Litiquette VI

[Lonelywife1205]

Hello fellow masturbators.

Quick question... If you knew you had a friend here at Lit who was in lurv with someone and you found out they were getting two timed, would you tell the person? How about off lit?

Dear Claudia by SouthFM

https://youtu.be/RKDAFiQtY14

This is a tricky one. I don’t see how it could end well for the friend who tattles. And also how did they find out? Was it here say or gossip? It may not even be true and then you are the one gossiping if you continue to spread the lie. I do understand not wanting to see your friend get hurt though. In this case I might reach out to the alleged two timer and first ask if it is true and tell them why you believe it is and then tell them they need to be the one to fess up to the one they are two timing or else you will do it for them.

I think in general, it’s best to keep out of stuff that isn’t really any of your business. I think another good rule is to ask yourself if it were you being two timed, would you want a friend to tell you what they knew?

 

[The_gladiator]

This is a tricky one. I don’t see how it could end well for the friend who tattles. And also how did they find out? Was it here say or gossip? It may not even be true and then you are the one gossiping if you continue to spread the lie. I do understand not wanting to see your friend get hurt though. In this case I might reach out to the alleged two timer and first ask if it is true and tell them why you believe it is and then tell them they need to be the one to fess up to the one they are two timing or else you will do it for them.

I think in general, it’s best to keep out of stuff that isn’t really any of your business. I think another good rule is to ask yourself if it were you being two timed, would you want a friend to tell you what they knew?

Nope, give me the dream, lit is a fantasy after all, don’t shatter my dreams

 

[SassySheDevil]

This is a tricky one. I don’t see how it could end well for the friend who tattles. And also how did they find out? Was it here say or gossip? It may not even be true and then you are the one gossiping if you continue to spread the lie. I do understand not wanting to see your friend get hurt though. In this case I might reach out to the alleged two timer and first ask if it is true and tell them why you believe it is and then tell them they need to be the one to fess up to the one they are two timing or else you will do it for them.

I think in general, it’s best to keep out of stuff that isn’t really any of your business. I think another good rule is to ask yourself if it were you being two timed, would you want a friend to tell you what they knew?

Yes, I would. Especially if they knew that I was being told I was the only 1.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

This is why I’m honest with the people I talk to and have relationships with. I don’t let anyone think they are the only one if they’re not. It’s also why, in most cases, I’m not public with my relationships and I don’t tell names to my friends. (No matter how hard some friends beg)

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I feel targeted.

I actually called you out by name, then deleted and went with a more general approach.

ETA: But yes, that sentence was absolutely intended for your nosy little ass.

 

[blade_rocknut]

Hello fellow masturbators.

Quick question... If you knew you had a friend here at Lit who was in lurv with someone and you found out they were getting two timed, would you tell the person? How about off lit?

Dear Claudia by SouthFM

https://youtu.be/RKDAFiQtY14

Generally, I'm gonna mind my own, unless I can see harm being done.

 

[SassySheDevil]

In the real world. That bit me in the ass. It was my sister in law (wasn't at the time though) and she hated me for about a year. I think after realizing that I would eventually be family and accepting the truth (he admitted it) she apologized and said that she was sorry for being mad at me.

On here. If we are good friends, then yes. I remember the groups. There was so much awakening to just how many people were playing with the same people, it was a huge eye opener.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Generally, I'm gonna mind my own, unless I can see harm being done.

Just a quick time out to fan myself after seeing Blade’s new AV for the first time.
Holy hotness Batman.

 

[parker77]

Even though I was called an aloof bitch and a prude yesterday.... it averages about once/twice daily for me, sometimes more, sometimes zero - but never zero in a week.

aloof bitch and prude seem undeserved. am i wrong?

 

[parker77]

Hello fellow masturbators.

Quick question... If you knew you had a friend here at Lit who was in lurv with someone and you found out they were getting two timed, would you tell the person? How about off lit?

Dear Claudia by SouthFM

https://youtu.be/RKDAFiQtY14

this time, i'm going to use Liz Phair's lyric without bastardization - i ain't never said nothing!

the Lit environment doesn't provide clear enough understanding of any situation to justify inserting one's self in somebody else's business. in RL, there are typically plenty of other people doing this work.

anyway, it's my experience all truth ultimately is revealed.

 

[blade_rocknut]

In the real world. That bit me in the ass. It was my sister in law (wasn't at the time though) and she hated me for about a year. I think after realizing that I would eventually be family and accepting the truth (he admitted it) she apologized and said that she was sorry for being mad at me.

On here. If we are good friends, then yes. I remember the groups. There was so much awakening to just how many people were playing with the same people, it was a huge eye opener.

Hence my current position. People aren't programmed to believe what upsets their position, so the messenger gets shot, proverbially speaking. I've tried to recite the writing on the wall to the illiterate, and was accused of being blind.
Until they figured it out.

Just a quick time out to fan myself after seeing Blade’s new AV for the first time.
Holy hotness Batman.

Haha...thanks. Shoulda seen the version of that my wife received while she was out touring a property.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Hence my current position. People aren't programmed to believe what upsets their position, so the messenger gets shot, proverbially speaking. I've tried to recite the writing on the wall to the illiterate, and was accused of being blind.
Until they figured it out.


Haha...thanks. Shoulda seen the version of that my wife received while she was out touring a property.

Tease

 

[Moochienanu]

This is a tricky one. I don’t see how it could end well for the friend who tattles. And also how did they find out? Was it here say or gossip? It may not even be true and then you are the one gossiping if you continue to spread the lie. I do understand not wanting to see your friend get hurt though. In this case I might reach out to the alleged two timer and first ask if it is true and tell them why you believe it is and then tell them they need to be the one to fess up to the one they are two timing or else you will do it for them.

I think in general, it’s best to keep out of stuff that isn’t really any of your business. I think another good rule is to ask yourself if it were you being two timed, would you want a friend to tell you what they knew?

This scenario turned into reality for me a-year-and-a-little-more-than-a-half-ish ago when my then exclusive (I thought) relationship with a long distance guy here on lit decided that he wanted to cheat irl with another lit girl. I wish that someone had told me... or known to tell me. It would have saved me a lot of time and heartache (although it does make for some great poetry - thanks for that one good thing, E!)

In the end, I’m kinda happy he cheated, because I got rid of someone who obviously wasn’t needed in my life (and I made an amazing friend whom I love out of the whole thing).

I know where I am now as a person is better. I’ve found both a more loving, caring relationship with actual meaning, and I have the freedom to be who I am without the negativity of someone who never really cared for me but only wanted to keep me around for my looks (I’m a redhead and he has a thing for them) weighing upon me.

 

[StacyLeigh]

aloof bitch and prude seem undeserved. am i wrong?

Aloof - that's probably well deserved. I'm friendly, but not particularly forthcoming and a bit distant at first. The rest, not so much.

If you knew you had a friend here at Lit who was in lurv with someone and you found out they were getting two timed, would you tell the person? How about off lit?

I personally come from the old-school philosophy of mind your own damn business. Sure, if I was the one being cheated on, I would like to know but I would never expect my friends to poke their noses where they don't belong. And I tend to keep my nose clean as well. This is true IRL and here on Lit. Though maybe especially on Lit - where nothing is clearly visible. It seems inconceivable to me that someone on an internet forum could know what is going on in private interactions that don't involve them.

 

[Cthulhu1138]

I was nursing some (very foolish) heartache years ago and put myself out there on the Kik thread.

I started chatting with a woman who was growing in to her newfound or newly rediscovered sexuality after a fling that led to her and her husband opening up their marriage.

We really hit if off online and chatted every day


She started a photo thread, and I commented and suggested ideas.

She balked at a chance to meet and then a week later out of the blue told me that she was meeting up with another Litster who was in her town for a night.

Then she told me about her 'dates' with local men and exploring herself and who she really was.

We had our own video dates, which were great and made me feel confident and sexy and desirable again.

But she was not 'mine' however much she protested and chafed at things I said to others online.

So I accepted the attention of a local woman and met up with her, once for coffee, once for more.

I came clean to my wife, to my online girlfriend. I told the local woman that it would not happen again.

Everyone was mad at me
(With reason)

The online girlfriend became an online ex when I finally got smart enough to realize that I was merely a plaything, and also after she found a new man through Lit to take my place.

So now the ex and the 'other' woman are besties.

I will echo what others here have said:

It is hard to hear things we wish were not true, no matter who tells us.

 

[Lord Pmann]

This:

This scenario turned into reality for me a-year-and-a-little-more-than-a-half-ish ago when my then exclusive (I thought) relationship with a long distance guy here on lit decided that he wanted to cheat irl with another lit girl. I wish that someone had told me... or known to tell me. It would have saved me a lot of time and heartache (although it does make for some great poetry - thanks for that one good thing, E!)

In the end, I’m kinda happy he cheated, because I got rid of someone who obviously wasn’t needed in my life (and I made an amazing friend whom I love out of the whole thing).

I know where I am now as a person is better. I’ve found both a more loving, caring relationship with actual meaning, and I have the freedom to be who I am without the negativity of someone who never really cared for me but only wanted to keep me around for my looks (I’m a redhead and he has a thing for them) weighing upon me.

Plus this:

I was nursing some (very foolish) heartache years ago and put myself out there on the Kik thread.

I started chatting with a woman who was growing in to her newfound or newly rediscovered sexuality after a fling that led to her and her husband opening up their marriage.

We really hit if off online and chatted every day


She started a photo thread, and I commented and suggested ideas.

She balked at a chance to meet and then a week later out of the blue told me that she was meeting up with another Litster who was in her town for a night.

Then she told me about her 'dates' with local men and exploring herself and who she really was.

We had our own video dates, which were great and made me feel confident and sexy and desirable again.

But she was not 'mine' however much she protested and chafed at things I said to others online.

So I accepted the attention of a local woman and met up with her, once for coffee, once for more.

I came clean to my wife, to my online girlfriend. I told the local woman that it would not happen again.

Everyone was mad at me
(With reason)

The online girlfriend became an online ex when I finally got smart enough to realize that I was merely a plaything, and also after she found a new man through Lit to take my place.

So now the ex and the 'other' woman are besties.

I will echo what others here have said:

It is hard to hear things we wish were not true, no matter who tells us.

Makes pmann say:

Hmmmmm...

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

Hello fellow masturbators.

Quick question... If you knew you had a friend here at Lit who was in lurv with someone and you found out they were getting two timed, would you tell the person? How about off lit?

Dear Claudia by SouthFM

https://youtu.be/RKDAFiQtY14

I'm firmly in the "mind your business" camp. There are exceptions somewhere on the feasibility scale, but I'm keeping my mouth shut and minding my own in general. Especially on Lit.

 

[Guyblue82]

Does the C in Richard C stand for Coronavirus, COVID-19 or Chlamydia?

“Yes” is an acceptable answer.

His name is Dick.... what do you expect?

 

[Moochienanu]

This:



Plus this:



Makes pmann say:

Hmmmmm...

Pmann is right to say such things... and also to think maybe there is a lot here that neither want to actually talk about - I don’t like to air laundry, it’s meant to tumble dry- right? That’s how sanitation happens?

 

[blade_rocknut]

Pmann let us down on the music today.

https://youtu.be/JSeuDDzjIB8

 

[SMNaughtywife]

What?!

This question....
And you say I’m high all the time.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Pmann is right to say such things... and also to think maybe there is a lot here that neither want to actually talk about - I don’t like to air laundry, it’s meant to tumble dry- right? That’s how sanitation happens?

No, no. By all means... I love the smell of fresh laundry. Consider me the clothes line of Lit.

 

[blade_rocknut]

What?!

This question....
And you say I’m high all the time.

*ponders; if weed makes one horny, and SMN is high all the time...*

 

[Cthulhu1138]

Pmann let us down on the music today.

https://youtu.be/JSeuDDzjIB8

A fantastic choice!

Of course, we would be remiss for not including that song's sequel:

https://youtu.be/-Lza3NVH6Ig

 

[blade_rocknut]

A fantastic choice!

Of course, we would be remiss for not including that song's sequel:

https://youtu.be/-Lza3NVH6Ig

And the logical progression...

https://youtu.be/4E9ydw_aDMg