Litiquette VII

[LurkingPhoenix]

Whst are you thoughts on profanity?
Does it feel like everyone now days talks like a sailor and it’s accepted?
Are there people, places or events you feel it’s inappropriate?
Certain words that you only say when it’s about to get real?
Your kids let the f bomb drop in front of you?

I've worked my entire life in factory/industrial settings where profanity is more or less constant. I have tried to tone it down personally/professionally at work, but it is still a thing I struggle with unless I'm in a meeting or other more formalized structure.

I can and do tone it down around my kids, though I'd be lying if I said it doesn't happen more often than I like.

I don't ever drop a C-bomb, at least not out loud. I just don't. It has happened in text a time or three on those extremely rare occasions when it felt right.

 

[Trekka]

So....
What’s your typical MO:
Do you fight? Flight? Or Freeze?
And is your MO different IRL, versus here, in this strange little place under a naughty rock on the internet?

 

[Orchidea73]

So....
What’s your typical MO:
Do you fight? Flight? Or Freeze?
And is your MO different IRL, versus here, in this strange little place under a naughty rock on the internet?

Fight IRL. On internet mostly "flight". I find it absolutely useless, a waste of time, fighting with strangers on internet.

I tend to do the same thing with strangers in real life too. Not always I manage to ignore them, but for the most part I do a pretty good job.

 

[QuietCanadian]

So....
What’s your typical MO:
Do you fight? Flight? Or Freeze?
And is your MO different IRL, versus here, in this strange little place under a naughty rock on the internet?

Well this is one loaded question(s)!

It depends on the situation, where I'm at in life at that given moment, and what exactly I am fighting, flighting, or freezing from. Is someone trying to say that Tokyo Drift is the worst Fast movie? I'll fight you to the death. Ya, that's right.

Seriously though, I don't think I have a staple response mechanism, but overall I'm going to say fight. I don't mean this in the sense I'm going to get into long winded arguments until death (save for Fast movies), I'm likely to flee the scene of that crime. I mean to say that as I'm gonna fight to be better than my previous self... Or at worst, the same. And sometimes that means freezing or flighting. And you know what? That's OK. It's 100% OK. Sometimes that's all the fight I got and recognizing it is a huge thing (I certainly don't always, though).

If we're talking about arguments/disagreements/etc., it is really situational. Who are you to me? What have you said to me? How am I feeling today? Am I taking a dip in the anxiety pool right now? I don't think I have an MO overall. I would say here, flight if I don't really know you. I'm with Orchi, not gonna throw down with a stranger on the interwebs.

 

[tnman03]

So....
What’s your typical MO:
Do you fight? Flight? Or Freeze?
And is your MO different IRL, versus here, in this strange little place under a naughty rock on the internet?

Online? Mostly I ignore, keep on moving and in some cases write the attacker off as irrelevant if they're instigating or have a pattern of trollish behavior. But occasionally I'll get my back up and say something about it.

In RL. It depends. If it's a danger to health and safety I'm very reactive and the full fight spectrum kicks in. Frighteningly so, I've put people in the hospital before which is a whole 'nother story.

If it's just something shocking and I'm suprised enough I've been known to stand there in confused silence.

 

[hotwords229_A]

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I will fight on a flight especially if it's freezing.

I like my fights like I like my phone calls--in person.

 

[Orchidea73]

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I will fight on a flight especially if it's freezing.

I like my fights like I like my phone calls--in person.

Exactly!

Really though, I avoid having online discussions about complex topics (e.g. politics, religion etc.) with my friends too. You might not even fight. It's not necessarily about that. But it's impossible for me to have a real and meaningful discussion about certain subjects, online. I like to have those kind of conversations with them in person. Maybe over a drink or dinner. I'm limited when it comes to writing. I express myself far better verbally. I need to use my hands too when I speak.

 

[Mr_bogey]

Depends entirely on the actual situation. I generally try to smooth things over when possible.

I will however put motherfuckers in their place if they need it. Both on and offline.

Ditto

 

[hotwords229_A]

Exactly!

Really though, I avoid having online discussions about complex topics (e.g. politics, religion etc.) with my friends too. You might not even fight. It's not necessarily about that. But it's impossible for me to have a real and meaningful discussion about certain subjects, online. I like to have those kind of conversations with them in person. Maybe over a drink or dinner. I'm limited when it comes to writing. I express myself far better verbally. I need to use my hands too when I speak.

Exactly too. I like to see the people I’m talking to. I need body language, facial expressions, etc. I don’t like the phone and I wouldn’t waste my time “fighting” online. By the way, I’m interpreting fighting as a disagreement, argument, dispute, not an actual fist fight. Fist fighting I prefer to do by proxy.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm a freezer. I've been doing a lot of work to try to change that but when my amygdala thinks I'm in danger, I flood with emotions and shut down.

What's weird is I do really well in high stakes situations. I can pull out all the stops to stay calm and composed in situations where others are completely freaking out. It's only once I'm safe (yet am still convinced I'm not) that I completely lose it. I'm a bit like a duck. I stay composed on the outside while my insides are losing their shit without my permission.

 

[tnman03]

I'm a freezer. I've been doing a lot of work to try to change that but when my amygdala thinks I'm in danger, I flood with emotions and shut down.

What's weird is I do really well in high stakes situations. I can pull out all the stops to stay calm and composed in situations where others are completely freaking out. It's only once I'm safe (yet am still convinced I'm not) that I completely lose it. I'm a bit like a duck. I stay composed on the outside while my insides are losing their shit without my permission.

Okay, I can relate to the aftereffect reactions following something wild and hairy where everyone else lost their shit. And I've seen people wait until afterwards to come unglued and freak out.

But honestly, I can't envision you as freezing up, I see you taking time to process and then react but not freezing up.

 

[Dribble]

Those that refuse to speak out against wrongs are complicit. Period. It really is that simple.

So yea...i am a fighter. Always have been. I can pinpoint the day I decided to stand for right and fight for those incapable of protecting themselves. I was 8. I forgot to throw the old dogfood from the morning away when I got home from school and put out new. I was instead doing my homework. My father held me up side down by both feet with one hand and whipped me with his belt until I pissed my pants. I was 8. I was incapable of protecting myself. My mother stood there and watched...not saying a word.

215,000 deaths. More than our last 5 wars combined. It will be near a half a million by Christmas. Silence is not an option. Today, a right-wing militia group was stopped from kidnapping a governor and attempting to overthrow an elected Government in the State of Michigan. Why? Stand down but be ready. Five words.

No David....the PlayGround isn't for topics like this. Bullshit. Those that don't speak out...are complicit. I had to read Anatomy of a Revolution by Crane Briton in high school in the late 70s. Do you know how scary it is realizing my daughter is going to witness war in this country if we don't change? If we don't speak out. This is not ok people. Open your eyes. Or not. The choice is yours. Fight. Speak up. Vote. Or lose everything.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

I'm more of a flight than freezer or fighter, though that is situational.

I'm non-confrontational as a rule, but if my ire is up I'm going to fight until I can't anymore.

I just tend to pick my battles carefully.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Okay, I can relate to the aftereffect reactions following something wild and hairy where everyone else lost their shit. And I've seen people wait until afterwards to come unglued and freak out.

But honestly, I can't envision you as freezing up, I see you taking time to process and then react but not freezing up.

Oh, if someone tries to argue with me I'm useless a lot of the time.

How I remain friends with pmann is anyone's guess

 

[tnman03]

Oh, if someone tries to argue with me I'm useless a lot of the time.

How I remain friends with pmann is anyone's guess

Ah! Well not everyone is wired for verbal argument or debate but are also generally the doers who keep things working.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Let’s talk about hair. And then hair that’s been removed.

Ladies.
*Thoughts on seeing a man with shaved legs?
•What about when they shave their man bits?
*Chest?
•Face?

Okay men, your turn.
*You want the lady’s bit smooth and bare? Don’t mind some hair? Hello 70s wild and rowdy?
•Legs, absolutely shaved everyday? You freak out if it’s been a few days and not rocking the smooth?
*How about our hair, like it long, shirt, straight, curly?

Feel free to pipe in on either.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Let’s talk about hair. And then hair that’s been removed.

Ladies.
*Thoughts on seeing a man with shaved legs?
•What about when they shave their man bits?
*Chest?
•Face?

Okay men, your turn.
*You want the lady’s bit smooth and bare? Don’t mind some hair? Hello 70s wild and rowdy?
•Legs, absolutely shaved everyday? You freak out if it’s been a few days and not rocking the smooth?
*How about our hair, like it long, shirt, straight, curly?

Feel free to pipe in on either.

Each man is different for me. Some look good with all the hair. Some look good with it maintained and some look good bare.

I love fur on a man now. I learned to love it as I got older. But I like it at least maintained down there. I've got my own dental floss and if I'm coughing up fur balls, it'll ruin the mood.
if you are hairy all over but you shave (totally) that little triangle, it just looks weird. But if you aren't hairy and you shave, it just looks good.

 

[BongoGal]

Let’s talk about hair. And then hair that’s been removed.

Ladies.
*Thoughts on seeing a man with shaved legs?
•What about when they shave their man bits?
*Chest?
•Face?

I have never 'done it' with a guy with a beard. Just not a fan. I'll tolerate some stubble, but the plan should be to shave when possible. I've only seen shaved man bits in photos, but I think it looks ridiculous.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I give zero shits how people choose to groom their hair, so long as it's clean. I think it's incredibly self centered to get to the point of being naked with someone and then finding an objection with their appearance. It's obviously difference if the grooming issue is a health and safety thing (like not brushing teeth or having lice), but other than that, I'm down for whatever I find

 

[Xerxes82]

Okay men, your turn.
*You want the lady’s bit smooth and bare? Don’t mind some hair? Hello 70s wild and rowdy?
•Legs, absolutely shaved everyday? You freak out if it’s been a few days and not rocking the smooth?
*How about our hair, like it long, shirt, straight, curly?

Feel free to pipe in on either.

For her legs, I love the smooth, but I'm not going to take my hands off her just because of not being freshly shaved. I'm not saying there may not be a line that gets crossed into "no, thank you" territory at some point, but I've never had an issue there so far.

For her bits, literally whatever makes her comfy, as long as she's keeping herself clean. I've licked pussy that was shaved bare. I've licked pussy in hairy 70's bush. It's delicious either way! This one is a non issue for me. Just spread those legs, baby... LOL

I've never had a partner whose hair was longer than about her shoulders. Straight, wavy, curly comes down to the woman. I've adored all three at one time or another. That said, I've often fantasized about a woman with her hair streaming all the way down her back. Maybe someday.

And some women just look sexy AF with it quite short. It can really show off the face and neck.

 

[L3gacy]

So....
What’s your typical MO:
Do you fight? Flight? Or Freeze?
And is your MO different IRL, versus here, in this strange little place under a naughty rock on the internet?

Oh! I love this question:

I fight. Period. Ive always been that way. I did it professionally for fun for years.
In real life, I don’t back off ever. I’m not a bully by any sense of the word but will not back down if provoked, especially if a friend or loved one is confronted.
Here, it’s rare that I will even engage. Though I am the same here as I am in real life, friends, (those that know me from talking on Skype or phone) know this, I choose instead to ignore. Many here are brave behind the keyboard, but would be entirely different face to face. I don’t have the time not inclination to associate with someone that isn’t real.

 

[L3gacy]

Let’s talk about hair. And then hair that’s been removed.

Ladies.
*Thoughts on seeing a man with shaved legs?
•What about when they shave their man bits?
*Chest?
•Face?

Okay men, your turn.
*You want the lady’s bit smooth and bare? Don’t mind some hair? Hello 70s wild and rowdy?
•Legs, absolutely shaved everyday? You freak out if it’s been a few days and not rocking the smooth?
*How about our hair, like it long, shirt, straight, curly?

Feel free to pipe in on either.

Hmmmm. For this, I want her to do what she feels good doing. Hair no hair, it’s up to her. If she feels sexy about her appearance and herself then that does it for me.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Let’s talk about hair. And then hair that’s been removed.

Ladies.
*Thoughts on seeing a man with shaved legs?
•What about when they shave their man bits?
*Chest?
•Face?

Okay men, your turn.
*You want the lady’s bit smooth and bare? Don’t mind some hair? Hello 70s wild and rowdy?
•Legs, absolutely shaved everyday? You freak out if it’s been a few days and not rocking the smooth?
*How about our hair, like it long, shirt, straight, curly?

Feel free to pipe in on either.

First, I did not know the shaved leg thing for men was more than swimmers/cyclists/etc.

I'm not going to pretend I'm in love with unruly leg hair, but everyday seems like a bit much. Damn. I prefer some trimming/shaving down below, but I'm a bit with aussie on this, after we're naked seems like a weird time to get weird about something like that. I prefer long hair, I guess if you made me pick, but again, I'm not fussed really.

As for me, bearded, a bit of iso-flow happening with my hair, so like who am I to judge? Hard no on the shaved legs.

 

[Mr_bogey]

Let’s talk about hair. And then hair that’s been removed.

Ladies.
*Thoughts on seeing a man with shaved legs?
•What about when they shave their man bits?
*Chest?
•Face?

Okay men, your turn.
*You want the lady’s bit smooth and bare? Don’t mind some hair? Hello 70s wild and rowdy?
•Legs, absolutely shaved everyday? You freak out if it’s been a few days and not rocking the smooth?
*How about our hair, like it long, shirt, straight, curly?

Feel free to pipe in on either.

I think the lady should choose the pubic styling that she enjoys most and that makes her comfortable. My preference is for some hair and I'm good with a full bush as long as deep woods off isnt required and I don't have to mark a trail to make sure I can find my way back out.

Legs, I prefer them shaved. I don't think it has to be daily.

Hair style, again, her choice. I've seen women look great bald, with to their ass and everything in between. I'm cool with whatever. If it makes her happy, things will likely be easier in my life.

Pro tip: notice and compliment a woman's haircut. It will get you places.

 

[Trekka]

Oh, hair.
I haven’t cut mine in five years.
BFs hair is even longer than mine!
I love a mess of unruly manes.

I like my men manly. Hairy. Beards. Stubble. Fur everywhere. Grrr.....
Then again, I’m not gonna turn down a clean shaven slick Rick in a suit.
As long as he knows what to do with that silk tie he’s got around his neck.

I keep all my bits waxed at the man of house’s request. Left to my own defenses, I’d look like a snippet of 50 year old porn. But he likes it smooth so I oblige him. I wonder sometimes if my aesthetician and I will still have such an intimate relationship a couple decades from now... ? lol.

Anyways.

It *is* more sensitive when it’s waxed, so thats a nice perk.
If he shaved or waxed things, I’d be instantly suspicious. I like wild, rugged, natural manscapes

And to Aussie and QCs point, if I fall into bed with someone *of course* I’m not gonna hop out when I unwrap my prize, should the sitch beneath the clothes not match my ideal.

But it may influence how we move forward after the clothes are back on.