Litiquette3

[SweetSam42]

How you define a word is obviously paramount to its use and the message you are trying to communicate. Often times there are words (usually adjectives) that have even more impact to your message. How often do you feel the need to further explain, define a word or your message to make sure the content is received as intended? Or do you assume that everyone understands and put the burden to the the reader?

I'm bringing this baby back around to the topic of the day. Feel free to carry on with food and nakedness though, please.

There are some words that just have different meanings for different people. I'm going to hone in on a specific word - "love" - and say that it means so many different things to so many different people. I'm quite conservative in my use of the word, and others are much more liberal. I'm not sure I fully understand what someone means when he says he's in love with someone else, if he uses the word a lot. So, in that case, I think a longer conversation about the feeling/verb would be useful.

Words are powerful and important, and I choose mine carefully.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I'm bringing this baby back around to the topic of the day. Feel free to carry on with food and nakedness though, please.

There are some words that just have different meanings for different people. I'm going to hone in on a specific word - "love" - and say that it means so many different things to so many different people. I'm quite conservative in my use of the word, and others are much more liberal. I'm not sure I fully understand what someone means when he says he's in love with someone else, if he uses the word a lot. So, in that case, I think a longer conversation about the feeling/verb would be useful.

Words are powerful and important, and I choose mine carefully.

I choose mine carefully as well..

You are simply yummy....

 

[SweetSam42]

I choose mine carefully as well..

You are simply yummy....

You flirtin' and stalkin'?

 

[37_ttej]

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A few more caption options:

Woman on left: "Jeez, Georgia, when you said, 'Come on over for a bit of sausage' I wasn't expecting fruit salad!"

Woman in middle: "There's something fishy about these melon balls."

Woman on left: "I loove your extensions, darling!"

Woman on left: "Could I have a little yoghurt on top?"

Woman in middle (thinks): 'That's it, keep the drink for yourself, bitch!'

Woman in middle (thinks): Mains had better be spit roast cause this fruit sure as hell is bland."

Woman on right (thinks): 'Fuck, I forgot the pineapple rings for the ring toss."

Woman on left: "I'm rather full right now. Do you think I could get a doggie boy ... er, bag?"

Woman in middle (thinks): "Please tell me that fucker didn't just fart on my strawberry!"

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One could say that Jett has spent faaaar too long looking at this picture.
To clarify, I was studying the presentation of the fruit.
Personally, I think she's done it the hard way.

 

[LinusRules]

I'm bringing this baby back around to the topic of the day. Feel free to carry on with food and nakedness though, please.

There are some words that just have different meanings for different people. I'm going to hone in on a specific word - "love" - and say that it means so many different things to so many different people. I'm quite conservative in my use of the word, and others are much more liberal. I'm not sure I fully understand what someone means when he says he's in love with someone else, if he uses the word a lot. So, in that case, I think a longer conversation about the feeling/verb would be useful.

Words are powerful and important, and I choose mine carefully.

A lot of it is in the context of how it is used. Some of that context is lost in the written word because you can't hear the voice. For example, if I write, "I love your avatar," it suggests one thing. If I wrote, "I LOVE YOUR AVATAR," it suggests I am a drooling pervert. Each says the same thing but people draw different messages from them. The important part is that the writer may have not meant anything different between the two and it was the receiver who misinterpreted what was being said.

Uh, that might have been a stream of consciousness. I think we agree. About what I forget.

 

[SweetSam42]

A lot of it is in the context of how it is used. Some of that context is lost in the written word because you can't hear the voice. For example, if I write, "I love your avatar," it suggests one thing. If I wrote, "I LOVE YOUR AVATAR," it suggests I am a drooling pervert. Each says the same thing but people draw different messages from them. The important part is that the writer may have not meant anything different between the two and it was the receiver who misinterpreted what was being said.

Uh, that might have been a stream of consciousness. I think we agree. About what I forget.

Or maybe the writer doesn't know how to turn off caps lock. So many possibilities.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

You flirtin' and stalkin'?

Of course I am......

Did I mention how your posts and av makes my pants shrink?

 

[LinusRules]

Or maybe the writer doesn't know how to turn off caps lock. So many possibilities.

I had a boss that did that. I could never tell when he was yelling at me or not so I just had to assume he was angry.

 

[LinusRules]

I'm bringing this baby back around to the topic of the day. Feel free to carry on with food and nakedness though, please.

There are some words that just have different meanings for different people. I'm going to hone in on a specific word - "love" - and say that it means so many different things to so many different people. I'm quite conservative in my use of the word, and others are much more liberal. I'm not sure I fully understand what someone means when he says he's in love with someone else, if he uses the word a lot. So, in that case, I think a longer conversation about the feeling/verb would be useful.

Words are powerful and important, and I choose mine carefully.

Have you ever told someone you loved them and they misunderstood the sense in which you were using it?

 

[LinusRules]

I'm going to agree with this word. When I use the word love I mean it.

What I have found, as a somewhat new Christian, is that Christians use the word love as often as they say hello, and it's bothersome to me. It's so flippant and offhand that it's meaning is lost abd it's become to me just another word and whose to say who they really love and who they just... "love."

In terms of other language and communication, I tend to just say what's in my brain and then wonder how it got so lost in translation. I should be more measured but I'm just not. I'm not a writer, I'm a talker. I struggle here to get what I want across at times and it's probably another reason why I often feel like I don't belong here.

Looks like you do ok writing what you're thinking. I personally see "love" as a word that can be used in many ways, some ordinary and some meaningful. Usually when it's being used in a meaningful way it's clear as to its intent, at least to me.

Ps, I have seen a lot of stuff on Lit that makes me say "wow." Not in a bad way but in a way that I was taken to a place I never knew existed. You should never feel as though you don't belong simply because it's hard to put your thoughts into words. Everyone struggles with it.

 

[LinusRules]

I'm going to agree with this word. When I use the word love I mean it.

What I have found, as a somewhat new Christian, is that Christians use the word love as often as they say hello, and it's bothersome to me. It's so flippant and offhand that it's meaning is lost abd it's become to me just another word and whose to say who they really love and who they just... "love."

In terms of other language and communication, I tend to just say what's in my brain and then wonder how it got so lost in translation. I should be more measured but I'm just not. I'm not a writer, I'm a talker. I struggle here to get what I want across at times and it's probably another reason why I often feel like I don't belong here.

Hey, I just saw you had over 11,000 posts. You should be counseling me!

 

[SweetSam42]

Of course I am......

Did I mention how your posts and av makes my pants shrink?

Lol. Don't hijack!

Have you ever told someone you loved them and they misunderstood the sense in which you were using it?

Not me. But then, I'm the conservative user of the word. I hardly ever utter it.

Unless it's to family or very close friends. Then I use it liberally, and they know exactly what I mean when I say it.

 

[LinusRules]

Not me. But then, I'm the conservative user of the word. I hardly ever utter it.

Unless it's to family or very close friends. Then I use it liberally, and they know exactly what I mean when I say it.

So you use it in many different ways, just to those close to you. And they always understand what you mean.

Maybe we're the same. At work I never say "I love that guy (or girl)" even though the people I would be saying it to know I am not in love with them. I think because it suggests an affiliation that is stronger than one you would have on a personal level, which wouldn't be the case. Though I know others that do use the word liberally and I tend to dismiss it. If I were to use it, it would probably catch people off guard.

 

[dutchrain]

How you define a word is obviously paramount to its use and the message you are trying to communicate. Often times there are words (usually adjectives) that have even more impact to your message. How often do you feel the need to further explain, define a word or your message to make sure the content is received as intended? Or do you assume that everyone understands and put the burden to the the reader?

I try to make my words as clear as I am able to. But sometimes that habit makes my sentences overlong because I add many explanations in brackets or between commas. Which might make my message much less clear than I intend.

"Love" has been mentioned, "hate" is another word many people use almost randomly. "I hate cauliflower", "I hate it when people interrupt me", "I hate that man". I think it is the easy way out to use words like "love" or "hate" if you just mean to say you like someone or something, are fond of someone or something or if you prefer something over something else, detest to be interrupted, dislike a person.

It might be possible someone really hates cauliflower, but if someone simply means to say they prefer broccoli over cauliflower, it waters the meaning of the word "hate" down. Overusing a word kind of inflates it. Some people add one, two or three "really's" to make a distinction between dislike and hate (or like and love).

If someone asks me how I meant something, or what I meant, I'll happily explain.
If I feel the reaction a person has on something I wrote (or said) shows said person misinterpreted my words, I'll happily explain, and/or apologize.

Now I notice I wrote "misinterpret" which probably means I tend to put the responsibility for understanding my words with the reader. I mean, if I try to be as clear as possible, I might expect from a reader to read what I wrote and not put meanings to words I didn't write. To explain what I mean: If I write: "I really don't like a carrot cake, in my opinion vegetables should be eaten with a roast and not in something sweet", someone, maybe a vegetarian, could stumble over the word "roast" and respond: "Vegetables are much healthier than meat!!!" (seems I feel vegetarians are people who overuse exclamation marks) which shows to me said person didn't get the point I was making.

Duh, I'd better go to bed and get some sleep instead of keeping on rambling ...

 

[ChainedUp]

Looking for a neck massage after the whiplash I endured from reading yesterday's posts

Sometimes as I peruse Lit I get a sense of "look at me, notice me, validate me, please" I don't get it from the Am Pics board, those are people that enjoy putting themselves out there, and enjoy the compliments but I never feel like they're waving the attention flag. But when I read through the playground, I see it a lot. Sometimes it's posts, sometimes it's threads but it's there. Now I understand we all post for some level of attention but what I'm speaking about seems more intense, almost desperate. Am I just seeing things?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Looking for a neck massage after the whiplash I endured from reading yesterday's posts

Sometimes as I peruse Lit I get a sense of "look at me, notice me, validate me, please" I don't get it from the Am Pics board, those are people that enjoy putting themselves out there, and enjoy the compliments but I never feel like they're waving the attention flag. But when I read through the playground, I see it a lot. Sometimes it's posts, sometimes it's threads but it's there. Now I understand we all post for some level of attention but what I'm speaking about seems more intense, almost desperate. Am I just seeing things?

Agreed, to some extent. I think a lot of people "act" on here, and aren't themselves, which is a bid for attention in its own right. I also think a lot of people honestly don't know what to do or say, and they want to participate, so they just do the best they can. This can come across as forced. There are genuine people here, though the ones that are truly at ease do seem kind of few and far between, taking in the entire board as a whole. So... Yes and no

 

[dutchrain]

Looking for a neck massage after the whiplash I endured from reading yesterday's posts

Sometimes as I peruse Lit I get a sense of "look at me, notice me, validate me, please" I don't get it from the Am Pics board, those are people that enjoy putting themselves out there, and enjoy the compliments but I never feel like they're waving the attention flag. But when I read through the playground, I see it a lot. Sometimes it's posts, sometimes it's threads but it's there. Now I understand we all post for some level of attention but what I'm speaking about seems more intense, almost desperate. Am I just seeing things?

Most people need to be appraised (in different grades) by other people for them to thrive. I too. But some people need attention, positive or negative, simply to feel alive it seems to me.

I don't only see it on the Playground, I see it in many other places as well. Last time I was enjoying a tea in a restaurant with a friend a person we both know came in, she only waved at us but without talking about it, my friend and I both finished our teas, gathered our bags and got up.

The wave was too exorbitant, but the thing which made us look at each other and finish our tea was the gaze with which the room was scanned before the hand rose to wave at us, it was just too scanning.

 

[dutchrain]

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A Happy 2015 Everyone!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Looking for a neck massage after the whiplash I endured from reading yesterday's posts

Sometimes as I peruse Lit I get a sense of "look at me, notice me, validate me, please" I don't get it from the Am Pics board, those are people that enjoy putting themselves out there, and enjoy the compliments but I never feel like they're waving the attention flag. But when I read through the playground, I see it a lot. Sometimes it's posts, sometimes it's threads but it's there. Now I understand we all post for some level of attention but what I'm speaking about seems more intense, almost desperate. Am I just seeing things?

I think there is an element of this. I think it's on the Am Pics board as well as the Playground. I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing. It can be, if the person is a twat. But I think most of us come here to get noticed in some way or another. So as long as a person isn't being a pain in the arse, it doesn't really bother me. I have a couple pet peeves though, but those are just mine.

I think there is often a feigned sense of humility regarding a lot of the things posted. Like in Am Pics... "I'm shy, but here's a pic of a PVC pipe up my pussy."

 

[SweetSam42]

I do see it, and am sure I am guilty of it myself, and not just on my AmPics thread (and I fully admit to waving that attention flag over there - hard. Lol).

Some people need more attention than others, of course, for myriad reasons I'm sure. I try not to roll my eyes when I see it here - we're all here for our own reasons.

Sometimes I can't help but be irritated, but if they're not trying to hurt another person's feelings, or use someone's thread or posts to show off a connection or otherwise stroke their own egos, or have another nefarious reason for posting that way, then I try to just move along.

 

[rubydlite]

Looking for a neck massage after the whiplash I endured from reading yesterday's posts

Sometimes as I peruse Lit I get a sense of "look at me, notice me, validate me, please" I don't get it from the Am Pics board, those are people that enjoy putting themselves out there, and enjoy the compliments but I never feel like they're waving the attention flag. But when I read through the playground, I see it a lot. Sometimes it's posts, sometimes it's threads but it's there. Now I understand we all post for some level of attention but what I'm speaking about seems more intense, almost desperate. Am I just seeing things?

Heh...we(i) totally are waving the attention flag but it feels like the right place for us picture takers.

I think there is often a feigned sense of humility regarding a lot of the things posted. Like in Am Pics... "I'm shy, but here's a pic of a PVC pipe up my pussy."

*puts away pipe*
Damn. ...i was so excited about that photo shoot.....but kind of nervous

I do see it, and am sure I am guilty of it myself, and not just on my AmPics thread (and I fully admit to waving that attention flag over there - hard. Lol).

Some people need more attention than others, of course, for myriad reasons I'm sure. I try not to roll my eyes when I see it here - we're all here for our own reasons.

Sometimes I can't help but be irritated, but if they're not trying to hurt another person's feelings, or use someone's thread or posts to show off a connection or otherwise stroke their own egos, or have another nefarious reason for posting that way, then I try to just move along.

like Sam said.....if they don't have bad intentions I try to move on. Everyone needs an outlet. ..to be heard...to be noticed once in awhile.

I knew a girl once....mid 30s. ...great heart......but so often she was the loudest most obnoxious person in a crowd and she was always becoming the person who fit best with the crowd of the day.....but I still liked her. Her dad and her brother both comitted suicide....her first husband was a dick of dickish proportions and she was a single mom. She had no idea of her identity and this is how she struggled to find herself. The more she surrounded herself with strong friends the more she tapered off and became more natural.

The eeyore is my biggest pet peeve....not the person who is really having a shitty day or a bad week....but the person who constantly self depreciates in hopes (or atleast what it looks like to me) of getting feedback to the contrary....

 

[tiny_tits]

Looking for a neck massage after the whiplash I endured from reading yesterday's posts

Sometimes as I peruse Lit I get a sense of "look at me, notice me, validate me, please" I don't get it from the Am Pics board, those are people that enjoy putting themselves out there, and enjoy the compliments but I never feel like they're waving the attention flag. But when I read through the playground, I see it a lot. Sometimes it's posts, sometimes it's threads but it's there. Now I understand we all post for some level of attention but what I'm speaking about seems more intense, almost desperate. Am I just seeing things?

That's pathetic.

I would never stoop that low.









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Look at me!

Notice me!

Validate me!



Please!!!

 

[All_4_Love]

I think there is often a feigned sense of humility regarding a lot of the things posted. Like in Am Pics... "I'm shy, but here's a pic of a PVC pipe up my pussy."

Pmann, sometimes you just leave me at a loss for words...

Of course, this is because I'm too busy spitting out my coffee, or Red Bull, this morning, to be exact.

Whether we choose to admit it or keep it hidden, the desire for validation is one of the strongest needs known to man, all men and women, not just a chosen “desperate” few. Perhaps, like anything that is suppressed, that need only grows stronger and begins to present itself in more significant and noticeable ways.

For those of us who are aware enough to acknowledge that we have this need, it becomes less significant in our desire to fulfill it. We become more able to fulfill it for ourselves versus seeking it out through others.

That said, receiving validation from another is still an intoxicating experience, no matter what level of awareness we come from. I believe there are very few human beings on this planet that can prevent themselves from feeling the euphoric effects of validation, or in some cases, even flattery.

 

[All_4_Love]

I almost forgot!

Happy New Year, everyone! Drink and be merry! And, don't forget the words...

hehe

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[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I almost forgot!

Happy New Year, everyone! Drink and be merry! And, don't forget the words...

hehe

http://i1273.photobucket.com/albums/y417/all_4_love/auldlangzyne_zps6a554457.jpg

lmao..