Long Hair Fetish

[Tome Reader]

Can anyone who really digs long hair on a woman explain their fascination? I have long hair, it touches the waistband of my jeans. I've been told on numerous occasions by total strangers that I've got lovely hair. These same strangers seem to have no compunctions about touching and feeling my hair, either, (without asking permission.)

I'm just wondering what it is that men like about long hair? Does it represent something -femininity, perhaps? Does the color matter or the condition of the hair?


(Note: I'm talking about long hair on the head, not in the pubic region or under the arms. )

 

[Tome Reader]

~bump~

 

[cantdog]

I've always liked it. Long grey-to-white hair looks good to me, too, but I'm fifty and I dislike false color anyway. The condition of it, luster and whatnot, is a plus, but then, I'm a visual artist. The visual impresses me, I enjoy things that are good to have seen. The woods are nice, too, and mountains. But I don't imagine I have a woods fetish or a mountains fetish.

I don't think it's a fetish, it's not like it's necessary or even primary.

But you're right about the strangers, just the same. Must be something really important to some people.

Touching aside, do you really prefer that no one to whom you have not been introduced talk to you? If they do, should it not include a compliment, or just not include a personal remark?


cantdog

 

[Tome Reader]

Touching aside, do you really prefer that no one to whom you have not been introduced talk to you? If they do, should it not include a compliment, or just not include a personal remark?

I enjoy meeting new people, and of course I enjoy compliments... the touching is what bothers me. I can't imagine walking up to a man and saying "You have such a lovely bulge between your legs," and then carress it with my hand. It's a personal space issue. For some reason people think it's "ok" to touch my hair.

I've heard the same happens to pregnant women; people want to touch their bellies. *shrug* I'm just wondering what the fascination is?

 

[Guest]

I had lush long hair once. I received many compliments but I don't recall anyone, especially a stranger who might have complimented me, touching it. I would find that odd and intrusive.

Ever since I colour-streaked my hair I've been receiving compliments on it, from complete strangers, but no one has tried to touch it.

Perdita

 

[minsue]

I know exactly what you mean, Tome. I've had hair down to my waist, too, and I could never figure out why some people thought it was OK to just reach out and touch it. I think they're the same people that see nothing wrong with putting their hand on the pregnant belly of a woman they don't know.

And, no, I don't think the color or quality of hair have anything to do with it. My hair is a non-descript dishwater blonde and it knots up within minutes after brushing. That didn't seem to deter any of the long hair fetishists.

 

[Tome Reader]

I know exactly what you mean, Tome. I've had hair down to my waist, too, and I could never figure out why some people thought it was OK to just reach out and touch it. I think they're the same people that see nothing wrong with putting their hand on the pregnant belly of a woman they don't know.

And, no, I don't think the color or quality of hair have anything to do with it. My hair is a non-descript dishwater blonde and it knots up within minutes after brushing. That didn't seem to deter any of the long hair fetishists.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has an issue with strangers touching my hair.


Perdita- the compliments are nice, that's true.

 

[English Lady]

I don't think my husband just strokes hair randomly in the streets but he does have a major thing for long curly hair (especially if it's red) it makes him go totally ga-ga when he sees it*L*

 

[Belegon]

I like long hair and I can be fairly aggressive in pursuing an objective but I would never touch without asking. It is a respect issue. Compliments, well yes, but no space invasion until I know you better and am fairly sure it is welcome.

 

[oggbashan]

Look but not touch

I like the look of long hair on young women and I appreciate well-cared for hair but I'd never touch. I know how much work goes into keeping very long hair attractive.

When younger I have had relationships with long-haired girl-friends. Some identified themselves only by their hair and touching or messing with it would cause major stress in the relationship. 'Sorry I can't come tonight - I'm washing my hair' was a real situation because washing, drying and styling it could take three to five hours. Some let me help but I had to do it right.

I wrote a story 'His Bad Hair Day' on hair fetishism.

Touching anyone without their consent is an invasion of privacy. I'd offer a hug if anyone wanted one, but I'd never touch a stranger without their expressed agreement. It is a matter of respect for other people.

Og

Edited for PS: Some people, especially very young children, pull my beard to see if it is real. That and wet trousers is an occupational hazard of being Father Christmas for nursery schools.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

My hair was once down to my butt, but no one ever tried to touch it. Now, it's about even with the bottom of my shoulder blades (it's red and curly too EL, your hubby would go gaga, lol). I get compliments, but no one touches it. Well, except one of the twins. For some odd reason, he gets ahold of my hair and wraps it around the the thumb he sucks. Makes me wonder if he's going to grow up with a hair fetish, LOL!

 

[Tome Reader]

Re: Look but not touch

When younger I have had relationships with long-haired girl-friends. Some identified themselves only by their hair and touching or messing with it would cause major stress in the relationship. 'Sorry I can't come tonight - I'm washing my hair' was a real situation because washing, drying and styling it could take three to five hours. Some let me help but I had to do it right.

Wow. Three to five hours?! It takes me an hour to get ready in the morning, that's including showering, washing hair, getting breakfast and putting on make-up, etc.

Now if I'm dressing up for a special occasoin, and doing something fancy with my hair, it may take an extra half hour... but three? Five?! No way! I'm not sure I'd have the patience for it! I've had short hair and I've had long hair ... I'd definitely say that having long hair requires less work than short hair. There's just so much more I can do with it!

I promise not to pull your beard if you don't pull my hair!

 

[Tome Reader]

I don't think my husband just strokes hair randomly in the streets but he does have a major thing for long curly hair (especially if it's red) it makes him go totally ga-ga when he sees it*L*

I've noticed a lot of men seem to have a red hair fetish!

 

[Tome Reader]

I like long hair and I can be fairly aggressive in pursuing an objective but I would never touch without asking. It is a respect issue. Compliments, well yes, but no space invasion until I know you better and am fairly sure it is welcome.

 

[Tome Reader]

My hair was once down to my butt, but no one ever tried to touch it. Now, it's about even with the bottom of my shoulder blades (it's red and curly too EL, your hubby would go gaga, lol). I get compliments, but no one touches it. Well, except one of the twins. For some odd reason, he gets ahold of my hair and wraps it around the the thumb he sucks. Makes me wonder if he's going to grow up with a hair fetish, LOL!

I have nieces who love to play "beauty salon" with my hair. It's like I'm a life-size Barbie (but without the impossible-to-attain figure! LOL!)

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

Re: Re: Look but not touch

Wow. Three to five hours?! <snip>

, it may take an extra half hour... but three? Five?! No way! I'm not sure I'd have the patience for it! <snip>

LOL, I think the advantage to having natural curly hair is I don't have to do much with it. I put mousse on it and then blow dry it using my fingers to style the top. That's it. The length of time is just however long it takes me to blow dry it (and I stop before it's totally dry, otherwise, it frizzes.)

 

[cloudy]

My hair takes forever to dry. I can't dry it with a blowdryer because 1) the muscles in my arms start shaking with fatigue, and 2) with long hair, especially mine, it's very dry and blowdrying makes that worse.

I just let mine dry by itself, and it'll still be damp 8 hours later.

 

[Tome Reader]

Re: Re: Re: Look but not touch

LOL, I think the advantage to having natural curly hair is I don't have to do much with it. I put mousse on it and then blow dry it using my fingers to style the top. That's it. The length of time is just however long it takes me to blow dry it (and I stop before it's totally dry, otherwise, it frizzes.)

Ohhhhh, now you're just showing off! (And making me jealous, too! Naturally curly hair?! Grrrr!)

 

[Tome Reader]

My hair takes forever to dry. I can't dry it with a blowdryer because 1) the muscles in my arms start shaking with fatigue, and 2) with long hair, especially mine, it's very dry and blowdrying makes that worse.

I just let mine dry by itself, and it'll still be damp 8 hours later.

If I don't use the blow-dryer, it takes HOURS to dry.

I found if I flip the hair over my head and bend over, it hurts less on the arms. I do know what you're talking about, though. If I'm braiding, and it's taking a while, my arms start to shake.

 

[cloudy]

If I don't use the blow-dryer, it takes HOURS to dry.

I found if I flip the hair over my head and bend over, it hurts less on the arms. I do know what you're talking about, though. If I'm braiding, and it's taking a while, my arms start to shake.

When your hair is wavy, turning your head over like that to dry your hair is asking for disaster.

Chaka Khan, anyone?

okay, so it's not quite that bad, but you get the idea

 

[Tome Reader]

Re: Cloudy

Hey I've heard the afro hairstyle is making a comeback!

 

[cloudy]

Re: Re: Cloudy

Hey I've heard the afro hairstyle is making a comeback!

Not for this nappy-headed woman. I braid mine every day and forget about it. Voila'! No bad hair days.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Look but not touch

Ohhhhh, now you're just showing off! (And making me jealous, too! Naturally curly hair?! Grrrr!)


I found if I flip the hair over my head and bend over, it hurts less on the arms. I do know what you're talking about, though. If I'm braiding, and it's taking a while, my arms start to shake.

Yep... the weird thing though is it didn't get *really* curly until I was in high school. Before that, it was just wavy.

I do the flipping hair over my head, bending over thing to dry mine. To keep my hair from frizzing, I *have* to use mousse, so I have to dry it, otherwise, it's got that wet look and is hard and crunchy from the stuff instead of soft. Like I said, I don't completely dry it, so it only takes me about 20 mins or so. I find it dries faster using the flipping over motion as well. I think the air from the dryer gets to it better that way.

 

[oggbashan]

Re: Re: Look but not touch

Wow. Three to five hours?! It takes me an hour to get ready in the morning, that's including showering, washing hair, getting breakfast and putting on make-up, etc.

Now if I'm dressing up for a special occasoin, and doing something fancy with my hair, it may take an extra half hour... but three? Five?! No way! I'm not sure I'd have the patience for it! I've had short hair and I've had long hair ... I'd definitely say that having long hair requires less work than short hair. There's just so much more I can do with it!

I promise not to pull your beard if you don't pull my hair!

You must make allowances for my extreme age.

Hair care products forty+ years ago were much less user-friendly than they are now. Even a shampoo took several rinses to remove the residue and if it was not done properly the hair would be matted.

Hair spray was 'lacquer' and made hair very stiff and immobile. You can see it on videos of 60s pop singers such as Dusty Springfield. Washing that out took at least three washes and an hour before the hair was lacquer-free.

Hair dryers were rare except in hair salons. Hand held ones were very fierce and had to be used very carefully. Get too close to the hair and it would catch fire.

My mother's generation were delighted with easy-care bobbed hair in the 1920s. Their mothers had had long hair that they had to brush 100 times each side every night and morning and all they had to wash it with was - soap. That soap was coarse and very damaging to hair.

Og

 

[Guest]

I like the way long hair looks on a woman. I like the way it can frame or partialy obscure the face (mysterious). Dark hair is even better. The way sunlight reflect off it. The way it blows in the breeze. It's just facinating to watch.

I like running my fingers through it. Pulling it gently aside to kiss her cheek. Feeling on my own cheek as I kiss up the back of her neck. I like warm the feel of it when the sun warms it.

I like the way it feels when it drags across my chest, or my face, or across my thighs.

I love long hair. Curly or straight, light or dark.

It's just.....

Aaahh....