Looking for advice on getting a woman to......

[subwannabe]

Enjoy making her man eat his own cum? I told my wife while we were dating how much this turns me on and she seemed ok with helping me out in this area. We have tried several different methods. She doesn't mind giving me occasional blowjobs and swallowing but this seems to turn her off a little and really doesn't seem very interested in doing it anymore. I feel it is not all that kinky or that far out there and don't understand why she can't be more into it instead of wanting to avoid the situation altogether. It would seem to me that most moderately kinky women would either enjoy doing this or at least wouldn't mind doing it for their man, even if it wasn't their favorite thing to do. I guess I feel like she made a promise she couldn't keep and now doesn't even want to try bluffing her way through it. I feel cheated out of something I was up front with her about right from the beginning and really don't understand what the big deal is. I have tried talking about it with her several times and she always acts like she is sorry and there isn't a problem but then avoids it at all costs and doesn't seem to get into it at all the very few times that we do do it. Somehow it loses the some of the effect if I know she isn't into it. Are there any suggestions or am I just SOL?

 

[bridgeburner]

What does whether or not she swallows have to do with getting her to make you eat your own cum?

-B

 

[subwannabe]

I'm just saying she doesn't mind eating my cum but for some reason she has a hang up about making me eat my own.

 

[CutieMouse]

Ok for *me* that would be a hard thing to do because of the "make me" factor. "Making" a Lover do something doesn't come naturally or easily to me, because I'm rather solidly submissive in the D/s relationship sort of way. It's awkward as hell. Add to that the (logical or fair or not) squick factor some people may have at someone consuming their own bodily fluids or even a greyish "gay" factor of a man consuming his own sperm and I can easily see even a "moderatly kinky" girl not being interested in the least. *shrug*

 

[Range05]

You cannot force a person to be dominant and MAKE you do something if it isn't in their nature. That would be you being dominant, forcing her to be dominant and you playing at being submissive while still total control of the situation. I think I got it right, I'm still confused over the original post.

If you want to eat your own cum, then there are ways to do that that doesn't involve your wife. Play amongst yourself.

Are you ashamed that you want to eat your own cum; therefore, you are wanting her to "force" you, so that it will be okay if you do it?

 

[catalina_francisco]

All you can do is try to communicate with her on it, and possibly by approaching in a way which does not start out sounding as if you are complaining or pissed off with her....even well disguised most partners will pick up on the aggitation and not feel comfortable opening up. As for her aversion to it, there could be a multitude of reasons. Maybe she just doesn't feel comfortable with the force issue, maybe she is uneasy because she doesn't understand it, maybe she wants it all for herself, maybe she feels this is a sign you are in denial about being gay (don't laugh, some people associate this with being gay simply because they have no other reference of knowledge about such behaviours), maybe she doesn't like holding it in her mouth to feed back to you or seeing you come in a cup to do it that way, maybe she is not sure what she is afraid of, maybe she feels you prefer your own taste to hers, or a mutitude of other maybes.

She might even be a latent Domme or Top and not be giving in to your demands because she feels if she is to do the forcing it is to be on her terms and not what you ask for. Regardless of what the reason I would hope there was more to your relationship and commitment to her as a partner than just whether she will or will not force you to drink your own cum. It sounds like she has at least tried to accomodate your desires which is a lot.....you can't force her to be turned on by it just because you are. Maybe in time, growing understanding and with more positive experiences of this she will find pleasure in it. Talk and be supportive and patient and in time you may have all your wishes granted.

Catalina