Litiquette IV

[ChainedUp]

We all have limits of where we won't go, I'm not interested in what or where the line is but more so in what makes you draw that line where you have? Comfort? Pleasure? Fear? Cultural? Why have you set your limits where you have? Do they evolve? Do you question yourself after you've gone beyond your limit?

 

[beachbaby179]

You're talking sexual limits, I assume. There are only three that i know of. And they were sort of forced on me out of fear. Not going into why...

If you're talking about other kinds of limits, I have a couple of those too. Only two margaritas or I get stupid. Don't lie to me or I can't trust you. That kind of stuff.

Oh, and I'm one of those tiny fruit tarts. With the tart bite size berries on top and the sweet creamy custard inside.

Happy Friday!

 

[rubydlite]

If I was a pastry, what pastry would I be?

*friday warm up question*

You'd be a chocolate filled croissant. Unassuming on the outside with a dark centre surprise
*you asked!*

We all have limits of where we won't go, I'm not interested in what or where the line is but more so in what makes you draw that line where you have? Comfort? Pleasure? Fear? Cultural? Why have you set your limits where you have? Do they evolve? Do you question yourself after you've gone beyond your limit?

My limits have evolved. And for me the line would also be fear or feeling pushed disrespectfully out of my comfort zone.
Pleasure works in the opposite way. If I'm feeling it I'll probably cross 50 lines

 

[Lord Pmann]

My limits change depending on the season.

But as you all know, I'm horny in every season.

 

[TheSilverLining]

If something is a turn-on then generally I'll do it.
If it does nothing for me, but pleases my partner then I'll do it. (Within reason)
I have certain hard limits, yes. These have evolved over time.

Pleasure and comfort aren't issues. *grin*
Nor cultural values.

My limits have certainly evolved. As for the why, I could blame a specific person but that's a little unfair. Justified, but unfair.

 

[LWulf]

I've had a level of cultural limits that have been instilled in me, so I won't go beyond those for things regarded as right and wrong. Other things, I've evolved over time, mostly with regard to intimate relations. Both for my own and for another person's pleasure.

Frankly, I don't have very many inhibitions regarding sex. For those few things I don't do, I won't do them for any moral compass reasons, but because I simply don't like them.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

If I were a pastry - caramel pecan sticky roll.

My limits are determined by the dance the butterflies do in my stomach. Always changing their dance, braver at times and willing to fly further. But then quiet and content, staying close to home. I've questioned them a few times, blushing during the mix of emotion and thrill of energy. I've never regretted my decisions, more like "holy hell women, that was something!"

 

[RacyRedLips]

I'd call it Om Nom
http://omnom.kitchen

Wow! That would be a decadently fun experience!

If I was a pastry, what pastry would I be?

*friday warm up question*

An ooey gooey cinnamon roll .... warm, right out of the oven.

I would be choux.

(Jett is a grammar and a culinary snob)

Smart answer. Sweet or savory .... the option of being a dessert or an appetizer.

My limits change depending on the season.

But as you all know, I'm horny in every season.

The horniest stick figure I've ever come across....

We all have limits of where we won't go, I'm not interested in what or where the line is but more so in what makes you draw that line where you have? Comfort? Pleasure? Fear? Cultural? Why have you set your limits where you have? Do they evolve? Do you question yourself after you've gone beyond your limit?

Fear. Definitely. From past experiences. It would take one hell of a man or woman to coax me past them.

 

[ChainedUp]

12 hours and nothing. Looks like I nailed the topic.

 

[Jamicurechickie]

We all have limits of where we won't go, I'm not interested in what or where the line is but more so in what makes you draw that line where you have? Comfort? Pleasure? Fear? Cultural? Why have you set your limits where you have? Do they evolve? Do you question yourself after you've gone beyond your limit?

For me it is fear of the unknown....fear of losing control. As well...if it is no longer pleasurable...then I believe my limit will have been reached....although, not there by a long shot yet....

 

[Azuldrgon]

We all have limits of where we won't go, I'm not interested in what or where the line is but more so in what makes you draw that line where you have? Comfort? Pleasure? Fear? Cultural? Why have you set your limits where you have? Do they evolve? Do you question yourself after you've gone beyond your limit?

My line is based on personal preference. There are definite hard limits I have due to my own preferences. Many have been shaped by experiences but some are based on personal opinion.

My limits have evolved over time to the point I am more tolerant note than I used to be .

I do question things when I go outside my comfort zone, but more to determine if I liked it or not.

 

[Lord Pmann]

12 hours and nothing. Looks like I nailed the topic.

I don't know why the people are being so quiet. Damn their oily hides.

 

[rubydlite]

If I was a pastry, what pastry would I be?

*friday warm up question*

Damn it ..I thought we had to classify *you* as a pastry. ..
Face palm. ..

I'd be something sticky and warm with chocolate drizzle

 

[ChainedUp]

Will you or will you not? I suspect that question is encountered more on Lit than any other question. Will you reply to that PM? Will you chat in IM? Will you keep the chat G-rated or will you allow it to naughty? Will you send that pic? It goes on and on.

The struggle with answering in the affirmative is that just because you answer "yes I will" is does it open the door to "I always will"? Is it appropriate to do something once and then never do it again? Is that considered being a tease?

 

[Trekka]

I really love how everyone selected their own unique pastry... We are so tasty!

 

[Trekka]

Will you or will you not? I suspect that question is encountered more on Lit than any other question. Will you reply to that PM? Will you chat in IM? Will you keep the chat G-rated or will you allow it to naughty? Will you send that pic? It goes on and on.

The struggle with answering in the affirmative is that just because you answer "yes I will" is does it open the door to "I always will"? Is it appropriate to do something once and then never do it again? Is that considered being a tease?

A tease? What is this, high school? Put out or get out?

Also, teasing is fun. It's an art form.

I have my own rules, I worked them out with my BF, and I try to follow them. Sometimes in a moment of hot impulsivity I do something that breaks a personal rule. If I don't feel right about what happened, I come clean and dial things back.

 

[Trekka]

I think it's incredibly presumptuous and more than a little entitled to feel that because something happened once it should happen again and if it doesn't then that person simply must be a tease.

*LIKES*

 

[rubydlite]

I think it's incredibly presumptuous and more than a little entitled to feel that because something happened once it should happen again and if it doesn't then that person simply must be a tease.

Exactly this

 

[DarkSimian]

For me, personally. I will always skirt up to that line, stick my tongue out, and then stand there. daring you to cross it to get me. I am a flirt, in here and IRL, and sometimes I can't help myself. I WILL go there. So dialing it back usually means A) I have really crossed the line, or B) something has made me uncomfortable. And so I will let you know, "hey, I think I f'ed up, can we have a do over?" I don't think of it as a tease, I think I sometimes just don't know my own powers

 

[LWulf]

I take the meaning of the topic question more deeply, perhaps even than what was intended (typical). It is considered cowardly and craven for a man to 'stoke the coals of a lover's ardor'; only to leave her bereft.
To tease thus, is not manly, and I agree with that sentiment, and yet...
...and yet.

Will I? Do I dare? How dare I? You can attach all the rationales you like, but is it ever justified?

A woman is entitled to change her mind, yet is a man? Is this just another of the perpetual double standards of life? Women huddle around the jilted lover and commiserate and cast sidelong glances or derisive commentary. 'Noble' Lancelots seek to drive you away, lacking that which causes their envy.

Because you do not cause passion without having passion inside. Yet not every puzzle piece is meant to fit together. Because I started something am I destined to finish it, even if I start to have doubts or concerns? Is it appropriate to start something only to walk away? Is it only the perpetual doubts that everyone has knocking around in my head?

"Step up to the plate"
"Be a man!"
or have your manhood questioned; be called a homosexual; be called a player. Those are defensive barbs.

I hold my own counsel and have to live with myself, but sometimes only because I have to. You live and learn and try not to make the same mistake twice.

Do I? Sometimes yes.
Will I? Not always.
Am I? Yes, and that is not necessarily a good thing.
...and yet.

 

[LWulf]

opps. duplicate post

 

[Bookishleigh]

We all have limits of where we won't go, I'm not interested in what or where the line is but more so in what makes you draw that line where you have? Comfort? Pleasure? Fear? Cultural? Why have you set your limits where you have? Do they evolve? Do you question yourself after you've gone beyond your limit?

My limits change with my mood and where I'm at in life. There are some hard limits in my world I doubt will ever change (because I find them disgusting).

And if I were a pastry I'd be eaten....

 

[Lord Pmann]

Papa C... Are you having problems with girls not returning? Are you getting no repeat customers?

 

[DarkSimian]

My limits change with my mood and where I'm at in life. There are some hard limits in my world I doubt will ever change (because I find them disgusting).

And if I were a pastry I'd be eaten....

I like pastry mmmmmmm

 

[Paul_Chance]

I pretty much answer yes to everything (when I go with a no, it's usually because I answered yes at one point and it didn't work out well).

As for being a tease - I like a delightful tease, understanding sometimes that a tease is just a tease and should be enjoyed for what it's worth. I think, as human beings, we have the right at any time to turn a yes into a no - and like any choice it has consequences.

(I'd be a Bismarck)