Magic wand help

[Down_UnderKid]

hey all brought a magic wand and have tried it on my gf twice with less than expected results.

she likes it and it feels amazing but says it seems too powerful for her with just the normal head attachment on it, we tried the G-spot attachment and she said that felt good, but still didnt cum.

what im after is different ways that people use them and have people found them too powerful, and what have they done to overcome it.

 

[SweetErika]

Has she taken time to experiment with it on her own? If not, that'd be my first suggestion.

I don't like the Wand w/o an attachment, even for clit stimulation. The vibration is too strong and diffuse sans attachments, and it just makes me itchy. But YMMV.

You have lots of options for toning it down. She could try it over panties or other cloth (like something soft you can fold as many times as necessary to dampen the vibration). One of you could put your fingers between the toy and her vulva. They also sell variable speed controllers in hardware stores and online that you can use with the Wand, if you really can't figure out anything else.

You could also experiment with different activities. Use it w/ the g-spot attachment for periodic stimulation during doggy style or anal sex/play. See what it can do anally (just be sure to sanitize the attachment before she uses it for vulvar or vaginal stimulation; we only use the straight attachment for anal and the g-spot one for clit and vaginal for this reason). Use the Wand for g-spot stim in combination with oral sex on her. See what it can do for you, too - it's my husband's favorite toy for a variety of things.

Basically, it sounds like she needs to spend some time playing with it on her own, and you two need to experiment more as well.

 

[Down_UnderKid]

can always rely on you for good advice erika

i think letting her try it is a good option and one i think she would be open too.

she has difficulty with reaching orgasms some times so maybe i was expecting this to be "the soloution". maybe just need to experiment more

 

[SweetErika]

can always rely on you for good advice erika

i think letting her try it is a good option and one i think she would be open too.

she has difficulty with reaching orgasms some times so maybe i was expecting this to be "the soloution". maybe just need to experiment more

No, it's not "magic" in that way at all. There are many reasons why women (and men) could have trouble orgasming, and there's usually no panacea for it. I've been having trouble because I'm tired, stressed and pressed for time; no amount of stimulation is going to take care of those things.

The Hitachi gives you a lot of bang for your buck in terms of power, quality and multitasking, but it's really just like any other toy in that it requires experimentation, relaxation (and, personally, I find it more relaxing to check out a new toy by myself first, then I can tell my partner what works for me) and patience.

Once she's had time to check it out for herself, you might consider having her providing her own clit stimulation with it while you do something else (fingering, sex, kissing, etc.). Because it's powerful, it's easy for things to go awry in the hands of an inexperienced user, so you may want to save using it on her more sensitive areas for a later date, when you're both more familiar with it.