Litiquette3

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Have we all recovered from yesterday's wild ride?
Yesterday we started off with the BS detector. Today lets discuss the self absorbed. You know the type, that person who wants to say whatever is on their mind regardless of topic, context, or flow. I don't think they're attention whores, per se, but undoubtedly cousins. So what do we do with them, let them monopolize, ignore them, or just go with the flow?

*positions self-absorbed ass for a kiss*



I like to read the answers. I choose not to provide my own as often. Even though opinions get elicited on many threads, not just this one, it seems that the some prefer the discussion and debate over just taking opinions at face value.

I used to prefer the discussion and debate, but not so much anymore.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Wow! Just wow!

I Google "rainbow shitting unicorn" to find an image, and guess what else I find?

Urban Dictionary:

A Rainbow-Shitting Unicorn, is the gay equivalent of a Panther.
A Rainbow-Shitting Unicorn is when a younger male, chases older men.

http://i1273.photobucket.com/albums/y417/all_4_love/unicorn_zpsa77dd3e7.png

Don't feel bad..
I told a friend he should get a gummy bear tattoo, completely joking, of course, because he has such a sweet tooth..

Just go google "gummy bear" urban dictionary... Lol smh

 

[Miasorrow]

Have we all recovered from yesterday's wild ride?
Yesterday we started off with the BS detector. Today lets discuss the self absorbed. You know the type, that person who wants to say whatever is on their mind regardless of topic, context, or flow. I don't think they're attention whores, per se, but undoubtedly cousins. So what do we do with them, let them monopolize, ignore them, or just go with the flow?

I think that if you read better between the lines you will see an element of sadness in a every bid for attention. A cry for help. But of course we do not care enough to look for the real story under it neither we should. We have learned to keep our struggles private and so we feel uncomfortable to see someone's pain getting attention.

Pitying them though implies we are allowing for them to be the sad mess they are, and forgive their exhibitionism.

Trying to stop them from monopolizing and they get that all- invaded-feeling like they didn't ask for this! Do not be fooled they always come back.

One could just look away. Why do we care anyway ? But who wouldn’t mind posts that talk about favorite positions, oral sex, and orgasms?

I would say they are karma whores or would go back to my initial reaction and put them among bullshitters.

 

[dutchrain]

Have we all recovered from yesterday's wild ride?
Yesterday we started off with the BS detector. Today lets discuss the self absorbed. You know the type, that person who wants to say whatever is on their mind regardless of topic, context, or flow. I don't think they're attention whores, per se, but undoubtedly cousins. So what do we do with them, let them monopolize, ignore them, or just go with the flow?

http://i1273.photobucket.com/albums/y417/all_4_love/followthemasses_zpsbe75058e.jpg

This,

Aren’t we all self-absorbed after a fashion? I mean, we all want what we want. *shrug*

As far as the derailments go, it depends. Sometimes I like to join in, if I know the people or find the topic amusing, particularly if it occurs on a thread set up for silliness. It’s fun, and relaxing. If I don’t know the players or the derail lacks appeal, I usually wander off, though I may check in occasionally to see what direction things have taken. It can be annoying, not to mention rude, when “playing” posters take over a thread started by someone seriously looking for answers to a particular question.

So, I guess my answer varies, dependent on the situation.

And this.
It really depends on the situation.

 

[SweetSam42]

I dunno, I like dark and depressing. Throw in brooding and occasionally moody. Makings of a great gothic romantic hero, I'd say.

 

[multitalentman]

patadox

Have we all recovered from yesterday's wild ride?
Yesterday we started off with the BS detector. Today lets discuss the self absorbed. You know the type, that person who wants to say whatever is on their mind regardless of topic, context, or flow. I don't think they're attention whores, per se, but undoubtedly cousins. So what do we do with them, let them monopolize, ignore them, or just go with the flow?

I am having a difficult time with this one.
At face value, I am guilty of just dropping a comment, mostly out of context because I find some humor in what I read and try to twist it around to get a response from someone. The goal is usually to make someone smile or laugh. But I enjoy the response, so that's my "reward" if you will for doing it. For the most part, I try to be respectful of the thread owner and the guidelines established within. If that puts me in the sister to an attention whore category, so be it.
The paradox for me comes from how to properly view what is actually happening regarding the public posting of what is essentially a conversation taking place. For that matter this applies to all of lit. If we were standing around the proverbial water cooler at work talking, and someone came up out of the blue and just blurted something out, it would be considered bad form and rude. If the same rules applied here, there would never be any new posters in a thread. Or at best very few.
Then there would be the question of who has the right to talk about anything other than the topic. If its anyone other than the host, and not everyone, then there would be the resemblance of favoritism and or cliqueiness. The hardest thing for me to see is where that line is drawn. It seems to be different for everyone depending on situation and context.

 

[ChainedUp]

The etiquette of posting in Lit is really pretty loose and easy, like most the people here

But there are unwritten rules of posting that are generally followed but not always. So tell me fine folks of Lit, what unwritten posting rule irritates you the most when you see it broken. What rule needs to be "unwritten" down. For example:

When two people are having an exchange in a thread, when is appropriate to jump in, if at all?

 

[multitalentman]

The etiquette of posting in Lit is really pretty loose and easy, like most the people here

But there are unwritten rules of posting that are generally followed but not always. So tell me fine folks of Lit, what unwritten posting rule irritates you the most when you see it broken. What rule needs to be "unwritten" down. For example:

When two people are having an exchange in a thread, when is appropriate to jump in, if at all?

The only one that I wish I had realized is the one about certain threads/boards have "families" if you will attached to them. Some of those "families" that have been together for many years are not
very accepting of random newcomers posting or starting threads w/o establishing a rapport first. Those Individuals tend to make their disapproval known quickly and brutally. (yes, I am speaking from experience).


Regarding your example however, If I have an interest at all, I feel that anytime is fair game time. If the posters don't like it, they shouldn't be doing it in public. That's what pm's are for.

 

[SmileyGirl]

The etiquette of posting in Lit is really pretty loose and easy, like most the people here

But there are unwritten rules of posting that are generally followed but not always. So tell me fine folks of Lit, what unwritten posting rule irritates you the most when you see it broken. What rule needs to be "unwritten" down. For example:

When two people are having an exchange in a thread, when is appropriate to jump in, if at all?

Couples who take over threads and make it uncomfortable for others to post!!
Take it off the boards eeuugghhh!
That behaviour does my head in.
People who take over threads screaming "meee..meee..look at meeeee" and people
who continue to make pointless after pointless threads in a lame attempt for attention.

There will always be cliques but those cliques need to be mindful and not
be rude to others. That behaviour is uncalled for.

 

[Endless_Night]

The etiquette of posting in Lit is really pretty loose and easy, like most the people here

But there are unwritten rules of posting that are generally followed but not always. So tell me fine folks of Lit, what unwritten posting rule irritates you the most when you see it broken. What rule needs to be "unwritten" down. For example:

When two people are having an exchange in a thread, when is appropriate to jump in, if at all?

I have a sense of deja vu…but, okay.

Since the threads are public, I’d think adding your two cents at any time would be appropriate.

One of the most difficult things on the board, as a noob, is getting the nerve to jump into conversations. Other posters so often ignore the posts. In the past, I’ve left threads where I felt my contribution was continually ignored. Since being on the board for a while, and developing friendships, I see how easy it is to unintentionally ignore new posters. Particularly if you’re “playing” on the threads and get on a roll, interacting quickly with friends. Still, as FakeaSmile says, it’s incredibly rude, and contributes to an exclusionary environment. Boring. I do my, no doubt inadequate, best to acknowledge posters who seem to be getting ignored.

As far as couples who PDA all over each other on the boards…. I, honestly, don’t really recall seeing much of that. Maybe I hang out on the wrong threads. Or maybe I’ve just misplaced those mental files.

 

[parker77]

Couples who take over threads and make it uncomfortable for others to post!!
Take it off the boards eeuugghhh!
That behaviour does my head in.
People who take over threads screaming "meee..meee..look at meeeee" and people
who continue to make pointless after pointless threads in a lame attempt for attention.

There will always be cliques but those cliques need to be mindful and not
be rude to others. That behaviour is uncalled for.

i like what FakeaSmile is saying and agree completely. pretty close to my sentiments. i also tire of people who comment on everything as if the conversation isn't complete without their voice.

 

[Little_Sister]

The etiquette of posting in Lit is really pretty loose and easy, like most the people here

Speak for yourself.

When two people are having an exchange in a thread, when is appropriate to jump in, if at all?

Regarding your example however, If I have an interest at all, I feel that anytime is fair game time. If the posters don't like it, they shouldn't be doing it in public. That's what pm's are for.

I totally agree!!

 

[multitalentman]

Speak for yourself.

You don't think your really pretty?



I totally agree!!

.....

 

[SweetSam42]

I'm not a fan of when people skip over you and carry on as if you never posted. I think it's akin to someone entering the room at a party and just being ignored. I mean, say hello at least.

 

[multitalentman]

I'm not a fan of when people skip over you and carry on as if you never posted. I think it's akin to someone entering the room at a party and just being ignored. I mean, say hello at least.

That's a slippery slope. That could turn into a lot of posts real quick if you don't have some kind of boundaries established. It seems like it could be for someone who posts in a lot of different threads. * acknowledging that you have a pic thread and you probably practice what you have expressed*

 

[SweetSam42]

That's a slippery slope. That could turn into a lot of posts real quick if you don't have some kind of boundaries established. It seems like it could be for someone who posts in a lot of different threads. * acknowledging that you have a pic thread and you probably practice what you have expressed*

I suppose I mean when a few people are posting back and forth, someone new chimes in, and is ignored, while the rest carry on as if he/she wasn't there. It just seems unwelcoming and rude.

 

[xxxpaulzzz]

I suppose I mean when a few people are posting back and forth, someone new chimes in, and is ignored, while the rest carry on as if he/she wasn't there. It just seems unwelcoming and rude.

what a lovely attitude.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Being an open forum, public and all that jazz, I'd think if someone doesn't want to be interrupted by onlookers, then they can a) completely ignore the intrusion or b)move your little soiree over the private messages.

If however, you are the 'ignoree"...I'd say don't take it too personally because, again, public forum... What can you do?

I agree that it depends on the type of conversation and the content with what they "rules" should be..

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think, as it is a discussion forum, you should feel free to post whenever. It's not a private discussion.

 

[ChainedUp]

Relationships are all about give and take. Fantasy relationships are those were there's an immediate perfect and complete match of personalities, likes, dislikes, kinks...etc but we aren't on Fantasy Island, and our relationships have compromises built in. But what is your deal breaker, either online or in RL? What won't you put up with?

 

[Thandi]

Relationships are all about give and take. Fantasy relationships are those were there's an immediate perfect and complete match of personalities, likes, dislikes, kinks...etc but we aren't on Fantasy Island, and our relationships have compromises built in. But what is your deal breaker, either online or in RL? What won't you put up with?

Any of the "isms"....racism, sexism..etc.
Hatred. Cruelty. Being an Asstwat.

I could go on..but I think you get the gist of it.

 

[SimplyMsT]

Relationships are all about give and take. Fantasy relationships are those were there's an immediate perfect and complete match of personalities, likes, dislikes, kinks...etc but we aren't on Fantasy Island, and our relationships have compromises built in. But what is your deal breaker, either online or in RL? What won't you put up with?

Deal breakers on and off line ...

Being married
Arrogance
No sense of humor

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Ditto to Thandi
Dishonesty
A penchant for psychoanalysis of other's behaviors

 

[ChainedUp]

I interrupt this thrread for a Litiquette emergency annoucement.

There is never a need to post to a thread that you PM'd someone. There's a little thing in the upper right hand corner that tells us when a message comes in and some get an email notification. Announcing PM sent does nothing but inform the rest of us that you sent someone a message. Feel free to mark your territory in another fashion.

This concludes the emergency message.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I interrupt this thrread for a Litiquette emergency annoucement.

There is never a need to post to a thread that you PM'd someone. There's a little thing in the upper right hand corner that tells us when a message comes in and some get an email notification. Announcing PM sent does nothing but inform the rest of us that you sent someone a message. Feel free to mark your territory in another fashion.

This concludes the emergency message.

Thank you for the LEBS (Lit Emergency Broadcast Service)

I've seen that before, and roll my eyes.

Some have said they do it in case the OP is "new" and not cut PMs on yet.

To that I say, post a reminder to cut PMs on...not "PM sent"

It's the equivalent of pissing on a tree..