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[All_4_Love]

It should be illegal to drop a teaser like that and then go away! Details, madam, details!

Indeed, and it should also be illegal to make a joke that bad and disgusting on a thread such as this one.

By the way, Pmann, ever since the whole "you look like Seth Rogen" thing came up, I can't see Seth Rogen without seeing Pmann.

I just watched the movie "Zack and Miri Make a Porno" and it made me think of you and Rainshine.

 

[DesEsseintes]

Indeed, and it should also be illegal to make a joke that bad and disgusting on a thread such as this one.

By the way, Pmann, ever since the whole "you look like Seth Rogen" thing came up, I can't see Seth Rogen without seeing Pmann.

I just watched the movie "Zack and Miri Make a Porno" and it made me think of you and Rainshine.

No joke on my behalf, All_4_Love - I've been trying to work it out, but if it's that bad maybe I shouldn't! Certainly unintentional, anyway.

 

[All_4_Love]

No joke on my behalf, All_4_Love - I've been trying to work it out, but if it's that bad maybe I shouldn't! Certainly unintentional, anyway.

Des, I have to be totally honest with you here...

I have never, ever been in whale pussy before.

But, if you ever want to meet me on a desert island somewhere and take me along, I will follow you anywhere you would like, even if that involves...

whale pussy.

My apology for the derail, Chained. I haven't an answer for your question and I was feeling a bit of a smartass this morn.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Except for the whole more-open-about-my-sexuality thing I view Lit as just like any other place. My expectations would tie in with Ruby’s post. Any friendships I struck up I would treat, and expect to be treated, in the same way as an offline relationship. It’s not as though I’m a different person here than I am otherwise. Why would my behavior be different?

But...reading a lot of today’s posts has given me pause. Clearly many do see online as a different venue with different social mores. Why don’t I? I’m not quite sure, probably a combination of several things, including this being my first forum experience. Chalk it up to naiveté, I suppose.

Not the prettiest feeling….

To yesterday's question, this.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Thank you, Endless_Night.

 

[MausAss]

I looked into the whole whale pussy thing, and apperantly it can be the size of a king sized bed. I didn't find any good source, so the answer may just be bullshit. Either way, it's probably big enough for two people to sleep in, at least if it's a blue whale.

Sorry for derailing it further, but I thought the world needed to know. Also, according to some article vaginas are neglected compared to penises in the science world, so this post is helping with gender inequality too. I'm also willing to help this cause further, by performing studies of pussies on my own. In the name of science of course.

 

[Endless_Night]

So, to get off whales and back on question track.

I’ve met one person off of Lit. Truth be told, I was hesitant, well, for a variety of reasons, but primarily because I was a bit doubtful our personalities would mesh. The meet was kind of a business thing, and she was several hours away, so I decided to take a chance. And...was pleasantly surprised. I liked her real life personality much better than her online. She was very nice; I would, and expect to, meet her again.

As far as posts versus PMs, my experience varies. I don’t PM regularly with many, but of those I do, most are very much an extension of their post personality. One or two, however, have been quite different.

So for me, maybe a 20/80 split? Meaning 20% are different. I don’t know how that stacks up against the general consensus.

The Litsters that have been different in person or PM have been so in a good way. Warmer, more likable. So far, at least.

 

[Lord Pmann]

See, it's not that I'm a thread derailer. It's that my posts are just so titllating (hee hee, tit) they cause discussion.

For Chained, I'll get this thread back on track.

http://www.agoga.com.au/wp-content/uploads/michelle-bridges-fun-police.jpg

The fun popo are here, bitches!!!!!!

 

[Endless_Night]

< The only surprise or disappointment for me is when I take the time to get to know someone and then they just disappear. I have not and would not ever do that. Even, if I had real life blow up on me. I would at least reach out via email, PM, IM or something and say, "I got this happening in my life and it needs attention." I value the connections that I make. This is true in real life and here. The only difference is that real life always comes first. I think most people can accept that. >

This ^. I couldn't agree more. Would never do it, and don't understand why others do. The whole "Lit connections are disposable" outlook really turns me off. Since when are other people disposable?

To yesterday's question, this.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Thank you, Endless_Night.

Ahhh. Thanks!

 

[sweetsophie512]

Endless_Night. I'm just not going to say it.

I'm not.

So I won't.

LMAO!

 

[Endless_Night]

Endless_Night. I'm just not going to say it.

I'm not.

So I won't.

LMAO!

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I liked Sam's answer too. I have no idea how I appear in posts, but I expect it varies from PMs. I'm less comfortable, less at ease, on the board.

As far as real life? Well, I guess someone is just going to have to meet me and find out!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I looked into the whole whale pussy thing, and apperantly it can be the size of a king sized bed. I didn't find any good source, so the answer may just be bullshit. Either way, it's probably big enough for two people to sleep in, at least if it's a blue whale.

On a thread related note, that's how fucking deep I can be.

 

[stickygirl]

Why would someone be different in a PM than they would on a thread? If they were then I would immediately doubt their sincerity

 

[All_4_Love]

Why would someone be different in a PM than they would on a thread? If they were then I would immediately doubt their sincerity

No, not necessarily. Who someone is in a group setting will most likely differ from who they are in a private setting when only interacting with one person directly, as opposed to several people at the same time. This is even true in real life.

 

[rubydlite]

Happy Friday after a deep Thursday in here.

Personalities. I've asked about this in the past and most everyone says they're the same person here as they are in RL. I'm not sure I buy that. I mean if you say something long enough does it become the truth? So let's put a new twist on this question.

Many of you have met people from Lit and everyone has PM'd. What's the overall experience been for those of you who have met other litsters? My hunch is that the farther removed from posting in the threads you get with someone the more likely you're going to notice that their personality differs from how they post. Is that true?

Hmmm I think some people are bullshiting. ..some people are truthful....and some people (like me)are living it so it will become real. I don't think I'm faking....it's the personality inside me that tips the scale the most and who i strive to be deep down. (I'm not sure if this makes sense to anyone). Obviously in real life I conduct myself more conservatively. But if you asked my best girlfriend....she'd say this is ruby to a t. If you asked my mom....well....you get it.

I think when you reach the stage of interacting with someone beyond the boards you learn about their other personalities. That doesn't mean they're different. For instance ...when I first meet someone I dont immediately chat about my kids...or my husband...my work. Friendship to me is progression. ...it feels natural to share those things after a time. Online or not....

I guess...what I am saying is....here I want to feel like sexy ruby but that doesn't mean I don't want to be BFF ruby ....or mom ruby...or lover ruby. So yes....the more you interact the more they change...

(Hmmm that was long winded)

 

[All_4_Love]

Hmmm I think some people are bullshiting. ..some people are truthful....and some people (like me)are living it so it will become real. I don't think I'm faking....it's the personality inside me that tips the scale the most and who i strive to be deep down. (I'm not sure if this makes sense to anyone). Obviously in real life I conduct myself more conservatively. But if you asked my best girlfriend....she'd say this is ruby to a t. If you asked my mom....well....you get it.

I think when you reach the stage of interacting with someone beyond the boards you learn about their other personalities. That doesn't mean they're different. For instance ...when I first meet someone I dont immediately chat about my kids...or my husband...my work. Friendship to me is progression. ...it feels natural to share those things after a time. Online or not....

I guess...what I am saying is....here I want to feel like sexy ruby but that doesn't mean I don't want to be BFF ruby ....or mom ruby...or lover ruby. So yes....the more you interact the more they change...

(Hmmm that was long winded)

Beautifully stated, Ruby. I completely concur.

 

[stickygirl]

No, not necessarily. Who someone is in a group setting will most likely differ from who they are in a private setting when only interacting with one person directly, as opposed to several people at the same time. This is even true in real life.

Hmmm, I guess. I suppose I'm less likely to make wise-cracks on a PM as one might 'down the pub' v. 'one-to-one'.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Happy Friday after a deep Thursday in here.

Personalities. I've asked about this in the past and most everyone says they're the same person here as they are in RL. I'm not sure I buy that. I mean if you say something long enough does it become the truth? So let's put a new twist on this question.

Many of you have met people from Lit and everyone has PM'd. What's the overall experience been for those of you who have met other litsters? My hunch is that the farther removed from posting in the threads you get with someone the more likely you're going to notice that their personality differs from how they post. Is that true?

I've been told that I have to answer this for myself that I can't just use someone else's work as my own. Hey, it worked in school, why can't it work here?

However, with that said, let me attempt to give you my five pesos on the subject.

I am who I am.

On the public forum, I leave bits and pieces of myself out there. But it's me. I try to be as authentic as I can be. I'm more introspective on the boards than I am in person. My thoughts tend to rule me when I'm here and in some respects, that's probably better. My spontaneous self tends to be silly and childlike which comes out when I feel comfortable with the person I'm sharing with - PM and that surprises them because like Sam, I tend to come across as serious on the boards. I laugh more than expected and most things in life I find amusing and that doesn't always come across. Further away from the boards, you get the nuances you wouldn't normally get and that's really what makes a person unique.

My sense of humor is sarcastic and twisted and if you're not twisted in the same way as I am, you probably won't appreciate me and that's fine. To each his own.

I agree with Ruby, there are lots of levels in a person. The multi-dimensional does not come into view until you get to know them and that takes time and lots of interaction. Trust, comfort and perhaps intent of the relationship. The progression of the journey is dynamic and unique to the two individuals and it is contingent upon availability, convenience (that sounds negative, but necessary) and comfort level.

I agree with Endless_Night, but she already knew that.

Darn, with stickygirl as well.

Ricky_Champagne - I'm with you. My biggest disappointment is when you invest in someone and they aren't as invested in you. I value the connections I make, period. I don't distinguish between online and real.

As far as trying to figure out if I'm the same online or real, I suppose you'll have to meet me in real life and report back. Or talk to me in PM. Or Skype with me. LOL! However, just remember this. Be careful for what you ask for.

As far as whale pussy thing goes, the only thing that comes to mind is ... how do you get over the smell? *shaking my head*

Okay, never mind. Sorry to derail the thread.

 

[All_4_Love]

I agree with Ruby, there are lots of levels in a person. The multi-dimensional does not come into view until you get to know them and that takes time and lots of interaction.

I said this the other day but I am always rather confused by the disposition of many of the posters here that there is somehow a difference in who you are online versus who you are in real life. I suppose for some, that may be correct, but it must take a lot of effort to be someone you are not. Lit is a lighthearted place for the most part.

I am me. It is me that types the words into my posts or PMs here. No one else. I don’t get the words from a book. They are my thoughts put to words and shared with others. So, of course, it’s the real me either online or off; I am just engaging others through only words versus face to face. *shrug*

As far as the multi dimensional, I think we all have an opportunity to see that here as well, depending on which thread a Litster may be posting on. We get to see their sense of humor, taste in music, the way they interact with others in a debate, or even sometimes in a heated disagreement, what types of sexual fantasies they have, what they enjoy, how they perceive the world, etc. No one here is just one dimensional, even, because we interact differently on different threads and with different personalities.

Lit, to me, is still very much like real life, I guess, or it should be. Hmm…

 

[Lord Pmann]

Why would someone be different in a PM than they would on a thread? If they were then I would immediately doubt their sincerity

I mean, are you going to be as vulnerable out here on the boards as in PM? Probably not. I think that's the difference. A lot of people come here to escape and explore parts of them that they didn't know existed or are just finding out they exist. That doesn't mean they are fake, just that they're here for that.

 

[MercedeSexy]

You don't know this about me, but I have actually been in whale pussy before.

OMG! It's official. I adore you. This knocked me on my ass laughing. Please, please, please tell me you live in my part of this great state, as unlikely as that is with the size of it.

Fucking hilarious!

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Happy Friday after a deep Thursday in here.

Personalities. I've asked about this in the past and most everyone says they're the same person here as they are in RL. I'm not sure I buy that. I mean if you say something long enough does it become the truth? So let's put a new twist on this question.

Many of you have met people from Lit and everyone has PM'd. What's the overall experience been for those of you who have met other litsters? My hunch is that the farther removed from posting in the threads you get with someone the more likely you're going to notice that their personality differs from how they post. Is that true?

I think there are two factors to look at here...

Which facet of ourselves are we sharing with others in PM, in the threads, etc.?
How is that facet being interpreted by others?

To make use of Chained's rose coloured glasses, the facet we show may not be taken in by others as we mean it. So, the closer we get to real life, in my opinion, the further we are from our projected and perceived selves on the board. Did I make any sense?

 

[Endless_Night]

I said this the other day but I am always rather confused by the disposition of many of the posters here that there is somehow a difference in who you are online versus who you are in real life. I suppose for some, that may be correct, but it must take a lot of effort to be someone you are not. Lit is a lighthearted place for the most part.

I don’t think either of my examples were trying to pretend they were different than they were. No deception was practiced. Rather, their board personalities were less faceted than their real life and PM ones. And once engaged on a more personal level, other, more attractive aspects of their personalities shone through.

One came across as a little critical and exacting, the other reserved and unapproachable (my thoughts, at least! ). Did those traits disappear in a more intimate setting? Not entirely, but enough so that it changed my perception of their character and the nature of our interaction.

Which for me, raises an interesting question. Should you judge Litsters on the basis on their posts alone? Might you like a poster you didn’t think you cared for if you got to know them better?

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Good point vv. Not everyone is comfortable sharing their deepest, darkest on a public board. Or has any interest in doing so even if they are comfortable.

I mean, are you going to be as vulnerable out here on the boards as in PM? Probably not. I think that's the difference. A lot of people come here to escape and explore parts of them that they didn't know existed or are just finding out they exist. That doesn't mean they are fake, just that they're here for that.

 

[Endless_Night]

< To make use of Chained's rose coloured glasses, the facet we show may not be taken in by others as we mean it. So, the closer we get to real life, in my opinion, the further we are from our projected and perceived selves on the board. Did I make any sense? >

Exxxxxxxxxcellent point!

 

[All_4_Love]

OMG! It's official. I adore you. This knocked me on my ass laughing. Please, please, please tell me you live in my part of this great state, as unlikely as that is with the size of it.

Fucking hilarious!

Awe, thank you, lady. *big hug*

I'm on the Gulf Coast... and you?

I don’t think either of my examples were trying to pretend they were different than they were. No deception was practiced. Rather, their board personalities were less faceted than their real life and PM ones. And once engaged on a more personal level, other, more attractive aspects of their personalities shone through.

One came across as a little critical and exacting, the other reserved and unapproachable (my thoughts, at least! ). Did those traits disappear in a more intimate setting? Not entirely, but enough so that it changed my perception of their character and the nature of our interaction.

Which for me, raises an interesting question. Should you judge Litsters on the basis on their posts alone? Might you like a poster you didn’t think you cared for if you got to know them better?

I think that is highly likely that you could like a poster that you didn't think you cared for based on their posts alone without knowing them better. PMs are definitely a way to get to know someone on a more personal level. The boards are more of a place for fun, games, and shenanigans, with a little bit of seriousness thrown in occasionally (precisely why I love this thread so much).

In PMs, like Pmann said, there is so much more of an opportunity for vulnerability. As we all know, that's where it's at, because the more vulnerable someone is, the more of their true authentic self will shine through.

 

[MercedeSexy]

Awe, thank you, lady. *big hug*

I'm on the Gulf Coast... and you?

DFW area. Dammit!