looking to chat

[Matt_B]

Hello and Welcome, Matt! Thanks for posting!
Sure, I'll let you know when I head to CA.
I havent seen you around much (in the forums), but hope you are enjoying yourself.

I am. Thank you for asking. Sounds good. Hope to see you around more!

 

[asian2015]

I am. Thank you for asking. Sounds good. Hope to see you around more!

Hey there! haha, between us, it would appear you aren't around lit that often huh...?

 

[Matt_B]

Hey there! haha, between us, it would appear you aren't around lit that often huh...?

Unfortunately I don't always get a chance to log on Lit. But I've been more active recently. Just not as much as I would like to be.

 

[asian2015]

7. Honestly I'm a down to earth guy who will chat about anything. I definitely prefer to chat with females and can talk about anything really. I'd just love to chat really. Please message me!

Well, since you're not around as much, if you'd like to PM me, feel free.

 

[Matt_B]

Well, since you're not around as much, if you'd like to PM me, feel free.

I would absolutely love to!

 

[munch2much]

1. Have you ever met a lit-ster?
If you did, how did it go?
If you havent, would you?
2. Guys, if you send a PM to a woman, are you really expecting a reply or is it "no biggie" if she doesnt send you a reply? How do you feel?
3. This probably happens with both sexes, but since I generally chat with guys, my question would be: why do guys lie when they chat online?
4. How has your experience on lit been? if you have any particular experience you'd like to share, please do so.
5. Since I'm from South East Asia, have you been to this region?
Yes? Please share where you've been and what you liked/disliked about it.
No? Well, if you could, where would you go? Why that destination?
6. whats your best experience from lit? this could be anything from a story (tell us which one); a litster; a voice; a picture; something new you learnt about yourself; .... etc etc.
7. tell me about yourself and what you'd like to chat about.
8. have you ever been to a lit gathering?

I’ve met several Litsters albeit reluctantly initially. But since I dated one, absolutely lovely lady for many years, I’m a convert.

Sending PMs to ladies? I assume it’s impossible to keep up with their inbox.
Back when I had a pic thread, it felt like a full time job. No doubt way harder for ladies.

Why do guys lie? I’m guessing they think it will improve their chances of getting sex? I try to be honest but I guess some things I don’t feel people need to know. Not with the intention of deceit.

My Lit experience is very varied. I think guys can feel a bit invisible at times. Guys don’t tend to want to talk to other guys, and women no doubt are oversubscribed. But as I say I’ve met some amazing Litsters. So no complaints here. I’m not actually looking for romance (though never say never) and I’m very happy with my (minimal!) interactions. Quality not quantity.

I’ve never been to south east Asia, but I’m sure I’d love it. I know many who have and it looks amazing

My best Lit experience? My first encounter with the lovely Litster I ended up dating for 9 years. But it’s not appropriate to divulge such things in public.

About me? Hmm not much I’d say on the forum. But I’m well intentioned, oftren considered intelligent (rightly or wrongly ), a bad speller, often considered hilarious (by myself). I enjoy a nice chat and getting to know people (both on Lit and in real life).

I’ve never been to a Lit meet-up.

 

[asian2015]

Quality not quantity.

Totally agree.

My best Lit experience? My first encounter with the lovely Litster I ended up dating for 9 years. But it’s not appropriate to divulge such things in public.

Totally understand. You're very lucky to have such a great experience on your first encounter!

Thanks for taking the time to post, and Welcome to the thread!

 

[cutcrystal]

Hello Asian2015

In answer to your questions

1. Have you ever met a lit-ster?
If you did, how did it go?
If you haven't, would you?

I have not met a Lit-ster yet.

Assuming a lasting connection with one I am game to meet in person. Chatted with each of two members for 14 months. At that point both vanished.

Looking through my messages I could not see anything I did wrong. Sad, as we could talk about anything. 7 months on I miss having a connection.

2. Guys, if you send a PM to a woman, are you really expecting a reply or is it "no biggie" if she doesn't send you a reply? How do you feel?

As a rule it's no big deal.

However, if I particularly like the profile/post and there appears to be a lot of common ground I am disappointed and sometimes discouraged.

I think I would rather get no reply to a PM... Rather than start chatting and get no replies to my messages, seeing the click ticking as members don't even answer my messages. This happened once and I don't mind admitting to hurting and anger over the rudeness and lack of concern displayed. Would it have hurt to say don't think we are suited?

3. This probably happens with both sexes, but since I generally chat with guys, my question would be: why do guys lie when they chat online?

Lying? Lack of confidence or self esteem. Covering up whatever they are doing that they do not want known. Ashamed of selves so inventing out of fear of rejection.

4. How has your experience on lit been? if you have any particular experience you'd like to share, please do so.

14 Fabulous months with each of two Lit members. Lovely women who just vanished. Lots of laughs over posts on the site. Great collaboration on writing with a few members. Enjoyed lots of really good stories. Short message exchanges with half a dozen lovely women. Some RP, online naughtiness, cyber, sexting. A potential threesome that did not materialise was exciting. Sharing experiences, stories, thoughts, ideas, photos.

Enjoyed sharing written material. Photos, ideas.

I would rather not repeat or re-live the numerous "vanishing/ghosting" incidents. I value long connections.

5. Since I'm from South East Asia, have you been to this region?

Yes? Please share where you've been and what you liked/disliked about it.

Not been to the region.

No? Well, if you could, where would you go?

Singapore, Thailand, perhaps Philippines, Japan.

Why that destination?

Somewhere very different to explore. Fascinated by the region.

6. whats your best experience from lit? this could be anything from a story (tell us which one); a litster; a voice; a picture; something new you learnt about yourself; .... etc etc.

An award winning story. Outback by Ultimate Sin.

Long connections and daily chat about anything with two female Lit members in USA. Sexual release with one Lit. Like the odd cyber or roleplay if know and trust someone.

7. tell me about yourself and what you'd like to chat about.

I am 64 year old single male in England and straight. I love wilds, wildlife, walking, wildlife conservation. Astrology, psychology, mind body and spirit, spirituality, mysteries, psychic phenomena, mediumship, paranormal, supernatural. Love cinema, reading, writing, collaboration on writing, music, live music, cooking, guitar. Long ago played rhythm guitar in a part time rock band and wrote lyrics. I like online and in person chat, any subject including sex.

Happy to chat about anything. A wealth of experience and knowledge to draw on.

8. have you ever been to a lit gathering?

Not been to a Lit gathering. Did not know such things existed.

CC

Charles

 

[nightrider6918]

Hmmm so many good questions to answer, let’s take a stab at a couple (and revive this thread in the process!)

2. Guys, if you send a PM to a woman, are you really expecting a reply or is it "no biggie" if she doesn't send you a reply? How do you feel?

As my total post count indicates, I certainly tend to be more of a “lurker” than a poster - largely because the forum experience has never quite been my favorite; and frankly that extends to real life interactions too. Generally I much prefer chatting and talking with people one-on-one or in small groups as opposed to in larger circles (which allows for more of a dialogue that feels more natural to me). As such, I’m “guilty” of messaging others on this platform as a PM first, but generally only if their profile indicates that their open to it or if they’ve posted in a room that they’re interested in getting PM’s (so you’re currently a bit of enigma @asian2015 given that your profile clearly says not to PM but you recently posted that you’re open to getting a PM in the namesake thread… sorry if that leads to a tidal wave of basic or unwanted messages for you!). All of that being said, given the extremely off-kilter ratio of men to women here, I’ve never really “expected” a reply, but rather hoped for a reply. Even then, getting a short one sentence response can (to me) be more disappointing than a lack of response because a no-reply simply means the other person wasn’t interested… “oh well, that just saves us both time and energy.”

At the risk of revealing your hand, how many PM’s (as a woman) would you say you get out of the blue? And of those, how many tend to be more substantial than the stereotypical “horny guy looking to get off here and now” type of message?

 

[OralAllOver]

Ormoc City!!
I'm low key, but fun
Drama-free, but (like to) connect with others
59 yo guy in Stockton CA
Sorta nerd

Never, ever hyperventilate if my cogent utterances go without a response

 

[OralAllOver]

I was (sardonically) wondering if half of all men could be easily replaced with automation/technology

Then I stumbled across this paper (which I attach but do not recommend)

I mean if taking out the trash is your most essential contribution ...

Would Edison be a good name for a robot bf?

https://doctorsexplain.net/sex-robots-ai-lovers-the-future-of-intimacy-relationships

 

[Alpha_femboy]

Is this still active?

 

[OralAllOver]

Is this still active?

 

[asian2015]

Hmmm so many good questions to answer, let’s take a stab at a couple (and revive this thread in the process!)

2. Guys, if you send a PM to a woman, are you really expecting a reply or is it "no biggie" if she doesn't send you a reply? How do you feel?

As my total post count indicates, I certainly tend to be more of a “lurker” than a poster - largely because the forum experience has never quite been my favorite; and frankly that extends to real life interactions too. Generally I much prefer chatting and talking with people one-on-one or in small groups as opposed to in larger circles (which allows for more of a dialogue that feels more natural to me). As such, I’m “guilty” of messaging others on this platform as a PM first, but generally only if their profile indicates that their open to it or if they’ve posted in a room that they’re interested in getting PM’s (so you’re currently a bit of enigma @asian2015 given that your profile clearly says not to PM but you recently posted that you’re open to getting a PM in the namesake thread… sorry if that leads to a tidal wave of basic or unwanted messages for you!). All of that being said, given the extremely off-kilter ratio of men to women here, I’ve never really “expected” a reply, but rather hoped for a reply. Even then, getting a short one sentence response can (to me) be more disappointing than a lack of response because a no-reply simply means the other person wasn’t interested… “oh well, that just saves us both time and energy.”

At the risk of revealing your hand, how many PM’s (as a woman) would you say you get out of the blue? And of those, how many tend to be more substantial than the stereotypical “horny guy looking to get off here and now” type of message?

Thanks for checking out my profile! Its a little too difficult to update/edit it currently, also it's still a good deterrent.

Thanks for contributing and activating this forum! I attempt to reply all PMs, especially if they are nice messages.

I haven't been here in ages. So this time, there's been only 4 PMs, out of which, there's been some chat with 2, and thankfully they arent the stereotypical ones.

 

[Pad_Foot]

I’m first here in Fall 2025?