Looking for some advice: relationship with a former teacher?

[Xerxes82]

I am a 20 year old male. While in high school, I, like many other guys, found some of my teachers very sexy. One of them, a now 31 year old single woman was both a mentor to me and the object of my sexual desires.

Anyhow, I have recently found her back in my life not as a teacher but as a friend of a friend. She is still as hot as ever, and still single. I want her, badly. Our present relationship is very friendly and sometimes flirtatious, but I fear that she still sees me as a former student and not a potential lover.

I just don't know where to go from here.

Any help?

 

[Spinaroonie]

If you're making a play, you have to worry about putting in too much exposition and thus leaving nothing for the audience to discover. Often playwrights who are worried they won't get enough in, but too much in.

 

[Xerxes82]

funny, funny. I had that coming. the thread title has been edited as appropriate...

 

[Cozen.rm]

I think youre letting a short past, over complicate the present.

 

[acitore_vuli]

Sing her a Sam Cook song.

 

[Tranquility]

you're all grown up now let the past lie and move on into the future who knows maybe she thinks you still see her as miss so-so from high school....basically I am saying nothing ventured nothing gained

 

[Xerxes82]

Thanks for the advice so far. I actually got a chance to see her last night, and damn she looked good...

Any one else want to give me their thoughts?

 

[Lost Cause]

Go for the extra "credit".

Just drop the title stuff, she's a woman, yer a dood, time to do like they do on the discovery channel.

 

[Gord]

rohypnol

 

[Azwed]

There was a teacher i flirted with in HS and still did occasionaly after i graduated. She was 24 when I was 18, she would be about 29 now, so we were much closer in age and she was soooooooooo gorgeous. She made my hs gf jealous.

I haven't talked to her in several years but the last time we did meet she was with her bf, the assistant football coach, and as soon as she saw me she stopped in mid-conversation to ask how I was. We talked for several minutes and the whole time her bf has just got this "who the fuck is this damn kid" look on his face.

Oh it was priceless.

 

[Xerxes82]

thanks for your...errm... perspectives...

anybody with something, shall we say, relevant to add?

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Go for the extra "credit".

Just drop the title stuff, she's a woman, yer a dood, time to do like they do on the discovery channel.

You mean he should hunt down a zebra, tear open the gullet and allow her to feed?

 

[MissTaken]

thanks for your...errm... perspectives...

anybody with something, shall we say, relevant to add?

Do what you would do with any other woman.

Does she show signs of interest?

Is she single?

Have you flirted with her a bit?

What was her response?

If you feel like you have a green light, as her out, man!

 

[Xerxes82]

Do what you would do with any other woman.

Make an ass out of myself and get shot down? That's what I'm trying to avoid...

 

[Elitist]

Seems that morals are somewhat lacking in this thread.

 

[Gord]

Seems that morals are somewhat lacking in this thread.

what the fuck are you talking about ?

 

[Tranquility]

Seems that morals are somewhat lacking in this thread.

HUH we aren't telling him go out and scrump some others guys wife HELLO they are both single and avaiable and he is of the age of consent...hell I would tell my own brother/son same damn thing LOL...morals HA we all got them sometimes we use them sparingly and not to someone elses moral standards sorry but if you wanna talk morals I could share some real life experiences that would make your hair curl if its straight or straighten if its curly LOL

 

[Hamletmaschine]

My advice: stay friendly, open, mildly flirtatious, if that's your style, but don't turn into a slobbering horndog around her. If she's interested, she'll make the first move. Happened to me twice with former teachers. Unfortunately, they'd both gotten themselves married by the time they got around to letting me know they were interested in having sex with me.

You'll have to talk to Paul Harvey for the rest of the story.

 

[Lancecastor]

10 Point Sure Fire Date Getting Tips From Lance

1. Buy two (2) tickets to an event. The event does not matter...sports, concert, fashion show, tractor pull, whatever. But you must go buy the tix first, that's why I have numbered it as "1" in this list. Mess this part up and you might as well forget the rest. It's critical.

2. Call her the Monday or Tuesday evening before the event, between 7 and 9 pm.

3. Say hello, it's Billy here. Unless your name is not Billy. Well, you might want to say you are Billy anyway. But I'd use my own name.

4. Sample Script: Hello, it's Billy here. Is this Susan? Hi Susan, I have a pair of tickets to the Silent Auction and Charades Nite in support of the Greater Miami Home for Retired Mimes this Friday nite and I'm wondering if you'd like to grab a bite to eat and go check it out with me?

5. Important: Anything she says other than a Yes or No to your question should be ignored at this point. Things like "Are you asking me on a date?", for example are none of her business. Get her back to the question by saying something like "I was thinking I'd drop by to pick you up around say ...6?" or a simple "Would you like to go? It'll be fun!"

6. If you stick to asking her out and refuse to provide details of your intentions beyond taking her to the the silent auction, etc...you'll get an answer.

7. You may try to get her to answer you three (3) times, maximum. After three asks, you politely say "Perhaps another time then Susan. Good talking to you, bye!" and hang up the phone. After three asks with no answer....you have your answer (no). Letting her stay in the conversation after that point guarantees she is going to use you.

8. If you have a yes, go buy new sox.

9. If you have a no, immediately telephone grrl #2.

10. Repeat as necessary. And smile.

Lance

 

[morninggirl5]

Time to inject a bit of reality here.


Your former teacher will continue to view you as a former student. You're only two years out of high school and it's quite likely that any relationship now could lead to speculation about her actions when she was your teacher and could, in an extreme case, lead to action against the teacher.

Even a hint of impropriety is something most teachers will avoid at all costs.

 

[Lancecastor]

Time to inject a bit of reality here.


Your former teacher will continue to view you as a former student. You're only two years out of high school and it's quite likely that any relationship now could lead to speculation about her actions when she was your teacher and could, in an extreme case, lead to action against the teacher.

Even a hint of impropriety is something most teachers will avoid at all costs.

So what happened to the reality injection you promised?

If he asks and she wants to go out with him, they will.

If he asks and she says no thanks, they won't.

It's nobody else's business.

That's the reality.