Love Sex Cant Cum

[Armygirl]

hello literotica people
you girls and guys have helped me in the past.
i need your help agian

hears the problem

my boyfriend and i love haveing sex
i cant get enuf sex. but there is a problem
i cant cumm unless i play with my clit
even then it takes a long time.

so i was wondering if you all had any
tips or tricks you would like to share
so that i mite turn my body on.
so that i may enjoy sex to the fullest

thank you sincerly
army

 

[ericred50]

Well do you have lotes of fore play? Touching, kissing, caressing all the parts that make you tingle, from your ears to your toes. I assume that when you say cum, that you mean an orgasm. Not every woman is the same, so yu have to find what makes you horney. Some woman can cum very quickly, others do take hours. Oh what joy !! There are some that need lotes of stimulation, they need to masturbate or be played with during intercourse.
Try tapping the colit, pull back the pussy lips with one hand so that the clitoris is exposed, lightly start to tap it with you finger tips gently at first, until it gets to a point when you can not hold back, then enjoy. This does not work for everybody, but I have had ladies in estasy with it. Another way is for the guy to insert a finger on top of his cock, until he finds your G spot, which he gently rubs. Whilst he is in you do you play with your nipples, does he? That can help. Main point is plenty of fore play, to excite,and explore. Have fun.

 

[Colopat]

Amygirl,Your dear Uncle Pat suggests you try missionary position !!!I hope you know what that is my darling niece !!!PLease lay down on your back spread your legs insert boyfriend/lovers cock into your cunny !!!! Then bring your legs back together then have him rock fowrd gently now!!You will become his virgin agin and will put pressure directly to your clitoris Just be patient!!!It doesn't have to be slam bam everytime Just a tip that might help--- let me know -UnclePat
E-mail patrickhf@webtv.net

 

[bluntforcemama]

Honey, join the club. I can't cum either unless my man goes down on me, or if I stimulate myself. We've tried almost everything, but some women just aren't as lucky as others. Once, when we had like 4 hours of foreplay, I was able to cum while having intercourse, but I was really hot... never been that hot before in my life. It also depends on the experience of your partner and your own knowledge. Just know that you aren't strange in any way, it's more common than you think.

 

[Armygirl]

thank you

i will try every thing you girls and guys suggested
army

 

[Closet Desire]

Remember...

...the old joke about the old man who goes to the doctor and says "it hurts when I do this"? The doctor says, "my advice to you is DON'T do that!"

Well, if you can cum when you play with your clit then, you should play with your clit. Sex is a game for pleasure, but without a lot of rules. Do what gives you pleasure and don't feel guilty for it.

Reminds me of another joke: "I gave up bowling for sex. The balls are smaller and I don't have to change my shoes."

 

[FeatherLight]

Well, my opinion? If you're determined to go the "clit route," try positions that would rub it as you two go at it. Lots of times, it helps if you're on top, leaning over your boyfriend/lover's chest.

Or.. If you want to try something new, putting a pillow under the small of your back is fun, and it actually helped me break out of a bad situation.

Slainte!

 

[ericred50]

Id love to know how you got on Army, please fill us in

 

[long neck bottle]

"clit is my trigger".....

for a very fine question,U deserve an equally fine answer. 2 begin with,have u previously masterbated?OCCASSIONALLY,FREQUENTLY?? reason I ask is that I have a similar situation.I began masterbating at 8 years old,and did so up to many times a day.so much use of me and so many gallons of cum.As an adult I desire the ability to cum from oral sex,but none of the ladies I have been with will keep at it long enuf for me to cum.IT IS NOT FUNNY!! others have the problem of cumming too fast, after a few jerks or a few tongue flicks or sucks.How this may relate to u is that if you masterbate(d)often, that is your trigger for climax.
another possibility is that if you have not had enuf experience with intercourse,your vagina is not used to the pleasurable feelings of a penis being the sourse of pleasurable stimulation. My present lady has a similar situation,which I take care of, of course.she was with a man who totally ignored her breasts(oh my,such lovely onlg and sensitive nipples and such firm,wonderful breast muscles)and never oralized her(such a waste of her overly large lips and long,sensitive slit leading up to a wonderly sensitive and prominent clit). he further abused her by refusing to have sex with her unless he only fucked her anus. even that was brutilized,by only dabbing lube on the tip,creating a dry fuck in her poor anus.this always tore her skin, and made her bleed for days afterward.(no pity, just hatred and desire to kill him slowly and savagely on my part)
Now,I suggest that u can achieve vaginal orgasms by the following:either climax from oral or manual stimulation of your lovely clit,using LOTS OF LUBE so that your nerve endings are totally aroused,then,again using TONS of lube,slowly insert head of penis into u.leave it there for a moment, then start to withdraw.stop.again insert just the head.stop.move in 1 inch.stop.withdraw to just the head.stop.slowly insert 2 inches.stop.withdraw to head, then using a slow rythem,only fuck the 2 inches,occasionally going in further 'til total penetration, but maintaining the 2-3 inch fuck PREDOMINENTLY.when u feel u must cum, then let your man fuck you fully 'til he cums.
reason for this is that the 1st 2-3 " of your vagina possess the most nerve endings, and by using this method frequently u will be slowly teaching your vagina to welcome the fuck, remembering the cums and eventually u will develop a mental memory of the feelings so well that it will hurry along your desire to climax from penal stimulation there.
(footnote:my lady is multiorgasmic,capable of 4-5 all the way to 7 cums in a row. I treat her as tho each time is the first.starting with lots of kissing,frenching,tongue and lip sucking gets her started, then down to her eroginous zones.lots of tonguing her feet,legs,thighs,licking the joint of her legs to her mound,and only then to lightly tap and touch her lips with my tongue. manual stimulation of her inside and outside g-spots(3 in all)keep her at the top of her platau,then she draggs me away,begging me to get inside of her.she is now so sensitive inside that when I find her "pocket",an area that sucks in my penis head,she knows before I do that I am about to cum. she says my head flares out in her pocket, and that begins her inside climax. almost every time she climaxes again, sometimes playing with her clit, other times forcing herself to cum inside alone. I bought her a throbbing vibrater,not just humming one. this makes her clit explode.it was about $100 and was my,our best investment for love making)
email me back if u would like great ideas for better simulation of your inner vagina and other tips for him to make your climaxs longer and better. good luck, and enjoy each other's bodies.

 

[Armygirl]

ohh the wonderfull advice you guys have suggested stuff
i did not even think of but should of lol

i have not tryed them out yet cuse my boy is away on a trip
but when he gets back oh what fun well have

army

 

[ericred50]

Armygirl, you do not have to wait for your boyfriend, you can of course practise on your own, and enjoy self gratifacation. Tell us how it is.

 

[Blackpearlz]

I have this problem too. Some women (maybe a lot more than one might think!) have an extremely difficult time cumming without clitoral stimulation. I definitely fall into that category. I also think I'm just now realizing how much my orgasm depends on what's going on in my mind. I mean, just thinking about the right things or having a vision of something that turns me on can make me wet and ready to cum almost instantly.

Of course only you can assess your reasons. The idea about having your boyfriend move up your body slightly after he's penetrated you is a good one; it'll put pressure and warmth on your clit while your making love. And are you maybe concentrating so hard on cumming that you tend essentially stress yourself to the point where you can't/won't cum? Keep communicating with your lover about what you want, what feels good, etc. I know my "advice" is all over the place but I hope it helps in some way.

 

[AusTess]

I dont think i have ever orgasmed from penetrative sex alone.
I always need some clitoral stimulation.
Now,what works for me?
On my hands and knees,I stimulate my clit while he thrusts in from behind.
Heaven.

 

[Armygirl]

sorry that i have not repled in a wile i
cought the super flu bug it sucked
thank you all and as soon as i am
back to normal agian i will tell you if
any of your tips and tricks work for me
army

 

[ericred50]

Hope you are better soon armygirl, canoi not wait to here about your experiences.