Looking for a Daddy

[heatsink]

I've just seen this thread and think it's a sort of mini clubroom and the club looks like its worth joining.

 

[Naughtyredhood]

Well heat feel free to join we are AWESOME! Willow, I was feeling down last night so def far from being naughty...maybe you should help me be naughty? Hehehehehe

 

[Naughtyredhood]

Hello All!

What a wonderful thread you have going on here.

Red, I must say I love the photo of a REAL sized woman being depicted as loved, valued, and sensuous.

I too have been single (that is unmarried) for a while. I'm in a very vanilla relationship that is abstinent (by both of our choosing).

However, it has been my experience, that when you start seeking out a new relationship and the topic of sexual preferences come up to see if you would be compatible... it seems that men the majority of men have no clue as to what being a submissive woman means. It's like they look at you as if all your brains have fallen out of your head.

Next they think that since your a submissive, you obviously want to have the crap beaten out of you to get off. It never ceases to amaze me how the majority of uneducated people believe that submission = sadism and masochism. D/s is not BDSM. D/s is under the heading of BDSM, but you do not need the B or the SM to be D/s...although I do love the B (bondage) during sex play.

Men also get confused as to why I left an abusive husband, that I would want a D/s relationship. Most people I have ran into can't wrap their mind around that my ex husband was not into D/s or even BDSM...he was just a plain vanilla abuser in every aspect of my life. There is a difference!

I hope we all find what we are looking for... and for those who are fortunate to have found it all ready... cherish it, love it, nurture it as I know you must be doing already and God bless you in it.

Thank you....it's actually close to me so I'm told but I liked how intimate it was loving and sexual at the same time. Men are morons most days but we can't live with them and I ain't spending the time in jail for killin him lol

 

[1sickbastard]

Hello All!

What a wonderful thread you have going on here.

Red, I must say I love the photo of a REAL sized woman being depicted as loved, valued, and sensuous.

I too have been single (that is unmarried) for a while. I'm in a very vanilla relationship that is abstinent (by both of our choosing).

However, it has been my experience, that when you start seeking out a new relationship and the topic of sexual preferences come up to see if you would be compatible... it seems that men the majority of men have no clue as to what being a submissive woman means. It's like they look at you as if all your brains have fallen out of your head.

Next they think that since your a submissive, you obviously want to have the crap beaten out of you to get off. It never ceases to amaze me how the majority of uneducated people believe that submission = sadism and masochism. D/s is not BDSM. D/s is under the heading of BDSM, but you do not need the B or the SM to be D/s...although I do love the B (bondage) during sex play.

Men also get confused as to why I left an abusive husband, that I would want a D/s relationship. Most people I have ran into can't wrap their mind around that my ex husband was not into D/s or even BDSM...he was just a plain vanilla abuser in every aspect of my life. There is a difference!

I hope we all find what we are looking for... and for those who are fortunate to have found it all ready... cherish it, love it, nurture it as I know you must be doing already and God bless you in it.

Actually, I would like to disagree with one particular point: BDSM is a subset of D/s, not the other way around, imo. D/s is, to me, about force of will. BDSM is about the props and particular varieties of D/s play.

But you are so right about the numbers of abusive asshats that use the guise of Dom to be able to beat on some poor sub. Those aren't Doms, those are domabes (Dom wannabes).

Again, imo, a Dom of any quality cherishes a smart, intelligent, submissive with a strong personality and a mind of her own.

 

[Naughtyredhood]

Actually, I would like to disagree with one particular point: BDSM is a subset of D/s, not the other way around, imo. D/s is, to me, about force of will. BDSM is about the props and particular varieties of D/s play.

But you are so right about the numbers of abusive asshats that use the guise of Dom to be able to beat on some poor sub. Those aren't Doms, those are domabes (Dom wannabes).

Again, imo, a Dom of any quality cherishes a smart, intelligent, submissive with a strong personality and a mind of her own.

Amen to that!

 

[heatsink]

Well heat feel free to join we are AWESOME! Willow, I was feeling down last night so def far from being naughty...maybe you should help me be naughty? Hehehehehe

Thanks for the welcome Red, feeling down isn't all bad, just think when you bounce back how great it feels

 

[SwtGrnApplCandy]

Thank you....it's actually close to me so I'm told but I liked how intimate it was loving and sexual at the same time. Men are morons most days but we can't live with them and I ain't spending the time in jail for killin him lol

::: Gigglefit :::

 

[SwtGrnApplCandy]

Actually, I would like to disagree with one particular point: BDSM is a subset of D/s, not the other way around, imo. D/s is, to me, about force of will. BDSM is about the props and particular varieties of D/s play.

But you are so right about the numbers of abusive asshats that use the guise of Dom to be able to beat on some poor sub. Those aren't Doms, those are domabes (Dom wannabes).

Again, imo, a Dom of any quality cherishes a smart, intelligent, submissive with a strong personality and a mind of her own.

I stand corrected. :: curtsy :: thank you.

 

[WeedSmoke420]

you're just another fraud..

 

[Willowsong38]

Welcome

Ok well I see we have some new faces in the mix and First let me say Welcome to everyone except the apparent ass hat in the room who will from this point forward not be recognized. Thanks to all of you for contributing with friendly banter and conversation. We are a big happy bunch of nut balls.. ..... Just being ourselves as it where.


Red My sweet darlin Im so sorry to hear you were down Im glad however you had your spirits lifited. ....Hugs to you .

I also want to remind everyone that as we all travel our path down this road of life, whatever flavor of the the BDSM, D/s life it may be please remember. WE are, NONE PERFECT . All of us are growing learning and stretching our limits each and every day .Be kind to the Sister Sub Next to us, Give a Hand to the Dom who is still learning.

Hope You all find the path that best suits you and leads you to happiness in your respective lives and that here we find a common ground to chat and laugh and enjoy the journey together.

 

[Primalex]

I stand corrected. :: curtsy :: thank you.

I'm quite sure most would agree with your definition though and not with his opinion. An opinion of a Dom is still just...an opinion.

 

[Willowsong38]

Indeed

I'm quite sure most would agree with your definition though and not with his opinion. An opinion of a Dom is still just...an opinion.

I agree .... A sub Binds herself to her Master and that in itself is a form of bondage. Period end of story . That Collar of trust and submission is always there and THAT IS BONDAGE. Lets be real as to what D/s really is .

My lovely Sisters do not give up your place in the power exhange . It is always in your hands to give to the deserving Master.

 

[1sickbastard]

I'm quite sure most would agree with your definition though and not with his opinion. An opinion of a Dom is still just...an opinion.

I'm sure most would agree with her definition vs my opinion, which is probably why most confuse being a submissive with being a doormat who loves having the crap beaten out of him/her.
Or being a Dominant means one is a violent, abusive jerk-off.
Or why D/s and BDSM are generally misperceived and misunderstood.

Again, this is only my opinion...

 

[1sickbastard]

I agree .... A sub Binds herself to her Master and that in itself is a form of bondage. Period end of story . That Collar of trust and submission is always there and THAT IS BONDAGE. Lets be real as to what D/s really is .

My lovely Sisters do not give up your place in the power exhange . It is always in your hands to give to the deserving Master.

Actually, that's a good point, one I hadn't considered.

 

[Primalex]

My lovely Sisters do not give up your place in the power exhange . It is always in your hands to give to the deserving Master.

Then again, I don't believe in the "submission is a gift for the worthy Dom" mantra either.

There is "fits together" and "fits not together" in a relationship. "Fits not together" is nothing either one can be blamed for and has hardly anything to do with "true submission" or "deserving master".

 

[1sickbastard]

I agree .... A sub Binds herself to her Master and that in itself is a form of bondage. Period end of story . That Collar of trust and submission is always there and THAT IS BONDAGE. Lets be real as to what D/s really is .

I'll counter by pointing out that not all submissives wear a collar, or are even bound to a Master. A sub can gift her self for as long as she wants to whomever she wants. Being bonded is a far deeper, more intense level.

It could be that we're playing semantics here.

I do think that most think of physical restraints when they see/hear the word 'bondage' or the 'B' in BDSM, not the mental and emotional binding.

 

[Primalex]

I'm sure most would agree with her definition vs my opinion, which is probably why most confuse being a submissive with being a doormat who loves having the crap beaten out of him/her.
Or being a Dominant means one is a violent, abusive jerk-off.
Or why D/s and BDSM are generally misperceived and misunderstood.

Sure, all this happens just because people don't get the true meanings of abbreviations and letters.

"No. I don't have a BDSM relationship, just a D/s relationship. And as this is a D/s relationship, I'm not an abusive jerk. See!"

Silly me, I would have blamed movies and the display of BDSM in literature and porn literature (including many Lit stories) for this and of course the fact that the demarcation of consensual and non-consensual activities is indeed problematic from an outside perspective - even without violence.

When we take all this, together with the fact that women do have a subscription to being a victim and that feminism and submission doesn't mix very well either (neither masculinity and submission) in our society, it's nearly self-evident, that this ends up in a huge mess with vanilla people projecting a lot of issues onto such relationships.

We had just a discussion whether it's good when kids see a submissive mother, who merely kneels and reacts to commands from her husband and how this affects their perception of "normal" relationships. A pity you didn't offer your valuable input about perception there.

 

[1sickbastard]

Sure, all this happens just because people don't get the true meanings of abbreviations and letters.

"No. I don't have a BDSM relationship, just a D/s relationship. And as this is a D/s relationship, I'm not an abusive jerk. See!"

Silly me, I would have blamed movies and the display of BDSM in literature and porn literature (including many Lit stories) for this and of course the fact that the demarcation of consensual and non-consensual activities is indeed problematic from an outside perspective - even without violence.

When we take all this, together with the fact that women do have a subscription to being a victim and that feminism and submission doesn't mix very well either (neither masculinity and submission) in our society, it's nearly self-evident, that this ends up in a huge mess with vanilla people projecting a lot of issues onto such relationships.

We had just a discussion whether it's good when kids see a submissive mother, who merely kneels and reacts to commands from her husband and how this affects their perception of "normal" relationships. A pity you didn't offer your valuable input about perception there.

What "true meanings" do words have? Language is constantly evolving. Meanings change. All I did was offer what I thought, in my own opinion, what a more accurate description of D/s an BDSM.
So my opinion doesn't match yours. It doesn't have to. Nor am I insisting yours change to match mine.

Yah, the perceptions constructed via mass media are intended to do one thing; attract an audience. It has far less to do with reality than titillating the consumer.

What is the context of kids seeing a submissive mother? What the hell does a "normal" relationship look like and who decides what "normal" is anyway?
Or, from another perspective, so the kids have a "submissive mother, who merely kneels and reacts to commands from her husband". So what?
What if the kids have same-sex parents, interracial parents, multiple parents (as in a polyamorous family), or any other sets of parents not deemed "normal"?


And how does this particular tangent help Willowsong38 find herself a Daddy/Dom?

 

[Willowsong38]

Quite a bit

What "true meanings" do words have? Language is constantly evolving. Meanings change. All I did was offer what I thought, in my own opinion, what a more accurate description of D/s an BDSM.
So my opinion doesn't match yours. It doesn't have to. Nor am I insisting yours change to match mine.

Yah, the perceptions constructed via mass media are intended to do one thing; attract an audience. It has far less to do with reality than titillating the consumer.

What is the context of kids seeing a submissive mother? What the hell does a "normal" relationship look like and who decides what "normal" is anyway?
Or, from another perspective, so the kids have a "submissive mother, who merely kneels and reacts to commands from her husband". So what?
What if the kids have same-sex parents, interracial parents, multiple parents (as in a polyamorous family), or any other sets of parents not deemed "normal"?


And how does this particular tangent help Willowsong38 find herself a Daddy/Dom?

It has helped quite a bit actually because actually is my years of experience REAL Doms prefer women who can be Real women not only submissive women . Meaning they are not afraid to speak there mind. So thank you for the forum to show what I am made of .

 

[thestoryteller217]

I think your quite fine baby girl it certainly helped me tonight right daddys baby?

 

[thestoryteller217]

oh and i dont think she needs the personal part of the add any more

 

[Willowsong38]

Yes Daddy always~

I think your quite fine baby girl it certainly helped me tonight right daddys baby?

Thank you Daddy! Anything for you ! Kisses , hugs and sweet wiggles !My Daddy

 

[Willowsong38]

giggles

oh and i dont think she needs the personal part of the add any more

Daddy are you bragging ? naughty !

 

[thestoryteller217]

not bragging merely making your public status known

 

[Naughtyredhood]

Everyone has a view on what the whole lifestyle entails and what they all want out of it. It's as has been pointed out its an opinion, it's like an asshole everyone has one.