Losing Virginity to someone who is not your S.O

[Phil333]

Ok. My ex-gf and I fool around sometimes. We are still close friends, but it did not work with us going out (we went out for over six months). We both have not lost our virginity, though we did basically everything other then that. She has expressed to me that I am the only person she would want to share that with. This weekend we will be seeing each other so I have started to think about it. When we were going out, I was sure that she was the person who I would lose it to.

What are your experiences with losing your virginity to someone you are not currently going out with? Thanks a ton guys

-Phil

 

[Guest]

 

[Nicki19]

I was in a similar situation when I was younger. A guy and I had tried dating and it didn't work out, but we became the best of friends. A while after breaking up I decided I wanted to lose my virginity to him. I trusted him, we were experienced together, and while we had been dating I had thought I would lose it to him. (He was not a virgin at the time.)

I do not regret my decision. It was wonderful, and we continued sleeping together for a while. It was sensual, caring, trusting... Compared to other firsts that I have heard about, I consider myself lucky. However, it has made some situations rather uncomfortable, when a new man finds out that not only have I slept with my best friend, that I actually lost my virginity to him.

Of course, all of this should only be considered after you have decided you are ready to give up your virginity.

I don't know if this helps you at all, but I wish you luck in whatever you decide.

 

[Phil333]

Hanns, because you are such a jerk and everyone knows it, I won't dignify your comment with a response. please do not reply here again. there are some people in college who are virgins.

thank you nicki for your response.

 

[Shiner]

My first time was crap but at least it took the pressure off of me to lose my virginity, the second time however was toe curlingly good

 

[penguindance]

 

[kotori]

She has expressed to me that I am the only person she would want to share that with.

Sharing is nice.

I say go for it. You'll be comfortable with each other in a way that you might not be with your current SOs, it's not like you haven't done stuff before, you still care enough about each other to have some sort of relationship where you can actually discuss this beforehand. You'll have fond memories, since you've already been through whatever breakup there was. She wants you, boy. Don't disappoint the lady.

 

[penguindance]

 

[Guest]

 

[Phil333]

oh Hanns ... good old Hanns ... Anyone else?

 

[p_p_man]

It's not something you think about...

just go out there and fuck. Anyone. Anytime. Anywhere.

You'll enjoy it, I promise and we'll be spared more of this angst...

ppman

 

[Phil333]

Re: It's not something you think about...

just go out there and fuck. Anyone. Anytime. Anywhere.

You'll enjoy it, I promise and we'll be spared more of this angst...

ppman

Well I don't know if that necessarily true. First, there is getting attatched and second like Nicki says, it could be a little weird with future gf's.

 

[Phil333]

just trying to get some more opinions.

 

[I'mVan]

Dude, as long as you don't actually have an SO, losing it to someone who is not your SO is no bad thing. Especially in this situation. Word of warning though, especially if it's your first, it's easy to get attached, and if things don't work between the two of you that could get awkward. If you're both OK with that knowledge though, all I see is potential pleasure.

 

[Phil333]

anyone else? she will be here soon.

 

[Olivianna]

It seems, Phil, that only you will know what to do in this situation. We all approach the issue of sex differently, so our experiences will only help you to a certain extent. Some people consider "the 1st time" to be something that should be sacred, others not so much. It seems that once your friend gets to town, you'll have a chance to talk things through and then make a more informed decision.

Having said that, I will say that my first time was not with an SO, and the matter of the BIG FIRST TIME, also wasn't of great importance to me. So, you see, you'll find what's important to you and go with it. Have fun.