidiva: in that case, i consider myself to be in good company, then. :>

are most leos like that, though? the arrogant thing, i mean?

ed