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[DesEsseintes]

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What drug you out of the GB? Searching for bruised ass avs?

Nice to see a fellow GBer here, but beware of the repercussions of being called a Playgrounder.

Eyer's latest mutation doesn't seem to pay that card quite so much.

 

[All_4_Love]

And...

This morning's headlines say that NASA may be confirming flowing water on Mars!

 

[Endless_Night]

It's Monday and like it or not we're back in the rhythm of things. This place has a definite M - F cadence and Sat & Sun seem more of a free-wheeling affair. Both have their attraction. I tend to be more of a rhythm/cadence guy. But I certainly do enjoy the uncharted waters of a spontaneous situation. Some things are better planned, somethings are better with spontaneity. Aren't they?

I am a rhythm and cadence girl. Too much so sometimes. A steady, dependable flow soothes me, makes me feel safe. It’s a precarious balance though, and it’s easy to fall into a stagnate place. That can lead to a sense of restlessness. If I begin to feel trapped in my self-imposed confines, it may result in an impulsive leap, sometimes good, sometimes disastrous, always unexpected.

Yes and yes...as long as I'm not the one doing any of the planning. *shudders*

This^. So. Very. Much. I get so incredibly tired of making decisions. All the decisions. Do I make it nearly impossible to wrest control from me? Of course, but that’s not really the point now is it.

 

[All_4_Love]

This^. So. Very. Much. I get so incredibly tired of making decisions. All the decisions. Do I make it nearly impossible to wrest control from me? Of course, but that’s not really the point now is it.

That's too funny. I'm incredibly terrible at making decisions because it takes energy that I don't naturally generate on my own. I make it nearly impossible to "make" me make a decision and I know it frustrates those around me. I can do physical labor all day long. Ask me what's for dinner and I'm frickin' exhausted from thinking about what to cook! My SO got so mad at me once in the midst of a disagreement and with the most frustration, looked at me and said "just make a f***ing decision for once!" I felt like total crap afterward...

 

[Endless_Night]

That's too funny. I'm incredibly terrible at making decisions because it takes energy that I don't naturally generate on my own. I make it nearly impossible to "make" me make a decision and I know it frustrates those around me. I can do physical labor all day long. Ask me what's for dinner and I'm frickin' exhausted from thinking about what to cook! My SO got so mad at me once in the midst of a disagreement and with the most frustration, looked at me and said "just make a f***ing decision for once!" I felt like total crap afterward...

Awwww. That’s sad.

My experience is a little different. It’s only over the last few years that I’ve realized just how much I hate always being in control. More and more frequently I find myself dithering when trying to make decisions. Utterly exhausting. Yet still I struggle to keep control. It is impossible to express how much I aggravate myself.

I like your idea though, of not naturally generating that type of energy. Consider it stolen.

 

[All_4_Love]

Awwww. That’s sad.

Actually, it.came out quite harsher than what I disclosed. Thank you for the sympathy. I think I needed some. He's got a...uh-hum...bit of a streak, if you know what I mean. *wink*

 

[SMNaughtywife]

And...

This morning's headlines say that NASA may be confirming flowing water on Mars!

Yes, water. A little salty and possibly sludgy.
I wonder what skiing will be like in the winter there?

What was the question again, oh yes rhythm and cadence.
Mine's gone missing. If anyone has any extra, toss it my way. No fast balls though. I got whacked in the face playing second base when I was 10. Still a little ball shy. Stupid softball.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Still a little ball shy.

There goes your social life!

 

[SMNaughtywife]

There goes your social life!

I'm pretty good at wood repair, I still might have a chance in the sport.

 

[ChainedUp]

Woodworking is a great skill to have. But I'd have not ever guessed that SMNaughty possesed it. Usually each of us has a skill or talent that isn't necessarily obvious(and no, your prowess in bed with your partner doesn't count). What skill or talent are people surprised to find out about you? My hunch is that your skill is something you enjoy but also something that helps you beyond the skill itself.

So what talent do you bring to the table?

 

[All_4_Love]

My talents are still something that I've been searching to discover. I know that I have them, as everyone does. I just haven't taken time out of my life to develop them, hone in on my passions, and that is very sad, considering my age.

When I was a young girl, I wrote poetry and started teaching myself how to play the piano. I am still passionate about both of those things but I didn't develop them into talents. I do know that I'm creative. I have always had a deep, abiding adoration for talented people, mainly writers, songwriters, and musicians, and maybe part of that is because I appreciate so much that they have cultivated something that I didn't within myself. I believe much of the world really misses out on such beautiful people because talent, true talent, just doesn't seem to be something most of the world takes the time to appreciate in one another. My heart's thumping right now.

Hey! I'm a really great cook and I'm good at helping people. Those count for something of a talent, right? Although, they don't come as a surprise or help me beyond the skill, I don't imagine. Well, helping others helps me, fills my heart, but it's not necessarily a skill.

 

[Mindfondler]

My talents are still something that I've been searching to discover. I know that I have them, as everyone does. I just haven't taken time out of my life to develop them, hone in on my passions, and that is very sad, considering my age.

When I was a young girl, I wrote poetry and started teaching myself how to play the piano. I am still passionate about both of those things but I didn't develop them into talents. I do know that I'm creative. I have always had a deep, abiding adoration for talented people, mainly writers, songwriters, and musicians, and maybe part of that is because I appreciate so much that they have cultivated something that I didn't within myself. I believe much of the world really misses out on such beautiful people because talent, true talent, just doesn't seem to be something most of the world takes the time to appreciate in one another. My heart's thumping right now.

Hey! I'm a really great cook and I'm good at helping people. Those count for something of a talent, right? Although, they don't come as a surprise or help me beyond the skill, I don't imagine. Well, helping others helps me, fills my heart, but it's not necessarily a skill.

I empathise with you on that! I have learned to become good at quite a few things, but that's not the same as having a natural talent for them. On the other hand, I suspect that I have some latent talents that I've spent very little time exploring as they're not productive to my everyday life and I haven't received any encouragement to pursue them.

For example, I enjoy listening to music and I can pick out subtleties that seem to go over most people's heads. If I hear a melody, a bassline or a rhythmic device then I can readily isolate it, play it back in my head and reproduce it on a keyboard (often pitch perfect!) even hours later. However, I've never played an instrument and neither has anyone in my immediate circle of family and friends, so I've not found the motivation to do so.

On the other hand, I am quite good at woodwork. I think it's a natural affinity, as I love the feel of wood, the smell of woodshavings, and the satisfaction of making real a concept in my head.
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[Endless_Night]

All you musical people! I have little affinity for music. Practically an idiot, really. There are types of music that I like, but I rarely know the names of songs or groups. It feels quite odd as music is so important to most people.

Okay. My super power (as a friend calls it ) is to knowing how people feel. For me, emotion rolls off people rather like…scent, except that it’s a tactile sensation rather than olfactory.

I don’t particularly enjoy it, quite the opposite really. Strong emotions can be a little overwhelming. I spend a fair amount of energy trying to shut it down or keep up a barrier. I don’t know that I would consider it a benefit beyond the skill itself, but since joining Lit it’s come to me how much I rely on the ability. Online interaction has never held much appeal. Lit is my first steady experience. My talent seems to require physical proximity to work. The separation of online puts me at a disadvantage.

Now I never have any idea what anyone is thinking.

 

[Mindfondler]

Okay. My super power (as a friend calls it ) is to knowing how people feel. For me, emotion rolls off people rather like…scent, except that it’s a tactile sensation rather than olfactory.

I don’t particularly enjoy it, quite the opposite really. Strong emotions can be a little overwhelming. I spend a fair amount of energy trying to shut it down or keep up a barrier. I don’t know that I would consider it a benefit beyond the skill itself, but since joining Lit it’s come to me how much I rely on the ability. Online interaction has never held much appeal. Lit is my first steady experience. My talent seems to require physical proximity to work. The separation of online puts me at a disadvantage.

Now I never have any idea what anyone is thinking.

Hey! I have that super power too! It's the curse of Deanna Troi (geek alert!). I'm willing to bet that you're the same Myers-Briggs Type Indicator as me (INFP, with a very strong dollop of 'F').

You're so right that it's a drain on energy! Like you, I have to maintain a barrier most of the time, or else I'll get washed away by the tides of emotion out there. It can be a useful ability for me to be sensitive in that way, but it's also a major vulnerability.
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[Endless_Night]

Hey! I have that super power too! It's the curse of Deanna Troi (geek alert!). I'm willing to bet that you're the same Myers-Briggs Type Indicator as me (INFP, with a very strong dollop of 'F').

You're so right that it's a drain on energy! Like you, I have to maintain a barrier most of the time, or else I'll get washed away by the tides of emotion out there. It can be a useful ability for me to be sensitive in that way, but it's also a major vulnerability.
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It is exhausting, but apparently waaaaaaaay more useful than realized. I had no idea how much I relied on the skill....

Hmmm. Myers-Briggs. If I remember correctly, I actually bounce between two types; INFJ and INTJ. But...I may not remember correctly. It has been awhile.

 

[All_4_Love]

I believe I am also INFP. Although, I first tested out as ISFP. This has always been confusing for me because I fit the description for ISFP better, however, by cognitive function, I seem to be INFP.

I also can empathize with the energy drain. That is what it is, a very high level of empathy. I am happy for those that have accomplished the ability to protect themselves from the emotional overload. I have read much information about it because it can affect us so deeply. I haven't found my way around it just yet. Perhaps, I never will. I'm okay with that. It's just part of how I'm made.

Mindfondler, I truly appreciate your thoughts on the post that you quoted me on. I hung on every word. You are talented, no doubt. And you are so right, the natural talent for things, well, there is nothing more beautiful than to see that in someone. *swoon*

Perhaps, you should be playing around a little more on that keyboard.

 

[All_4_Love]

I think I'll be spending time today on YouTube watching live videos of John Mayer, Eric Clapton, and SRV guitar solos. *reaches for a box of tissues*

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't do a whole lot of things. I like doing a few things and doing them well, rather than be a jack of all trades.

Other than my ability to do multiple levels of calculus (a real hit with the ladies), I have two things I can do really well.

The first one is that I'm rather athletic. I have one sport that I play avidly and I've become very proficient at it, to the level I had an endorsement and sponsorship.

The other one is slightly more important to me. I play music. Music has been a huge part of my life since I was young. I started playing guitar when I was 8. A few years later I picked up bass. Then mandolin. Now I'm trying dobro. I took proper lessons for guitar- jazz, blues, then classical. These days I play mostly acoustic-y type stuff, as that's what I enjoy.

I do wish I had one talent though... I wish I could sing. I have always disliked my voice. It's weak and pitchy and it bothers me that I'm proficient in other areas of music, but not this.

I think it would actually be interesting to see some of the talents people have here. Your woodworking or music or art or whatever. I mean, if C Daddy permits.

 

[Mindfondler]

It is exhausting, but apparently waaaaaaaay more useful than realized. I had no idea how much I relied on the skill....

Agreed! I've learnt to trust my instincts about emotions when they tell me something different from the more logical parts of my brain. They've enabled me to make leaps of intuition about situations that onlookers have regarded as amazing -- like spooky telepathy.

Hmmm. Myers-Briggs. If I remember correctly, I actually bounce between two types; INFJ and INTJ. But...I may not remember correctly. It has been awhile.

Your desk is clearly tidier than mine ('J' versus 'P'). It's not difficult, though, for that to be the case!

I believe I am also INFP. Although, I first tested out as ISFP. This has always been confusing for me because I fit the description for ISFP better, however, by cognitive function, I seem to be INFP.

I think it's best not to take it too seriously! MBTI is just a tool that enables academic types to organise reality into convenient one-size-fits-all boxes in order to help them feel better about the world. I regard myself, though, as only capable of fitting into an individual one-person box.

I also can empathize with the energy drain. That is what it is, a very high level of empathy. I am happy for those that have accomplished the ability to protect themselves from the emotional overload. I have read much information about it because it can affect us so deeply. I haven't found my way around it just yet. Perhaps, I never will. I'm okay with that. It's just part of how I'm made.

I found it helpful to go on a counselling course, just so that I could learn to decouple myself emotionally from a situation (I haven't subsequently followed up the counselling part!). I have a "White Knight" type of persona that puts me at risk of leaking my energy in all different directions trying to put a cruel world to rights. I used to find that I would fall very deeply into empathetic despair from trying to "fix" people who were damaged in some way; now, I'm better able to avoid getting myself sucked into the emotional whirlpool. I still empathise (to me, that's the essence of being human), but I have an exit strategy.

Mindfondler, I truly appreciate your thoughts on the post that you quoted me on. I hung on every word. You are talented, no doubt. And you are so right, the natural talent for things, well, there is nothing more beautiful than to see that in someone. *swoon*

Perhaps, you should be playing around a little more on that keyboard.

Perhaps! I've tried singing, and I've recently managed to overcome my perfectionist issues that stopped me from doing that before (previously, I wanted every note to be absolutely spot on). I think my voice is okay, but I don't think it's particularly accomplished -- it might not grate, but I can't imagine anyone wanting to listen to it for very long.

I think it would actually be interesting to see some of the talents people have here. Your woodworking or music or art or whatever. I mean, if C Daddy permits.

There is already some evidence on Lit for my woodworking skills! Follow the link to my photos of the Magic Wand Stool that I created by heavily modifying an Ikea design for a vanilla stool.
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[All_4_Love]

I do wish I had one talent though... I wish I could sing. I have always disliked my voice. It's weak and pitchy and it bothers me that I'm proficient in other areas of music, but not this.

You and I both, pmann. There is something about a good voice that leaves me breathless. I watched Celine Dion and Shania Twain videos last night until I was a wreck. Seriously, no kidding; I was an emotional wreck.

Seeing anyone be good at anything, no matter what that is, is amazing. That's one of my passions, seeing someone else be passionate.

 

[TheSilverLining]

I think it would actually be interesting to see some of the talents people have here. Your woodworking or music or art or whatever. I mean, if C Daddy permits.

This might actually be a good idea for a stand-alone thread. I know they've got them elsewhere, but we've never had a crafty Playgrounders thread.....

 

[TheSilverLining]

I have very little talent. Although, I've heard rave reviews about my singing from both my shower AND my car.

 

[Mindfondler]

This might actually be a good idea for a stand-alone thread. I know they've got them elsewhere, but we've never had a crafty Playgrounders thread.....

It won't last! It'll quickly be overtaken by the "Name something that you can put in soup" types of thread.
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[All_4_Love]

Perhaps! I've tried singing, and I've recently managed to overcome my perfectionist issues that stopped me from doing that before (previously, I wanted every note to be absolutely spot on). I think my voice is okay, but I don't think it's particularly accomplished -- it might not grate, but I can't imagine anyone wanting to listen to it for very long.

Ahhh, yes, beautiful perfectionism. All of the best ones usually are! It's that trying, and tweaking, and tweaking more, messing up, and giving up, and trying again. Next thing you know....POW! Greatness!

 

[Lord Pmann]

This might actually be a good idea for a stand-alone thread. I know they've got them elsewhere, but we've never had a crafty Playgrounders thread.....

We had one in the GB which was actually really nice. There are truly some talented people here. The GB peeps are all dickheads, but I still like them a lot. Especially the talented ones.