Maintaining Eroticism with your Partner

[sporty]

From reading the many posts here , it's obvious that there are many open minded , fun loving, sensuous people that frequent this board. Many people with wildly different relationships and moral viewpoints.

I would like to hear if there are any folks here on the board that have been completely monogomous with their spouse / lover for 10, 20, 30+ years, and have still maintained erotic passion in their relationship.......

thanks

 

[Amfig]

I would like to hear if there are any folks here on the board that have been completely monogomous with their spouse / lover for 10, 20, 30+ years, and have still maintained erotic passion in their relationship.......

thanks

Over 10 now. Every once in a while try some little thing different. Doesn't have to be much. New lingerie, new toy.

 

[dclabrecque]

Almost 31 years. My husband & I have only been with each other - virgins on our wedding night. I wish I had a magic answer to keep passion going - I'd use it. I'm definately more sexual than he - it has been the most constant problem in our marriage. I think the main answer is constantly working on it, and being able to communicate. We tend to have a great week, or so, maybe a wonderful weekend, then three or four weeks of barely adequate relations, then I blowup. At that point we have a lousy day or so, then a great day or two, followed by a pretty good week or so, then back on the down hill slide. I'd be pretty happy at this point, if we could almost always have great, sex filled weekends, with a midweek romp or two, but hubby doesn't always have the same need or feel accomidating. All in all, life is good, we get along great, and I take care of myself during the slack times.

 

[FFhotwife]

Me...

9 years married (15 together) tomorrow. It is wonderful and totally satisfying. Can't wait for the next 15 years. We met when we were 18 and 20 and have tried sooooo much (and still do). You just gotta give your love life 100% and make it wild and hot.

 

[vettemech]

I've been married for 12 years now. We met when I was 23 and she was 28. I gotta say that there were definately high and low points to our relationship, but the one thing that I've found is that the ability to talk things out is a must for a good marriage.
Around our 5th year of marriage we found ourselves in a rut, sex became predictable and we were having problems. We both felt it, but neither one of us would bring it up. One day I had enough and told her my feelings, and I found out she pretty much felt the same thing. We decided to start spicing things up. One of the the things we do is spit up the household chores, when one doesn't do them on time, they have to do what ever the other wants, another thing we do is for christmas, we write down a fantasy we would like to act out, seal it in an envelope and give it to the other as a present, and then act them out.
I find that marrriage is something you must work at, if you can't talk openly to each other you're doomed. There are high and low points, but I have to say, after 12 years, the highs out weigh the lows.

 

[FFhotwife]

Vette....

I agree 110%!!! I love your idea about the fantasy exchange. I may have to borrow that idea from ya. A relationship is definately something you always need to work at. Not a bad kind of work-an exciting kind. My husband always surprises me with new things to do, etc. It keeps that "spark" going. Isn't it great to be in love!!!!!!!. Congrats on such a great relationship-your wife is very lucky.

 

[noluck]

well 16yrs here. From time we met to time we married 6 months. I was 22 she was 17( an no we didn't have to get married lol) And I am more in love now than when we first married. Have never been with anyone else since we met an no desire for anyone else. We work at our relationship, am always looking for ways to please my Goddess an her for me. We talk, always express likes an dislikes. We try new things and with two kids 14 an 8 at times we have to make time for ourselves. Don't know any secrets to our relationship, just know it is one of the best things anyone could wish for.

 

[Sabledrake]

Been married for almost 11 years, together for 13.

The passionate side of things isn't always all we hope, but that's more due to work scheduling conflicts.

Sabledrake

 

[sporty]

thanks folks, for sharing.....just wanted to hear that there are people out there still sexually crazy for their partner after a long time. .....