Litiquette VII

[hotwords229_A]

Processed twice and no background check, I mean full names are overrated at 2am.
And then a quick exit the next morning minus a pair of panties that were no where to be found.


* I think I was wearing panties that night, maybe not!*

That’s probably why he pulled you over in the first place. Driving without panties is a cuffable offense

 

[SMNaughtywife]

That’s probably why he pulled you over in the first place. Driving without panties is a cuffable offense

I moaned “guilty.”

I’d better behave or I’ll have a citation waiting for me in the morning. Something like that.
Night handsome.

 

[Orchidea73]

I agree with you. It’s important as a checks and balances and also bc things constantly change. My first thought with regard to this question was as a teacher, being mindful to those who push back against guidance. It makes me reevaluate constantly—something that is necessary in order for everyone to get the most out of the experience.

I also thought about myself as a kid—I was a terrible student. I was in a free fall for a lot of reasons. I needed structure so badly and I didn’t get it for a long time. I did so much better when I was sent to a very strict Catholic school. It had sooo many rules, and I did push back against them, but it was such a definite set of rules, I was more present. I don’t know that it was the best situation for me in which to learn, but it was necessary to wake me up and become my own advocate.

So, I think rules and discipline, while it can weigh on you, forces you to fight for yourself.

I had a different experience in school. Because of the nature of it (Arts) mine was the one with very few rules and restrictions. Living away from my family most of the year also gave my more freedom.

But funny enough, I found order (well, my order anyway) in that freedom, if that makes sense? Having a lot of freedom made me appreciate it but also find the limits and my boundaries. It taught me how to use that freedom.

 

[ChainedUp]

The poll has been added, my apologies for missing this important, historical flare to the thread. I trust your answers will be honest, even if you’re less than exciting. I suspect this group will have a bias but it will be interesting to see how we view ourselves.

 

[ChainedUp]

Pleasure, it’s what drives us, or at least the quest for it. It’s prominent in our sexual actions, it’s why we do the things we do. Either providing pleasure for ourselves or others, isn’t pleasure the key component in our lives?

 

[Froya]

The pursuit of it certainly seems to be, yes.

Also, now I can't get The Pleasure Principle out of my head.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-gu1KETjVY

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Seek out pleasure and avoid pain.
My younger id and ego was daring and spontaneous- always wanting the heightened thrill.
I’m definitely more refined in my pleasure seeking, wants and desires now days.
Naughty is haughty, yeah I’ll admit to it.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

Nice to see VII off to a good start. I’ll try my best to keep things under control, handing out citations as necessary.

Which makes me think of rules and discipline. We crave rules, we need discipline to follow them but why do we fight it so hard? On one hand we want our independence, on the other we want guardrails to guide us along. Sure there’s always the seemingly unnecessary rules, the silly ones, but for the most part we need order. Don’t we?

Some rules are meant to be broken - simply for the funishment.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

The poll has been added, my apologies for missing this important, historical flare to the thread. I trust your answers will be honest, even if you’re less than exciting. I suspect this group will have a bias but it will be interesting to see how we view ourselves.

Damn, that's a hard one. I can honestly answer yes to all but one of those responses.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Pleasure, it’s what drives us, or at least the quest for it. It’s prominent in our sexual actions, it’s why we do the things we do. Either providing pleasure for ourselves or others, isn’t pleasure the key component in our lives?

It's either pleasure or avoiding pain.

I actually think more people live avoidant lives than meaningfully seeking pleasure. Society isn't very friendly to people who want to be happy. As humans we're almost obsessed with misery and pain. That's where the lessons are. That's where most of us bond.

 

[parker77]

all y'all need do is listen to the gospel according to Ry Cooder, to wit,

"Feelin' good, feelin' good; all the money in the world's spent on feelin' good."

here endeth the lesson.

 

[Endless_Night]

Now see, this is why I don’t answer the polls. They don't meet my needs. Where is the *kink specific, yet inept* option?



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As to the question, I’m not much of a hedonist. Joy is my jam.

It's an elusive, fragile, hummingbird of a creature, but every fleeting second lived in it's presence make all else worthwhile.

Joy may often be aligned with pleasure, but it exists independently.

It's either pleasure or avoiding pain.

I actually think more people live avoidant lives than meaningfully seeking pleasure. Society isn't very friendly to people who want to be happy. As humans we're almost obsessed with misery and pain. That's where the lessons are. That's where most of us bond.

Truth^.

It's surprising to me how many seemingly rational people opt for avoidant lives. Pain can be brutal, yes, but to choose - actively choose! - to bypass life’s possible highs out of fear, seems, among other things, such a hopeless drudge of existence.

 

[Matthew82]

Now see, this is why I don’t answer the polls. They don't meet my needs. Where is the *kink specific, yet inept* option?



* * *

As to the question, I’m not much of a hedonist. Joy is my jam.

It's an elusive, fragile, hummingbird of a creature, but every fleeting second lived in it's presence make all else worthwhile.

Joy may often be aligned with pleasure, but it exists independently.



Truth^.

It's surprising to me how many seemingly rational people opt for avoidant lives. Pain can be brutal, yes, but to choose - actively choose! - to bypass life’s possible highs out of fear, seems, among other things, such a hopeless drudge of existence.

Not sure it's ever that simple. Each story, each case is different. Sure plenty of people make excuses for complacency..some enjoy the drama. Others like playing the victim. Some just don't want to be involved in the drama. Others thrive off of it. To each their own, just don't die with regrets.

 

[tnman03]

It's either pleasure or avoiding pain.

I actually think more people live avoidant lives than meaningfully seeking pleasure. Society isn't very friendly to people who want to be happy. As humans we're almost obsessed with misery and pain. That's where the lessons are. That's where most of us bond.

Well...as a follow up on this isn't most rapid individual and for that matter societal developmental gain(s) directly attributable to pain or failures? If all your getting is a lot of pleasure then what's the impetus to change or improve?

 

[Suz_anne]

I like pleasure spiked with pain.

 

[85Ironman]

I like pleasure spiked with pain.

Who doesn't?

 

[Suz_anne]

Who doesn't?

Candy asses. That's who.

 

[85Ironman]

Candy asses. That's who.

You mean butt stuff, don't you?

 

[Suz_anne]

You mean butt stuff, don't you?

I almost always mean butt stuff.

 

[Endless_Night]

I almost always mean butt stuff.

I was with you all the way until this post.

Pleasure, fulfillment, contentment, it all goes together, I think.

*waves*

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Well...as a follow up on this isn't most rapid individual and for that matter societal developmental gain(s) directly attributable to pain or failures? If all your getting is a lot of pleasure then what's the impetus to change or improve?

Absolutely.

 

[blade_rocknut]

I almost always mean butt stuff.

Thought for the day.

 

[ChainedUp]

“It’s the darkest just before dawn” I know this is a metaphor but it’s never held true for me. It’s not really any darker just before dawn as it is 2 hours before dawn unless there’s a study out there that shows it is darker before dawn and if there is, I’d love to read it. Once you’re in the throws of darkness, does the glimmer of light help, or is it just a reminder of the darkness? For me, when it’s dark, it’s dark, and the only solution is light, lots and lots of light. For you?

 

[Misanthrope4Life]

“It’s the darkest just before dawn” I know this is a metaphor but it’s never held true for me. It’s not really any darker just before dawn as it is 2 hours before dawn unless there’s a study out there that shows it is darker before dawn and if there is, I’d love to read it. Once you’re in the throws of darkness, does the glimmer of light help, or is it just a reminder of the darkness? For me, when it’s dark, it’s dark, and the only solution is light, lots and lots of light. For you?

It depends on the individual, when you're in a dark place it's easy to get consumed in it. If you wake up with a negative attitude or expect things to go wrong, it will go wrong, especially with the negative energy you put out there

A lot of people just looked at the negative, forgetting everything they should be grateful for.

They forget about
All the people that love them
Having a roof over your head
Shoes on feet
Food in your stomach
All the great things that's in their lives


For me, it's the darkest before the dawn. I get out of that dark place quickly and have a major sigh of relief. We should be grateful for what we do have, instead of what you don't have or feel you deserve

 

[Misanthrope4Life]

A light at the end of the tunnel helps. Hope. It gives me something to focus on, hold on to, and work towards - even if it's far off in the distance.

https://youtu.be/grrADdmfrSI

Sorry, bad joke