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[dorkman]

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[YourCaptor]

Check out some online shops for ideas.

Medical things are often painful.

Basically just let you creativity flow, soon enough everything will start to look like a plausible toy.

Watch for prices though, I think the sex industry lives off of impulsive buyers. You can usually find the same stuff elsewhere for far less.

 

[dorkman]

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[greeneyed_Lady]

I was looking at steekwerks site the other day... their custom chastity devices are in the $800-1,000 range... $100 is nothing compared to that!!

Sounds like you are off to a good start.

As for toys...
bamboo garden stakes used as canes (cheap and easily replaceable and if you have a garden, won't elicit any unusual comments if they are found)
large wooden spoons
ankle and wrist cuffs
collar
whips be they crops, bats, dressage whips, signal or bull whips
candles for wax play
ice
vampire gloves
Whartenberg wheel... or get a tracing wheel from a sewing store, same thing, cheaper, not as pretty, but the same thing
bungee cords
rope in various lengths and widths
safety scissors and other first aid items
dildos, plugs, vibes in various shapes and sizes
nipple clamps - chopsticks and elastic bands will work as will clothes pins
quick release clips or carabeeners
blindfold
gags.. as simple as a knotted scarf, altho I kind of like the whole idea of having my subbie use a pair of mine to masterbate with, catching all his ejaculate with the panties and stuffing them into his mouth... electrical tape is optional (just be aware of breathing ability and gag reflex)
paddle hair brushes


Many many things.

Open honest communication is very important, as is playing in a safe manner. Using a safe word, or having one for when things get too far is a good idea to start with. I played with one subbie last year that we agreed on the safe word, but he only used it once, and the time he used it I knew the second the *incident* happened that it was a bad thing and our play that time was done. Was the only time we used it. Remember.. safe words aren't just for the sub to use.

Have fun exploring!!

 

[dorkman]

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[twysted73]

Talk about jumping right in with both feet.

Congratulations to you and your young woman.
These moments are one of the things I love the most about this lifestyle.
Just to see two people open wide up and go for it with trust.

You both are inspiring and encouraging for newbies as well as veterans.
Keep it up!

*no pun intended*

 

[dorkman]

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[SirQittus]

Yea we are learning as we go and i love it, at first she wanted to switch but after i was in charge once she said she liked it but found that she liked being in charge more. Which is great by me! My point in starting this thread was to see if i could aviod common pit falls or get some ideas i never thought of. And so far it has been great! We have found this whole experiance to be very fufilling. Or if other people would want to describe some situations they enjoyed i would love to hear it.

You might want to dig up a BDSM checklist and both of you fill it out. It can focus the "explorations" along paths where you both already feel the warm fuzzies, and at the same time alert you to other possibilities that bear future experimentation.

And there's probably a group or two in your area; while I understand the non-public non-others sentiment you may find demonstrations/classes/hanging out with like-minded people to be very informative and another wellspring of ideas.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

Oh yes!! I LOVE hanging out with the local kinksters... have yet to play with any of them, or publicly for that matter... but the weekly slosh/munch is so much fun when I can get there..

 

[AAkasha]

Thank you very much I really appreciate the suggestions, I just purchased a dog lease and collar which we hope to use. And she likes the idea of using her wet panties as a gag. I like the idea of ice and wax I will definitely try that. She has expressed some interest in a strap on as a form of punishment. I was also wondering are there strap-ons a guy can where? so she can fuck me but I get no stimulation?

Yes...you can wear a harness and fuck her and get NO pleasure...what a wonderful mindfuck. I highly recommend it. Here's a male harness:
http://stockroom.com/Mens-Dildo-Harness-P321.aspx?ref=5792262

Akasha

 

[dorkman]

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[Pure]

Oh and if there is a toy to force me to stay erect that would be great.

Oh and if there is a toy to force me to stay erect that would be great.

bands, ties, etc. that keep the cock up for too long are dangerous. you could lose the ability to erect, damage your cock. you cannot block blood suppy for any organ or item without damaging it. i don't have a number for you, but even one hour might be pushing it.

 

[dorkman]

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[caela]

Just a comment on the clothespins...the plastic ones tend to have tighter springs than the wooden ones plus, if you get hot, the plastic has a penchant for sticking to your skin making them very uncomfortable when you take them off. If those still don't work for you you could always look at the toy sites/stores for actual clamps...haven't tried them personally but I'm told clover clamps hurt like a SOB coming off.

 

[dorkman]

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