Loving too much

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Can you love someone so much that you'd do anything sexually for them even if it meant something you didnt like?
 
maybe you'll just try out something of which you just THINK you wouldn't like it...
 
Can you love someone so much that you'd do anything sexually for them even if it meant something you didnt like?
Yes you can and yes I would.

It sucks love someone that much, doesn't it? :confused: I dunno different though.
 
Can you love someone so much that you'd do anything sexually for them even if it meant something you didnt like?

I would always be open-minded, but everyone has limits and they should be respected. If someone truly loves you, he or she won't make you do something they know you don't like.

Having said that, lucky you for having a partner who's adventurous.
 
Can you love someone so much that you'd do anything sexually for them even if it meant something you didnt like?

Yes, it is possible to love someone that much. But then again, if that person loved you just as much, they would never make you do what you did not like to begin with.
 
Yes, like I really want to try anal and my gf wont let me just yet...im hoping though
 
bobsgirl said:
I would always be open-minded, but everyone has limits and they should be respected. If someone truly loves you, he or she won't make you do something they know you don't like.

Having said that, lucky you for having a partner who's adventurous.
What the lovely and wise BeeGee said. :)

What sexual acts are we talking about? I'm all for being GGG with a partner, but GGG is about being open-minded, not about blindly doing whatever one's partner wants to do in the name of "loving them too much." If I were doing things I really didn't want to do just to please my husband, I'd worry that I'd start to feel resentful at some point.
 
What the lovely and wise BeeGee said. :)

What sexual acts are we talking about? I'm all for being GGG with a partner, but GGG is about being open-minded, not about blindly doing whatever one's partner wants to do in the name of "loving them too much." If I were doing things I really didn't want to do just to please my husband, I'd worry that I'd start to feel resentful at some point.

u r hawt :devil: :D

I'll just say that I did just to please, and I did --resent, that is.
 
Can you love someone so much that you'd do anything sexually for them even if it meant something you didnt like?

As with any aspect of a relationship, sexual experimentation should be about love, trust and mutual respect. If he's happy to do something that he knows you hate, just because it gets him off, then something is not right with the relationship as a whole. Same goes for if you make too many sacrifices for him than is healthy.

Unless you're a submissive masochist like me, in which case it's a whole different ball game. ;)
 
this is a great question! It makes me wonder if it is my utter self confidence in HIS devotion to me to place limits on what I'm willing to do, or if I'm just a bit bitchy. It makes me wonder if my submissive tendencies and desires are really just a control mechianism...... I will be pondering this for a bit.....
 
debbie, if you spend a little time in the BDSM subforum, you'll get some very interesting views on the subject. :>

i don't believe there's such a thing as "loving too much". i absolutely believe there's such a thing as using "loving too much" as a trump card to short circuit critical thinking and long-term vs short-term best interests.

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You can be emotionally dependent on somebody enough to go unpleasantly out of your comfort zone to please them; that's quite different to just "trying something you might not like."

That is not love, though. Love and the need to please are very separate (even in healthy BDSM, I would argue -- we all have our hard limits).
 
No. There are things I would never do. But I don't know if it's because I don't love him "too much" or if it's more a case of my submissive streak not being wide enough.
 
Can you love someone so much that you'd do anything sexually for them even if it meant something you didnt like?

Yes. Relationships should be about mutual respect and reciprocal offerings. In my relationship, I've made it plainly clear that anything I ask of her, I am willing to do/receive myself. He should not be pressuring you to do anything against your will, you should be making the decision for yourself. The same goes for him when you have wants and desires that requires a sacrifice of him.

Conversely, the answer would be resolutely NO, if the giving and sacrifice is one sided or forced against your will (barring a BDSM relationship ).
 
I can.... I've met women who swear they can too, but then it always turns out they have an exception or two...
 
Anything?

Hell no.

+1
I consider myself open minded, but there's the occasional thing or two I just can't do.
In a ‘I’d immediately start to puke’ way. Or in a ‘I won’t even do that to my worst enemy’ way.
 
I cannot do some things physically, others morally and some just because I'm not wired that way. However, I like new things in my sexual life, so I would try something that didn't initially sound like my idea of fun at least once.

It's a give, share and take. I don't like letting him cum in my mouth but will from time to time, especially if my hips are hurting too much for penetration elsewhere. He isn't too keen on anal but will indulge me when I want it. If I care enough about someone to let them into my life sexually, then I want them to be satisfied and to be satisfied myself.

Allowing someone to damage you emotionally or physically in a negative way for thier sole pleasure is not healthy in my opinion but " negative" is such a gray to black area depending on the people involved. I don't view Consentual BDSM as a negative in and of itself. It can become negative or abusive like any other relationship, but is not inherently so.
 
For me the answer is no but to accurately answer your question in a general sense, I guess the answer is yes, at least for some people anyway. I agree with some others though who in a general sense said that love is a two way street and if it isn't then you are not in a healthy relationship. This means that if you are doing something you don't really want to do just to please the other, and the other person doesn't really care about your thoughts and just wants to basically take advantage of your feelings for them, then your relationship is really lacking completeness. Of course in the BDSM community there are those who want to be owned and are willing to do whatever the other asks because if their infinite submissiveness. Then, I guess, in a sense your partner is giving you everything you really want, even if you wind up having to do something you really don't want to do. Did I make that clear? Probably not.
 
you.

Can you love someone so much that you'd do anything sexually for them even if it meant something you didnt like?

You mean like even doing other guys for him and things like that or sex acts you don't really like ??? there are def people that do things like that in the name of love, not sure it is really love.
 
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