Paul_Chance
The Watcher
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Kinks, we have them, and we love them. But how do we share them? It's not like we walk around with a giant poster stating "I'm kinky, inquire within". While we want what we want, we're also afraid of chasing someone off just because a kink was presented poorly. So how do you share those dark desires with a new playmate. Straight up tell them, innuendos and hints, maybe in mid play you introduce something..... All have merits, all have risk. What risk are you willing to take for your kink?
I've learned to be straight up. I enjoy my kinks, so I'd rather not waste time cultivating a sexual relationship with someone who doesn't share them. It might seem harsh, but it's honest and I've always found that's the best approach, sexually speaking.
I learned something years ago - I actually took the time to read the Kama Sutra. LOL - if you haven't let me just say - holy crap that is one sexist and misogynistic book - but, I did get one really good tip from it. It recommends that, before beginning the sexual act, you sit down and have a conversation with your partner about what acts are going to be done in the session. I've found that approach really moves you closer to a place where you're both comfortable with your sexuality and it helps you avoid the landmine of "holy crap, you tried to do what to me, you freak!"
