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Litiquette VI

How close do you think Literotica reflects your real life?

  • 100%, The way I interact here is exactly how I interact in real life

    Votes: 39 20.2%

  • 0%, Are you crazy. Literotica is as far away from my real life as anything could possibly be and I l

    Votes: 24 12.4%

  • 50%, It's close to my real life, at least how I interact publicly

    Votes: 43 22.3%

  • 50% I'm far more kinky, naughty, filthy here than I am in real life.

    Votes: 87 45.1%
  • Total voters
    193
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Lord Pmann said:
So here is a non-HS related question for those who dislike HS related questions.

At Lit, how do you deal with ending a PM relationship with someone who has gone dry? Do you let it fizzle? Or do you tell them it’s just not working out? This can be friends or a sexual relationship here. Is there any obligation?


Gotye- Somebody That I Used To Know

https://youtu.be/8UVNT4wvIGY
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😳

I don't see why obligation. If someone doesn't message me back, I drop another line. If I don't hear from them, oh well... I tend to send a note to people when I'm thinking of them but I never, ever take it personally if I don't get a response. I don't consider it the end of a relationship at all. I personally feel it's the height of entitlement to expect a response all the time from people. As our communication methods become more and more invasive, people forget we have choice and autonomy. Is REALLY unfair to reach out with expectation. It changes the dynamic of communication and is pretty selfish in the sense that it doesn't consider the recipient's life at all. There are hundreds of reasons why I personally don't/can't respond to messages. I imagine it's the same for other people. I'm not important enough to think I'm the reason I'm not getting a message back. And if I am, that's fine, too.

I know that others completely disagree with me, and that's ok.
 
Lord Pmann said:
So here is a non-HS related question for those who dislike HS related questions.

At Lit, how do you deal with ending a PM relationship with someone who has gone dry? Do you let it fizzle? Or do you tell them it’s just not working out? This can be friends or a sexual relationship here. Is there any obligation?


Gotye- Somebody That I Used To Know

https://youtu.be/8UVNT4wvIGY
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I think it's situational. If it's a close friendship that has staggered toward drifting apart? I might (and have) dropped messages to them occasionally checking in on them, unless it's made clear by either of us that such messages would be unwelcomed.

This is, in part, because I failed to do that with an online friend once...we drifted apart amicably and inevitably, but still considered each other friends.

Until I reached out after a few months and discovered she had passed away 6 months prior suddenly. So that's my baggage to deal with.

A sexual relationship? If it's casual and fizzles...it's Lit. It happens every day. If it's not working? Be honest. Don't ghost...it's not an obligation, but it's the right thing to do.
 
I was PM'ing myself to keep up my self esteem, but then I started sending myself dick pics and I just didn't want to see that--I felt it was too presumptuous.

Finally, I had to put myself on ignore.
 
Great question.

First off, no sexual relationship with yours truly could ever fizzle. For over 20 years, I’ve maintained a very hot constant friends with benefits thing with myself. I’m still making myself cum multiple times a day- no issues.

Secondly, AGG has done well explaining that sometimes people expect too much. She’s on to something there, even if she has no feelings or soul. I do think there are a lot of unreasonable expectations here at Lit.

However, the flip side of that is, if it’s someone with whom I interact with often or on a regular basis, then I totally get it. I think there should be some kind of “hey I won’t be around” or whatever.

As far as a friend whose communications just fizzle, that probably doesn’t require much explanation. Not if it’s a new messaging partner or whatever. But I would say that if there are feelings involved, romantic or a strong friendship, and it’s dying out, a discussion might be nice.

There are times before where I have had to leave without little notice. I tried to let those who I cared about know I was leaving. I didn’t do the best job, but it was something.

TL;DR version- I think sometimes people expect too much. But if it is someone with whom there has been a pattern or mutual expectation, just have the conversation.
 
I expect people to get busy with their real lives and I never expect a response within a certain time frame or even at all. I figure they will reach out when they have time or when they are thinking of me. I’m like this in real life too. When I reconnect with someone after not talking to them for a while, I’m hopeful that we can just pick back up where we left off. No worries. 💗

ETA: And in terms of talking to someone here on Lit, if it ain’t happening, I just let it fizzle. You can tell pretty quickly if there is a connection and it’s someone you want to invest your time in getting to know and vice versa.
 
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NRJLives said:
There's absolutely no obligation to any interaction. I PM with friends for awhile, then pick it up later. It's all good.
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Preeeeee- cisely! I try to not let a convo dangle, but I'm not perfect. I don't get upset when friends don't reply right away. Sometimes,conversations start and run their course, and there's just no reason to keep them going. It's all good.
 
blade_rocknut said:
Preeeeee- cisely! I try to not let a convo dangle, but I'm not perfect. I don't get upset when friends don't reply right away. Sometimes,conversations start and run their course, and there's just no reason to keep them going. It's all good.
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And besides, even if you were mad at me for not PMing for a while, I’d just send you a boob pic and all is forgiven. 😜
 
Lord Pmann said:
So here is a non-HS related question for those who dislike HS related questions.

At Lit, how do you deal with ending a PM relationship with someone who has gone dry? Do you let it fizzle? Or do you tell them it’s just not working out? This can be friends or a sexual relationship here. Is there any obligation?


Gotye- Somebody That I Used To Know

https://youtu.be/8UVNT4wvIGY
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(Ugh...Gotye? You disappoint me, Pmann.)

I'm not sure that Lit should be any different than a relationship or friendship off-line. If I've exchanged a few words with someone and there doesn't seem to be more to say, then I let it fizzle and move on. If I've invested time or developed a deeper connection with someone, friend or otherwise, then I feel there is a common courtesy to be honest and let them know I've changed direction or whatever the case may be.

Admittedly, I have ghosted people in the past. I regret it but sometimes it's unavoidable or they simply don't take the hint. Either way, I regret it to a degree.

That being said, I don't think one should come into a relationship on Lit expecting anything or feeling obligated to anything. Everyone operates differently and often people do have a separate standard of practice when it comes to online interactions. This is not the case for me - but sometimes I wish it was.
 
Friends. Enemies. Frenemies.

Lit can be a breeding ground for friendships gone bad. It makes me think of high sch... (Just kidding, Trekka- no more high school themed stuffs).

But it's so easy for people to develop good friendships here and then have them turn south. Quickly. Someone you once thought was your bestie, turns out to be a soulless, skanky hagbeast with a tail.

It happens in our off-Lit life too. Just, not as easily, in my opinion. Here people can turn so quickly. One minute they're besties. The next minute their best girlfriend gets caught with a dick pic from their guy with the girl's name on it. Or some guy's name written in permanent marker on her boobs.

I remember writing a message on my dick, once. It said, "To a beautiful girl down in Australia- I hope this pic finds you well and that you're enjoying it. May this pic make you wetter than a dolphin's blowhole. Have a nice day!"

Anyway, let's hear about your bestie gone bad stories. Here at Lit or away from here.


Bad Blood by Ryan Adams

https://youtu.be/9V-8VP5dnrQ
 
Simmer down, y'all.

I've never seen pmann's little friend, but now I'd be willing to take a look just to see how he managed to pull that one off.

Not really.

All my friendships made here are still friends. None of them are monsters. You get to know a person pretty well by how they post and interest with each other. I've heard rumors that someone I know treated other people here poorly, and as much I respect that perspective, it came from a friend of a friend, so I file that in the "things Aussie should keep an eye on".
I'm willing to change my opinion on someone regardless of how close o may have been with them at one time. And if they're a raging asshole, I'm not going to beat myself up for failing to see it in the moment. I will be proud I finally have a complete picture of that person and acted accordingly.

I should say that whilst I am vulnerable and happy to share here, I don't get close with many of you fuckers. I still keep a safe distance from the cage. I once saw a lion spray a poor kid at the zoo. I know what happens when you get too close.
 
I don't have any frenemies...that I know of. For me, most friendship here or offline are either still thriving or they simply fizzle out. I'm not one to cause drama and I don't hold on to negative feelings enough to be enemies with someone. Hell, I'm still friendly-ish with a man from Lit that catfished me. No need to carry any hate. And there are friends who know way too much about me - so I *must* be friends with them no matter what.

Also, your creepy dick pic is a true testament to the wonders an artist can do with a grain of rice ;)
 
Meh. I don't really have that baggage here. The real life shit? Those stories are too long to share via smartphone. They require a campfire, liquor, and a whole lot of "what the fucks".
 
StacyLeigh said:
Hell, I'm still friendly-ish with a man from Lit that catfished me.
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I feel like we need to talk more about this.
How were you catfished? I ask because I tend to put a lot more stock than I should into an avatar and although I definitely wouldn't call it catfishing (most of us remember ronster) I definitely hey caught off guard every freaking time people use images that aren't theirs. It's hilarious how niave I am...
 
Lit is lit. I don't get to excited about goings on here. I've made some friends and some connections. Yet, I don't think I've ever truly offered anyone here my heart. That would take a LOT!


I suppose I could vanish like a fart in the wind, and not many folks around here would notice. :cool:
 
aussiegeekygal said:
I feel like we need to talk more about this.
How were you catfished? I ask because I tend to put a lot more stock than I should into an avatar and although I definitely wouldn't call it catfishing (most of us remember ronster) I definitely hey caught off guard every freaking time people use images that aren't theirs. It's hilarious how niave I am...
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Save that for tomorrow!!!! That’ll be tomorrow’s question!!! “How was Stacy catfished???”
 
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