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[SMNaughtywife]

I'm a mix on the two.
My comfort level and desire to leave it has a lot to do with my decision. DESIRE usually appearing bold and fearless, but then COMFORT pops in and says "boo!" and clears the table. They dance, pushing and pulling creating those butterflies I crave.
I've taken the plunge a time or two but the execution was rushed and ended in an epic failure and disappointment. So with some things, I know the plunge route doesn't work so hot for me.
Baby steps, slow and steady wins the race is a sure fire success, I love this idea! But I get a bit impatient at times. But knowing it's best not to hurry the process, I wait and wait knowing the end result will be just as I wanted.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I have the patience (and desperation) of a 40 year old virgin. I'm pretty disciplined and if I see a payoff, I'll wait. With that said, I usually get my way.

 

[ChainedUp]

Fate. Things happen all around us and too us, and sometimes the way things play out it seems as if certain things were destined to happen. Some people like to say "it's in God's hands", others will say "that's the way the cookie crumbles", while yet others believe that no matter what, things are going to turn out "the way they are supposed to". All of these imply we have no real control on how things turn out. For me, I think it's a way to not take responsibility "there's nothing I could have done". So, are you the Master/Mistress of your own destiny or will fate take care of things for you?

 

[TongueLust]

I believe that God is in control.

 

[ChainedUp]

Copies as the question shouldn't sit at the bottoms of a page.

Fate. Things happen all around us and too us, and sometimes the way things play out it seems as if certain things were destined to happen. Some people like to say "it's in God's hands", others will say "that's the way the cookie crumbles", while yet others believe that no matter what, things are going to turn out "the way they are supposed to". All of these imply we have no real control on how things turn out. For me, I think it's a way to not take responsibility "there's nothing I could have done". So, are you the Master/Mistress of your own destiny or will fate take care of things for you?

 

[cowslinger64]

Copies as the question shouldn't sit at the bottoms of a page.

I don't believe as many christians do, that things are pre-ordained. I believe life is random, events happen based on many factors and can change based on timing, the people involved....Just too many variables to say it could be predetermined.

I do believe that people come in and out of our lives. My belief is that God sends them to serve a purpose. Sometimes you never know what that is, sometimes it's positive and sometimes not so much. But they are all important in some way. This is a good quote I've read before and believe it rings true...



People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't believe that everything is just predetermined either. I do believe in God and I do believe that God can and maybe does intervene sometimes. However, I don't think god is controlling people and their actions. I think so much of what happens to us is related to what we do with what we are given.

There is an illusionist and mentalist guy from the UK named Darren Brown. I may have spelt that first name wrong, but whatever. Anyway, he has a TV show special about "luck" and how it's perceived. I thought it was a brilliant illustration he did. He got volunteers who considered themselves unlucky and some who considered themselves lucky. He had his people follow them throughout the day and he set up situations where they could have "lucky" situations. Some of the examples were finding a £50 note on the sidewalk. Or a person asks for help and then when the subject assists them, they get a reward. Several situations like this were set up. Those who considered themselves unlucky never siezed any of those opportunities. Those who considered themselves lucky capitalized on them. It was interesting to see that what some people considered "luck" or "fate" is really determined by our own actions and being aware of our surroundings.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I will keep this atypically brief for me..
Two words: "free will"

God gave this to us and, as a result, He expects us to fuck up.

He might know what choices we will be faced with, but because of "free will" I do not believe He can know which decisions we will make until we make them.

Either that, or the notion of free will goes completely completely down the toilet, and we might as well resolve ourselves to the idea that heaven really is limited by the number of souls that can enter.

Too early for philosophical discourse. I need more coffee..l

 

[Mayberrygirl]

Fate. Things happen all around us and too us, and sometimes the way things play out it seems as if certain things were destined to happen. Some people like to say "it's in God's hands", others will say "that's the way the cookie crumbles", while yet others believe that no matter what, things are going to turn out "the way they are supposed to". All of these imply we have no real control on how things turn out. For me, I think it's a way to not take responsibility "there's nothing I could have done". So, are you the Master/Mistress of your own destiny or will fate take care of things for you?

There are two things that I have complete responsibility for. My feelings and how I react to/in a given situation. The rest is out of my hands. I am not responsible nor do I have control of anything beyond that. May sound like a cop out, but I have found this to be a truth FOR ME.

 

[MisterScott]

Never take yourself TOO seriously...

 

[Scout44]

There are two things that I have complete responsibility for. My feelings and how I react to/in a given situation. The rest is out of my hands. I am not responsible nor do I have control of anything beyond that. May sound like a cop out, but I have found this to be a truth FOR ME.

I don't think this is a cop out at all. I feel the same way. I believe that what happens to us does not define us, but how we choose to react and deal with those things shapes the person we are.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Life is a series of random events delivered by chance on a normal distribution curve. Our minds do a wonderful job of convincing us that there is some rhyme or reason. There isn't. Inside the series of random events are choices. What we make of those choices are what makes us. The illusion of free will or destiny is created entirely in our mind. Life is shaped by chance and choice, in equal parts.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

killjoy...^^^...lol

 

[Paul_Chance]

LOL - cookies for everyone. And they're entirely random cookies - like reaching into the cookie jar blindfolded. Sometimes you get chocolate chip. Sometimes you get pralines and dick.

(Apologies to Wayne's World for stealing a great line.)

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

LOL - cookies for everyone. And they're entirely random cookies - like reaching into the cookie jar blindfolded. Sometimes you get chocolate chip. Sometimes you get pralines and dick.

(Apologies to Wayne's World for stealing a great line.)

cookies and dick..
Not a bad combination..

 

[Lord Pmann]

LOL - cookies for everyone. And they're entirely random cookies - like reaching into the cookie jar blindfolded. Sometimes you get chocolate chip. Sometimes you get pralines and dick.

(Apologies to Wayne's World for stealing a great line.)

No. We will take those cookies and divide them evenly to make sure everyone gets equal praline and equal dick and equal chocolate chip. It's fair.

 

[ChainedUp]

Some mornings you wake up and think "not today". Then you start listing all the things in your head that won't get done if you just lay in bed all day and suddenly your feet swing to floor and your day begins. What is that little switch inside your brain that gets flipped. Is it responsibility, is it duty, it might be guilt? Some days it's just one, other days all three if not more? But some people don't have that switch or at least not as big. They are okay with leaving it unflipped. Does that make them bad, have they have none of the qualities listed above? What motivates you, not for the big stuff, but for the little stuff, the mundane, the things that have to get done no matter what?

 

[FelicityJohns]

Some mornings you wake up and think "not today". Then you start listing all the things in your head that won't get done if you just lay in bed all day and suddenly your feet swing to floor and your day begins. What is that little switch inside your brain that gets flipped. Is it responsibility, is it duty, it might be guilt? Some days it's just one, other days all three if not more? But some people don't have that switch or at least not as big. They are okay with leaving it unflipped. Does that make them bad, have they have none of the qualities listed above? What motivates you, not for the big stuff, but for the little stuff, the mundane, the things that have to get done no matter what?

This is a great question.

To which I have no definitive answer.

There are some days when I can't tackle the things I need to do, but for me, it's a place of apathy. And I hate being in that place. I think it must be a chemical imbalance, because it's like swimming through mud to get out of it.

Fortunately, those days are pretty rare anymore. Rarer when I keep myself moving forward, when I exercise and get the good endorphines flowing, when I reach out and engage with others. What those days do for me is make me appreciate my ability to get up and deal with shit. And the sense of accomplishment I have at the end of a productive day is the reward; so much better than the derisive self talk that comes from NOT getting it done.

That sense of accomplishment and better view of self is my motivation

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

If my feet come swinging out of the bed...Either my alarm clock didn't go off, or I heard gun shots.

I take responsibility very seriously, though. If I say I'm going to do something, or I feel it my duty to get something done, it's a guaranteed lock to the finish.

However, if I do not have that feeling of ownership? I'm not nearly as motivated and whatever the task is..be it folding laundry or saving the world....it could easily sit on the back burner for a while

 

[BradBigBrain]

I'm a fallen Catholic...it's guilt.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

sometimes I stay up until 2 in the morning so that I can stay in bed a little while longer on a day off. I know it doesn't make sense. The early part of the day is for everything you absolutely must do.. if you get that out of the way early, the rest of the day is just to enjoy. The delight of getting it done the night before is just too hard to resist.. usually... but
Sometimes I sit on the couch and my feet never swing. In fact, they barely dangle.

 

[ViciousTease]

Some mornings you wake up and think "not today". Then you start listing all the things in your head that won't get done if you just lay in bed all day and suddenly your feet swing to floor and your day begins. What is that little switch inside your brain that gets flipped. Is it responsibility, is it duty, it might be guilt? Some days it's just one, other days all three if not more? But some people don't have that switch or at least not as big. They are okay with leaving it unflipped. Does that make them bad, have they have none of the qualities listed above? What motivates you, not for the big stuff, but for the little stuff, the mundane, the things that have to get done no matter what?

My feet hit the floor for the same reason every morning, regardless of work day or weekend. If I don't let the dogs out, I'll be cleaning up the mess.

 

[Scout44]

My feet hit the floor for the same reason every morning, regardless of work day or weekend. If I don't let the dogs out, I'll be cleaning up the mess.

I know this one well. It's more of a groan and a stretch than a swing though. I do like to get the things I need to do out of the way so I can do the things I want to do though and to answer the OP..I think it's guilt, self imposed but guilt just the same.

 

[RacyRedLips]

Some mornings you wake up and think "not today". Then you start listing all the things in your head that won't get done if you just lay in bed all day and suddenly your feet swing to floor and your day begins. What is that little switch inside your brain that gets flipped. Is it responsibility, is it duty, it might be guilt? Some days it's just one, other days all three if not more? But some people don't have that switch or at least not as big. They are okay with leaving it unflipped. Does that make them bad, have they have none of the qualities listed above? What motivates you, not for the big stuff, but for the little stuff, the mundane, the things that have to get done no matter what?

Spending extra time in bed, sorting out your day....there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't make one less responsible. In fact, I'm envious.

My switch? Puppy girl kisses!....between 5 - 5:08 am everyday, including weekends, without fail. And -- the smell of freshly brewed coffee wafting upstairs from the kitchen.

Meaningful tasks take priority but the little stuff is just as important to me as the big. Not that I don't have lazy days or that everyday flows like clockwork, I procrastinate at times, but it's my preference to get things squared away as soon as humanly possible so I can enjoy the free moments I have all to myself afterward. An uncluttered mind is my motivation.

I take responsibility very seriously, though. If I say I'm going to do something, or I feel it my duty to get something done, it's a guaranteed lock to the finish.

cookies and dick..
Not a bad combination..

*nods in agreement* .... to both statements.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Today, it's 3:00 and I'm still in bed. I haven't done this in years and it's wonderful. I normally have to get up and do shit. Not out of guilt, but out of necessity. My schedule is tighter than a gnat's arsehole, so it's what motivates me to do shit. If I get behind in one area, it just cripples me in others.