Litiquette VI

How close do you think Literotica reflects your real life?

  • 100%, The way I interact here is exactly how I interact in real life

    Votes: 39 20.2%
  • 0%, Are you crazy. Literotica is as far away from my real life as anything could possibly be and I l

    Votes: 24 12.4%
  • 50%, It's close to my real life, at least how I interact publicly

    Votes: 43 22.3%
  • 50% I'm far more kinky, naughty, filthy here than I am in real life.

    Votes: 87 45.1%

  • Total voters
    193
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Today, let’s talk about unlikely crushes. This is a discussion that I’ve had with a friend before... who are the people that you like that may not necessarily be traditionally attractive? But you’re drawn to them anyway. It doesn’t mean they’re ugly. Just maybe not beautiful in the traditional sense.

Jean-Paul Belmondo. Another big crush. He had that look of "simpatica canaglia", as we call it here. I don't know how you say it in English. The literal translation would be "nice rogue" or "little rascal", smart-ass kind of thing.

https://i.imgur.com/wyU2Q6J.jpg
 
Wow. It’s clearly been far too long. While things seem to be turning around here a bit seems like this thread could use a little guidance from the OP. So, here goes:

As a cool spring rain falls today, it makes me think of glass half full /half empty. Sure, it ruins a weekend day where I’d love to be outside but it will help green things up, soak in some grass seed, and refresh things in general. But why do we tend to look at things in binary terms. Good or bad, sad or happy, can’t things be both? Can’t that which is A also be B? Life is full of gray, rarely is there black and white so why are we so predisposed to forcing it?

Some are stuck in a box where routine runs their lives. It’s safe, some are terrified of rocking the boat and it’s easy to just go with the flow. Living in grey takes effort and courage, moving your way through life and not worrying about pleasing everyone.
 
Never knew he was a heartthrob. The cult is/was an underrated band. Btw, if I don't find a barber open soon, my hair is gonna look like that. (Cool when you are 20, nosomuch @50)

Absolutely underrated band! Well he was definitely an alternative heartthrob. While everyone was crushing on Duran Duran and Wham, mine was him and Robert Smith from The Cure 😁
I dunno some guys carry it off well!!
 
I agree with you. Life is all about the gray.

I think we’re predisposed to categorize into white/black from our caveman days. Will this berry kill me? Or not? Is there a bear in there? Or not?

Will a decision some stupid moron makes end up killing my daughter? Who will take care if her if I die? How do I cut my budget even more so she doesn't know what it feels like to go hungry as I did growing up? Yep...caveman days...

I do not see the grey as I used to. Funny...it wasnt my choice to change. Right...wrong...honesty...lies..*****...death...

I think it is the difference between the idealism of youth...and the reality of life. Grey makes us feel better for our choices, but it doesn't move the dial one direction or the other.
 
Some are stuck in a box where routine runs their lives. It’s safe, some are terrified of rocking the boat and it’s easy to just go with the flow. Living in grey takes effort and courage, moving your way through life and not worrying about pleasing everyone.

Rock the boat and your feet get wet, just as long as you don’t tip the boat over, we all could stand to get our feet wet.
 
Will a decision some stupid moron makes end up killing my daughter? Who will take care if her if I die? How do I cut my budget even more so she doesn't know what it feels like to go hungry as I did growing up? Yep...caveman days...

I do not see the grey as I used to. Funny...it wasnt my choice to change. Right...wrong...honesty...lies..*****...death...

I think it is the difference between the idealism of youth...and the reality of life. Grey makes us feel better for our choices, but it doesn't move the dial one direction or the other.

I think gray does move the needle. If black moves it 100, and white moves it 0, wouldn’t gray at 50 be better than white at 0? We may not get it all but isn’t some better than none?
 
As far as black and white...

I think it’s easy for us to desire binary answers. Yes or No. it’s why, when you ask questions to a person in conversation, we need to ask open ended question if you want more.

We crave definition and clarity. Growing up we learn yes/no, right/wrong, etc. so when grey and middle ground comes up, it shifts our paradigm. And we want consistency.
 
As far as black and white...

I think it’s easy for us to desire binary answers. Yes or No. it’s why, when you ask questions to a person in conversation, we need to ask open ended question if you want more.

We crave definition and clarity. Growing up we learn yes/no, right/wrong, etc. so when grey and middle ground comes up, it shifts our paradigm. And we want consistency.

I think we want to claim absolutism, 0% chance for failure, the desire to be right. It’s what drives politics these days. But the subtleness of gray is where life lives, nuance thrives here and, I for one, want that nuance.
 
If we didn’t have grey all those amazing theories and what if’s might not have happened. If we only accept black and white we don’t challenge our thinking.
 
If we didn’t have grey all those amazing theories and what if’s might not have happened. If we only accept black and white we don’t challenge our thinking.

I love challenged thinking. But if we accept black, does that mean we’ve also accepted its opposite white? Or have we simply denied it as an option?
 
I think gray does move the needle. If black moves it 100, and white moves it 0, wouldn’t gray at 50 be better than white at 0? We may not get it all but isn’t some better than none?

I agree 100% under normal circumstances. But society today is not moving at our normal rate or led by our normal leaders. Idealistic differences exist that simply can't be compromised. This country needs to pass a Constitutional Amendment allowing states to leave. Violence on one side...will only lead to violence from the other. I did not start this war. But to say it has not started...or will continue...is stupidity. This does not end well. People need to open their eyes. It is still preventable...but replacing the existing administration with the other will only delay the inevitable.
 
. who are the people that you like that may not necessarily be traditionally attractive?

Andy Samberg and Tom Segura....I like men who make me laugh :)

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But why do we tend to look at things in binary terms. Good or bad, sad or happy, can’t things be both? Can’t that which is A also be B? Life is full of gray, rarely is there black and white so why are we so predisposed to forcing it?

I agree with Dribble that responsibilities in life make false dilemma thinking much easier to accept. Black and white thinking is appealing because it’s reductionistic. It creates simplicity where we don’t want to have to really comprehend. It allows us to feel intelligent without full understanding, and once we feel intelligent, we feel superior. I’m a black and white thinker...but I’m not blind to the gray area.
 
I love challenged thinking. But if we accept black, does that mean we’ve also accepted its opposite white? Or have we simply denied it as an option?

It is always an option. As is grey. Or is it gray? But what happens when the choice is taken from you?
 
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