Litiquette V

[Paul_Chance]

I try not to have too many lines in this life. It's always better to be flexible, because life in general is going to through some unexpected shit at you and some of it you won't be able to dodge.

Sexually, there are a few acts that hold no interest for me, and in terms of people I do draw the line at attempting to seduce people in a happy committed relationship. That's some karma I can live without. (That said though, the institution of marriage isn't a bar to me in itself - I've known far too many people in sexually deprived marriages, so yes, I will nail your partner if you're not taking care of business.)

 

[LWulf]

For myself, the line has moved greatly over time. When I was 18, I would never consider going out with someone even one year younger than me. Not for any religious reasons, but I reasoned that if I started with a platonic relationship with someone younger, knowing my sexual intensity at the time, I knew I would eventually want to take it another step further. In my mind that would be horribly wrong and therefore I forestalled that from happening by simply not allowing it to start to begin with.

This inexplicably extended into my twenties that I wouldnt go out with a 22 year old when I was 24 because I saw it as the same as being 18 and going out with a 16 year old. I only would go out with women my own age or a year or two older.

I eased up a touch in my latter twenties and thirties by accepting that they could be about 4 to 8 years younger (depending on my age)

nowadays, as long as they are over 27 to 30, I don't mind that they nearly half my age. Younger than that (but over 18) is legal, but I doubt their ability to relate to what we would discuss and for me, it's never been about physicality alone.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Quick hitter this morning. Where do you draw the line, has the line moved one way or the other for you, and why draw it there?

The big obvious stuff in terms of where the line is has always been the same (no gross stuff, nothing illegal, don't hurt people).

I'm a little more fluid with age, though. When I was younger I was all about older women. Maturity has always appealed to me. Eventually it got to the point where I realized the kinds of older girls I was interested in were, like, 10 years younger than me now. Lol. So age? I basically don't care. I've been attracted to older women and also younger women. It's all about chemistry now. I just turned 40 and can kind of go either way age-wise. Whereas before I tended to go for older.

 

[Endless_Night]

Age is a line that’s moved. Like Wulf, I used to stay within a year or two of my own age. Older or younger, both squicked me out. Then I briefly dated a guy nearly twenty years my senior. Amazing sex! I was cured. Well, mostly. Too young is still a big no go.

I’ve pushed some limits since coming to Lit, so the those lines are moving, if slowly. Still lots of things I haven’t done. Still lots of things I don’t see doing. (Anal. Nope! )

 

[LWulf]

I think the topic question is not about "do you have lines" (because we all have lines of what we will and wont put up with) but "have any of your lines moved and why."

just clarifying what I've read as the topic question.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Age is one line that’s moved. Like Wulf, I used to stay within a year or two of my own age. Older or younger, both squicked me out. Then I briefly dated a guy nearly twenty years my senior. Amazing sex! I was cured. Well, mostly. Too young is still a big no go.

I hear ya, I don't mind going younger necessarily. Just that when they're younger it's a drag having to explain who Steely Dan is. Lol

 

[Endless_Night]

I hear ya, I don't mind going younger necessarily. Just that when they're younger it's a drag having to explain who Steely Dan is. Lol

For me it's more about a creepy pedophilic vibe. A hangup from that creepy kind of older guy that leers at girls flitting about the edge of legal. Yuuuck!

Who's Steely Dan?

Kidding! Kidding!

 

[LWulf]

Who's Steely Dan?

Kidding! Kidding!

He was that porn star from the 80's, wasnt he?

 

[beachbaby179]

He was that porn star from the 80's, wasnt he?

Haha. I see what you did there. Good one...

Lines can move. Tastes change, or you get exposed to things and realize they're not necessarily what you thought. It's a natural process of learning and changing and maturing.

 

[ChainedUp]

Been quiet around here as of late. Lots of Holiday fun being had.

Whats the one material thing you'd like for Chrismtas? No "I'd rather give than receive", no health and happiness, this is a pure material want. Not a functional want, but something you just want. And no "I have everything I want" answers. There's always something, somewhere deep inside.....

 

[SweetCupcake]

Been quiet around here as of late. Lots of Holiday fun being had.

Whats the one material thing you'd like for Chrismtas? No "I'd rather give than receive", no health and happiness, this is a pure material want. Not a functional want, but something you just want. And no "I have everything I want" answers. There's always something, somewhere deep inside.....

I am going to be really crude here: I want a flashy diamond. I have some, but they aren't flashy enough. You know, the kind of bling that rich guys give to girls who fuck their brains out.

This is something I just want.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Been quiet around here as of late. Lots of Holiday fun being had.

Whats the one material thing you'd like for Chrismtas? No "I'd rather give than receive", no health and happiness, this is a pure material want. Not a functional want, but something you just want. And no "I have everything I want" answers. There's always something, somewhere deep inside.....

I'm not answering this one.

Yes I am.

All I want is my health back. Fuck material possessions. They're useless.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

I want to go camping!

 

[beachbaby179]

I want Weathertech floor mats for my car. And lingerie.

 

[Mrtenant]

I want my old hot rod '65 Mustang back.

 

[Mrtenant]

http://68.media.tumblr.com/aec4c712b1546102a9696dabff272ef5/tumblr_og3lsqw7cK1vu7al9o1_1280.jpg

 

[LWulf]

I'd like to feel again. to care again. to do more than live one day at a time.

In the interim of those unlikely things happening, I'd like 640 acres, but would settle for 40

 

[Endless_Night]

Honestly, there is just not much I really want....

I guess I might, at some point, like a pair of earrings to match my engagement ring. It would be an expensive proposition, completely impractical and utterly frivolous. I'd probably throw a fit if my SO even suggested spending that kind of money, but I'd still like them.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

I want a shopping spree at Guitar Center. And a cute, mature girl who can take a spanking.

 

[curvyangel1969]

I want an all expenses paid vacation on world cruise. For 2. I might be eyeballing NRJ after reading about his penchant for spankings. ...maybe..just sayin'

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

I want an all expenses paid vacation on world cruise. For 2. I might be eyeballing NRJ after reading about his penchant for spankings. ...maybe..just sayin'

Hehehe oh yeah, good or bad it's paddlin' time

 

[ChainedUp]

I will give Rainshine credit, she took material to heart.

Taking credit, we seem averse to it. People will happily point blame your way but when credit is due, we often shy away, and society expects that as well. But we shouldn't, should we? Shouldn't we give credit more than we blame? Does the blaming ever solve the problem or just officially take us off the hook?

 

[curvyangel1969]

And while I'm at it... these would be great for my new job, and these, and maybe these too.

Lady, You have excellent taste. My hat's off to you.
Can I borrow them for my world cruise? Please and thank you?

 

[curvyangel1969]

I will give Rainshine credit, she took material to heart.

Taking credit, we seem averse to it. People will happily point blame your way but when credit is due, we often shy away, and society expects that as well. But we shouldn't, should we? Shouldn't we give credit more than we blame? Does the blaming ever solve the problem or just officially take us off the hook?

I don't know that I do this ( at least not often) I try hard to acknowledge people for their accomplishments and contributions. If it's personal I try to recognize where I may have gone wrong and see it from both sides. Now I'm not perfect and falter from time to time. Maybe more than I'd like but overall I try hard. I think that takes some people aback and they don't know how to process it and maybe think I'm over the top or fake in my praise.

As for taking credit. I try to do so graciously. If I feel it was a dual or group effort I will be sure to praise the other participants for their part or parts in the successs(es)

Wow that was wordy!!

 

[LWulf]

I'm confused - is it taking or giving credit?

taking credit - society usually doesn't have an issue with people who take credit, if only so when it turns sideways, then they know who to blame. Which is why sometimes people are adverse to taking credit. the alternate reason people are less inclined to taking credit is because they dont want to be in the lime light.

Additionally, some people take credit, through surreptitious means, which, is what will make another person speak up to giving credit to the appropriate person to forestall grandstanders who seize someone else's credit.

Giving credit - for the reason that some people are inclined not to take credit is why society is less likely to give credit. It might be rationalized as; if a person wanted to take credit, they would. As giving credit is not a hostile action in inception, why would you want to embarrass someone who didnt take credit. There is an element of people who do try to foist credit on people regardless of that person's feelings for taking credit (or more exactly avoiding credit).

There are also those that avoid taking credit because they feel credit is too easily given. that credit is given too easily, making it meaningless. Likewise, some believe that credit may be given awkwardly, or in an unseemly manner, thus they renege taking credit.

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I have no problem giving credit if I see it is due. Less so if it seems the person doesn't like to take credit, and more so if it seems someone else seeks to seize another's credit

edit: In regards to taking credit, I've generously bypassed taking credit. In my older age, I seem to be more interested in taking credit. In my youth, people came to me for ideas and I allowed credit to pass to another, but in my elder years, people come to me less for ideas because of the lack of credits to my name, making me reverse my youthful decisions.