love and reason

[GreenEyedGirl]

Le coer a ses raisons, que la raison ne connait point.

The heart has its reasons, whereof reason knows nothing.

Pascal


It always amazes me that reason seems to have no foot hold in love and affairs of the heart. Life would be infinitely easier if my head would just take a moment or two every once in awhile and have a little chat with my heart. But no, I only get the I told you so's after some painful place my heart put me in.
But then again, my heart has brought me into relationships that my head would have said not to touch with a 200 foot pole. So in the other sense my life has been more interesting for my heart's seperate reasons.

So where does this leave us as humans?
In therapy? lol
Or just in a constant flux?

 

[Dillinger]

It leaves us striving, hoping, wondering, wanting, desiring...

It leaves us human.

Love knows no reason.

Love just is.

 

[tswyk]

You take the good with the bad.

Yes, my heart has led me into trouble before - trouble that my head had to get me out of.

But...I can also remember when my head said it was the right thing to do, so I did it. And guess what? My heart finally led me out of that mess.

Actually, they make a pretty good team.

 

[red_rose]

I've had the most amazing times of my life when I let my heart lead the way.

More often than not, I struggle with my head and my heart duking it out for months on end.

But to answer your question...I think it leaves us always looking for the answers... always wanting more.

But it *does* leave a good number of us in therapy! lol

 

[Jewelz]

my heart longs for so much. a kind of aching that just wont go away. it has definately gotten me into situations that i knew better not to but as dilly says, love just is. it moves you to react when it is caressed, allows you to feel something the mind otherwise cant feel. yes, it often leaves me in a state of confusion.

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

I'm guilty..my heart seems to get me into places that my head disaggrees with. Sometimes, though, it becomes a challenge and my head (the one on top) becomes a willing partner to make it work well. Other times...well...not so good.

 

[LukkyKnight]

You must listen to your heart, for if not the voice in your head will always ask the questions you cannot answer.

 

[GreenEyedGirl]

When the head and the heart work in tandem, it is a beautiful thing. I just wish they would get their act together more often!

And yes, Love just is. But damn I wish I could understand it.
Wish it were a bit more controllable. Wish it would at least give me a say in any decisions that are made.

While I am at it, I wish for the moon and stars to top a hot fudge sundae! lol

 

[Jewelz]

You must listen to your heart, for if not the voice in your head will always ask the questions you cannot answer.

but the heart may whisper things that are not realistic??

 

[GreenEyedGirl]

You must listen to your heart, for if not the voice in your head will always ask the questions you cannot answer.

Well, the problem is that I live in my head.
Asking questions is a hobby of mine! lol

 

[Jewelz]

When the head and the heart work in tandem, it is a beautiful thing. I just wish they would get their act together more often!

And yes, Love just is. But damn I wish I could understand it.
Wish it were a bit more controllable. Wish it would at least give me a say in any decisions that are made.

While I am at it, I wish for the moon and starts to top a hot fudge sundae! lol

I can echo your every word in this post sweetheart!!!

*going to the freezer for some ice cream to soothe the heart's agony*

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

You must listen to your heart, for if not the voice in your head will always ask the questions you cannot answer.

Well, I just did it again last week...listened to my head and not my heart. What can I say? It was probably a bad thing too, but all things will be worked out in time.

 

[Ladybird]

My heart wants to let go and love...

.. but my head is afraid to let it.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Le coer a ses raisons, que la raison ne connait point.

The heart has its reasons, whereof reason knows nothing.

Pascal


It always amazes me that reason seems to have no foot hold in love and affairs of the heart. Life would be infinitely easier if my head would just take a moment or two every once in awhile and have a little chat with my heart. But no, I only get the I told you so's after some painful place my heart put me in.
But then again, my heart has brought me into relationships that my head would have said not to touch with a 200 foot pole. So in the other sense my life has been more interesting for my heart's seperate reasons.

So where does this leave us as humans?
In therapy? lol
Or just in a constant flux?

If love could be boiled down to reason or logic it wouldn't be such an enigma. If you question the motives of your heart you're sure to find flaws in it's logic. But if you're accepting of it, happiness isn't far away. Nothing can withstand the cruel light of scrutiny, there's problems in everything.

For me, it all boils down to this

Some people see things as they are and say why.
I see things that never were and say why not.
-George Bernard Shaw

 

[MissTaken]

Love, itself, is not something rational. It is a response, whether it be chemically, physically or emotionally. It is instinctual.

Our head has little to do with our "response systems." Love is an impulse as is our "fight or flight" response etc.

Your head and heart may meet at certain intersections, but will likely never unite.

You must listen to your heart, for if not the voice in your head will always ask the questions you cannot answer.

Nice thought, but it isn't easy advise to follow.

 

[GreenEyedGirl]

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is keep your mouth shut.
Sometimes the truth is not the best course of action.


For Sale:
One heart. 30 years of use, but it has a good rythmn.
I'm tired, and don't want it anymore.

 

[MissTaken]

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is keep your mouth shut.
Sometimes the truth is not the best course of action.


For Sale:
One heart. 30 years of use, but it has a good rythmn.
I'm tired, and don't want it anymore.

GEG?

You can't sell your heart, it must be given

 

[GreenEyedGirl]

GEG?

You can't sell your heart, it must be given

Ahh, but it's been given back.

"What can I give you in return for such a jewel as this? Such a precious gift of worth?"
"Nothing, unless you render it back."

 

[LukkyKnight]

My heart wants to let go and love...

.. but my head is afraid to let it.

Fear is the enemy.

Yes, "Listen to your heart," is hard advice to follow.

If you listen to your head nobody would ever have children. They make no rational sense, they deplete your resources, they take your time, they puke on your carpets and clothes, they get on your nerves... so?

If you listen to your head, why reach out to anybody at all? Is it all about "gain" and "benefit" and "risk analysis"?

I know, and accept, that once you get burned it's something you don't forget. I know it hurts. I know the pain lingers, and springs up unexpectedly later. I know if you venture nothing, you don't gain anything. I know that to live is to move and grow - to choose otherwise is to cease living, or at the very least to put it off and not get everything out of life we can. There is no getting back time.

Listen to your heart.

 

[Kitte]

Ahh, but it's been given back.

There is nothing worse then having your heart given back to you, when you don't want it...

 

[LukkyKnight]

Refusing to dare is worse. It condems you to not knowing.

 

[tswyk]

Refusing to dare is worse. It condems you to not knowing.

You CANNOT always follow your heart. Sometimes your head is right. You heart can lead you to stay where you shouldn't - because of physical or mental abuse, or other reasons.

The head can be right, LK. The heart can be wrong.

Sometimes the best you can do is to follow your head, even tho your heart is breaking. And then wait for another opportunity to come along.

Then, of course, there are those who follow their head for other reasons - because staying where they are is just the "right" thing to do. Following their heart would cause grave injury to others. These people make a choice - and then they adjust their lives around that choice.

Yes, it would be wonderful if we could all find those places where our hearts and heads are in sync. But then, look at all the poetry and music we would have missed along the way.

This is life. It is part of our journey.

 

[MissTaken]

For me, having children to raise has a lot to do with whether I can follow my heart of listen to my head.

The grey matter wins when it comes to the kidlings!

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Ah, the head or the heart? Reminds me of that satire--was it in Rabelais?--where the bowels come into the discussion and "prove" that they are the superior organ. I mean, hey, love and reason are both fine and dandy, but if your bowels lock up on you, you don't feel very loving or reasonable, do you?

Anyway, I think life exists in the tension between the different logics of the head and the heart. If it were all one or all the other, there would be no pull, no contrast, no conflict and, hence, no life.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Of course the head can be right, tswyk. Absolutely.

The grey matters where there's kidlings because in your heart they come first. There's a difference between desire and following your heart. If you know your heart you can use your head to do what's right. Either head or heart can be wrong... but damn, to ignore your heart? That's the classic way your head is wrong.