Litiquette V

[Suz_anne]

I agree - amateur porn is the only way to go for me. I cannot watch the professional stuff... it is so unbelievably fake (tits, settings, positions, sounds and reactions, etc.) that it shrinks my lady boner.

I love watching real people fuck. That's hot.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Good morning all.

Reminds self that topics should encourage conversation not entice people to go look at porn, especially if they aren't going to post links to what they watched.

That being said, how often do you find your porn interests changing? Do you stick to just one, tried and true genre or are you more a flavor of the day? Does anyone watch porn from start to finish or are we all clip watchers & forward to the good stuff crowd?

I kind of fixate on specific actors and just download a fuck ton of their clips from pornhub or whatever. Generally I watch from start to finish. I like to get the full story of WHY they're banging too. Lol

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

I went through a real phase of delighting in Manuel Ferrara. His look just does it for me, not so much the porn because professional porn doesn't really do it for me, but I digress. When I was in this phase I did find one professional film of his that truly truly hit it on every level for me and I've never been able to find it since. Fuck that annoys me still to this day.

The quest will go on. Oh yes it will.

Ahhh I'm unfamiliar. I'll have to look him up.

I got into a really good Webcam solo vid from Taylor Vixen. I love watching girls masturbate anyway but there was something about the lighting in this particular video that just did it for me.

Update: just saw this Manuel guy. Definitely a good looking dude. Awesome cock too.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Hmm... oddly... I don't think I ever actually took much notice of his cock. What is wrong with me?!

Hahaha so you didn't notice but I DID. I dunno, maybe it's time to start asking myself some really personal questions...

 

[Mindfondler]

I agree - amateur porn is the only way to go for me. I cannot watch the professional stuff... it is so unbelievably fake (tits, settings, positions, sounds and reactions, etc.) that it shrinks my lady boner.

I love watching real people fuck. That's hot.

I agree in principle. The concern that runs through my mind with amateur porn, though, is the possibility that it's been filmed unknowingly or released without consent or knowledge of one of the participants (or even, perhaps, posted as an act of revenge). It's difficult to mitigate that.
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[ChainedUp]

Quick hitter today: what actions do you take that are based in "the principle of it


That might be a pretty convoluted question but I'm confident that you all can sort out a response.

 

[Endless_Night]

I was recently chastised for dismissing fluffernutters without having tasted their dubious charms (long story). That sight of that white marshmallow creme nestled up next to a slice of white bread was just all kinds of disgusting. Still, an uniformed opinion is not of much merit.

After reading all the posts I’m sort of wondering if I’m in the same position with porn. It’s all lumped together in my mind, one big amorphous mass. But apparently there is professional porn, amateur porn, porn clips, webcam solos, featured French hotties with over 1500 films!

Maybe I should take another look?

I agree in principle. The concern that runs through my mind with amateur porn, though, is the possibility that it's been filmed unknowingly or released without consent or knowledge of one of the participants (or even, perhaps, posted as an act of revenge). It's difficult to mitigate that.
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And this^ is just all kinds of disturbing.

 

[curvyangel1969]

Quick hitter today: what actions do you take that are based in "the principle of it


That might be a pretty convoluted question but I'm confident that you all can sort out a response.

If I see or experience a continuous unattractive or questionable action I will remove or distance myself from the party or situation based on the fact that I can be with others that are more in sync with me. ...does this count? Apply to the question presented?

 

[Endless_Night]

Quick hitter today: what actions do you take that are based in "the principle of it


That might be a pretty convoluted question but I'm confident that you all can sort out a response.

If I understand the question correctly....

I tell the truth.

Sure, I’ll tell little white lies. Matters of opinion, like whether I like your new outfit, might run to a little prevarication on my part. Or the acceptance of social engagements, which we covered recently. But, I will not deceive you in order to manipulate your actions or benefit myself. I will not.

No lies of omission, no deception “for your own good”, no justifications. This has led to some awkward and painful conversations. It’s cost me relationships with friends and family and even made me a few enemies.

Sometimes it works out okay, though. My previous monogamous relationship is now open.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Quick hitter today: what actions do you take that are based in "the principle of it


That might be a pretty convoluted question but I'm confident that you all can sort out a response.

Calling emergency services when I see something and not assuming someone else has

Calling out xenophobic, sexist and racist bullshit

Respecting religious traditions like praying over dinner even though I don't prescribe to such beliefs

 

[aussiegeekygal]

If I understand the question correctly....

I tell the truth.

Sure, I’ll tell little white lies. Matters of opinion, like whether I like your new outfit, might run to a little prevarication on my part. Or the acceptance of social engagements, which we covered recently. But, I will not deceive you in order to manipulate your actions or benefit myself. I will not.

No lies of omission, no deception “for your own good”, no justifications. This has led to some awkward and painful conversations. It’s cost me relationships with friends and family and even made me a few enemies.

Sometimes it works out okay, though. My previous monogamous relationship is now open.

Telling the truth is a big one. Most people don't want to hear it. It comes from a place of love, but so often pride gets in the way, and that sucks! I also believe in radical transparency. As a medical provider, this has some very interesting consequences. I don't believe in the phrase "none of your business".

 

[Endless_Night]

Telling the truth is a big one. Most people don't want to hear it. It comes from a place of love, but so often pride gets in the way, and that sucks! I also believe in radical transparency. As a medical provider, this has some very interesting consequences. I don't believe in the phrase "none of your business".

I am so stealing your phraseology!!

Radical transparency sounds much more attractive than brutally honest, how a long-term friend has me tagged. While there's always a few who will love you for it, most only want opinions that echo their own view. Anything that nicks the pride or bruises the ego is just not appreciated. Oh, well. It does cut down on the number of people who ask me for advice. More than once, at least.

LOL! I cannot even begin to imagine the chaos that creates for someone who works in the medical profession.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I am so stealing your phraseology!!

Radical transparency sounds much more attractive than brutally honest, how a long-term friend has me tagged. While there's always a few who will love you for it, most only want opinions that echo their own view. Anything that nicks the pride or bruises the ego is just not appreciated. Oh, well. It does cut down on the number of people who ask me for advice. More than once, at least.

LOL! I cannot even begin to imagine the chaos that creates for someone who works in the medical profession.

Go ahead. I stole it from my dentist (and best friend).

When anyone asks for my opinion, I'll counter with "are you sure you want to hear it?". It takes a little time to build trust, but once that's happened, is amazing how much change I can help facilitate. (I'm high, I hope this makes sense)

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

It's ok NRJ, we're here to support you in your personal growth. If we have to watch then so be it. We're willing to make that sacrifice. We're here for YOU.

Haha well thank you very much.

 

[ChainedUp]

Friday, finally. Is your Christmas shopping done? Ha!

Life experiences are shaped by perspective. We all know that two different people can experience the exact same time at the exact same time and have completely different experiences. We also know that over time, the details become less clear and the facts of what happened often come into dispute. Given all that, why do we spend so much time looking back rather than looking ahead? Sure if you aren't aware of the past the future is bound to repeat itself, I get that. But don't we all dwell in the past a little too long for the inaccuracy in which we undoubtedly remember it?

 

[PeteHulbert37]

Naw. I don't look back much. I will occasionally take a moment to reflect on a positive moment or event.

I'm always looking forward. What's next and how great it's going to be!

 

[LWulf]

Hindsight is perfect 20-20 vision. If we knew what we were looking for in the past then we would only have to look once, or not at all since you knew what you were looking for wouldn't need a reason to look back at all.

We look to the past to see if we might see something we didn't realize; some hint of a clue that we missed the first time. In life, we grow more learned as we get older, therefore, the older you get, the more you might see something your younger self might not have seen.

The brain is a complex mechanism. Physiologically speaking, we have stronger memories about negative things than we have about positives. You burn your hand when you are young, it creates a strong memory that you don't want to soon repeat.

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Pancakes mean everything

 

[Endless_Night]

The past doesn’t slow me down in any way except when it comes to dealing with people. I still reflect on non-people related previous events, typically to take what I’ve learned and apply it to a new situation for the best results. Otherwise, no. Hanging on the past too much can have the unpleasant effect of preventing you from moving ahead.

People are tricky. Casual acquaintances, no big, I haven’t opened myself up in any way. With more intimate relationship I’m slow to let go, particularly if I get burned or hurt a couple of times.

I should add that intimate relationships are not exactly my forte. Hence my slow arrival and acceptance to my, errr, kinky needs.

Edited to add: Imma picky soul.

And, of course two people will view events from their own unique perspective. Of course there are inaccuracies. That’s why I do my best not to shut doors.

The brain is a complex mechanism. Physiologically speaking, we have stronger memories about negative things than we have about positives. You burn your hand when you are young, it creates a strong memory that you don't want to soon repeat.

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Pancakes mean everything

Agreed. Both about the imprint of childhood and the pancakes.

 

[Mindfondler]

Pancakes mean everything

... but you have to look at the flip side.
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[Endless_Night]

... but you have to look at the flip side.
.

LOL! That sent my mind to some funny places.

 

[ChainedUp]

... but you have to look at the flip side.
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But only if one can bring home the bacon

 

[Bitesback]

Friday, finally. Is your Christmas shopping done? Ha!

Life experiences are shaped by perspective. We all know that two different people can experience the exact same time at the exact same time and have completely different experiences. We also know that over time, the details become less clear and the facts of what happened often come into dispute. Given all that, why do we spend so much time looking back rather than looking ahead? Sure if you aren't aware of the past the future is bound to repeat itself, I get that. But don't we all dwell in the past a little too long for the inaccuracy in which we undoubtedly remember it?

... but you have to look at the flip side.
.

And it's the flip side I'm going to talk about. This month, I've been involved with two funerals. Both these men held strong opinions, could be willful and argumentative, and were well known for it. At each funeral service, there was much dwelling on the past and a little remembering tensions and debates and differences, but it is in reflecting upon those things that we better understand them. In my experience, looking back helps us to move on. Looking back, with a little time to clear the air, hopefully we will appreciate other perspectives and contributions. I'm not sure whether different perspectives is inaccuracy. Our beliefs and principles shape our perspectives, and determine the importance we attach to particular things. Our recollections may differ but that doesn't necessarily mean they are inaccurate.

That's not to say that inaccuracies don't occur. It's then that we must choose whether to dwell on it or learn from the experience, and move on. I keep in my mind a family story about twins who as adults didn't see each other or speak for well over 20 years although they lived in the same small town. It wasn't until they met up at the funeral of one of their siblings that they came to realise how unimportant the dispute had been. With the passage of time, neither twin could remember what the original falling out had been over yet it was thought at the time to be enough to cause a rift across the family for decades. They had dwelt too long on the past, forgotten the causes, but maintained the rage. Life's too short.

I am yet to purchase a single Christmas present. I have a tree. It's decorated. Logically, it needs some presents. I have ordered a ham, but beyond that things are a bit up in the air.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Pattern recognition.

Humans sort the world by patterns as a survival mechanism. Consequently, when at rest, we replay the events of our past to determine what the patterns were so we can utilize them to deal with future incidents. The more traumatic or significant an event, the more likely we are to continually review it.

On the intellectual side, we can then manipulate the memory to draw out the key patterns - by either emphasizing the bad or the good of a particular event or encounter. We do this by amplifying the memory - changing it - to emphasize the pattern.

But, on the physical side the body does not know time - no past, no future, only an omnipresent now, so when we trip down memory lane our body reacts as if it was "now". The old pain hurts. The old joy thrills.

Inside the brain there are all kinds of other things going on as we pass memories through the various layers and filters. Sometimes events (usually trauma) get "stuck" in one particular layer or filter and begin to color everything else. Sometimes the subconscious recognizes a pattern in the now and reaches into the memory and throws up associated memories that it believes are relevant.

 

[AWonkyDonkey]

(Wrong thread! Stupid me!!)

 

[Endless_Night]

I'm starting to feel like my answer erred on the nonintellectual side.