Litiquette V

[ViciousTease]

Yawn......stretches.....insupposenits time to roll on in here. Interesting read once again. Thinks I should toss some tums around to help with the nausea.

How often are your initial impressions of people wrong? Do you hold fast to them so that any change is damn near impossible or are you open to reconsideration. And does any reconsideration get impacted by whether your initial impression was good or bad? Is it easier to have some one go from nice to asshole or from asshole to nice?

In person, I can usually get a good read on people. I'm rarely surprised by their actions. If I do make an incorrect assumption about someone, I'm not chained to it. I can learn to see them in a new light.

Here, it's completely different. My initial impressions are often wrong. Some seem nice in the beginning and turn out to be stubborn assholes that pout when they don't get their way. Others come across as jerks but turn out to be kind and wonderful. With those, it's often just about learning to understand their particular brand of humor or sarcasm.

In both realities, I try to just accept people as they are. If you change yourself, whether that's an improvement or not, my opinions about you will shift as well.

 

[Endless_Night]

Yawn......stretches.....insupposenits time to roll on in here. Interesting read once again. Thinks I should toss some tums around to help with the nausea.

How often are your initial impressions of people wrong? Do you hold fast to them so that any change is damn near impossible or are you open to reconsideration. And does any reconsideration get impacted by whether your initial impression was good or bad? Is it easier to have some one go from nice to asshole or from asshole to nice?

Hmmm. My initial impressions change on occasion. Not regularly, but they do. I'm more likely to give people the benefit of the doubt, so I suppose they're more likely to decline than rise in my opinion. Occasionally I'm surprised and it's the other way round.

It rarely happens real time. I'm good a garnering a solid first impression when I meet people face to face. Like a super power p). Lit is more of a challenge. No social cues.

*shrug*

I rarely become intimate (and I don't mean that in a sexual way). Opinion shifts on people don't affect me on a personal level to much of a degree.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I tend to get a decent read on first impression, but I don't hold to that impression and I sort of approach people with the view that they're a lot like the Russian nesting dolls. There is always something tucked inside. I take that into account and redraw my impression of them as the relationship evolves.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

How often are your initial impressions of people wrong? Do you hold fast to them so that any change is damn near impossible or are you open to reconsideration. And does any reconsideration get impacted by whether your initial impression was good or bad? Is it easier to have some one go from nice to asshole or from asshole to nice?

Sometimes my initial impressions are skewed a little. I'm not extreme in my thinking or behaviorwise to never reconsider a done action. When a first impression has gone bad, or not how I anticipated, I step back and realize everyone you meet is dealing with something I know nothing about. We all have our days and I wasn't put here to judge. Yes, some actions are uncalled for, but most times I can over look the behavior. Most times.

I'm not sure which is easier - nice to asshole would mean that I missread the person and would feel disappointed in myself for thinking/believing in a lie.
Asshole to nice almost feels like a fake covering up who they really are.

 

[Trekka]

I tend to get a decent read on first impression, but I don't hold to that impression and I sort of approach people with the view that they're a lot like the Russian nesting dolls. There is always something tucked inside. I take that into account and redraw my impression of them as the relationship evolves.

i LOVE paul c. i will hit on him relentlessly until he notices. i may begin a fan club and make buttons. Suz will help distribute.

first impressions? i get them wrong all the time. yeah, they can and do change. it takes time to get to know someone.

i mean, i know in one sniff whether i wanna sit on their face, but as far as be friends? that takes longer.

what people must think of me on any given day... *laughs*

the inflexible types who bang the gavel and move along are really missing out on getting to know just how boring and normal i actually am.

 

[curvyangel1969]

Yawn......stretches.....insupposenits time to roll on in here. Interesting read once again. Thinks I should toss some tums around to help with the nausea.

How often are your initial impressions of people wrong? Do you hold fast to them so that any change is damn near impossible or are you open to reconsideration. And does any reconsideration get impacted by whether your initial impression was good or bad? Is it easier to have some one go from nice to asshole or from asshole to nice?

In RL I rarely change my mind it's not that it never happens. I generally just take a long time to get to know someone in the first place. I'll talk to anyone. But to get in my inner circle takes a lot.
Online. I misjugde and misread people a lot more. Anyone can pretend to be something for a while before the truth comes out good or bad.

 

[ChainedUp]

Friday......it's not as good as Saturday, but I'll take it.

Do you "accept" less than what you want because it's right there in front of you now? Are two goods the same as one great? Does patience or impatience control your actions?

 

[Endless_Night]

Friday......it's not as good as Saturday, but I'll take it.

Do you "accept" less than what you want because it's right there in front of you now? Are two goods the same as one great? Does patience or impatience control your actions?

No.

I want what I want, what I want, what I want.

Two goods are not the same as one great. I generally prefer to do without than accept a substitute. I tend to be very impatient, but I'm a good planner, and I can stretch myself for the long goal.

That said I do, and have, compromised on things of a practical nature. I am practical as well as 'want-y'.

 

[curvyangel1969]

No.

I want what I want, what I want, what I want.

Two goods are not the same as one great. I generally prefer to do without than accept a substitute. I tend to be very impatient, but I'm a good planner, and I can stretch myself for the long goal.

That said I do, and have, compromised on things of a practical nature. I am practical as well as 'want-y'.

This^^^ So this.

 

[Endless_Night]

This^^^ So this.

#kittensfromthesamecloth

 

[MessierObject]

Friday......it's not as good as Saturday, but I'll take it.

Do you "accept" less than what you want because it's right there in front of you now? Are two goods the same as one great? Does patience or impatience control your actions?

I'll give a little anecdote as an answer:

I grew up working my grandparents' ranch over my summer breaks. It was hard work doing chores but I also got to have a lot of fun and have great experiences. I still go every chance I get to work and play.

One summer, when I was about 13-14, they decided to put in another horse pasture. The trees had been cleared, but before the grass could be planted the the area had to be cleared of rocks, etc. So my grandfather would turn up the soil with a tractor and I'd go behind picking up rocks.

It was boring, hot, and tiring and by the first afternoon I was cutting corners. I ignored rocks that were "too hard", "too small", "too big" or whatever excuse I thought would work. My grandfather said nothing. The next morning we went out to start the next section. My grandfather stopped me where we started the day before and pointed to the section I had "cleared". "I know it's hard work, and not very fun" he said, "But whatever you're doing in life, either take time to do it right the first time, or you'll have to make time to do it again." I spent the morning clearing the first section again.

He taught me a lot of invaluable life lessons like that and I do my best to live by them still. So while I take what I can get and keep on keepin' on, I won't settle for less because it's the easy thing. I'm very patient and even more stubborn when I set my eyes on a goal.

 

[ViciousTease]

Friday......it's not as good as Saturday, but I'll take it.

Do you "accept" less than what you want because it's right there in front of you now? Are two goods the same as one great? Does patience or impatience control your actions?

First of all ... Happy Friday!! *doing my happy dance*

I'm weird, I know. I own that. But the truth is, I don't want much. Loved ones often accuse me of settling for something or lacking ambition. It's not true. When I want something, I get it. I'll work for it, save for it, whatever ... but I get it. I just don't want much. I'm very content with a simple life. With simple things. I don't desire the newest or the best. I desire things that are practical or functional. I chase moments and experiences over material things.

When I leave this world, I hope to have a wealth of memories and little or no debt. If the estate sale is a flop because everything I owned was well worn and out of date, I'm ok with that. *shrugs*

 

[lowphat]

First of all ... Happy Friday!! *doing my happy dance*

I'm weird, I know. I own that. But the truth is, I don't want much. Loved ones often accuse me of settling for something or lacking ambition. It's not true. When I want something, I get it. I'll work for it, save for it, whatever ... but I get it. I just don't want much. I'm very content with a simple life. With simple things. I don't desire the newest or the best. I desire things that are practical or functional. I chase moments and experiences over material things.

When I leave this world, I hope to have a wealth of memories and little or no debt. If the estate sale is a flop because everything I owned was well worn and out of date, I'm ok with that. *shrugs*

Shit, sounds like the way to go to me

 

[Paul_Chance]

I am a patient person. Everything changes constantly. The condition of the day is temporary and illusory - no matter what it is. Good, bad, indifferent - it will change.

I'll take the two goods over the one great. I like peak experiences when they happen, but I generally don't seek them out. Great is not sustainable. Good is good enough. I'd rather have a long string of good days than one great day.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Friday......it's not as good as Saturday, but I'll take it.

Do you "accept" less than what you want because it's right there in front of you now? Are two goods the same as one great? Does patience or impatience control your actions?

You know, every blue moon one should swap out the fine dinning for a burger at Steak 'n Shake. Something different to nibble on, mix it up a bit. Granted you might leave you with grease stains on your favorite shirt, but it's a good reminder why you don't frequent there more often.

 

[default24]

Haha. Love it.

I love the jelly jar. No periods. My life is a-okay.

Remember how you were looking for your truck keys? It's always in the last place you look

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Remember how you were looking for your truck keys? It's always in the last place you look

Like my clitoris.

 

[ChainedUp]

lost and found

Finding something that is a complete surprise or finding something you've lost?

 

[rubydlite]

lost and found

Finding something that is a complete surprise or finding something you've lost?

Finding something I've lost...

 

[Paul_Chance]

lost and found

Finding something that is a complete surprise or finding something you've lost?

I get more joy out of the complete surprise. There is a certain delight that comes from discovering something (or some place or person or sensation) I never knew about.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

lost and found

Finding something that is a complete surprise or finding something you've lost?

Finding something new! I've got a sense of adventure in me that runs wild.

 

[ViciousTease]

lost and found

Finding something that is a complete surprise or finding something you've lost?

That's tough, I love both. If I had to choose, probably something I've lost.


By the way, you're over 5,000 posts again Papa C. That's over 25,000 posts in the Litiquette line. Very impressive, mister!

 

[Endless_Night]

That's tough, I love both. If I had to choose, probably something I've lost.


By the way, you're over 5,000 posts again Papa C. That's over 25,000 posts in the Litiquette line. Very impressive, mister!

Oh! My goodness.

Iteration six?

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Oh! My goodness.

Iteration six?

Maybe he'll allow for a guest to sit in his seat for the day or picture sharing. Oh wait, us girls kinda just did that on our own!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

http://68.media.tumblr.com/989802aaa7de48b1a24677c6554cd148/tumblr_o6gvj3rhKm1v07enpo1_500.gif

Naw! This calls for celebrating x