Love and Free Will

[carsonshepherd]

I thought my "falling in love" days were over, because I didn't feel it the way I used to, when I was young and impulsive. Turns out, I was just "trying to fall in love" - that is, make myself believe I was in love - with the wrong person. When the right person came along, I felt it, and I knew exactly what it was.

 

[Recidiva]

Love for me is much more of a lightning bolt.

Sure, I can go dance in the rain, but it doesn't mean it's gonna hit me.

 

[Pure]

i see what your friend means.

sartre discussed this in his famous sections on 'bad faith', in _being and somethingness_.

he said you 'fall' into bad faith--roughly, self deception-- by letting go. a bit like the ladies of yore would faint at certain sights that no longer are seen to cause fainting.

trying to fall in love may be a bit like 'trying to fall asleep, ' or 'trying to forget the obligations you know you have,' but both expressions are used and can be explained, explicated.

gauche and 3113 above, have made excellent posts. you might say, this is how one creates a platform for self delusion.

i do disagree with 3113's suggestion that these are NOT instances of *real falling in love* because they lack the permanence of emotion of elizabeth barret browning.

it's real and non-real. it's run of the mill. like most people's record as to promise keeping.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another. H.L.Mencken