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[Endless_Night]

So where do you rank the importance of lit? Is it growing or waning, what would make you come around more often, what would make you walk away?

Lit importance ebbs and flows. If I'm enjoying myself, relaxing, having a good time, I'm here more often. If there are people I enjoying interacting with, I'm here more often. If my stress levels are high, and I need diversion, I'm here more often.

If real life gets to busy, or if boredom sets in, I tend to wander off.

I like DayMaker's answer.

Lit is all about the people here - they make or break the experience.

However, my life is what determines how often I pop into Lit. For me, it ranks as a hobby. The time I typically spend on Lit is what I would have spent reading, doing a puzzle, etc. I would much rather spend time on Lit than browsing social media. I also may check into Lit, while out and about or at work...when I need a smile. I always check over my shoulder first though, to make sure no one is peeking at my phone.

 

[Lord Pmann]

You know you fuckers come here to see me and that's why you come (<-----clever wording on my part).

I have some people here with whom I really enjoy conversing. Others I just enjoy pestering. Nevertheless, Lit takes backseat to real life. However, the friends I have here are real friends and, even when I'm busy, I try to make it around to say hello. Though, it doesn't always work.

 

[Aquagal]

Hello.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Hello.

It's about time you came back to this thread. Damn. You've been absent.

 

[ChainedUp]

Damn, had a great idea and then noticed a thread devoted to it. Lol

So instead, today's topic: when you make a mistake in life do you do all you can to correct it or live with the results?

 

[Trekka]

So instead, today's topic: when you make a mistake in life do you do all you can to correct it or live with the results?

I make amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

 

[Little_Sister]

Damn, had a great idea and then noticed a thread devoted to it. Lol

So instead, today's topic: when you make a mistake in life do you do all you can to correct it or live with the results?

Depends on the mistake.

Was it an over cooked dinner or forgetting that we are out of toilet paper when I was at the grocery store? One I live with, one I get back in the car and correct.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I try my best to fix things. It's really what I want to have happen. But sometimes, you can't fix things and the results are there. Forever.

 

[dutchrain]

Damn, had a great idea and then noticed a thread devoted to it. Lol

So instead, today's topic: when you make a mistake in life do you do all you can to correct it or live with the results?

I try to correct it and live with the results as good as I am able to.

Depends on the mistake.

Was it an over cooked dinner or forgetting that we are out of toilet paper when I was at the grocery store? One I live with, one I get back in the car and correct.

I would check if there were paper towels, paper napkins or tissues before I went back to he store to get the toilet paper.

 

[Suz_anne]

I regert nothing.

http://i1.mirror.co.uk/incoming/article5447010.ece/ALTERNATES/s615/PAY-Misspelled-tattoos.jpg

 

[ChainedUp]

I regert nothing.

http://i1.mirror.co.uk/incoming/article5447010.ece/ALTERNATES/s615/PAY-Misspelled-tattoos.jpg

Tomato tomatoe potato potatoe

 

[Endless_Night]

Any chance of that v being some kind of...typo? Or did someone intentionally put that across their sacrum?

http://i1.mirror.co.uk/incoming/article5447010.ece/ALTERNATES/s615/PAY-Misspelled-tattoos.jpg

 

[rubydlite]

I always used to try to make things right, but have learnt to give a lot less shits about that these days.

It's a therapeutic thing !!! I've recently taught myself this too.

 

[ChainedUp]

For the most part it seems that the lot that post here are fairly pragmatic when it gets right down to it. Not too whimsical, heads not deep in our own asses. While the group may be a little off the rails at times, it's a group that knows who you are.

But if someone was to walk up to you and describe your personality or actions in a way that that seemed out of character for who you think you are, would you take stock in it as much as you would if it agreed with your own self assessment?

 

[rubydlite]

For the most part it seems that the lot that post here are fairly pragmatic when it gets right down to it. Not too whimsical, heads not deep in our own asses. While the group may be a little off the rails at times, it's a group that knows who you are.

But if someone was to walk up to you and describe your personality or actions in a way that that seemed out of character for who you think you are, would you take stock in it as much as you would if it agreed with your own self assessment?

It depends. ..are they someone who lurks...has 1 post and has a douche complex? Or are they a longtime friend? The first I wouldn't hold much stock in...the second and I'd take a deep hard look.
However, I do recognize the value of impartial opinions as well.

 

[SmileyGirl]

For the most part it seems that the lot that post here are fairly pragmatic when it gets right down to it. Not too whimsical, heads not deep in our own asses. While the group may be a little off the rails at times, it's a group that knows who you are.

But if someone was to walk up to you and describe your personality or actions in a way that that seemed out of character for who you think you are, would you take stock in it as much as you would if it agreed with your own self assessment?

I suppose it would depend whether their opinion mattered to me. If it was something I disagreed on it might play on my mind but I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

If it was someone I knew well then yes like Ruby I would look deep because their opinion would matter to me.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I regert nothing.

http://i1.mirror.co.uk/incoming/article5447010.ece/ALTERNATES/s615/PAY-Misspelled-tattoos.jpg

Maybe she's diabetic?

 

[DarkSimian]

I have had some new friends here make some very startling (but fairly accurate) statements about who I am, based on my posts. So I have had to reassess some of the things I do, and say, in light of this new information. Hopefully, I can learn from it and grow into a better person

 

[ChainedUp]

Bonus addendum, what if it were someone you respected but really didn't know that well. What if it was a professional suggestion vs a personal one.

Where's all the people pleasers today? LOL

 

[Paul_Chance]

<slips into his people pleaser suit>

I take all feedback and consider it on it's merits. If it's constructive criticism or a good observation, then I would put it into my self-image and either ultimately reject it or adjust as I saw fit. It has just been my experience that the small observations are the ones that matter the most in the long run. The big observations have a tendency to be more about the person making the observation.

Live life as a continual feedback loop, it helps you adjust to the world that is, as opposed to the world as you imagine it is.

 

[Endless_Night]

I examine all input, unless it’s someone who obviously dislikes me and is going for mean spirited, petty or passive aggressive. In that case…meh, hardly constructive or useful.

I love this sentence :

Live life as a continual feedback loop, it helps you adjust to the world that is, as opposed to the world as you imagine it is.

There are so many who will entertain little or nothing that doesn’t bolster their own egocentric view of themselves or the world. As they age they become more narrow-minded, more inflexible, more judgmental, more intolerant. Instead of embracing any type of personal growth they shrink inward. Not pretty.

 

[Endless_Night]

Bonus addendum, what if it were someone you respected but really didn't know that well. What if it was a professional suggestion vs a personal one.

Where's all the people pleasers today? LOL

Someone I respected? Yes. Whether I knew them well or not.

Professional would depend on my view of their expertise in the field. Or on how they handled people, if the suggestion concerned interpersonal behavior.

 

[DarkSimian]

Bonus addendum, what if it were someone you respected but really didn't know that well. What if it was a professional suggestion vs a personal one.

Where's all the people pleasers today? LOL

I am usually a people pleaser....but that is one of the insights I have recently begun to reexamine.....maybe I should do what's best for me sometimes, and let others fend for themselves.....or not?

 

[Lord Pmann]

For the most part it seems that the lot that post here are fairly pragmatic when it gets right down to it. Not too whimsical, heads not deep in our own asses. While the group may be a little off the rails at times, it's a group that knows who you are.

But if someone was to walk up to you and describe your personality or actions in a way that that seemed out of character for who you think you are, would you take stock in it as much as you would if it agreed with your own self assessment?

I'm usually pretty self aware. I'm aware when I'm being a dick. It is rare that I'm told I'm behaving in a manner that surprises me. If the person is reasonable, logical or has beautiful tits, I might take it under consideration. If it's someone who just has tiny feelings and can't handle criticism or profound statements like I issue.

Bonus addendum, what if it were someone you respected but really didn't know that well. What if it was a professional suggestion vs a personal one.

Where's all the people pleasers today? LOL

You all know I'm a people pleaser. And I am just here to make you happy. If someone I respected said it, I would consider it with greater weight. Certain people have better opinions than others.

 

[ChainedUp]

I'm usually pretty self aware. If someone I respected said it, I would consider it with greater weight. Certain people have better opinions than others.

Since you are so aware and you respect me immensely, I know now whatever I shall say welcomed with open arms...