Lookin' for a third

[BlueSugar]

I think it'll be a good gift to M for the holidays.

Accepting Applications.
Must be willing to travel.

Good idea... bad idea?

 

[FungiUg]

Best of luck! It's a good idea (so long as you can handle the schedule juggling and jealousy factors), but... it's also a lot of work.

 

[BlueSugar]

Best of luck! It's a good idea (so long as you can handle the schedule juggling and jealousy factors), but... it's also a lot of work.

I'm not a jealous person at all, I can handle it.

 

[Hajar]

I'm with FungiUg.
For some reason 3rd's bring drama.
It's a great idea if you can get someone who's open minded and understands the situation but I find that when the rules are set and the whole idea of it really happening sets in, the other person rarely shows up or ends contact.

Best of luck.

 

[FungiUg]

I'm not a jealous person at all, I can handle it.

Yes, but there are three people involved, so that still leaves room for jealousy with the other two.

I don't want to sound like I think it's a bad idea. From experience, it's a brilliant idea! It's just hard work.

Unfortunately, as Hajar mentions, you will run into the "no shows" and "back-outs" as well. Getting involved with two people is scary.

Sad but true.

Go for it though -- just be prepared for the "reality vs fantasy" issue. When it DOES all come together... it's great!

 

[Guest]

I think it'll be a good gift to M for the holidays.

Accepting Applications.
Must be willing to travel.

Good idea... bad idea?

Welcome to what seems to be the largest Unorganized club in pervdom.... And sometimes the most frustrating...
I wish you luck//And if you find one ..tell me how you did it.*grin*

 

[catalina_francisco]

Good luck and like EKVITKAR says, if you pull it of please make a thread of how for all the rest who do not find it an easy endeavor to make happen...it isn't the easiest thing to do despite the frequency of fantasy material around it. Seems most subs/thirds want to be a permanent addition with some serious influence and affection (at the least) in the relationship apart from being a plaything. Unfortunate for those who just want casual without any of the dramas involved, but seems to be the norm more than the exception. If you decide it is okay for them to become a significant member of your relationship, then comes the problem of finding someone who likes both of you hopefully equally, and you both like as well, and share similar interests and goals as each other.

Catalina

 

[BlueSugar]

We've done something like this before with a few people actually.
3 situations this year alone. But it never goes past that first time with the same person because either the situation led up to it or they get an SO soon afterwards etc...

And I have a theory that it takes at least 3 times with the same person till it actually gets really good.

I was just fooling with the idea to actually have a third because I would be able to handle it and M would love it from time to time. I'm just tired of the one night stands and trying to get everyone comfortable with each other (who are also like minded, that i've talked to before hand, so it doesn't take away from the moment AND we know their limits before hand w/o any awkwardness happening during..)

who wouldn't mind going over and playing with us seperately. I wouldn't mind it becoming a solid triangle or if they get an SO for us to get together often... I dream of communes and throwing huge kinky events and cons. :: dreamy sigh ::

I've determined that the third will probably be female and a switch if not submissive with males and slightly more dominant with females. I wouldn't mind another male, but I'm sure M wouldn't be too grand on the idea unless he came with a 4th (female).

I know more then my share of 3rd woes, this was going to mainly be a fluff thread because of the over done of "I want a threesome" threads ... but its the holidays and i'm in a "I WANT" mood!

 

[FungiUg]

its the holidays and i'm in a "I WANT" mood!

Well, okay. We shall let you off then. Just this once.

I agree with the need for repeat encounters for things to get "really good". The issue being that most thirds do tend to move on to a relationship with someone of their own.

One day we'll find someone who is happy to belong to a couple. Until then, we also have to put up with the occasional thirds.

 

[BlueSugar]

Well, okay. We shall let you off then. Just this once.

I agree with the need for repeat encounters for things to get "really good". The issue being that most thirds do tend to move on to a relationship with someone of their own.

One day we'll find someone who is happy to belong to a couple. Until then, we also have to put up with the occasional thirds.

I think they need their own sections on swinger personals or hunt us down as actively as we search for them. Like... as soon as I say it my phone should ring with a like minded trustable person that could be at my house with M and I in a half hour.

::nod::

mmhm

 

[FungiUg]

Sure. And then send her over here when you're done.

 

[BlueSugar]

Sure. And then send her over here when you're done.

Nuh uh, shes mine... and she does dishes!

find your own!

 

[Guest]

Good luck and like EKVITKAR says, if you pull it of please make a thread of how for all the rest who do not find it an easy endeavor to make happen...it isn't the easiest thing to do despite the frequency of fantasy material around it. Seems most subs/thirds want to be a permanent addition with some serious influence and affection (at the least) in the relationship apart from being a plaything. Unfortunate for those who just want casual without any of the dramas involved, but seems to be the norm more than the exception. If you decide it is okay for them to become a significant member of your relationship, then comes the problem of finding someone who likes both of you hopefully equally, and you both like as well, and share similar interests and goals as each other.

Catalina

Yah know..This one is bad enough that the "Hot Bi Fem sub" has become something of an inside joke on some boards..

Oddly enough things seem to get more difficult the more serious (or longstanding) you would like things to be...

Then again ... *sigh* I find myself these days having a certain difficulty catering to insecurities...
Which could be part of the problem..

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think they need their own sections on swinger personals or hunt us down as actively as we search for them. Like... as soon as I say it my phone should ring with a like minded trustable person that could be at my house with M and I in a half hour.

::nod::

mmhm

I think Bondage has a search section for groups and also couples, perhaps that is the way to go for you as they are people often looking for a similar thing to what you describe wanting.

Catalina

 

[Guest]

Hmmmmm...

Perhaps our lovely moderator, should facilitate the starting of a "Thirds Forum" ..Like the BDSM personals forum..

*shrug* couldn't hurt eh?

 

[BlueSugar]

Hmmmmm...

Perhaps our lovely moderator, should facilitate the starting of a "Thirds Forum" ..Like the BDSM personals forum..

*shrug* couldn't hurt eh?

::sits back letting it all happen::

can't i just take one of you home?

:: nudge ::

I'll cook good food... promise! Your S/O, or PLY can come too .. mmhmm.. we need someone to hold the camera!

 

[Guest]

::sits back letting it all happen::

can't i just take one of you home?

:: nudge ::

I'll cook good food... promise! Your S/O, or PLY can come too .. mmhmm.. we need someone to hold the camera!

Welll Post what you're looking for..In fair exactitude...Yah never know..
Yah might get lucky..

 

[silver_inari]

::sits back letting it all happen::

can't i just take one of you home?

:: nudge ::

I'll cook good food... promise! Your S/O, or PLY can come too .. mmhmm.. we need someone to hold the camera!

Watch out, with that kind of offer you'll get alot of us waiting on your doorstep.

Interestingly enough, my dominant and I have talked about the addition of a third for a session. Its still in the thought stage only, though.

 

[Bandit58]

*sigh* We are looking for a third, a female playmate for me. Master isn't interested in anything apart from watching and maybe a little touching if she doesn't mind.....but so far no luck. They all seem to want a bi fem to play with their boyfriend/husband (no way even if Master was there) or they live too far away and find someone closer (as happened a few months ago)

 

[cellis]

It was one aspect that I really enjoyed... I liked my female lovers and it was good to have them... and when there were three of us it was even better... The first time was a little different but after that it was very good while it lasted.

 

[BlueSugar]

Watch out, with that kind of offer you'll get alot of us waiting on your doorstep.

Interestingly enough, my dominant and I have talked about the addition of a third for a session. Its still in the thought stage only, though.

::dusts front porch off::

*envy cellis*

 

[Guest]

::dusts front porch off::

*envy cellis*

Well Dear...Looks like it's time to set out some bait..They don't seem to be beating a path to the thread..

 

[BlueSugar]

Well Dear...Looks like it's time to set out some bait..They don't seem to be beating a path to the thread..

ooo good idea!

:: leaves a tray of cookies ::

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v30/Blushugar/aaa1022.jpg


:: wiggles ::

 

[Guest]

ooo good idea!

:: leaves a tray of cookies ::

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v30/Blushugar/aaa1022.jpg


:: wiggles ::

Well ....She's got a nice bum....

 

[FungiUg]

Dammit! Yet ANOTHER butt to drool over.