Looking for advice from long time married women on the subject of pegging

[Chuck Darwin]

I’ll try and keep this to the point.

I’m getting older. I’ve been married to my wife for 20 + years. She’s not overly into kink or even plain ole fucking much anymore.

We’re a good team. We’re friends. We have good conversations, but not a lot of sex conversations.

Now, my biggest kink is femdom and to be specific I’d love for her to peg me before I get too old in life. I think it might be something that could be satisfying for us both since she’s not much into me fucking her these days. .

So…how the hell would you bring this up and discuss it with a fairly vanilla mid to late 40s mom? I’m really worried she will think badly of me for bringing it up, that she’ll think I’m deranged or something. Or that she’ll wonder if I’m gay. I know these are ridiculous but they’re real concerns and a risk and I’m trying to weigh if I should bring this up or just not and continue to suffer in silence.

If anyone has any experience with this sort of scenario would love to hear from you. Here or PM.

Thank you.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

This is a pretty slow moving forum. I wonder if you may get more replies if you cross post and also post this in the forum called Fetish and Sexuality Central?

 

[Chuck Darwin]

Thanks for the reply. Perhaps yes.

I purposely am also trying to avoid some of the more free wheeling forums just to avoid some of the cheeky responses. But you’re probably right.

This is a pretty slow moving forum. I wonder if you may get more replies if you cross post and also post this in the forum called Fetish and Sexuality Central?

 

[Goldenfinger]

Thanks for the reply. Perhaps yes.

I purposely am also trying to avoid some of the more free wheeling forums just to avoid some of the cheeky responses. But you’re probably right.

This is the number one question asked when talking about pegging. Everyone has a different thought on how to go about this.

So you either just tell her that you heard about this and that you would like to try this. Or you can bring it up as something you heard about or you heard so and so talked about it and ask your wife what she thinks.

Either way you have to talk to you wife and bring up the subject.

 

[KatieDoes]

I’ll try and keep this to the point.

I’m getting older. I’ve been married to my wife for 20 + years. She’s not overly into kink or even plain ole fucking much anymore.

We’re a good team. We’re friends. We have good conversations, but not a lot of sex conversations.

Now, my biggest kink is femdom and to be specific I’d love for her to peg me before I get too old in life. I think it might be something that could be satisfying for us both since she’s not much into me fucking her these days. .

So…how the hell would you bring this up and discuss it with a fairly vanilla mid to late 40s mom? I’m really worried she will think badly of me for bringing it up, that she’ll think I’m deranged or something. Or that she’ll wonder if I’m gay. I know these are ridiculous but they’re real concerns and a risk and I’m trying to weigh if I should bring this up or just not and continue to suffer in silence.

If anyone has any experience with this sort of scenario would love to hear from you. Here or PM.

Thank you.

It’s really hard to say without knowing her. Is she into anal play at all? Either for you, or for her? If she accepts or gives an occasional slip of the finger in the bum, that would be the obvious starting point for the conversation.

If you’ve never tried, then try(gently), and see how she reacts?

Do you ever watch porn together? Could you add that to the mix?

I’m kind of a freak, but that doesn’t appeal to me at all. I’d try it if my husband requested it, but it’s not something I think I’d be into. But I wouldn’t judge him or think less of him if he said he heard that it felt amazing and trusted me enough to want to try it and find out.


Failing all else… I find that a long, slim, high quality dildo with a suction cup mount, stuck to a wall mounted mirror, can provide a very similar physical experience to being fucked in the ass. Obviously, the intimacy, hands touching me, hair pulling, dirty talk, etc, aren’t there. But if your only choices are zero and 50%, then 50% is better.

I wish you luck. It’s challenging to have needs that aren’t being met, and to feel that you may never get to experience something you really want to try.

 

[Chuck Darwin]

Thank you for the reply.

She’s not into anal play no, or really into porn at all either. At some point, when the timing is right, I will have to bring it up some how.

I might try sending her a couple of pictures or a story perhaps. I don’t know.

It’s really hard to say without knowing her. Is she into anal play at all? Either for you, or for her? If she accepts or gives an occasional slip of the finger in the bum, that would be the obvious starting point for the conversation.

If you’ve never tried, then try(gently), and see how she reacts?

Do you ever watch porn together? Could you add that to the mix?

I’m kind of a freak, but that doesn’t appeal to me at all. I’d try it if my husband requested it, but it’s not something I think I’d be into. But I wouldn’t judge him or think less of him if he said he heard that it felt amazing and trusted me enough to want to try it and find out.


Failing all else… I find that a long, slim, high quality dildo with a suction cup mount, stuck to a wall mounted mirror, can provide a very similar physical experience to being fucked in the ass. Obviously, the intimacy, hands touching me, hair pulling, dirty talk, etc, aren’t there. But if your only choices are zero and 50%, then 50% is better.

I wish you luck. It’s challenging to have needs that aren’t being met, and to feel that you may never get to experience something you really want to try.

 

[2021Noobie]

If you find an answer, please post it!!

 

[IslandKate91]

I’d try it if my husband requested it, but it’s not something I think I’d be into. But I wouldn’t judge him or think less of him if he said he heard that it felt amazing and trusted me enough to want to try it and find out.

I have to agree fully with this. If this was something that my husband wanted to try, I guess I would do it for him but I don't think it is something that would do anything for me.

 

[JuanaSalsa]

When my husband wants to suggest something he thinks I might not be into he starts to say it, then stops, then says he can't say it because it's too wrong and I might judge him, then he blurts it out, then he says he'd never actually act on it, then he asks if I would do it, then he denies being interested in it unless I pursue the discussion.

Now, I'm the kinkier half of our team so it's usually me bringing up the new sex ideas, not him.

On the topic of pegging, I have told my husband I'd like to do it to him but he doesn't want to. Sad, but I'll survive. Not even a finger in his ass! :*(

Has your wife ever let you do anal to her? If so, then you can say you'd like to better understand how it feels so you can empathize. That's how I phrased it to my husband, but he doesn't want to empathize, lol.

Otherwise, I suggest getting one of the movies mentioned on this reddit and, at the right time, say "oh that's looks like it could be fun."

https://www.reddit.com/r/Pegging/comments/2421zy/the_most_famous_mainstream_movie_with_pegging/