Litiquette3

[Endless_Night]

I’ve spent a little time thread watching, curious to what make some threads “go” and others fall off the grid. The word games seem to flow along on their own. So do the more mindless posting threads; hardly surprising, as many people come here to relax and unwind. The couple of “not an AM pics” picture threads seem to be doing rather well, which I also get. Those move along, driven by multi-participant interest.

Most of the more mentally engaging threads, however, do seem to be driven along by one person, whether it be the OP or someone else whose decided to husband the thread along.

I’ve toyed with the idea of a random question thread in the BDSM. Not random as in silly, but questions where the OP is actually looking for answer. A thread that properly belongs in How To, no doubt, but I’m more familiar with the BDSM posters. Still, starting a thread and maintaining it seems like too much work, and definitely too much responsibility.

Meaning I’ll probably just keep posting my random questions in Blurts.

 

[Endless_Night]

Ooops! Just realized I hadn't actually answered the question.

Yes. I think a thread incubator is a good idea. Whether it would take off or not, hmmm. Probably dependent on when during the day it was started, by who, and what posters happened to see the thread.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I'll keep things around here on life support for a while longer(not to turn this into THAT debate).

There are lots of threads out there, as we know, you can list, count, display, pick-up.....really almost anything and yet I see more new threads everyday. But I wonder how many good thread ideas never get off the ground because the OP doesn't want to make that type of effort. For instance I thought of a thread that would be alphabetical in nature but the hook is that the posters could only go in the alphabetical order of their names. So ChainedUp could only post after someone posted whose name started with a B. But I didn't really want to make the effort to create and then help guide it along.

Would a thread incubator work around here? A place where thread ideas could be posted for any/all and if someone wanted to take it and run with it they could.

I'm not sure what you mean by a thread incubator, but there are a threads different friends have started that a few of us keep posting on to keep it, hopefully, in the new posts section. One was started years ago, that I came across on the playground, didn't know the OP but it's taken off very well, and I've made a new friend. ..

 

[SassyKatz71]

Still only 1 online identity for Lit . I see no point in more than 1

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

RL is keeping me away from the boards. I'll come back and answer when I can!

 

[ChainedUp]

Lit is like a river. Constantly moving , constantly changing. Not only new people coming along / regulars moving on but the culture, the vibe, the content change.

What would you say is the biggest change within Lit the past 6months?

 

[SmileyGirl]

Lit is like a river. Constantly moving , constantly changing. Not only new people coming along / regulars moving on but the culture, the vibe, the content change.

What would you say is the biggest change within Lit the past 6months?

I think a lot of long standing members have left which is really sad.
Lit used to be so much fun but lately it appears to have been a
bit of a bitch fest. I haven't been around much but after talking
to a few friends they all seem to be feeling the same thing.

 

[ChainedUp]

Someone's going to have to strip naked and run around this place until the attitude changes.....

 

[Endless_Night]

Someone's going to have to strip naked and run around this place until the attitude changes.....

Where's Rubenesque Aphrodite when you need her?

Seriously though, I agree with SmileyGirl. There seems to be constant drama and negativity. Lots of in-fighting and name calling. Many of the people I interact with have gone MIA, or put in only sporadic appearances. Truthfully, my own attendance is pretty spotty.

*shrug*

If it's not enjoyable why log in?

 

[All_4_Love]

I think a lot of long standing members have left which is really sad.
Lit used to be so much fun but lately it appears to have been a
bit of a bitch fest. I haven't been around much but after talking
to a few friends they all seem to be feeling the same thing.

This.

I feel that most of the threads here, mainly The Playground, are usually meant to start off fun. It just seems that somehow most of them ultimately turn into a lot of drama and mudslinging, though.

There is also no shortage of threads that seem to be very cliquish, and that only seems to be growing in popularity by the day. The threads like "Dear Litster" have always been taken by myself as a means to be hurtful and immature. The popularity of that thread alone has always astounded me.

Maybe it has always been this way, not just in the last 6 months, and I'm just not aware. My time here posting in The Playground isn't much to speak of, but it has been my perception nonetheless.

I have run into a few difficulties along the way posting in the BDSM forum, but even with that, my experience there has still been one where I feel that I have always learned something, shared something, met a kindred spirit, or even just still felt welcomed there no matter the issue, even when I've made a complete ass of myself. For me, the energy and feel of that forum has always remained consistent, even with the new and old faces coming and going.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

This.

I feel that most of the threads here, mainly The Playground, are usually meant to start off fun. It just seems that somehow most of them ultimately turn into a lot of drama and mudslinging, though.

There is also no shortage of threads that seem to be very cliquish, and that only seems to be growing in popularity by the day. The threads like "Dear Litster" have always been taken by myself as a means to be hurtful and immature. The popularity of that thread alone has always astounded me.

Maybe it has always been this way, not just in the last 6 months, and I'm just not aware. My time here posting in The Playground isn't much to speak of, but it has been my perception nonetheless.

I have run into a few difficulties along the way posting in the BDSM forum, but even with that, my experience there has still been one where I feel that I have always learned something, shared something, met a kindred spirit, or even just still felt welcomed there no matter the issue, even when I've made a complete ass of myself. For me, the energy and feel of that forum has always remained consistent, even with the new and old faces coming and going.

*pops in*

good to see you! {{{hug}}}

*pops out*

 

[rubydlite]

Streaks through....*dances* (because I love this thread)
Dances out behind Honey...

...back to stalking

 

[ChainedUp]

An exchange from another thread has me wondering. The topic was the "sex of ghosts" and while I won't go down that rabbit hole it made me wonder this: if you could change/morph your body type into either sex(of equal attractiveness) would you do so for the sole purpose of fuckimg as a man and then fucking as a woman? It would be amazing to see if there ended up being a preference.

I know, it's not a Lit based question but at least it was derived from Lit

 

[Endless_Night]

This question reminds me of an X-Files episode called Gender Bender. An Amish (or something similar) group was actually a race of aliens who would switch gender after each sexual encounter. The rub was that during the sexual encounter, the alien sucked out the life force of the human. No life force equaling dead. The alien had a seductive power too, regardless of it’s gender.

Errr.... What can I say, the show made an impression on me. It was probably my first exposure to the concept of gender switching.

Back to the question.

Nope. Probably not. I am pretty…hmm, I’m not quite sure how to characterize it. Gender solid?

I like being a woman. A lot. My whole sexual experience is strongly wrapped up in my femininity. It’s integral to my enjoyment of sex. Possibly more so than the act itself, or at least so intertwined that I doubt they’re separable.

I suppose having sex as a man might be interesting as an intellectual exercise. It must be quite different. All that extra testosterone, not to mention the external, uh, paraphernalia. I can see where there might be a curiosity, even if one was primarily hetero and strongly cis-gendered. I just don’t experience much interest myself.

 

[All_4_Love]

*pops in*

good to see you! {{{hug}}}

*pops out*

Thank you, lovely lady.

You gave me a smile today. (((Hugs right back)))

This question is so amusing to me. Just last night, I was reading Rumi, and there is a piece of his writing that I found on the web long ago. It has remained my absolute favorite. It is simply titled "The Lover and the Beloved". He writes of the beauty of man and woman, as total opposites, yet intricately and perfectly woven and designed for each other. This is something that has always been close to my heart and holds such meaning for me. Rumi writes...

Never, in sooth, does the lover seek without being sought by his beloved. When the lightning of love has shot into this heart, know that there is love in that heart. When love of God waxes in thy heart, beyond any doubt God hath love for thee. No sound of clapping comes from one hand without the other hand. Divine Wisdom is destiny and decree made us lovers of one another. Because of that fore-ordainment every part of the world is paired with its mate. In the view of the wise, Heaven is man and Earth woman. Earth fosters what Heaven lets fall. When Earth lacks heat, Heaven sends it; when she has lost her freshness and moisture, Heaven restores it. Heaven goes on his rounds, like a husband foraging for the wife's sake; And Earth is busy with housewiferies: she attends to births and suckling that which she bears. Regard Earth and Heaven as endowed with intelligence, since they do the work of intelligent beings. Unless these twain taste pleasure from one another, why are they creeping together like sweethearts? Without the earth, how should flower and tree blossom?
What, then, would Heaven's water and heat produce? As God put desire in man and woman to the end that the world should be preserved by their union, So hath He implanted in every part of existence the desire for another part. Day and Night are enemies outwardly; yet both serve one purpose, Each in love with the other for the sake of perfecting their mutual work. Without Night, the nature of Man would receive no income, so there would be nothing for Day to spend.

Yes, I know, leave it to me to take a question about body morphing and f***ing, and interpret into something lengthy, serious, and poetic. In short, my answer is no, never would I care to experience sex as anything other than a woman. I am completely fulfilled by being a woman and all of the pleasure that holds. And I am completely fulfilled by the mystery of a man and in the not knowing exactly what it's like to feel his pleasure firsthand, but only through the exchange of the masculine and feminine uniting as one and creating, to me, a sacred whole.

 

[ChainedUp]

I suspect that 90% of Litsters won't read the italicized portion, which is too bad.

 

[rubydlite]

I read it...it's beautiful. But damn if the word 'moisture' doesn't skeeve me out...

*blech* ...it's like nails on the chalkboard for my vocabulary loving soul.

Random I know.

To the question...I'd be curious...but like others, I enjoy who I am and how I experience things now.

 

[butterfly_flip]

I think a lot of long standing members have left which is really sad.
Lit used to be so much fun but lately it appears to have been a
bit of a bitch fest. I haven't been around much but after talking
to a few friends they all seem to be feeling the same thing.

THis.

People will always come and go, but when there's a constant flow of passive aggressive posts, it makes one far less likely to want to be around, simply because of the atmosphere it creates.

Lit, for me, is no longer about making friends, it's now only about the occasional visit and a brief catch up with people I know. The friends I've made, and kept, I can contact outside of Lit if I so wish.

 

[All_4_Love]

I read it...it's beautiful. But damn if the word 'moisture' doesn't skeeve me out...

*blech* ...it's like nails on the chalkboard for my vocabulary loving soul.

Random I know.

To the question...I'd be curious...but like others, I enjoy who I am and how I experience things now.

*quickly ponders an edit to change the word moisture to wetness*

Damnit, I just can't do it. I can't change Rumi.

Haha

 

[ChainedUp]

Labor Day weekend is upon us. Time to thank the hard working people that helped build and maintain the quality of life you enjoy.

I wonder if the people working in the sex toy manufacturing jobs ever get their deserved thanks. They spread more pleasure than anyone else in the world.

 

[TongueLust]

Labor Day weekend is upon us. Time to thank the hard working people that helped build and maintain the quality of life you enjoy.

I wonder if the people working in the sex toy manufacturing jobs ever get their deserved thanks. They spread more pleasure than anyone else in the world.

*Giggles* At they spread.

 

[ChainedUp]

*Giggles* At they spread.

As you should

 

[Endless_Night]

I don't know that this quite counts as deserved thanks, but sex toys do occasionally get their fifteen minutes of fame. I found this incident rather amusing.

 

[jameslewis]

Just dropping in to say I'm glad your back at it Chains, I missed the best thread on Lit while it was fallow.

 

[ChainedUp]

Thanks for the kind words James

Just dropping in to say I'm glad your back at it Chains, I missed the best thread on Lit while it was fallow.