Would love your insight: youth and inexperience and porn…

[StillStunned]

Back then I used to love to read dirty stories. (Somewhere here I've described my part-time job sorting books for a second-hand book shop, and the female colleague I worked with.)

Nowadays I prefer to write the stories myself.

 

[Rob_Royale]

I'm pre-internet porn old, so the answer to your question is no.
But, my first four lovers as a young man were all older married women and that is what drives my internet searches and my writing today.

 

[ChampionSkills]

46(F) here so porn in my youth consisted of sneaking into my father’s machine shop to look at the playboys the machinist hid there. Even though it was pictures of only women (a missed opportunity Hugh. You could have thrown at least one cock in there) and I LONGED to see a man, just the forbidden nature of it was enough for me. As a young adult I did enjoy online porn both alone and with my husband. Now in my late 40’s I don’t enjoy online porn much at all. It’s sterile and scripted. I do watch some armature porn if it has a genuine feel to it. Give me real and give me raw. If they aren’t enjoying it then I’m not either. I love erotic photography and enjoy taking my own as well. Self made and self enjoyed porn might sound narcissistic (yeah, okay it does) but for me it’s not about staging a moment for show but about capturing a true moment of desire. A flash of clavicle. A thigh. Flushed cheeks. Real

I agree with you. Share the links when you find porn of this caliber, please.

 

[gunhilltrain]

Here in RI there was a place "The Columbus Theater:" which showed adult films. I used to look in the newspaper movie section and just stare at the titles they were showing.

It shut down after a decades long run and was empty for some time. Someone bought it and now use it for gatherings and film festival style events. I saw some of the HPL festival films there and went to see Joe Bob talk about redneck horror. Its funny being older that I know what the place used to be, but a lot of people going there don't. I joke about hoping they burned those seats.

But the better story is the Rustic Drive In that showed adult films late at night on the weekends and if you were driving up 146 and looked over you'd see flashes of the screen between the trees, couple of times me and friends pulled over and would stand in the woods with binoculars and watch.

When you're young - or maybe this was true when I was young - the smallest or strangest thing can be arousing. Around 1968. when I was thirteen, I stumbled onto a something on ABC's Wide World of Sports. I was taken by the female figure skaters. They had amazing strong legs, cute outfits, and they would do things like skate backwards with their little skirts up and their behinds pushed out. <i>Wow, they are getting away with this?</i> I actually learned something about skating by watching them.

Kristi Yamaguchi:

https://neilleifer.com/cdn/shop/products/1017_700x.jpg?v=1658863465

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Surya Bonaly:​

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So while it wasn't "porn," I understood that it had, like many forms of dancing, a component of sexual display. Or sexuality presented in a very stylized and graceful way.

 

[lovecraft68]

When you're young - or maybe this was true when I was young - the smallest or strangest thing can be arousing. Around 1968. when I was thirteen, I stumbled onto a something on ABC's Wide World of Sports. I was taken by the female figure skaters. They had amazing strong legs, cute outfits, and they would do things like skate backwards with their little skirts up and their behinds pushed out. <i>Wow, they are getting away with this?</i> I actually learned something about skating by watching them.

Kristi Yamaguchi:

https://neilleifer.com/cdn/shop/products/1017_700x.jpg?v=1658863465

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Surya Bonaly:​

https://hips.hearstapps.com/ghk.h-c...92.jpg?crop=1.0xw:1xh;center,top&resize=980:*


So while it wasn't "porn," I understood that it had, like many forms of dancing, a component of sexual display. Or sexuality presented in a very stylized and graceful way.

I was born in 68 thanks for the opportunity to feel young.

There's an old joke, that's not a joke, that the Sears catalog was quite inspiring with the bra and underwear ads.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Back in the mid 90s, porn didn't really do it for me. Page 3 in certain newspapers had topless 18yos looking brainless. I liked real naked women much more, and as a student was able to eye up plenty of them - even if getting my hands on other girls was tricky. Finding a boy to shag was way easier - and certainly easier than finding male-object porn!

There were certain shops in Soho which sold more 'arty' magazines, including Janus (spanking porn) and Februs (ditto, aimed more at women readers). Videos were way out of my price range but I had a couple hot dates where we window-shopped the video boxes and even paid a couple pounds to watch 10 or 20 minutes of a video. A magazine was £10 - there was a great mag in the late 90s called Quim, with women-oriented porn, but it didn't earn enough to stay in business. I have their redhead men issue.

The husband had some porn videos, mostly inherited from a flatmate who skipped out, but even the ones where I liked the content and found the people pretty, just don't really turn me on. I really don't like close-ups of genitals or jizz.

Now at least you can filter for various kinks and mostly avoid things you don't want to see, so I watch the odd free video, but prefer reading my porn. I actually watch more porn for the purposes of writing it - can you reach a woman's breasts in X position? What can you see of a guy's balls when he bends over like Y? Etc.

 

[gunhilltrain]

I was born in 68 thanks for the opportunity to feel young.

There's an old joke, that's not a joke, that the Sears catalog was quite inspiring with the bra and underwear ads.

I didn't read that, but there were provocative fashion ads in the Daily News. There were also movie and theater ads that worked for me. Gwen Verdon was in the play, and soon after Shirley MacLaine was in the movie version.

https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/91ijYgpPslL._AC_SY741_.jpg

 

[lovecraft68]

I'll own it, this did something for me. These characters are also sisters.



A little comic history. Bondage covers were the rage in the 40's and fifties, especially in the True Crime genre and horror. Those weren't mainstream back then, but Wonder Woman was. Now back then there weren't many women writing or drawing comics so men did and many were ticked off they were stuck on a 'girl comic" which is why there are so many comics of WW not just in bondage, but many times straddling something phallic like a rocket for example.

There were also a lot of exploitation comics like Reform School Girls and others that were all targets of the Seduction of the innocent 'comics bad' era thanks to some d-bag named Wertham

Of course now comics have nude variant covers and extremely sexualized characters like Lady Death, Dejah Thoris from John Carter, Red Sonja, Vampirella and the Grimm's Fairy Tales covers. Back in the Golden age these things were titillating to teen boys who were 95% of the market. Today they're for 40 year old incels who masturbate to comic book characters.

 

[Levorotatory]

A few themes that I’m picking up:

• seems like early use of porn was occasional and prompted by curiosity rather than a strong sexual drive - isn’t ‘horniness’ a legitimate word yet? - to be exposed to it
• Simpler and more vanilla tastes develop into more complex and fetishistic ones, which is a natural dynamic as the novelty wears off but also, interestingly, because porn doesn’t often provide content for our sweeter desires

I would agree, but early use of porn happened long before 19 - 20 for many (most?) of us. I find the origin of sexual desire and kink to be a fascinating topic, but actually discussing in detail it is one of the biggest taboos. Not just on this site, but also places that were / are far more permissive of fictional content with young characters would quickly scrub any post claiming to describe real life events that occurred before the magic age of 18.

• And there’s an interest in authenticity that seems to develop in men over time but is pretty much present for women right away (generalizing of course): studies show that women search for lesbian, threesome, and amateur porn the most because there’s a higher chance of authenticity in those types of porn.
• Today’s porn scene is far more broad and interactive than it ever was and so the possibilities of porn having a positive impact are much higher, as KittyOfSteele and PurpleNekoKitten’s truly excellent (and generous) responses suggest.

Is today's porn scene really more broad? I see mostly loss since the 2000s. Usenet faded into obscurity. Tumblr was bullied into changing their TOS to exclude porn. Pornhub purged much of their more authentic content after the whole revenge porn controversy. Literotica has now prohibited images with nudity, and the bullies recently came for video gaming platforms.

I was born in 68 thanks for the opportunity to feel young.

There's an old joke, that's not a joke, that the Sears catalog was quite inspiring with the bra and underwear ads.

I'm a few years younger but still old enough that there was a decade or so gap between my origin of sexual desire and widespread availability of internet access. I was a bit puzzled by underwear ads of the time, as they seemed to be mostly bras for women who didn't really need bras. The only "inspiration" came from the rare instance where a particular style didn't come in a 32 A and they had to find a model that actually needed some support.