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[Aquagal]

I think that there is a lot of sexy conversation. What do you think?

With me, no. This is the very reason I turned my public PM's off.

Posting wise, I can take it or walk away.

 

[SweetSam42]

I honestly just don't really answer PMs from anyone I don't know anymore. There will be the rare fellow who says something coherent and interesting, and I might respond, but otherwise, I just don't. I don't have time to chat off the boards anyway.

 

[BradBigBrain]

With me, no. This is the very reason I turned my public PM's off.

Posting wise, I can take it or walk away.

You know that I would hate it if you walked away.

 

[stickygirl]

You know that I would hate it if you walked away.

If you walk out on me
I'm walking after you

PS agree completely with Sam, but would add this happens in RL life too: then you just have to put on a brave face and pretend you think they're being amusing...

ETA
Of course in RL that leads to the next thing - depending on how you respond to a porn-bomb will mean you're judged as a either a prude or a whore

 

[TheSilverLining]

I don't talk to many people off the boards anymore. I find it tough to find people who capture my interest, and (more importantly) keep it. Someone here (rainshine? Ruby?) said something about it being irritating to start talking to someone interesting, then to have the conversation always turn to trying to get some sexy talk/sexting/etc. It's hard to have to constantly try to steer the conversation back to just talking. And that's not something that can be advertised in a profile or even on the forums, I don't think. It just comes through the course of conversation.

I know it's a sex forum, and I know I've been known to post pictures of my boobies on occasion o ), but I do like to just talk to people about life, relationships, etc. With some exception (ie, if someone's a real dick/womanizer/etc) publicly on the threads, or their PMs to you go something like "fuck girl u r hot wanna chat," that can be hard to gauge, for me at least.

This.
All of it. Had to quote the bottom bit, too because I can hardly deny that once-upon-a-time I used to run around the boards with my tits out in my av.

I used to have something in my profile that read along the lines of "I don't want to cyber, I don't want to see your cock, I won't do phone, or cam, or send you nekkid pics. Just here to meet like-minded folk". Problem was, I was always inundated with PMs from menfolks who took offence to my no-cyber stance. Couple asked me why I even bothered coming here.....

There's very little draw to this place these days. Lessons learnt saw to that. I have no contact off the boards. I just use it as a place to blurt and then leave. Simples.
<shrug>

 

[SweetSam42]

This.
All of it. Had to quote the bottom bit, too because I can hardly deny that once-upon-a-time I used to run around the boards with my tits out in my av.

I used to have something in my profile that read along the lines of "I don't want to cyber, I don't want to see your cock, I won't do phone, or cam, or send you nekkid pics. Just here to meet like-minded folk". Problem was, I was always inundated with PMs from menfolks who took offence to my no-cyber stance. Couple asked me why I even bothered coming here.....

There's very little draw to this place these days. Lessons learnt saw to that. I have no contact off the boards. I just use it as a place to blurt and then leave. Simples.
<shrug>

Wait, you mean women are not here to just wait around to get men off??

 

[TheSilverLining]

Wait, you mean women are not here to just wait around to get men off??

Shocking, innit?

 

[Lord Pmann]

Wait, you mean women are not here to just wait around to get men off??

It is quite surprising to people that I don't want to talk all sexy like. I actually enjoy conversations with a few people and they aren't sex talk. Some people are actually interesting. Not as interesting as I am, but that's a huge order to fill.

 

[Endless_Night]

Back to no question? Already???

~sigh~

*wanders off*

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I think that I've lost track of the question but the conversation seems so real that I could be sitting across from many of you at the little coffee table at the Friends coffee shop.

I was recently asked about my motives for coming here.. for how I select people that I befriend.. the "why" questions are always the hardest because I find that there is rarely a concrete answer.
This whole line of conversation leads me to wonder if I make the choices based on the way I've been approached or the way I've handled situations in which I've engaged. I'm not saying that I carry a great deal of baggage. I don't think I do. It's more a matter of - have I allowed myself to react based solely on past experience.

I think that I've decided that I'm not here because I feel a need to be sexual. That's pretty easy to get away with when you're a girl in many settings. I feel the need to be more intimate.. close.. connected.
I don't avoid private messages because they're overtly sexual. I avoid them when there is no promise of things going deeper than the surface.

(in retrospect.. that was a really bad choice of words)

Physically.. I need skin. I need to feel another person against my body.. breathing.. and pulsing.. and touching. Please don't be surprised when I suggest that I find that a little impossible here. If you open with the "u r hot" lines that have already been mentioned.. it just tells me that you and I are on different paths. nothing wrong with that. it's just not what I choose to create here.

I still don't have an answer to the question.
But I'll take another latte.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Back to no question? Already???

~sigh~

*wanders off*

*gets out scepter*

 

[Endless_Night]

*gets out scepter*

You just always have that thing at the ready, don't cha?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think that I've lost track of the question but the conversation seems so real that I could be sitting across from many of you at the little coffee table at the Friends coffee shop.

I can rock out on some "Smelly Cat" if you like.

 

[Lord Pmann]

You just always have that thing at the ready, don't cha?

It pretty much sits at my side. And I pretty much lay around naked, in my kingly robe all day waiting for the bat signal in the sky. Usually chained warns me and gives me a pep talk before he leaves, though.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I can rock out on some "Smelly Cat" if you like.

if this is some "stinky pussy" joke, I'm going to kick your ass..
or even worse.. I'm going to scuff your shoes.

If this is about some band that I've never heard of because I'm merely some frumpy maternal housewife goddess, knock yourself out. I love a good rock.

 

[BrokenRomantic]

if this is some "stinky pussy" joke, I'm going to kick your ass..
or even worse.. I'm going to scuff your shoes.

If this is about some band that I've never heard of because I'm merely some frumpy maternal housewife goddess, knock yourself out. I love a good rock.

"Smelly Cat" was a song that Phoebe wrote on the tv show Friends. It was a hilarious show.

Smelly cattttt.. smeeeeelly cat... it's not your fault!

 

[MedicalMuse]

"Smelly Cat" was a song that Phoebe wrote on the tv show Friends. It was a hilarious show.

Smelly cattttt.. smeeeeelly cat... it's not your fault!

Thanks. It's now stuck in my head.

 

[Lord Pmann]

if this is some "stinky pussy" joke, I'm going to kick your ass..
or even worse.. I'm going to scuff your shoes.

If this is about some band that I've never heard of because I'm merely some frumpy maternal housewife goddess, knock yourself out. I love a good rock.

You made a Friends reference an you don't know Smelly Cat?!??

 

[BrokenRomantic]

Thanks. It's now stuck in my head.

mine too.. I blame myself

 

[Endless_Night]

< I think that I've decided that I'm not here because I feel a need to be sexual. That's pretty easy to get away with when you're a girl in many settings. I feel the need to be more intimate.. close.. connected.
I don't avoid private messages because they're overtly sexual. I avoid them when there is no promise of things going deeper than the surface.

(in retrospect.. that was a really bad choice of words)

Physically.. I need skin. I need to feel another person against my body.. breathing.. and pulsing.. and touching. Please don't be surprised when I suggest that I find that a little impossible here. If you open with the "u r hot" lines that have already been mentioned.. it just tells me that you and I are on different paths. nothing wrong with that. it's just not what I choose to create here. >

I agree with so much of what you said, but I'll just single out this part. Sex is easy to come by if you're a woman, very much so. But, if you're sexual needs are...shall we say offbeat, inconvenient, or otherwise difficult in some way, the board seems to provide a possible option.

That said, I agree that the venue does seem limited. I also like the intimacy provided during actual physical sex. The touch of skin, body heat, heartbeat, a lover's individual scent, all add their little piece, providing an emotional connection that really heightens the pleasure of the act. It's tough to see how cyber can provide that, or even any reasonable facsimile of that experience.

 

[Endless_Night]

Thanks. It's now stuck in my head.

mine too.. I blame myself

Damn it! Make that 3.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Damn it! Make that 3.

I've done my job.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

hahahaha.. I can't believe I missed the connection!

(I should just come here for the sex)

(damnit.. yet another bad choice of words)

 

[ChainedUp]

Strolls in....I'm late....I'm late.....for a very important date. There, now you have a new song stuck in your heads

You want a question? Can you handle the question? Lol

Damn, I think I'm starting to channel pmann, that can't be good.

Many of us are here without the knowledge of anyone in our RL. That can be problematic in any number of ways. For me, I often want to share something I read here. But I don't because I can never answer the "who told you that" or "where'd you hear that" saying "a friend" or "someone at work" won't cut it. How do you struggle bringing Lit into your RL?

 

[stickygirl]

I think that I've decided that I'm not here because I feel a need to be sexual. That's pretty easy to get away with when you're a girl in many settings. I feel the need to be more intimate.. close.. connected.

Yup

Physically.. I need skin. I need to feel another person against my body.. breathing.. and pulsing.. and touching. Please don't be surprised when I suggest that I find that a little impossible here. If you open with the "u r hot" lines that have already been mentioned.. it just tells me that you and I are on different paths. nothing wrong with that. it's just not what I choose to create here.

Yup, yup.
TY G-gasm
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