Love.... a definition, a question

[Guest]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.

Corinthians 13:4-8

Do you have this "love"? Do you still seek it, even if you do have "it" ? Where do you look? At Lit can it be truly found?

What does it feel like?

Somebody please tell me. I'm in a bad mood, and could use "it". I feel empty, I feel alone.

I'll check back in a few hours, and I fully expect this to be buried under mountains of drivel, with a scant few responses, like all my threads.

I love someone. I love someone here, possibly, too, and think I care for many here. Possibly not. I don't know much anymore.



I may not even be conscious right now........wait, that's my computer.....

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I have it and I seek nothing more... I hope to spend the rest of my life with this wonderful person...

But I know that true love cannot be found when it is sought after.

 

[weathered2]

Even though s/o and I both play on Lit and both enjoy sexy flirtatious talk in good fun, we are truly soulmates and to a large extent the relationship embodies what you describe... except maybe for the not remembering faults part; I do get reminded of the score now and then.

 

[april-wine]

I just happened to stumble upon it, I wasn't really looking, and amazingly there it was....

It's tough to know what's real sometimes, but when you find that true love you know, deep down to your soul....It's the most wonderful, most soul wrenching thing....There are days when you could fly with eagles, and sometimes there are days that are incredibly hard....Each day, whether happy or sad, leaves an imprint....Cherish every second....I do.....

 

[MissTaken]

Nope!

I haven't found it.

I am not really looking either.



I hope you feel better soon, storm.

Find love, grasp it, embrace it and don't let it go.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.

Corinthians 13:4-8

Do you have this "love"? Do you still seek it, even if you do have "it" ? Where do you look? At Lit can it be truly found?

What does it feel like?

Somebody please tell me. I'm in a bad mood, and could use "it". I feel empty, I feel alone.

I'll check back in a few hours, and I fully expect this to be buried under mountains of drivel, with a scant few responses, like all my threads.

I love someone. I love someone here, possibly, too, and think I care for many here. Possibly not. I don't know much anymore.



I may not even be conscious right now........wait, that's my computer.....

I have this kind of love... You can't look for it anywhere. It just happens. I found this incredible friend in a roleplay area a year ago this week and we were just friends. Nothing more. Very recently though we found that we had fallen in love. Neither of us were expecting it, it just happened.
For me it wasn't supposed to happen. I was there to play. I wasn't there to have emotions, heaven forbid love anyone.

I think that this kind of love can be found at place like Lit, but it is really hard to learn about the person on the other side of the telephone/cable line.

When you find this kind of love you will know it. You will definitely know it. You find that you just can't live without hearing from this person or if they are in your life now.. seeing them...

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I, too, have found the love described.

I was NOT looking for it, as I agree it can only be "found" when you least expect it.

I found my love here at LIT. It feels wonderful most of the time. The most wonderful feeling I have ever experienced. There are the times though that it doesn't feel quite as good. These are the hours or days that you feel your heart is "missing"; there's en emptiness inside that only that special person can fill. But the time does move on, and as soon as he's back in your life, you forget all the pain and lonliness as if they were just bad dreams.

Hope things are better for you soon, Storm.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.

Corinthians 13:4-8

Do you have this "love"? Do you still seek it, even if you do have "it" ? Where do you look? At Lit can it be truly found?

What does it feel like?

Somebody please tell me. I'm in a bad mood, and could use "it". I feel empty, I feel alone.

I'll check back in a few hours, and I fully expect this to be buried under mountains of drivel, with a scant few responses, like all my threads.


I love someone. I love someone here, possibly, too, and think I care for many here. Possibly not. I don't know much anymore.



I may not even be conscious right now........wait, that's my computer.....

Awe..My Pool Boy...I feel your pain. I know it all too well. First off...I believe you can never love or care for too many. The heart may be the weakest muscle..but the largest.

I don't have this love you speak of. But it is no big secret I long for it. And I believe, because I have to...that it will find me some day.

I look forward to a love that can hold the silences, embrace the differences that we each have...its longing I am willing to wait for.

Blessings to you my friend,

 

[GreenEyedGirl]

Love, what a four lettered word that is! We need it, we seek it, and we never believe in it until it hits us right between the eyes like a floated sting by Ali.
Love means you get angry, because you care so damned much.
Love means you feel pain, because you care too much.
Love means that you would move physical, psychological, or figurative mountains for another just to see them smile in thanks.
"Love, all you need is love! Love! Love is all you need."
It is the holy grail, and yet we find it daily.
I hope you find it again today, storm.

 

[Laurel]

Do you have this "love"? Do you still seek it, even if you do have "it" ? Where do you look? At Lit can it be truly found?

It can be found anywhere - here, at the supermarket, at work... It's all about finding the right person. The more places you look, the better chance you have of finding him/her.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

There is someone special for everyone, often there are two or three or even four. They come from different generations. They travel across oceans of time and the depths of heavenly dimensions to be with you again. They come from the other side, from heaven. they look different, but your heart knows them. Your heart has held them in the arms like yours in the moon-filled deserts of Egypt and the ancient plains of Mongolia. You have ridden together in the armies of forgotten warrior-generals, and you have lived together in the sand-covered caves of the Ancient Ones. You are bonded together throughout eternity, and you will never be alone.

Your head may interfere: “I do not know you.” Your heart knows.

He takes your hand for the first time, and the memory of his touch transcends time and sends a jolt through every atom of your being. She looks into your eyes, and you see a soul companion across centuries. Your stomach turns upside down. Your arms are gooseflesh. Everything outside this moment loses its importance.

He may not recognize you, even though you have finally met again, even though you know him. You can feel the bond. You can see the potential, the future. But he does not. His fears, his intellect, his problems keep a veil over his heart’s eyes. He does not let you help him sweep the veil aside. You mourn and grieve, and he moves on. Destiny can be so delicate.

When both recognize each other, no volcano could erupt with more passion. the energy released is tremendous.

Soul recognition may be immediate . A sudden feeling of familiarity, of knowing this person at depths far beyond what the conscious mind could know. At depths usually reserved for the most intimate family members. Or even deeper than that. Intuitively knowing what to say, how they will react. A feeling of safety and a trust far greater than could be earned in only one day or one week or one month.

Soul recognition may be subtle and slow. A dawning of awareness as the veil is gently lifted. Not everyone is ready to see right away. There is a timing at work, and patience may be necessary for the one who sees first.

You may be awakened to the presence of your soul companion by a look, a dream, a memory, a feeling. You may be awakened by the touch of his hands or the kiss of her lips, and your soul is jolted back to life.

The touch that awakens may be that if your child, of a parent, of a sibling, or of a true friend. Or it may be you beloved, reaching across the centuries, to kiss you once again and to remind you that you are together always, to the end of time.

-B.W.

 

[shyybabe]

Yes, sometimes love hurts.

"The greatest pain that comes from love,

Is loving someone you can never have" - Anonymous

 

[Guest]

Buried

Yep, the thread gets buried behind some very "insightful" other threads.

Those of you that replied, thank you for your insight and honesty.

Any other opinions out there?

Bueller?


Dilly - what's your 2 cents?

 

[kotori]

here's my sappy metaphor of the day

Love is like a fire. There's a friction, and then a spark. Where do they come from? What difference does it make?

If conditions are right (time, place, fuel, oxygen), the tinder will ignite. But it's best to feed the fire slowly. Through a cup of gasoline on, sure there will be a big flare, but it's over in a moment.

The fire needs to be nurtured. It can last for years, if properly tended to, banked every night, stoked when necessary. And the flame can spred as well.

Sure, you can get burnt. That's the risk for keeping warm.

 

[Black_Bird]

I once thought I found this kind of love; I now know better, though. I do want true love, above all else... I have been more then patient and more then deserving, but still it does not show itself. There are many that I care for deeply, though, and I wouldn't trade that for anything.

I think that true love is only possible if you allow it and you let it seek you first. Chasing after it will only make it harder to catch. Keep your eyes open, keep your heart open, and live your life without expectation. That's what I'm doing, it hasn't worked for me yet, but then again, I haven't been waiting for very long.

Be patient. I hope you feel better.

 

[Dhalgren]

Absolutely wonderful post MorgaineLaFay...

I met the only man I've ever been with my entire adult life...while only two months out of high school..

I certainly wasn't looking..I hadn't really considered finding love yet.

From the very first moment I met him, I knew there was this bond between us shaped like a coil which connects us.

It's always present..
Very tanglible.

We'll have been together 17 years, next August.



It just happens..just like every one else has stated.
You can't control it.
But you'll know when it happens.



And BB...even the "false starts" are worth the experience, yes?

 

[Guest]

Now we're getting somewhere

Absolutely wonderful post MorgaineLaFay...

And BB...even the "false starts" are worth the experience, yes?

Yes, and Yes.....

Morgy, you warm my heart

Thank you

And BB, the experience IS worth. The means are an end in itself.........

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Dhalgren thank you so much for the compliment...

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Quoting myself!

I, too, have found the love described.
I was NOT looking for it, as I agree it can only be "found" when you least expect it.
I found my love here at LIT. It feels wonderful most of the time. The most wonderful feeling I have ever experienced. There are the times though that it doesn't feel quite as good. These are the hours or days that you feel your heart is "missing"; there's en emptiness inside that only that special person can fill. But the time does move on, and as soon as he's back in your life, you forget all the pain and lonliness as if they were just bad dreams.

Hope things are better for you soon, Storm.

There are the times though that it doesn't feel quite as good. These are the hours or days that you feel your heart is "missing"; there's an emptiness inside that only that special person can fill. But the time does move on, and as soon as he's back in your life, you forget all the pain and lonliness as if they were just bad dreams.

Haven't found my heart all day. Hope it's just "missing" for a while since the emptiness hurts so much.

 

[Dillinger]

Re: Buried

Yep, the thread gets buried behind some very "insightful" other threads.

Those of you that replied, thank you for your insight and honesty.

Any other opinions out there?

Bueller?


Dilly - what's your 2 cents?

*smile* Thanks - its nice for you to ask me my opinion. But you keep confusing me with Matthew Broderick for some reason?

I have more things to say on this subject than Laurel and Manu have gigabytes of storage to handle it. I posted quite extensively on various aspects and degrees of love, Love, and Love.... and did so most recently on this thead - http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=69071&highlight=friend in both my opening posts and follow ups. Perhaps its unfair to ask you to go and read it - but its all in there... feel free to add to that thread, bump it- or cut and past from it into this one and I'd be happy to eloborate on any of the points I'd made and add my 2 cents to the discussion.

 

[Guest]

Thanks, Dilly

I shall refrain from the Matther B confusion

And, I'll go check the thread as well.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Have I found love?

I already had love inside of me, I finally decided to let it shine out. Next thing I know...

Love knocked me off my feet, and then picked me up again. And because of that, my life has forever changed.

As has been so eloquently stated in previous posts, I hope to be with this person for the rest of my life. And yes, I know it will not be easy! Love may change you , but the world stays the same!

Ebony <doing the dance of joy>

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Do you have this "love"? Do you still seek it, even if you do have "it" ? Where do you look? At Lit can it be truly found?

What does it feel like?



I have a very special kind of love. I don't seek love else where, I have have my "love" , the one I truly want and care for @ this moment.

I was not looking rather he found me, I used to not think much about love because I honestly did not believe in such a thing but then he came into my life and made me realize there is love out there and he showed me and is still showing me all it has to offer.

It simply feels wonderful knowing someone loves you in that special way. It makes me smile when I am a little blue.


I guess one could find love @ Lit , many Lit people have found love and found one another here. Would not know about that one ...

 

[Hamletmaschine]

"Love Is The Drug"
(Ferry/Mackay)

T´ain´t no big thing
To wait for the bell to ring
T´ain´t no big thing
The toll of the bell
Aggravated - spare for days
I troll downtown the red light place
Jump up bubble up - what´s in store
Love is the drug and I need to score
Showing out, showing out, hit and run
Boy meets girl where the beat goes on
Stitched up tight, can´t shake free
Love is the drug, got a hook on me
Oh oh catch that buzz
Love is the drug I´m thinking of
Oh oh can´t you see
Love is the drug for me
Late that night I park my car
Stake my place in the singles bar
Face to face, toe to toe
Heart to heart as we hit the floor
Lumber up, limbo down
The locked embrace, the stumble round
I say go, she say yes
Dim the lights, you can guess the rest
Oh oh catch that buzz
Love is the drug I´m thinking of
Oh oh can´t you see
Love is the drug, got a hook in me
Oh oh catch that buzz
Love is the drug I´m thinking of
Oh oh can´t you see
Love is the drug for me

 

[ksmybuttons]

My loves have a commonality...

Many types of Love. All my loves have the commonality of friendship.

I love those people I call friends: I love my son. I love my husband. I have an active group of people I interact with, and an inactive group with whom I no longer choose to spend time. I do not do obligatory love well. I loved my mother, I did not love my father. I love my brother, I do not love my sister.

I do not have to agree or like all the many layers of these people, and I do have expectations of them, just as I have of my self. We have to have a similar beliefs and values. Kindness, mutual respect, a certain type of intellectual union.

There is also a need for something shared, a place we concretely connect.

My husband and I play music together. We share that language. When we make really good music together, we are communicating in a very special place. We share a child. He is my lover and my best friend. We work well together. These are the things that keep us together. If at some point we no longer connected in these more concrete ways, I don't think we would stay together. Those are the things that keep us tied and tight. It feels good to have that.

I have had other lovers, whom I loved and were my friends, but we did not have a strong concrete connection. Being lovers, wasn't enough when we didn't have interests that continued to be syncronized. We stopped spending time with each other. The drift happened. I don't keep in contact with them. We are no longer together as we were no longer connecting. When I do see them, we enjoy catching up and are friendly, but I no longer have them in my active life.

We drift and that is okay. Old friends and old lovers will always be a part of me.