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[Endless_Night]

Deal Breakers?

Failure to communicate heads the list. Followed closely by dishonesty, and I’m not talking about the little subterfuges that smooth daily life or protect your privacy online. Whiney comes in down the road at third.

I know, the last one is odd, just a personal idiosyncrasy. I’ve dated a couple of extra tall men, 6’6”. They both were whiney. I don’t seem to find large men that whine attractive.

Applicable to online as well as real life, I would think, mostly.

Relationships are all about give and take. Fantasy relationships are those were there's an immediate perfect and complete match of personalities, likes, dislikes, kinks...etc but we aren't on Fantasy Island, and our relationships have compromises built in. But what is your deal breaker, either online or in RL? What won't you put up with?

 

[Endless_Night]

Dear Lit Emergency Broadcast Service.

I have no idea what you two are talking about. Which I'm going to take as a good thing....

 

[Emmanuelle83]

Deal breakers for me include a complete and utter disregard for one's own health (smoking, gross overeating, refusal to exercise) and dishonesty. I don't have big feet, but I've kicked some big guys to the curb over that second one especially.

 

[dutchrain]

I interrupt this thrread for a Litiquette emergency annoucement.

There is never a need to post to a thread that you PM'd someone. There's a little thing in the upper right hand corner that tells us when a message comes in and some get an email notification. Announcing PM sent does nothing but inform the rest of us that you sent someone a message. Feel free to mark your territory in another fashion.

This concludes the emergency message.

Thank you for the LEBS (Lit Emergency Broadcast Service)

I've seen that before, and roll my eyes.

Some have said they do it in case the OP is "new" and not cut PMs on yet.

To that I say, post a reminder to cut PMs on...not "PM sent"

It's the equivalent of pissing on a tree..

*joins Aphrodite in the eye rolling*

Someone once had a word for that behavior, I think it was called cock-blocking, since mostly it are men posting it, especially on threads like: "hot 18yo blond virgin wants a daddy" started by persons called bigbustedredhair, hotesttits, drippingwet or lovescocks.

Deal-breakers: Nothing to add to those posted already.

 

[PaulieJay]

Yup only one but Ive thought about coming up with a alter ego just to shake things up because this place can get clicqueish mundane & plain unfun but arent we in the era of self-branding & I guess that would ruin my brand smh LOL

 

[Miasorrow]

I interrupt this thrread for a Litiquette emergency annoucement.

There is never a need to post to a thread that you PM'd someone. There's a little thing in the upper right hand corner that tells us when a message comes in and some get an email notification. Announcing PM sent does nothing but inform the rest of us that you sent someone a message. Feel free to mark your territory in another fashion.

This concludes the emergency message.

*pressing the "like" button*
If there was one.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Relationships are all about give and take. Fantasy relationships are those were there's an immediate perfect and complete match of personalities, likes, dislikes, kinks...etc but we aren't on Fantasy Island, and our relationships have compromises built in. But what is your deal breaker, either online or in RL? What won't you put up with?

Relationships *are* all about give and take. I don't discern much between online or RL.

The only difference online in my opinion is the manner in which we communicate with each other. However, everything else remains the same.

While I can list all the things that I expect in a relationship, but we're all adults, we can all pretty much agree that we all want those good things. What are deal breakers for me? Inconsideration of others and their feelings. I can't stand people's entitlement attitudes. The "yes, I can, but how dare you? - and everything else that comes along with that vein of thought.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Relationships are all about give and take. Fantasy relationships are those were there's an immediate perfect and complete match of personalities, likes, dislikes, kinks...etc but we aren't on Fantasy Island, and our relationships have compromises built in. But what is your deal breaker, either online or in RL? What won't you put up with?

Dressing like a Hipster.
Listening to Florida Georgia Line.
Wearing TOMS.
Smoking (especially in real life... Online I guess it doesn't matter. It's just not my thing).

A bad sense of humour is the worst thing. Ugh. Nothing is more of a turn off for me than that. Except a penis. I take it back. A penis is a deal breaker.

 

[Little_Sister]

Deal breakers...

People into pain or who want to hurt others- No way, no how. Keep anything that hurts to yourself please and thank you
Getting me confused with someone else
Having multiple 'playthings' that you flaunt- gross IRL and online
Neediness/whine-iness I am more likely to respond to PMs that make me laugh than ones begging for my attention. Those often get ignored.
Metromen- IRL Really don't want my man getting a mani-pedi with me.
Men who have no body hair- Not into the 13 yr old boy look.

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy Monday!

Because the medium so heavily relies upon written communication we tend to put a very high value on grammar when chatting at Lit. Complete sentences and good grammar are often cited in bios and on thread posts as a requirement for further engagement. But do we put too much emphasis on grammar? Should the occasional typo/autocorrect/mistake be over-looked? Whether someone has decent literary skills is often identified within a body of work not a mistake in a sentence. I think we should all strive for excellent grammar skills but the grammar Natzis should stay away, don't you?

 

[SimplyMsT]

Happy Monday!

Because the medium so heavily relies upon written communication we tend to put a very high value on grammar when chatting at Lit. Complete sentences and good grammar are often cited in bios and on thread posts as a requirement for further engagement. But do we put too much emphasis on grammar? Should the occasional typo/autocorrect/mistake be over-looked? Whether someone has decent literary skills is often identified within a body of work not a mistake in a sentence. I think we should all strive for excellent grammar skills but the grammar Natzis should stay away, don't you?

I agree 100% ...

However, if you're going to send a pm and use nothing but text message lingo then you're more than likely to NOT get a response from me.

That tells me that you are not and did not take the time to send a proper pm, especially if you have never interacted with me on any thread. To me it shows laziness and that you're really not interested and looking for one thing only ...

Just my two cents.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Happy Monday!

Because the medium so heavily relies upon written communication we tend to put a very high value on grammar when chatting at Lit. Complete sentences and good grammar are often cited in bios and on thread posts as a requirement for further engagement. But do we put too much emphasis on grammar? Should the occasional typo/autocorrect/mistake be over-looked? Whether someone has decent literary skills is often identified within a body of work not a mistake in a sentence. I think we should all strive for excellent grammar skills but the grammar Natzis should stay away, don't you?

It's spelt Nazi. (See what I did there?)

I think that being coherent and doing our best to spell properly and write with precision is needed, but I don't think it should be too strict. Many of us write from our phones. And autocorrect can make an ass of us.

I think there is a balance between desiring a coherent message and demanding perfection. I don't like text speak or all caps. But misspelt words here and there don't bother me. It's the Internet. I'm surprised most of you can even read.

 

[ChainedUp]

It's spelt Nazi. (See what I did there?)

Thanks pmann, I was wondering who was going to bite on that sadly there's no prize.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Thanks pmann, I was wondering who was going to bite on that sadly there's no prize.

Yes yes. I know it's another spelling. But it was too tasty to resist (that's what she said).

 

[Endless_Night]

Agreed. 100%.

But then I'm a moderate grammarian. Sloppy sentence structure, an addiction to the emphasis comma, and I toss adjectives around like confetti. It's true. But at least I do it in nice boots.

Still, reasonably complete sentences are nice, as is some capitalization and punctuation. Needing code breaking skills to decipher a one sentence post can be pretty aggravating.

As far as text speak. No.

Just No.

 

[dutchrain]

Happy Monday!

Because the medium so heavily relies upon written communication we tend to put a very high value on grammar when chatting at Lit. Complete sentences and good grammar are often cited in bios and on thread posts as a requirement for further engagement. But do we put too much emphasis on grammar? Should the occasional typo/autocorrect/mistake be over-looked? Whether someone has decent literary skills is often identified within a body of work not a mistake in a sentence. I think we should all strive for excellent grammar skills but the grammar Natzis should stay away, don't you?

I don't need perfect grammar, spelling and punctuation, but I do highly appreciate it. I also am very glad if someone points out the difference between lose and loose; quite, quit and quiet, and such or asks which one I meant. To autocorrect they all are spelled right, but the meaning of a sentence changes quite a lot if I intended to use the "other" quiet .

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't need perfect grammar, spelling and punctuation, but I do highly appreciate it. I also am very glad if someone points out the difference between lose and loose; quite, quit and quiet, and such or asks which one I meant. To autocorrect they all are spelled right, but the meaning of a sentence changes quite a lot if I intended to use the "other" quiet .

Yes. Punctuation can be vital. I said this example to someone the other day:

Help Jack off the horse.

OR

help jack off the horse.

Those are two very different commands...

 

[Lord Pmann]

Agreed. 100%.

But then I'm a moderate grammarian. Sloppy sentence structure, an addiction to the emphasis comma, and I toss adjectives around like confetti. It's true. But at least I do it in nice boots.

Did you says booTs?

 

[Endless_Night]

Did you says booTs?

Well, I meant to....

Darn it!

 

[Little_Sister]

Pmann... You are in my head jacking off a horse. Thanks for that mental image really.

To the question...

I am the queen of typos so they don't bother me unless I don't understand what you are trying to say but even then they don't bother me per-say but I will ask for clarification.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Pmann... You are in my head jacking off a horse. Thanks for that mental image really.

I've been known for my mental imagery.

 

[Little_Sister]

I've been known for my mental imagery.

I think you should sing us a song about it now.

 

[BlueEyedGent]

I will admit that I cringe if I see a word that is misspelled or if a paragraph is very difficult to understand.

Having said that , I can overlook it and carry on.
However, why do people still continue to spell masturbation with an e??????(masterbation) now THAT is where I draw the line.

 

[SmileyGirl]

Happy Monday!

Because the medium so heavily relies upon written communication we tend to put a very high value on grammar when chatting at Lit. Complete sentences and good grammar are often cited in bios and on thread posts as a requirement for further engagement. But do we put too much emphasis on grammar? Should the occasional typo/autocorrect/mistake be over-looked? Whether someone has decent literary skills is often identified within a body of work not a mistake in a sentence. I think we should all strive for excellent grammar skills but the grammar Natzis should stay away, don't you?

I am not a fan of belittling people because of grammar mistakes. Sometimes there is a reason why people misspell They just don't shout about it

I would never pick someone up on their spelling or grammar as I'm one of those people above ^^
I try my best. I can't stand text speak there is no excuse for that but I don't think grammar should
define you as a person.

 

[tolyk]

Happy Monday!

Because the medium so heavily relies upon written communication we tend to put a very high value on grammar when chatting at Lit. Complete sentences and good grammar are often cited in bios and on thread posts as a requirement for further engagement. But do we put too much emphasis on grammar? Should the occasional typo/autocorrect/mistake be over-looked? Whether someone has decent literary skills is often identified within a body of work not a mistake in a sentence. I think we should all strive for excellent grammar skills but the grammar Natzis should stay away, don't you?

I try to adhere to decent grammar. I don't expect the same of others. I automatically auto correct the mistakes in my head anyway. It does irk me when I find errors in publications. Especially if those publications have been professionally edited. I read through those as well, but they always make me pause for a moment.

When I started chatting on the Internet, I was more than a bit of a night owl, so I tended to be chatting with people from the other side of the world. English wasn't always their first language, or if it was there were a lot of regional differences. If I didn't understand some slang, or word usage, I asked for clarification. If it was just broken English, I tended to be able to comprehend and carry on a conversation.

I agree about text speak though. I type from my phone a lot, and there's just no reason for it. Auto complete, despite it's more than occasional screw up, makes everyone able to type things out. L8r is actually more difficult for me to type than later...