Litiquette V

[ChainedUp]

In a relationship, sex is had for a myriad of reasons. I was thinking the type where both are not concerned about a relationship, both are motivated by lust. A mutual lust, neither concerned about what's next.

 

[Lunation]

I've always interpreted this not as gettjng laid but to not pine over someone you'll never have.

Now, I wonder how frequent fucking for fuck's sake happens. 25% of all sex, 10%? More? Less?

I don't understand the question.

Outside of procreation, how many other sakes are there for which to fuck, other than for fuck's sake?

So, I'm gonna go 99.999%

 

[Lunation]

In my head, "for the sake of doing it" was more about the mechanics of it. I was thinking the only "real time" was the passionate kind. Whether that's slow love making or desperate clothes tearing, I was talking about the kind of sex that is fueled by emotion and not just lust.

Still not following.

 

[ChainedUp]

One night stand variety of sex.

 

[Trekka]

One night stand variety of sex.

I've never heard of such a thing.

*whistles*

Welcome back, Chained

 

[ViciousTease]

One night stand variety of sex.

I tried having a one night stand on three different occasions. The first turned into a boyfriend. The second became a long term FWB. I married the third. I don't think I'm qualified to answer today's question.

 

[Trekka]

I tried having a one night stand on three different occasions. The first turned into a boyfriend. The second became a long term FWB. I married the third. I don't think I'm qualified to answer today's question.

Lol!

It happens. I get it.

I think the trick is to one-night-stand-it with someone that you're otherwise completely incompatible with. Like a smokin hot Brazilian bartender... who's also significantly younger, has a girlfriend, and is still living with his mom. Couch surfing.

It's almost a 100% guarantee of a singular encounter. Or, oooh! My best GFs signature move: pouncing on a piece of man meat the last night of her vacation. Have a little fun, then catch a plane!

But there was this guy that I thought was a one night deal only. I went out to meet him at a restaurant, he kissed me, my soul caught fire, and now we argue over how to load the dishwasher

 

[lakesailer_mi]

In my head, "for the sake of doing it" was more about the mechanics of it. I was thinking the only "real time" was the passionate kind. Whether that's slow love making or desperate clothes tearing, I was talking about the kind of sex that is fueled by emotion and not just lust.

Honestly, I was totally curious, no criticism. I like getting in your head...it's kind of interesting there...

I tried having a one night stand on three different occasions. The first turned into a boyfriend. The second became a long term FWB. I married the third. I don't think I'm qualified to answer today's question.

I tried having a one night stand once or twice too...they weren't interested in me...

Lol!

It happens. I get it.

I think the trick is to one-night-stand-it with someone that you're otherwise completely incompatible with. Like a smokin hot Brazilian bartender... who's also significantly younger, has a girlfriend, and is still living with his mom. Couch surfing.

It's almost a 100% guarantee of a singular encounter. Or, oooh! My best GFs signature move: pouncing on a piece of man meat the last night of her vacation. Have a little fun, then catch a plane!

But there was this guy that I thought was a one night deal only. I went out to meet him at a restaurant, he kissed me, my soul caught fire, and now we argue over how to load the dishwasher

Ah...this explains my lack of success on so many levels.

 

[ViciousTease]

Lol!

It happens. I get it.

I think the trick is to one-night-stand-it with someone that you're otherwise completely incompatible with. Like a smokin hot Brazilian bartender... who's also significantly younger, has a girlfriend, and is still living with his mom. Couch surfing.

It's almost a 100% guarantee of a singular encounter. Or, oooh! My best GFs signature move: pouncing on a piece of man meat the last night of her vacation. Have a little fun, then catch a plane!

But there was this guy that I thought was a one night deal only. I went out to meet him at a restaurant, he kissed me, my soul caught fire, and now we argue over how to load the dishwasher

Yeah, I FWB'd the bartender. I'm not complaining, the sex was too good to walk away from.

Man meat on vacation. That. Is. Brilliant. *starts surfing Tripadvisor*

 

[ViciousTease]

Honestly, I was totally curious, no criticism. I like getting in your head...it's kind of interesting there...

I suggest a flashlight and a panic button. There are more than a few dark spaces in there.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I suggest a flashlight and a panic button. There are more than a few dark spaces in there.

I'm pretty brave...
(and those might be the most interesting... )

 

[Trekka]

Yeah, I FWB'd the bartender. I'm not complaining, the sex was too good to walk away from.

Man meat on vacation. That. Is. Brilliant. *starts surfing Tripadvisor*

*flings self into your suitcase

Take me with you! I'll be your wing woman.

Let's go to the South Pacific. I want to investigate the hotness-or-notness of tribal tattoos on the men of the culture who invented them.

 

[Mindfondler]

*tickletackle*

I'm stealing that move! I can definitely put it to good use.
.

 

[Lunation]

One night stand variety of sex.

Well, yeah, exactly. What else is there.


I'm married and the sex still feels like one night stand sex. The trick is to sleep in separate bedrooms and only do it every three months. *nods sagely*

I'm the inverse VT, comitted relationships turn into one night stands.

 

[Endless_Night]

One night stand variety of sex.

Sounds good, but it is nearly impossible for me to, ummm.... Well, you know, unless I am very comfortable with my partner.

*counts*

Once. It's happened once. So, meh on the one night stands.

I'm not sure I actually answered the main question, but I'm traveling so that's all you're getting.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I think it is close to a modified Pareto's Principle - I think 20% of people are willing to have classic one-night-stands.

But, that 20% of people are accounting for about 80% of the sex.

The other 80% of people have sex within the boundaries of some sort of relationship and they account for 20% of the sex.

I think I will call it "The Principle of Pareto's Boner".

 

[SMNaughtywife]

In a relationship, sex is had for a myriad of reasons. I was thinking the type where both are not concerned about a relationship, both are motivated by lust. A mutual lust, neither concerned about what's next.

Ok, I'm game.
Can it start out like that pic you posted?
Pretty please.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I've always interpreted this not as gettjng laid but to not pine over someone you'll never have.

Now, I wonder how frequent fucking for fuck's sake happens. 25% of all sex, 10%? More? Less?

I'd say 25% in my case.

Sex just "happens", and then I start getting into it.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Lol!

It happens. I get it.

I think the trick is to one-night-stand-it with someone that you're otherwise completely incompatible with. Like a smokin hot Brazilian bartender... who's also significantly younger, has a girlfriend, and is still living with his mom. Couch surfing.

It's almost a 100% guarantee of a singular encounter. Or, oooh! My best GFs signature move: pouncing on a piece of man meat the last night of her vacation. Have a little fun, then catch a plane!

But there was this guy that I thought was a one night deal only. I went out to meet him at a restaurant, he kissed me, my soul caught fire, and now we argue over how to load the dishwasher

I disagree with the opposites, but agree that there typically some barrier (religion, culture, geography, married, etc.) that facilitates inhibitions fucking

 

[Trekka]

I'm currently living the movie "Office Space." Granted, its temporary. For two weeks I'm sharing an office with someone other than my usual colleague.

And he brought in his Bluetooth speaker today, all excited to share his favorite tunes with me. OK, I can dig.

Except...it's...awful...music... in my humblest of opinions.

And it's loud.

What's the etiquette here? He's a nice guy and is so psyched to share "his bands" with me...
But I was done with Three Doors Down before I graduated high school.

I hate to burst his bubble...

So, Litiquette friends, what would y'all do?

 

[numeniusa]

I'm currently living the movie "Office Space." Granted, its temporary. For two weeks I'm sharing an office with someone other than my usual colleague.

And he brought in his Bluetooth speaker today, all excited to share his favorite tunes with me. OK, I can dig.

Except...it's...awful...music... in my humblest of opinions.

And it's loud.

What's the etiquette here? He's a nice guy and is so psyched to share "his bands" with me...
But I was done with Three Doors Down before I graduated high school.

I hate to burst his bubble...

So, Litiquette friends, what would y'all do?

Noise-cancelling headphones.

Or.... tell him you're excited to share "your bands" with him and put on some Chinese opera.

 

[Trekka]

Noise-cancelling headphones.

Or.... tell him you're excited to share "your bands" with him and put on some Chinese opera.

I have headphones with me. I thought about putting them on. But he specifically brought in his speaker today to play his music for me, since we've been talking a lot about music... he wanted to share... he's singling along too. And pencil drumming on his desk. Lol.

I want to be polite? *sigh*

Writing to deep cuts of Third Eye Blind is no easy task.

I could put on obscure 1980s Grateful Dead live shows

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I'm currently living the movie "Office Space." Granted, its temporary. For two weeks I'm sharing an office with someone other than my usual colleague.

And he brought in his Bluetooth speaker today, all excited to share his favorite tunes with me. OK, I can dig.

Except...it's...awful...music... in my humblest of opinions.

And it's loud.

What's the etiquette here? He's a nice guy and is so psyched to share "his bands" with me...
But I was done with Three Doors Down before I graduated high school.

I hate to burst his bubble...

So, Litiquette friends, what would y'all do?

Step 1:
"I'm sorry, I really need to focus on the stuff I'm doing, can we turn the music off for a while?"

Step 2: (next day)
"Hey, I brought in some bands that I like, can we play some of those? I think you might like them too!" (with appropriate enthusiasm).

Step 3: (later that day)
"Hey, I really need to focus on the stuff I'm doing, can we turn the music off for a while."

Step 4: (next day)
"Wow, today's a really busy day, can we leave the music off today?"

Step 5: repeat steps 2-4 as necessary.

This works for short term.

 

[Lunation]

I have headphones with me. I thought about putting them on. But he specifically brought in his speaker today to play his music for me, since we've been talking a lot about music... he wanted to share... he's singling along too. And pencil drumming on his desk. Lol.

I want to be polite? *sigh*

Writing to deep cuts of Third Eye Blind is no easy task.

I could put on obscure 1980s Grateful Dead live shows

If he was just inconsiderate, it's easy enough to tell him to knock it off. But the fact that he's excited to share with you makes it tougher.

I think you need to be sensitive about his feelings here, so I'm going to go out on a limb:

Have you considered murder?

Look, this sounds extreme, but he's legit excited to share mediocre 90s hits. It really might be best for him.

Sometimes you just need to pull an Old Yeller.

 

[numeniusa]

Step 1:
"I'm sorry, I really need to focus on the stuff I'm doing, can we turn the music off for a while?"

Step 2: (next day)
"Hey, I brought in some bands that I like, can we play some of those? I think you might like them too!" (with appropriate enthusiasm).

Step 3: (later that day)
"Hey, I really need to focus on the stuff I'm doing, can we turn the music off for a while."

Step 4: (next day)
"Wow, today's a really busy day, can we leave the music off today?"

Step 5: repeat steps 2-4 as necessary.

This works for short term.

If your current job doesn't work out, can I suggest the diplomatic service?

If he was just inconsiderate, it's easy enough to tell him to knock it off. But the fact that he's excited to share with you makes it tougher.

I think you need to be sensitive about his feelings here, so I'm going to go out on a limb:

Have you considered murder?

Look, this sounds extreme, but he's legit excited to share mediocre 90s hits. It really might be best for him.

Sometimes you just need to pull an Old Yeller.

Your current employment is secure, though, right?