Loosing-you-virginity-question

[SnoopDog]

Ok, given the fact that a person is very desperate about his sexual position which is being a virgin in his early twenties with no experiences at all, not even kissing or holding hands.

Would you say it is a rather bad plan to lose your virginity with a prostitue? Would you say it could be a good way to end the despair?

Discuss some ad- and disadvantages please.

I'd like to know your views about the topic.

Snoopy

 

[Colleen Thomas]

Snoop, I suspect you will remember loosing you virginity for the rest of your life. I'mnot a guy, but I know I will, I assume it's at least similar. That being the case, do you really want to remember it as something chaep? A transaction rather than an experience?

If being a virgin is really bothering you, then find a willing girl. I know in my younger years I had a lot of friends who would have loved to be having sex, but because they weren't the prom queen, they rarely got asked out.

It's up to you hun, but I really think a pro is the wrong way to go.

-Colly

 

[Guest]

No, Snoops, don't do it. For your first time you need a "real" woman, someone who will take your feelings into consideration.

Hold out, don't get "desperate". You'd be surprised how many women would love to have sex with a virgin. I did once, and he was 35. Seriously! And, he was telling the truth. I could tell. Was a lot of fun.

Just try not to be so fixated on it. Chill, relax, be yourself and let things take their natural course.

Of course, you can completely disregard what I said, but I've got your long term best interests at heart.

Lou

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

Ok, given the fact that a person is very desperate about his sexual position which is being a virgin in his early twenties with no experiences at all, not even kissing or holding hands.

Would you say it is a rather bad plan to lose your virginity with a prostitue? Would you say it could be a good way to end the despair?

Discuss some ad- and disadvantages please.

I'd like to know your views about the topic.

Snoopy

I would say it's not only a rather bad plan, but a plan so stupid it'll haunt you for the rest of your life. Wait for it so that all of your firsts can be memorable and most importantly capitalism free. Some memories just shouldn't be tied to monetary transactions.

 

[Guest]

 

[GingerV]

I'm worried that if you hire someone for your first time, it won't kill the desperation. It will solidify it. If you convince yourself that you won't ever lose it any other way, you'll always remember that you "had to pay" for your first, and I can't believe that's ever really true of anyone. Still, it doesn't have to be true to be haunting.

You never do forget your first time, but it doesn't change who you are. If you haven't lost your virginity to just anyone by now, it only means you have some standards (even if they're in conflict with your urges). Don't give them up. Wait, you'll find the right person, and the event will be about more than just the sex.

My 2cents,

G

 

[BlackSnake]

Ok, given the fact that a person is very desperate about his sexual position which is being a virgin in his early twenties with no experiences at all, not even kissing or holding hands.

Would you say it is a rather bad plan to lose your virginity with a prostitue? Would you say it could be a good way to end the despair?

Discuss some ad- and disadvantages please.

I'd like to know your views about the topic.

Snoopy

Ok, if you don't die from aids then it could be the best route to take.

1. You don't have to worry about your skills. Just tell her your situation and she'll take care of you.

2. You can ask her questions and you can believe that she will have experience.

3. She'll never be your girlfriend, so it'll be ok if you blow your load before you make good penetration.

That's my take on it.

 

[MLyons]

I like Ginger's answer.

I didn't so much as kiss a girl for the first time until I was 26 years old, so don't feel you're the only one to feel what you're feeling.

I considered lots of things before I finally lost my virginity. I considered paying for expensive dating services in order to meet people... I considered paying for a prosititute, but I knew what I wanted wasn't sex so much as... someone to love.

As Ginger so succinctly said:


You never do forget your first time, but it doesn't change who you are. If you haven't lost your virginity to just anyone by now, it only means you have some standards (even if they're in conflict with your urges). Don't give them up. Wait, you'll find the right person, and the event will be about more than just the sex.

That is right on--at least it was in my case. I never did give up on my belief that someone was out there... and they'd come along sooner or later, and I couldn't bring myself to take what I could get. I waited... and got what I wanted instead. I wouldn't trade my first time for anything.

Like G said, it's not going to change who you are, and if you decide to just get it over with it's not likely to change your life for better or worse, but I would also encourage you to keep your standards... to keep plugging along. There are few things more exciting than discovering love for the first time, and all the physical and emotional highs that go with it. The wait is worth it. Take it from one who knows.

Ultimately, of course, though... you do what you do. No one can make this decision except you.

 

[fogbank]

If the fellow in question is desperate about his sexual situation, consider this: is the desperation really about the fact that he has never had sex, or about the fact that he is not having sex? What I'm getting at is that if you have sex once, regardless of whether it's with a prostitute or with a nice girl from work, if it only happens once you're still going to get frustrated. Hiring a prostitute won't solve all your problems, unless you're wealthy enough to make a habit of hiring them on a weekly basis. And even then, you'd likely lament that the only sex you've had has been paid for.

 

[English Lady]

Snoop..I'm right there with the folks saying it's a bad idea. It'll only make you feel much worse in the long run. You will find the right girl, you'll have a first time to remember for good reasons. You've held out so far don't give it up cheaply. It will only hurt you.


*hugs*

 

[Virtual_Burlesque]

... a person is very desperate about his sexual position which is being a virgin in his early twenties...I'd like to know your views about the topic...

Snoop

Perhaps I am all wet, but as a friend, I should like to ask if you have seen Shallow Hal?

Loosing your virginity with a paid professional will only tighten your desperation.

Rather, you might check your coupled friends’ partners against those whom you admire. Is it possible that — egged on by media representations — your standards are too high?

Without suggesting you date the neighborhood slut because she’s a sure thing, loosing unrealistically high standards may heighten your chances of losing your virginity.

 

[CrazyyAngel]

Ok, given the fact that a person is very desperate about his sexual position which is being a virgin in his early twenties with no experiences at all, not even kissing or holding hands.

Well ... I'd say being a virgin isn't really your problem, so I am with the others here. Don't do as it won't solve your problem.

CA

 

[ABSTRUSE]

NO!....bad dog, stay away from those bitches.

Be patient my little one, the time will come and you'll be glad you waited.

 

[upfront]

For what it's worth ...

When I was 23 I was a virgin and went on a lads' trip to Amsterdam - some of the others were pressuring me to have sex with a prostitute, although only a couple of them knew I was a virgin. I resisted - actually that makes it sound like an achievement, but I never had any intention of having sex with someone I didn't know - for all the reasons people have already listed. It would have been damaging for my self-esteem, not liberating. And what would it have been worth? No, I just had a good wank before I went to bed, and the result was probably better.

I lost my virginity later that year, to the woman who is now my wife. But whether or not marrying the first person you sleep with is a good idea ... well there's a whole other topic!

 

[fogbank]

Rather, you might check your coupled friends’ partners against those whom you admire. Is it possible that — egged on by media representations — your standards are too high?

Without suggesting you date the neighborhood slut because she’s a sure thing, loosing unrealistically high standards may heighten your chances of losing your virginity.

Given that Snoop posted in another thread about his preference for geeky, bespectacled girls of the non-supermodel variety (I'm pretty sure that was him), I'd say that's probably not his problem.

The girls I've known who fit that description generally aren't likely to make the first move and tend to hide their own emotions, and can often be kinda awkward about sex as well. There's nothing more painful than two mutually attracted geeks trying to flirt--I know that from experience.

 

[she_is_my_addiction]

Bad. Bad. Bad. Bad. Very bad idea. No. N-O. Stay away.

 

[gauchecritic]

The other side of the coin Snoop, which few seem to be willing to admit is that it can have good effects.

1. you will no longer be a virgin, concommitant with

2. you will be experienced, if only relatively.

3. you'll find that all the fuss was for nothing.

4. you will gain a modicum of confidence.

Downsides to waiting for the right girl.

1. she isn't the right girl.

2. she is the right girl but treats you like shit.

3. she has a power over you in the bedroom (which she may or may not utilise)

4. you'll find that all the fuss was for nothing



With a prostitute you will strive to impress, but it matters not if you don't. You will have a better chance of oral, anal, doggy, 69, dressing as a baby on the first night.


This, however, is not an arguement for one over the other, merely the other side of the coin.

Gauche

 

[oggbashan]

How does a virgin find the right professional lady?

In the good old days, Dad would recommend a suitable professional.

Now, professional professionals and amateur professionals are equally dangerous to your wallet, your self-esteem and most of all your health. The 'amateurs' are worst because they don't know the risks nor take enough precautions. A sexually transmitted disease is a likely outcome. AIDS might be on offer as a free part of the deal.

You are more likely to lose your 'virgin' tag harmlessly if you go to places and events where you are likely to make normal social contacts with women, such as a club, an evening class, etc. Offering to wash up usually lands you with at least one woman.

Og (pontificating)

 

[Virtual_Burlesque]

Given that Snoop posted in another thread about his preference for geeky, bespectacled girls of the non-supermodel variety... I'd say that's probably not his problem...

I missed that post, but I'll stand by my advice.

For an example: Drew Barrymore, Janeane Garofalo, and Sandra Bullock often play (Hollywood style) geek girls with glasses.

It’s not the words, it is what Snoop means by them.



On the other hand, the answer to Snoop’s question depends upon what is making him so “desperate.”

If it is merely intellectual curiosity, a prostitute may be the remedy. There are several places in Europe where legalized prostitution intersect with medical supervision to make it not such a dangerous project.

Alternately, if Snoop’s goal is to gain savoir faire, purchasing the experience will do nothing for his self confidence. Quite possibly in fact, just the opposite.



Editted to Add:

If you opt for a hooker, Snoop, be careful how you word your request.

http://www.allposters.com/IMAGES/MMPH/29100.jpg

 

[TheEarl]

I have been there and od feel your pain. Don't do it though. She'd treat you like shit and, although you might enjoy yourself briefly, it'd be a purely physical thing. Not what you want your first time to be.

The Earl

 

[rgraham666]

Not a good idea snoop.

Are you going to have sex because you want to have sex or because you're supposed to have sex.

I got married because I thought at thirty I was supposed to be married.

It was one of the dumbest things I ever did.

Wait until you find someone you want to have sex with.

 

[Couture]

What you need is for someone to take the edge off of your virginity. Maybe you could hire a prostitute to wear a pair of reading glasses and give you a blowjob. But, before you cum, pull out and jack off on her face.

This way your virginity is intact, yet you will be left with the confidence to pursue the girl of your dreams.

 

[nushu2]

Masturbation is cheaper, safer and more satisfying than a standard street walker. Either way, there's no intimacy. There's lots of virgins in their 20's. Nothing to be ashamed about. Take pride in the fact that you have waited for intimacy. The first time is usually awkward enough with someone who cares.

 

[Vincent E]

Okay, Snoop. I am going to address this issue seriously with you.

What is the big fucking deal if you haven't dipped your wick?

What do people who have had sex have over people who have not had sex? Probably only a few extra headaches and a few extra regrets if all they cared about was getting laid for thesake of getting laid.

If you are really bothered about your "status" as a virgin then you are focussing on the wrong things, my man.

Take a look at some of the people out there who are having sex. Take a long hard look at some of the losers who are able to get laid. It should make you think, "Gee, if a dickwad like him can get laid, then what is the big deal?"

Better yet, watch one of the Maury povich "baby-daddy" episodes. All those people have been having sex all along. Each one of the big, fat, obnoxious, ignorant, ugly, overweight, undereducated, inarticulate, buffons willing to humiliate himself by going on national television to take a paternity test to determine who fathered so and so's six children has had sex.

Then ask yourself if you are only trying to reach an end.

If you are looking to expres your feelings to one particular woman with whom you are in love, then you may have a difficult time trying to broach the subject. If it is a lack of intimacy within a relationship that you are sharing, then maybe you have cause for concern.

However, if all you are trying to do is get a wad shot; if all you are trying to do is just simply be able to say, "Been there, done that," then you are putting priorities on the wrong things.

Sex with anyone isn't going to make you healthier or happier if you are not already taking care of yourself and if you don't already like yourself.

 

[Boxlicker101]

A prostitute is better than nothing. It is a bit disappointing and anticlimatic but better than nothing.

Personally, I lost my cherry when I was 18. I was in the Air force and the woman had been laid by half the guys on the air base, or so it seemed. It was fun but not a really big deal to me. I think she enjoyed it too. I don't know if she knew it was my first time. I do think she knew I was inexperienced.

After that, all the sex I had was with either prostitutes or being picked up by gay men who wanted to suck me off. Either one left a lot to be desired but they were better than nothing.