Living With Intention

[Wild_Honey_66]

For anyone with a desire to live their life with purpose and forethought.

Sort of like Slow Food, but on a broader scale.

Slow Life.

 

[Hornblende]

And, of course, Slow Sex. Mostly...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

And, of course, Slow Sex. Mostly...

Ha! Naturally.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I've recently been having some health issues, and experiencing a significant decline in my physical 'resources' as a result. Thinking about how my condition is going to affect me long-term, i realize that I'm going to have to get tough with myself and be more proactive about planning ahead, rather than flying by the seat of my pants. (Boooo )

Adjustments need to be made both in lifestyle and in thinking. Which needs can i meet myself? Which will require outside help? How can i be as independent as possible, and also acquire the help that i need? How do i deal with the changes adequately, without allowing them to take over my life?

In the past, I've gone through this process of adjustment for other reasons: financial concerns, time constraints, etc. The motivating factors can be varied, but the vision is similar: a more effective, productive, and rewarding life utilizing fewer resources.

My pragmatic side mutters, It's about damn time (so does my older daughter ), while my creative side shivers with anticipation at the challenge.

What challenges are you facing, or come through already? What are your current needs, or what have you found to be helpful in the past?

Come and visit with us! Ask questions, offer suggestions, tell us your stories. There is a time for being an island, and there is a time for reaching out. Think of this thread as a place to check in and refuel before getting out there and kicking some ass again.

Intentionally, of course.

 

[rubydlite]

For anyone with a desire to live their life with purpose and forethought.

Sort of like Slow Food, but on a broader scale.

Slow Life.

Love living the slow life! After my divorce and move back home I picked a small seaside town and an 'unimportant' job. We have food in our tummies...A roof over our head...and a quality of life we haven't had in the past. I shop at the farmers market...we live in a 'plastic free community' , i can walk my Littles to school...am surrounded by crafters and 'slow movement' people. My life is happy.

 

[rubydlite]

I've recently been having some health issues, and experiencing a significant decline in my physical 'resources' as a result. Thinking about how my condition is going to affect me long-term, i realize that I'm going to have to get tough with myself and be more proactive about planning ahead, rather than flying by the seat of my pants. (Boooo )

Adjustments need to be made both in lifestyle and in thinking. Which needs can i meet myself? Which will require outside help? How can i be as independent as possible, and also acquire the help that i need? How do i deal with the changes adequately, without allowing them to take over my life?

In the past, I've gone through this process of adjustment for other reasons: financial concerns, time constraints, etc. The motivating factors can be varied, but the vision is similar: a more effective, productive, and rewarding life utilizing fewer resources.

My pragmatic side mutters, It's about damn time (so does my older daughter ), while my creative side shivers with anticipation at the challenge.

What challenges are you facing, or come through already? What are your current needs, or what have you found to be helpful in the past?

Come and visit with us! Ask questions, offer suggestions, tell us your stories. There is a time for being an island, and there is a time for reaching out. Think of this thread as a place to check in and refuel before getting out there and kicking some ass again.

Intentionally, of course.

Also....hugs xoxo

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Love living the slow life! After my divorce and move back home I picked a small seaside town and an 'unimportant' job. We have food in our tummies...A roof over our head...and a quality of life we haven't had in the past. I shop at the farmers market...we live in a 'plastic free community' , i can walk my Littles to school...am surrounded by crafters and 'slow movement' people. My life is happy.

Ruby!!

That sounds perfect! I can't wait to hear more.

Also....hugs xoxo

((( Happily hugs you back. Gently )))

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

The timing with my thing is ironic. After a long marital estrangement, i am finally in my own place, attending to some of the overdue needs of my children, and making plans to return to uni next fall.

I would normally be discouraged, but lately my attitude has been, FUCKING BRING IT ON, and i am more amused than anything else.

My current to-do list for the immediate future:

**Get a handle on time management (not one of my strengths ): menus, shopping, activity planning, etc.
**Address immediate physical needs: Negotiating stairs, how to get out of the bathtub on my own.
**Plans for the near future: acquire crock pot, learn tai chi, schedule a massage, inform employer of changes in my availability.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I've recently been having some health issues, and experiencing a significant decline in my physical 'resources' as a result . . . The motivating factors can be varied, but the vision is similar: a more effective, productive, and rewarding life utilizing fewer resources.

My pragmatic side mutters, It's about damn time (so does my older daughter ), while my creative side shivers with anticipation at the challenge.

WH, you sound like you're in good spirits and ready to fight! Whatever your health issues (none of my business) they are about to get their asses kicked by you.
I'm glad you have your daughter there to provide good advice, she sounds very wise.

You know that if you ever need emotional support there are only about a thousand people here for you at any given time--so you got that going for you, which is nice. (Caddyshack reference).

Wishing you a "more effective, productive and rewarding life" you can do it--you will.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

This is perhaps the most honest and real thread on Lit. Bless you, Honey!

 

[barefootgirl69]

The most important part of growing and moving forward from my past has been to allow people 'inside'. To get to know me. Even open myself up to possible pain. Once again, I am learning to trust people with my thoughts and how I truly feel, instead of clamming up and walking/running away.

But, I'm learning. I'm worth it!

 

[Jordan90]

What a lovely and wise thread!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Nice to see you all here!

bfg

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

I'm relatively new here, but you impress me as a very down-to-earth person.

I won't pretend to understand your situation.

Allow me to be frank.

I'm dealing with a challenge myself. Part of it comes from age; I'll be sixty at the end of the month. Part of it comes from not putting my health ahead of my career. My doctor tells me that I can't work 50-60 hours a week anymore.

I've thought about this, and I think what I need is to be a little selfish. If I make myself the priority, I might just find a way out of this. If I keep using "I gotta work" as an excuse, there's no hope.

Be a little selfish.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

this does look like it could be a fun thread

sometimes you do need to take things slowly or life will wizz right past you.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Nice to see you all here!

bfg

*curtsies*

My queen.

I'm relatively new here, but you impress me as a very down-to-earth person.

I won't pretend to understand your situation.

Allow me to be frank.

I'm dealing with a challenge myself. Part of it comes from age; I'll be sixty at the end of the month. Part of it comes from not putting my health ahead of my career. My doctor tells me that I can't work 50-60 hours a week anymore.

I've thought about this, and I think what I need is to be a little selfish. If I make myself the priority, I might just find a way out of this. If I keep using "I gotta work" as an excuse, there's no hope.

Be a little selfish.

I think many of us fail to do just that. We never make ourselves a priority, without realizing that we can't continue indefinitely without doing so at some point.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Honneeeyyyyy... I'm hooommmmee

One day, I decided that I refuse to be a victim of my own life.. that it isn't called selfish when it's about self-care.. and that I'm worth at least as much of my attention as all the people who get a majority of my time. I love to give of myself.. and I can only do that if I make sure I have enough leftover to give.

The other part for me has been actively engaging in gratitude. I was the kind of person who thought.. if you're doing your job.. you don't need me to provide special acknowledgement. The shift I have realized is that I do not show gratitude for other people. I do it to actively remind myself of the many blessings that come into my life.

Other intentions come and go.. but those are the big two.

And.. I'll send you a crock pot.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I had to turtle. . I was a little overwhelmed with your responses.

I never want to be the center of attention, i was just trying to get the ball rolling!

 

[tallladiesman]

Hi Honey

Sorry to hear about your health issues. If you ever need to talk you know where I am.
As for me, at 40 years of age I sat in a room with a doctor who told me I would be dead before I was 50, cancer, not a good day to put it mildly. Next year I will be 50 and cancer and that doctor can go fuck themselves.
However staring at your own mortality while extremely difficult does give you a very different perspective. It kicks you out of your complacency. I'm not saying it was easy and it took me a long time to come to terms with it but I think I have come out the other end a better person with more perspective on life

Hugs Honey
Thinking of you

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

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[barefootgirl69]

Hi Honey

Sorry to hear about your health issues. If you ever need to talk you know where I am.
As for me, at 40 years of age I sat in a room with a doctor who told me I would be dead before I was 50, cancer, not a good day to put it mildly. Next year I will be 50 and cancer and that doctor can go fuck themselves.
However staring at your own mortality while extremely difficult does give you a very different perspective. It kicks you out of your complacency. I'm not saying it was easy and it took me a long time to come to terms with it but I think I have come out the other end a better person with more perspective on life

Hugs Honey
Thinking of you

*crawls up in your lap to give you a big hug*

my, you're tall!

 

[tallladiesman]

*crawls up in your lap to give you a big hug*

my, you're tall!

Hugs
Thanks BFG
My you are short

 

[barefootgirl69]

Hugs
Thanks BFG
My you are short

yes, but worth the effort to bend over for a kiss, right?

Oh, wait! Here I am on your lap.
*gets cosy*

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

It's important to take your own advice. Yesterday,when push came to shove, and I had to choose between work and life, I knocked under and stayed late.

I'll say it again: you have to be a little selfish! Maybe a lot selfish...