long lasting

[Mike Mc]

Hey,
This topic has probably been covered a bunch, but I am looking for advice on how as a loving boyfriend, I can last longer for my girl. I don't cum super fast, but usually after 2 minutes I can't hold it any longer. I have fairly good recovery time, I can go back at it again usually 15-20 minutes after my first orgasm, but when there is stuff to be done in the morning, we usually end up falling asleep before I can go again.

I guess I only want replies from people who have had methods that worked for them, or for their boyfriends, or who can link me to past discussions on this topic.

Thanks, for both of us.

 

[VSE]

Spend more time on other things other than the ole in-and-out so you've already got her rocks off before.

If you can get away with it, a sly hand shandy beforehand should help you go longer. If, as you say, your recovery time is fairly short anyway, you can always come during foreplay then spend some quality time on her while your old man prepares for action again.

 

[Noor]

several things:

wear a condom

have her come some other way first

be inside her but don't move and use your fingers on her clit, don't start moving until she starts to come, this actually feels pretty cool from a female prospective.

practice masturbating to almost coming and then cooling down repeatedly until you can last with stimulation longer. If you are fine on your own but speed up when you are with her, have her help you practice via hand jobs, joint or otherwise, blow jobs, hold the fleshlight or whatever.

Stay away from desensitizing products.

 

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[webber1998]

Yeah, two minutes is pretty short.

Had that problem when I was *A* lot younger. Always found that masturbating before a *planned* interlude helped. Or having her suck/jack me off FIRST, during foreplay, made the actual intercourse last longer.

Of course, have heard of men who think about SOMETHING that is a real turn off helped them, but didn't work for me.

 

[Enodia]

as others have mentioned...get her to cum FIRST via any other method. Then worry about actual intercourse (generally if I cum before intercourse, I can cum at least 2 or 3 times during intercourse).

Good luck!

 

[Bobmi357]

Wearing a condom will help, but so will adding more lube. A guy comes as a result of the sensations built up via friction. If you can reduce the friction using lube, you will last longer.

Masturbating before the main event will also take the edge off you. But I've always disliked that idea for one reason or another. If she's agreeable, why not start your session with some nice 69 action where you both come, then move into some serious cuddling for a enough time for you to recharge the ol' cannon?

UNDERSTAND WHY YOU COME!!! Friction! Vary your stroke, slow your stroke and pace yourself. Every so often stop the stroke entirely and enjoy the sensation of being enveloped, its a wonderful feeling. If I want to come quickly I will use a stroke that allows the head of my penis to almost entirely leave her before plunging back in, if I want to relax and make it last, I'll use a shorter stroke where the head never leaves her. Stop every so often to talk to her. I don't mean to ask if she paid the power bill, but to tell her how much you care about her, how you enjoy loving her, how special she is. Some women like "dirty talk", so experiment!

Finally remember, you're not in a race, nor are you trying to pound her head through the headboard of the bed! Pace yourself, increase the amount of foreplay you do before you hop on. Make sure she's come at least one or more times before you get your rocks off.

Have Fun.

 

[DevilishTexan]

Learn to strengthen your Kiegal muscles. Ya know when ya pee and ya have to stop the flow? Do that over n over. In traffic, wherever! Then if ya feel ya have to cum just slow down and pop that muscle and it should stop you. Do it over and over and eventually when you do cum she'll think your either a porno star or a fireman!! And your eyes will roll back into your head cuz it's incredible!

 

[hurtme]

hmm, dated a guy who had that problem, we found that the desensitizing products worked well, and there were no side effects to it...also, him wearing a cock ring helped for some reason...

 

[potatohead]

Want to last longer? Slow down!!! Try different positions too. I know that I last a lot longer if the women is on top. I also like to switch postions a lot because it helps me last longer. Spending too much time in any one position will make me cum faster. For whatever reason, adding lube doesn't always work for me and sometimes, usually makes me cum faster.

 

[N8Dreams]

Hey,
This topic has probably been covered a bunch, but I am looking for advice on how as a loving boyfriend, I can last longer for my girl. I don't cum super fast, but usually after 2 minutes I can't hold it any longer. I have fairly good recovery time, I can go back at it again usually 15-20 minutes after my first orgasm, but when there is stuff to be done in the morning, we usually end up falling asleep before I can go again.

I guess I only want replies from people who have had methods that worked for them, or for their boyfriends, or who can link me to past discussions on this topic.

Thanks, for both of us.

a common and wide spread problem.
2 mins are quite short.

Mainly I agree with Bobmi

another remedy might be the squeezing technique. Its training.

If you want use deafening ointments use a condom.

 

[pogogirl]

I have an ex that liked to wear a cockring sometimes when we had sex and It worked for him. When he decided he wanted to cum he would just take it off and fuck me until he came. Hopes this helps you in someway.

 

[N8Dreams]

I have an ex that liked to wear a cockring sometimes when we had sex and It worked for him. When he decided he wanted to cum he would just take it off and fuck me until he came. Hopes this helps you in someway.

a cock ring has some disadvantages:
- its no remedy for premature get off
- if its not removed as well ejaculation will get painful
his reported probs are not weak erections, his prob are the 2 min

 

[Mysty61]

Two minutes is way, way too fast. Slow down, change positions often, do different things - oral, manual, etc. sqeezing the head may help some but is not a solution. Practice, practice, practice and you will learn to control yourself. Masturbate bringing yourself to the brink, stop, and start over. Do this as many times as you can, and repeat it until you learn to gain control. Talk to your girl friend about helping you. I am sure she is far from being satisfied with your 2 minutes. When you are in her and feel you are about to orgasm stop and withdraw if necessary, rest, and then start again. Repeat this this several times until you can take it no loinger. The next time you are together do it again until you find you are lasting longer and can gain some control over your orgasm. Do not forget your girl friend while you are gaining this control always be sure that she is satisfied after helping you, or any time for that matter. In the long run you will be a better lover, your relationship will grow and prosper, and you will both be much happier. I have helped a couple of guys this way it can be done and no one will be sorry.

 

[N8Dreams]

Two minutes is way, way too fast. Slow down, change positions often, do different things - oral, manual, etc. sqeezing the head may help some but is not a solution. Practice, practice, practice and you will learn to control yourself. Masturbate bringing yourself to the brink, stop, and start over. Do this as many times as you can, and repeat it until you learn to gain control. Talk to your girl friend about helping you. I am sure she is far from being satisfied with your 2 minutes. When you are in her and feel you are about to orgasm stop and withdraw if necessary, rest, and then start again. Repeat this this several times until you can take it no loinger. The next time you are together do it again until you find you are lasting longer and can gain some control over your orgasm. Do not forget your girl friend while you are gaining this control always be sure that she is satisfied after helping you, or any time for that matter. In the long run you will be a better lover, your relationship will grow and prosper, and you will both be much happier. I have helped a couple of guys this way it can be done and no one will be sorry.

very nice advive. I agree.This is kinda I spoke for training

 

[Mysty61]

very nice advive. I agree.This is kinda I spoke for training

Too many men are not tuned in to their girl friends and do not understand, and too many women just complain rather then trying to explain and help. It can be a lot of fun if people will just let themself go, and learn.

 

[huggs]

Try looking into the works of Mantak Chia - The Multi Orgasmic Man...it has a lot of good information on breathing techniques and other ways to learn to control yourself.

There are also desensitizing creams out there, but, just instinctively, I think it's better to gain control from a mental/muscle perspective than some topical chemical cream. Anyway, do look into Chia's work, I think you'll find it interesting.

Hope this helps,

huggs

 

[N8Dreams]

Try looking into the works of Mantak Chia - The Multi Orgasmic Man...it has a lot of good information on breathing techniques and other ways to learn to control yourself.

There are also desensitizing creams out there, but, just instinctively, I think it's better to gain control from a mental/muscle perspective than some topical chemical cream. Anyway, do look into Chia's work, I think you'll find it interesting.

Hope this helps,

huggs

Tell me more about "Mantak Chia"

 

[Warmslide]

Two minutes is way, way too fast. Slow down, change positions often, do different things - oral, manual, etc. sqeezing the head may help some but is not a solution. Practice, practice, practice and you will learn to control yourself. Masturbate bringing yourself to the brink, stop, and start over. Do this as many times as you can, and repeat it until you learn to gain control. Talk to your girl friend about helping you. I am sure she is far from being satisfied with your 2 minutes. When you are in her and feel you are about to orgasm stop and withdraw if necessary, rest, and then start again. Repeat this this several times until you can take it no loinger. The next time you are together do it again until you find you are lasting longer and can gain some control over your orgasm. Do not forget your girl friend while you are gaining this control always be sure that she is satisfied after helping you, or any time for that matter. In the long run you will be a better lover, your relationship will grow and prosper, and you will both be much happier. I have helped a couple of guys this way it can be done and no one will be sorry.

I think all this is great advice....talking with your GF is a must. I find many of the lusty ladies here talk about how long and hard they want sex...but many women I have known in the past did not feel a need for prolonged intercourse. They said to me...this is not sex..this is chafing....
My point is...find out what your GF needs and tailor what you do to please her. Lots of good advice on this page so far my friend...

 

[N8Dreams]

I think all this is great advice....talking with your GF is a must.

thats it

 

[Tim469]

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[Blastasbird]

MY guy likes to last a long while and he finds that going through all the football teams and players in the UK helps it helps tell his brain that no I dont wanna cum just yet.

He also likes to make me cum first and he slows the pace and lots of positions and way to go you have soon been at it for an hour or so.

When he finally cums he catches up with a bit of sleep then is back for more.

People normally say that after a session on beer men have brewers droop not him, if he wants a long and awsome shag fest he has an afternoon on the beer gets home gets it up and it never goes down and he then lasts from mid afternoon till the following morning always coming back for more and trying to make him cum after beer well I don't have much chance of even making him give in.