AppleBiter
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Can you have true love without true intimacy? Why or why not? I'll be in later to check your answers. 
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SweetErika
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No, I don't believe that I, personally, can have romantic love without intimacy. I just don't love someone without a certain level of trust, sharing, or closeness... they go hand-in-hand.
However, I think a distinction can be made between physical and emotional intimacy pertaining to this question. Emotional intimacy must be there in order for me to love, and while some type of physical intimacy (even of a more platonic nature) generally follows that feeling, it doesn't absolutely have to be there for love to be maintained.
However, I think a distinction can be made between physical and emotional intimacy pertaining to this question. Emotional intimacy must be there in order for me to love, and while some type of physical intimacy (even of a more platonic nature) generally follows that feeling, it doesn't absolutely have to be there for love to be maintained.
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Good point, thanks Erika. Okay, to rephrase, the intimacy of which I speak is emotional intimacy.
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Wow . . . people are voting, but no one's talking. Tell me why you think the way you do, if you would be so inclined.
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I agree with Erika. You have to have a certain level of trust to have true love. But I think the intimacy and love grow at the same time. As you start to love someone the intimacy grows. And as you continue in a relationship with someone your level of intimacy grows. At a beginning of a relationship (remember those days?? ) when love is just starting out there is not the deep intimacy there yet, the level of comfort that comes with being with same partner that is there when you have been together for years. Of course some time you can get too comfortable and have to work at all over again, but I am diversing here I think. I also think sex is much better between people who are together and have developed an emotional attachment together but I am speaking from only my own beliefs because I have been with my husband for 25 years (married for 23) and before that my previous boyfriend raped me and I don't count that as sex. I am not saying that sex can't be good or even excellent with someone you don't love, but for me I can't imagine being with someone that I don't have an emotioanl attachment to. I know this comes from my personal experiences.
) when love is just starting out there is not the deep intimacy there yet, the level of comfort that comes with being with same partner that is there when you have been together for years. Of course some time you can get too comfortable and have to work at all over again, but I am diversing here I think. I also think sex is much better between people who are together and have developed an emotional attachment together but I am speaking from only my own beliefs because I have been with my husband for 25 years (married for 23) and before that my previous boyfriend raped me and I don't count that as sex. I am not saying that sex can't be good or even excellent with someone you don't love, but for me I can't imagine being with someone that I don't have an emotioanl attachment to. I know this comes from my personal experiences.
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Being a romantic my take is this
I've had intimate relationships, one night stands and just wild lustful sex, I find that without intimacy and love for that person, something's missing, after you get yours you kind a want to go, vs if it's someone you love you just want to hold and cuddle them or as the phrase goes totally become one
at least that's how i see it
I've had intimate relationships, one night stands and just wild lustful sex, I find that without intimacy and love for that person, something's missing, after you get yours you kind a want to go, vs if it's someone you love you just want to hold and cuddle them or as the phrase goes totally become one
at least that's how i see it
silverwhisper
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i gotta confess, to me, physical intimacy is way, way secondary to emotional intimacy. so in that sense, i don't believe that the two can realistically be separated.
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